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Reb Shimon Bar Yochai asked why only one mouth? If one mouth speaks so much loshon harah why do you need a second one?
I have never heard of this.
My uncle has done this for years.
yitzyk: I have also been in your position. Recently someone visited our shule and asked me about seating in a specific seat. I told him that normally the person usually comes to shule and it would be better to sit in the seat next to me. He responded that for medical reasons he had to sit near the hallway. I told him to sit where he wanted and I would tell the “regular” that I gave him permission to sit there. The “regular” had an aufruf and didn’t come to shule.
ZD: Yiddish did not come down with the luchos. If you want to believe it is its “own” language, you are free to do so. Most believe that is derived from the German language.
Personally, I am generally in shule before davening and even though not the gabbai I will try to assist. IMO, the bottom line is that a guest should ask someone (gabbai or otherwise) where he can sit.
I let them pull my hair.
Shules have the right to set any policy they want regarding seats. We have the a seating chart (seats are purchased for the year) listed on the board before entering the shule and another on the wall in the shule. It states that one should ask the gabbai if they need a seat. Our rule is that one cannot ask someone to move after Shochen Ahd. We have plenty of non-assigned seats available on any given Shabbos or Yom Tov. Rules are set aside for a simcha. I have been asked to move to another seat when I visited other shules. Again, one has to be asked/told in a way that is bderech hakavod.
CTL: Our shul policy is one men’s seat with membership dues; extra seats for women/children are $75 each. In the Young Israel where I grew up, membership and seats for the Yomim Noraim were separate fees.
ubi: I took “jj2020’s” response the opposite way. Whoever comes first this year gets it; it is not based on last year, JJ2020 please clarify.
Maybe LB had an extra battery for a laptop?
jj2020: It depends on the shule. My shule’s seats are sold for the year and you have first rights to the same seat. The seating plan is posted in two places in the shule for the entire year.
Unless notified otherwise, seats are normally bought for the entire year.
Meno: Sit down with the other parents and discuss it. There is no simple answer.
I don’t know. Do you consider my time answering your posts productive or not?
Please state how they “share the babysitter”? Do you bring the children to the baby sitter? Is it a daily arrangement based on hours? Too little information to even offer a response.
770chabad: You wrote: “Also by pesach besides mah nishtana which is in Yiddish also the simunei haseider”, I think you mean translated in Yiddish. Ma Nishtana is stated in the mishna, long before Yiddish was ever spoken. The simanei haseder are also translated; either RASHI or R’ Shlomo of Falaise were French.
Howevedr, my daughter, was taught in Prospect Park Yeshiva to translate them in French.
Irma a dud? What planet are you living on? It did almost everything predicted….oh since it went west instead of east so in your mind it was a dud. Tell that to millions of people with no electricity.
Question: Does the wife agree to accept a “get”? If not….then there is a major problem. Even if the wife does not want to see a counselor consult a rav.
If a Rebbe, no matter what grade level, makes a mistake, he should be told about it. I had an issue like this last year and contacted the Sgan Menahel who handled the situation.
WTP: I understand your position on neigel vasser as I too was brought up with washing at a sink. I would not stop my child from washing by the bed if they really wanted to. My children’s beds are not so close to one another so I don’t have to worry about them spilling water on the bed (on the floor, probably yes). However, your question “is it proper chinuch to set up water bowls by their beds just during the next 2 weeks of the campaign?” may have an answer that can be derived from the Shulchan Aruch/Mishna Berurah.
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14166&st=&pgnum=141
The Mechaber in 453:1 states that during Aseres Yemei Tshuvah one who is not nizhar in Pas Cusim should be zaher during these 10 days. The Mishna Berurah adds Pas Palter. I don’t know what your family does but if you do follow this halacha for these 10 days……then yes, it would be proper chinuch to allow them to wash by the bed for the two weeks of the campaign.
I know it’s not the best proof but…
ubiquitin: Your response was “Awaiting Moderation” as I composed my response.
