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Losing a watch is not akin to an ashir losing his money. I seem to remember someone else on his way for a shidduch losing all of his money……and he went to work for 7 years before he married his wife. I don’t remember seeing any chesed fund being set up for him and he lost more than a watch.
Who is “Rav Gavornlik”?
Make the proper brocha achrona – Ahl Hamichya
Prior to the end of zman tefilla.
770chabad: Since the mitzva is TEISVU KEIN TADURU does that mean you don’t decorate your house either?
DovidBT: Based on the passuk זֶ֤ה אֵלִי֙ וְאַנְוֵ֔הוּ. The Mishna Berurah mentions it 627:9
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=49628&st=%D7%A0%D7%95%D7%99&pgnum=172
In my house it is everyone’s job. However since a woman is not mechuyav to eat in the sukkah since it is a mitzvas asai shehhazmon grama……then it should fall on the men.
Leyzer: You are not a “heartless rosho”…..you are just a normal human being who realizes that this is misplaced chesed. On another note, such an “expensive watch” can possibly be covered as part of homeowners insurance policy.
R’ Tzvi gives his weekly chumash shiur after seuda shlishi. It can go as long as three hours but is usually less (90 minutes to 2 hours).
GH: I am not sure that your description applies to R’ Tzvi’s shiur. I have never heard from my son what you describe.
GH: Not in my neighborhood.
Have always used mats like my father did.
My son has never mentioned that R’ Tzvi checks his seforim or that he feels any “pressure”. He came from a Telzer structure here in the US and was able to adapt to R’ Tzvi’s derech.
Yes, his post shalosh seudas drasha can go 2 or 3 hours but I don’t believe that the bochurm are required to attend.
As for locking the door when R’ Tzvi starts shiur….it forces the bochurim to come on time.
I have not heard that there is peer pressure between the bochrim. IMO, they look out for each other and find ways to help each other. I know a family where three of the daughters married bochurim from the yeshiva….2 of the shidduchim redd by someone in the yeshiva.
They are currently learning a mesechta in Kodshim (I think Mesechta Krisus).
Between the bochrim and the kollel yungerleit around 350 (all from chutz laretz). It is not pressured but “structured”. They don’t go on tiyulim. You are there to learn. You have to adhere to the schedule of the yeshiva. The shiurim are in yiddish and most bochurim who do not speak yiddish going in tend to take 6 months to adjust to yiddish.
Does the Rosh Yeshiva have any shaychus with the bachurim? Does he know what is going on ?
Very much, yes. He knows every bochur in the yeshiva and what is the best for that bochur.Not only does the Rosh Yeshiva have shaychus with the bochurim, but so does his father, brothers and brother-in-laws. From what I understand, his father and mother host 2 – 4 of the bochurim for the shabbos seuda on a regular basis (arranged by the Rosh Yeshiva).
There is no true way to measure that statistic.
GH: There are those (like me) who prefer esrogim from EY (not necessarily Chazon Ish). “Hidur” in an esrog, generally is personal taste. All yellow, partially green, all green, size, gartel, etc. go into what a person considers a “hidur”. Is price an issue? For some, yes. For others, no. My budget is between $50 – $75.
Esrogei Bnai Torah 2925 Nostrand Ave (corner of Ave K).
Depends where one lived in Europe. Considering that cabbage = kraut…
GH: If this was a lone person with no ideology or agenda..I also wouldn’t refer to it as terrorism.
G613: EILU VEILU DIVREI ELOKIM CHAIM
Nightly by 770 Eastern Parkway
All brochos except for Birchas Hamazon and Limud Hatorh are Drabonon. The general rule is safeik drabonon l’hakeil (we are not stringent when there is a doubt in a din drabonon).
They are both words in Loshon Hakodesh as shown by the pesukim above.
Kol Tov – “all good”
See Berishis 2:12 וּֽזֲהַ֛ב הָאָ֥רֶץ הַהִ֖וא ט֑וֹב translated as “And the gold of that land is good”
Kol Tuv = “all the best”
See Bereishis Perek 46:18 where Paroh tells Yosef: וְאֶתְּנָ֣ה לָכֶ֗ם אֶת־טוּב֙ אֶ֣רֶץ מִצְרַ֔יִם which is translated as “I will give you the best of the land of Egypt”
Joseph: do you in which cheilek of the Nitei Gavriel t can be found? Thanks
770c: Everybody agrees that chalav akum is treif. The point is that R’ Moshe created a new category called chalav stam which takes it out of the geder of chalav akum. Many in the chadisheh velt did not accept on themselves this heter from R’ Moshe.
Meno: IMO, the OP used the term “evil” as “it is not a good thing”.
770: What is absolutely assur?
I too was a working boy when I got married. Although dating expenses have gone up i find some of your choices to be outlandish:
Hotel Lounge: $9.52 – reasonable
Cafe: $42.08 – depends what you order
Arcades/Games: $55.00 (is this one date or a series of dates?)Nice Restaurant: $126.80
Decent Restaurant: $96.43I guess my definition of “nice” and “decent” are certainly not the same as yours. I know of nice restaurants that are a fraction of what you stated were your costs.
Build a Bear/Dessert: $109.17 (Never been to build a bear so I am not sure what part of the cost was just the dessert).
Dinner/Movie: $105.96 (again you can probably choose a less expensive restaurant)
Pottery Painting: $51.17
Baseball Game/Parking: $194.50 (Boxed seats?)
Cafe: $59.63
Hotel Lounge: $22.42
Dinner: $29.33 (Bad experience. You get what you pay for.) <I’ll agree with this one>
joseph: sherry casks are casks that used to hold non-kosher sherry. You can read more on the Star-K website.
