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mentsch1: I agree with you. I was just surprised it wasn’t mentioned as most bar mitzvah bachurim lein the haftorah.

Joseph: Let’s say before marriage we seemed to be 80% compatible but there were about 20% of things that I found to be a “chisoron” (these things were not necessarily her personally but things that were common in her family). I will not get into what they exactly were but it was opposite from how my family conducted themselves. I felt that I could either overlook it or at least when around my family to avoid what she did in her parents house. Since we have been married I have found other “chesronos” that now measure 50%. These other “chesronos” were not discernible before and only exposed themselves after marriage.

How I deal with these issues is my personal business (and my Rav’s) and not for public consumption.

We didn’t do this 100 years ago? This is so common that your question is laughable. The wife of the Chazon Ish Tzatzal was known as Reb. Karelitz (married in Europe). Was the daughter of R’ Eliyashiv known as Reb. Batsheva Eliyashiv or Reb. Batsheva Kanievsky A”H? Did R’ Moshe Feinstein’s daughters keep their maiden name or were they known as Reb Shisgal and Reb. Tendler? The wife of R’ Aharon Kotler was known as Reb. Meltzer or Reb. Kotler (married in Europe)? In the almost 80 years that they were married was Reb. Scheinberg called Reb. Herman?

apy: I am pretty sure that everyone agrees that Yichud is considered nesuin. I am not sure what the main ballroom has to do with nesuin. It is not the reshus of the Chosson.

and I do not give lessons starting a year before. I plan 8 -10 months for most bochurim and some have taken even less time then that.

In my experience, when I have been called about someone (even when not on the resume), I tell the caller whether I know the boy or the girl or just the parents. I was called by a relative about a girl whose family davens in the same shul that I attend. I told the relative that while I know the father and the girls’ brothers, I really did not know the girl herself. The relative asked me a few pertinent questions about the father and brother’s and called others for more information.

I was once asked about my friends daughters “how pretty is she”? My response was that it is not appropriate for me to answer such a question.

We actually list two sets of references on my children’s resumes: family and child specific.

Before marriage it looked like 80-20. In the thirty years it has become more like 50-50.

On the night of the l’chayim do the chosson and kallah walk into the house together or separate?

GH: I am not sure what wedding your talking about but I don’t know of many weddings where the chupa takes place at one location forcing the chosson and kallah to drive to another location (like the goyim actually do by marrying in their place of worship and the catering hall is miles away).

ctl: Thanks for your clarification. I was taking my info from the CDC which indicated state level jurisdiction, not local.

In the USA, the individual states set their on requirements. You have to ask about each state individually. It is recommended by the CDC.

GH- Sorry but it is not apples and oranges. Even outside of NYC this is excessive.

Moderators: Can you explain why you allow such nonsense to be posted?

Joseph: They most definitely can be. My response is to ask a Rov especially on the gastric bypass issue.

Maybe you should put a name tag in each bag in case the suitcase breaks.

We used to set a shabbos clock on the nebulizer with 4 on/off switches so we could use it every 6 hours.

Alternatively, gramachip dot com has a product called the k-luft-nebulizer.

Questions for a Rov not the CR.

LB: Once the food is double wrapped it can be warmed up in any oven. It doesn’t matter where it was initially cooked.

I have checked both websites. They are still investigating if lettuce was the cause. Just because another country bans it doesn’t mean it will be banned here in the USA. Therefore they don’t have to pull it from the shelves. However, I am not buying it at the moment.

Call the Star-K. They have on their “No Hechsher Required” page — ‘Plastic wraps, bags do not need a hechsher even for hot”

Sorry but it is not an “American Meshugas”. It’s in the Misrash Agada.

http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=33177&st=&pgnum=148

I actually called the number yesterday and asked the question. The person responded with a number of reasons. First, they have only had married chazonim in the past and don’t want to change. Two, most of the members are married couples with families and they expect the chazan to be part of the “social fabric” which would include having other couples over for various seudos. They feel this is not entirely in the realm for someone who is single. Three, they recently had someone who is divorced in a position of authority and it didn’t work out well, and they are leery of having a repeat of the situation by having someone who is not married.

It is not an easy answer as my definition of a “good” shver is different from what my sister’s definition is. Try not to be critical of him. Just like you have to treat each of your children as individuals, so too your SIL and (future) DIL/SIL. I had a hard time adjusting to my shver A”H as he expected me to do things that he did not require of his own son (in kibbud av issues).
While it may not be the case yet for you, make sure you treat all your SIL’s the same way. My in-laws did not and it caused ill feelings. For example, they always paid for the other SIL’s lulav and esrog but never paid for mine or even offer to.

What new light are you talking about?

Rockaway resident: Take a valium. Anyone can make a mistake.

GH: It may be a psak of a former Rav of that shul (or town). We don’t know the shul so stating “so no reason to exclude them other then the preferences of the particular shul” is very unfair.