Avi K: I don’t know what thread you are referring to. I do not know about the Ben Adam L’chaveiro issues in dealing with the generators but it seems that we can be medayek from the Chazon Ish that it may not be a problem since he states that the “kol” of the generator screams Shabbos. You have practical experience that I cannot relate to so I will defer to you that other pokim address this issue.
As to generators that emit a smell I would have to agree with you. We know that one cannot use fuel (oils and the like) to light neiros shabbos if they emit a bad odor.
For those of us with “gray hair” and remember these types of planes…..they are usually small planes that literally has a banner tied to the back and is usually flown over open areas (e.g. beach). At one time these pilots also were able to leave messages by forming letters with the engine exhaust smoke. As for how low they fly, i don’t think they are looking at the people as much as controlling the plane.
LU: Based on your first response then one shouldn’t be a (florist, caterer, baker, jeweler etc) as you may be asked to do something for the same type of wedding.
Avi K: You wrote “if the generator makes noise or is smelly it is not even kosher”. It seems that the Chazon Ish is of the opinion that a generator is not assur because of the noise.
Hilchos Shabbos B’Shabbos Perek Beis Ois Chaf Daled and footnote 38.
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=46211&st=&pgnum=81&hilite=
.לענין הפעלת גנרטור, שאלו למרן החזו”א ז”ל למה אין בו משום
השמעת הקול, והשיב דהגנרטור צועק “שבת”. וכונתו נראה דכשם שכ’ הפו’
שדבר שהדרך להעריכו מאתמול אין בו משום השמעת הקול דליכא זילותא
בזה, ה”ה בגנרטור שכל שמושו הוא רק ע”מ שלא יהנו מחשמל המופעל
בשבת וכל מגמתו רק כדי להעריכו מבעו”י דאל”כ אין בו שום תועלת בודאי
לא גרע משעון הנ”ל דשרי.
וכמו כן לענין מקרר אע”פ שמשמיע קול הואיל ודרכו להעריכו ביום
א’ לזמן רב בודאי לא יבואו לומר שהדליקוהו בשבת.SYL: Do you visit groceries and doctor’s offices where the women are dancing?
quietmedic: R’ Moshe was very much against those dances as was R’ Elchonon when he visited America in 1938.
CTL: It depends on the wedding halls. At some of the halls in Brooklyn (e.g. Ateres Chynka, Tiferes Mordechai, Tiferes Rivka, Eden Palace) usually have 3 or 4 hot dishes by the chosson’s tish; sometimes it is the same quality as the dishes by the Kallah’s Kabolos Panim, sometimes not. I can’t compare to Monsey or Lakewood chasunahs as I usually get there late, hopefully in time for the chupa.
Snagged: Were you there?
Please be more specific to what Labor Day parade you are referring to. There are Labor Day parades across the USA.
I don’t know the reason for the rule nor do I care to find out. If a mother is measuring her own daughter’s hair so that it is in compliance with the school rules, KOL HAKOVOD to that mother and to her daughter(s).
To the person who sent out this video through Social Media, please do something to clarify why you sent it without stating all the facts.
LU: Dull knives on Shabbos? No internet or smartphone and on this issue of knives goes against the RAMAH and the Mishna Berurah: 250:1 SK 5
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14171&st=&pgnum=33
Horotzeh…: Ich veis “yeshiva redd”….This though makes no sense even to me!
CTL: I think BaalBoose is referring to the “Kabolos Panim” part of the chasunah where the food by the chosson’s tish is usually not as lavish as by the kallah.
joseph: As happened at my daughter’s chasunah, a woman was on the men’s side dancing “inappropriately” and I just walked over to her and told her to please go back to the women’s side.
Hoping..:Is it possible to explain what you are posting…..in english?
Men dancing in front of women is not a problem. Women dancing in front of men is. Usually during Keitzad Merakdim the men dance and the woman watch.
Same thing at the mitzvah tantz.
As one notices in reading the article he does not even mention what the policy is in his own yeshiva.
I don’t have a definitive answer but would think yes. They also know the reputation of the mesivta rabbeim and take it into account.
ubiquitin: Here was the initial question: “What family traditions did you grow up with that you thought were just yours and later found out were not so uncommon?”