770chabad: That is why Reb Moshe differentiated between chalav akum and chalav stam.
I understand that you typically give the haircut on the day of his (Hebrew) third birthday. But if that is impractical, should it be pushed off to an earlier day or rather a later day? (People who davka do it on Lag B’Omer, are bringing there 2 year old-almost 3 year old or are bringing their 3+ year old (if Lag B’Omer isn’t the bo b’yom)?
Generally it is done bo bayom if practical. One of my sons was born during the three weeks so his upsherin was pushed off until after tisha b’av. For those who davka plan it for Lag B’omer, it is generally done before the third birthday,
Is it usual to bring him to a Rov or Rebbe to give the first cut of hair? Who else gets an honor of sniping some hair? And is the main part of the haircut done by a barber or by the father?
It depends. There are some who go to a rav; some have the father and grandfather’s take the first snips. At my youngest son’s upsherin we had a professional hair cutter do most of the haircut.
The night of the upsherin you also make a L’Chaim. What is minimally put out to eat?
Some put out light refreshments; some make a seuda (either milchigs or fleishigs). We always made a seuda for the family.
And, perhaps most importantly, you teach him some Aleph Bais from an Aleph Bina with honey. How does that work and how is that done?
And you bring him to cheder. Which cheder/class is he typically brought to? What does the rebbe usually do there? And must he be brought wrapped around with a Talis from the home till the cheder, so that he cannot see anything in between?In my experience this is actually done at the same time. If you are makpid to go from the upsherin to the cheder, the minhag is to wrap the child in a tallis. In most chadarim a specific rebbe/class is designated for the upsherin which includes showing him the aleph beis and the rebbe usually takes a lollipop, dips it in honey, and places it on the Aleph, Mem and Sof as it spells EMES.
Hope this helps,
G613: You wrote “We then went to the Rov’s house, and he cut a piece of hair from the tefillin area. ” Interestingly, I was told by my rov that the “ikkur” snip is to form the peyos.
Haman = 95 (hay 5, mem 40, nun 50).
Not sure how one spells Kim Jong-un in hebrew but the two nun’s and a mem is already 140.
GH: I didn’t see anyone here postulating a “shteeble hopper” rule; the OP and I have the same opinion that one shouldn’t shul hop. I never said it is assur or inappropriate. The question is still valid if one should approach the Rav of the shul if one has a reason to change shuls. I don’t know if the OP is asking a hypothetical question or a real life situation.
While I agree that one shouldn’t shul hop, I have never heard that one cannot make a long term change. Is your reason to change because the second shul davens a different nussach? Is closer to your home? Makpid on the first zman krias shemah? Shul politics?
I voted against a liar, hypocrite, liberal, socialist. Didn’t make a difference. She won the state anyway.
GH: your comment “although most MO shuls only “sell seats” for the yamim noraim” is where most of the misunderstanding is. Young Israel’s, in general, have different rules about seats. My grandfather davened in a Young Israel and sat in one seat on the right hand side of the shul (for ~ 22 years) except for the yamim noraim when he “purchased” his seat on the left side of the shul that was assigned to him when the shul was built.
In the smaller shteebles (shteeblach), seats are generally sold for the entire year (generally from Rosh Hashana to Erev Rosh Hashana) so this way shul members will have a place to sit when they come to shul. I davened in one shul for 11 years, purchasing the same seats all 11 years.IMO, the whole thread can be boiled down to the essential questions:
Does the guest/newcomer have the responsibility to ask about a seat or is it the mispallilem who have to look out for the guest/newcomer?
Does it make a difference if it is before the scheduled time for davening or after davening has started?
Does the shul have a rule about seats and are the rules posted for everyone to see?
Does the shul have the seating chart posted in a conspicuous place so that the guest/newcomer can check for himself what seat is available?Joseph: I never said that guests have to wait until “borchu” to sit. In the shule where I daven, it is possible that if a guest is sitting in someone’s seat he can be asked to move by the one who purchased the seat up until Shochen Ahd.
Sorry SL but it is not a fact; it’s an opinion.
Joseph: And to what davening did the OP compare it to?
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I have a different opinion.
Listening to Chazan Lubelsky it sounds like the nussach for shabbos mincha.
mitzvahcard: I have heard that kaddish said without nussach, nussach like shachris after Shir Hamaalos, and like the way we end each part of pesuka dzimra. I don’t know what is considered correct.
I will check out the site mentioned above.
DovidBT: You can only make products “Glatt” if the animal is “Glatt” (and that itself is a machlokes between the Beis Yosef and the RAMAH with the RAMAH being meikel).
LB: My uncle is very well aware of the possible issues. He still does it anyway. I have never tried to stop him.
Why should someone here explain something to the AmiLiving letter writer?
chatzkal: The winter zman starts on Rosh Chodesh Marcheshvan. However, most litvishe yeshivos have an Elul zman.
GH: You wrote “a yid walking into a new shul typically doesn’t first search for a seating chart hidden behind the door or wait for the gabbai sheini or shlishi”.
In my shule the seating chart is not hidden. It is just to the right of the entrance door, at eye level, just above the poster with the weekly schedule and just below the sign that reads “Please do not sit in someone’s seat, they have been purchased for the year. Please see the gabboyim for assistance”. There is another seating chart with the same sign pasted on the wall once inside the shule.
What happened with the recommendations put forward by the firm hired by the Lakewood township?
Why don’t you ask the Mayor or the town council instead of the CR? They should have the answer.
Snagged: Low level minhag? Watching what people buy this time of year shows that it is a vibrant minhag.
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14166&st=&pgnum=111
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14166&st=&pgnum=112yid18: Heard from various sources in Baltimore – lettuce, half a raisin, and celery for “let us have a raise in salary”.