In the shul where I grew up (1960’s and 1970’s), most people made the brocha on lulav and esrog in shul right before Hallel. They did not go down to the shul’s sukkah. So in my neighborhood it was not “common” and only later did I find out how common it was.
Eating an egg at the seder is not universal. Again, in my neighborhood it was not common.
LU: CTL is talking about Motzai Yom Kippur. What is the connection to Motzai Shabbos that you mention? Unless you are saying that your family has a fleshigeh melava malka every week.
KnPANEL: And how are we going to “force” those who do not want their children to attend a jewish day school to enroll?
OverworkedMom: Don’t start up with any poster. Read what the opening post of the thread is, read the responses and respond accordingly. You will know (sometime within minutes) that someone disagrees with you. Just be prepared that you may have to defend what you wrote. I use the following adage from the late Sen. Daniel Moynihan: “Everyone is entitled to their own opinion; no one is entitled to their own set of facts”. If you think that a poster is misstating a fact, don’t be afraid to say so. Be prepared to defend your opinion. Some of us post things and after reading what others say will retract if the other posters logic is better; sometimes we dig in our heels and stubborn. Also realize that men and women approach issues from very different perspectives.
Welcome to the forum.
Because the torah says so. Bereishis 2:24
עַל־כֵּן֙ יַֽעֲזָב־אִ֔ישׁ אֶת־אָבִ֖יו וְאֶת־אִמּ֑וֹ וְדָבַ֣ק בְּאִשְׁתּ֔וֹ וְהָי֖וּ לְבָשָׂ֥ר אֶחָֽד:
LU: It’s not they go against the rabbonim. Once you have to use internet for your work/business, trying to ban it from households was almost impossible. Almost every yeshiva now deal with parents via e-mail which forces one to have the internet.
Do people need smartphones? Probably not. My office has basically upgraded all their cellphones to smartphones. Very soon non-smartphones will disappear from the market.
DY: Are you referring to the SHACH on the RAMAN in Yoreh Deah 201:75?
I have read many of the posts. Do I think smartphones are dangerous? Yes. I have seen Rabbi Bender hold up his smartphone and say that it is more dangerous for your child to have this in his than a gun. Which is part of the problem. If he feels that one shouldn’t have a smartphone why does he have one?
15 – 20 years ago as the internet was gaining a foothold on society the torah world tried to ban it. Don’t use it. What happened? The more they yelled ban the more people ran after it. When they realized they had to embrace it, it was too late. The same thing will happen with the smartphone. The more they try to ban it, the more it will be used.
What id the answer? I really don’t know. If Roshei Yeshiva and Menahallim continue to use these phones it will be impossible to tell “hamon am” not to use them.
Hopefully “out to sea”
I don’t have the IBN EZRA in front of me to look up but since the “PI HAARETZ” one of the ten things created during twilight of ErevShabbos I would not think that it is a sinkhole as we describe it.
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=53076&st=&pgnum=54
The source for not showering after immersing in the mikvah is Mesechta Shabbos Daf Yud Daled Amud Alef:
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/shas.aspx?mesechta=2&daf=14&format=pdf
Translated in english:
And one who comes with his head and the greater part of his body] into drawn water, why did the Rabbis decree uncleanness in his case? — Said R. Bibi in R. Assi’s name: Because originally people performed tebillah in collected pit water, which was stagnant [noisome], and so they poured drawn water upon them selves. [But when] they began to make this a fixed [law], the Rabbis imposed uncleanness thereon. What is meant by ‘a fixed [law]?’Abaye said: They maintained, Not this [pit water] purifies, but both together purify. Said Raba to him, Then what did it matter, seeing that they did perform tebillah in this [the pit water]? But, said Raba, they maintained, Not this [the pit water] purifies but that [the drawn water].
Meno: Exactly. The computer system was down. It’s amazing how we always say “dan lkav zechus” except where we feel it’s not warranted. My advice for you, to show your disgust, is to personally boycott Best Buy due to a mistake by one store in flood ravaged Houston, Texas.
According to Best Buy, it was one store and instead of putting the case price they multiplied the individual bottle price buy the number of bottles in the case.