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Seraphim are Malachim, not humans.
M: While every businessman or businesswoman must have a Rav, not every question you listed needs a Rav to answer. Some questions just need common sense. For example, “How would thy ever know how late they’re allowed to stay open on erev shabbos? ” I don’t know about you but I don’t need a Rav to tell me I have to leave my office 2 -3 hours before Shabbbos.
litvishechosid: Although many of my family were in the US from the 1920’s or before, I did have many relatives (especially in paternal grandfather’s family) who were murdered by the Nazi’s YMSH. My father A”H tried his best to not buy known German products but as “ZD” has pointed out, in today’s economy it is virtually impossible to still hold by that standard.
IMHO, all these magazines and newspapers may have a Rov as an adviser but I don’t believe they run every single article in front of him for his approval.
samantha101: I am not sure how a new poster can determine why this room was created. While some posts can be determined to be L”H, we try to avoid it as best as possible. The moderators try their best to monitor the posts.
CTL: We have found that other products like kitchen supplies, linens, etc are not as disposable as their furniture.
The Swedish Nazi party was different then the German Nazi party, although still anti-semitic. I don’t know if they were guilty of the same atrocity as the Germans. That’s probably why no one has answered. The fast that the founder of IKEA was a member of the Nazi party will not deter me from shopping there.
Many factors besides the Mesader Kiddushin can cause the badeken to be delayed. The caterer may not have been watching the clock. Close relatives (uncles and aunts of the chosson/kallah) being late due to traffic and the parents wanted to wait for them. Other Rabbanim who were to receive kibudim did not arrive. Mistakes found on the kesuva that had to be redone (was at 2 chasunahs recently where this happened).
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As I stated above, I have spent a small amount of time with a “shliach”. I know that he learned with his sons on shabbos morning in a way I generally do not see (even among my family and friends) who live in larger frum communities.
josh2336: Thanks for sharing both the OU’s response and your background.
Out of curiosity, have you contacted the OU and asked them the question directly?
joseph: I can’t answer your question but I have spent some shabbosos by a chabad shliach and he told me that starting at age 11 his boys were sent to relatives in NYC so they can attend yeshiva there.
The Star-K and CRC both state “not recommended”.
.As to watermelon and pineapples on the platter, it makes it look nicer, in other words a hiddur. I am sure you heard of ZEH KELI VANVEIHU? or are you saying one is not allowed to eat anything with a brocha of borei pri haadama on Tu B’shvat?
Can someone define or list “Tu B’Shvat fruit”? Since most of these fruits are now available year round, there might not be a need to recite a shechiyanu.
It may be that this idea comes from the gemora in Shabbos 129 amud alef as stated in the sefer Taamei haminhagim: Sif Ayin Tes and Sif Pay Zayin
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14556&st=&pgnum=539
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14556&st=&pgnum=541t22t: This may be what you are referring to regarding modern floors.
Keep the current law that they cannot vote.
My wife’s family was not makpid on this issue so I did not impose this on her or on our children. My mother was her father’s daughter on this issue and my father acquiesced to my maternal grandfather’s minhagim as he usually did when he did not have a specific minhag.
ctr: Nobody stated that it is outright assur. Joseph stated “Many have a minhag that it is assur”. I too grew up this way and my grandfather A”H would say to us that only an avel walks inside a house with just their socks and no shoes. He was satisfied whether we had on shoes/slippers/flip flops/sneakers/sandals. Personally I do not take off my shoes until I am ready for bed as I was taught in my parents house but I am not makpid on my wife or children.
mfmf: You state “He, therefore, assumes that it’s likely that it does not originate from R.M. Miriminov.” The word “assumes” looms big. He cannot state it outright nor can you.
TLIK: It’s amazing to me that those witnesses do not come forward to state their account. If they witnessed it what are they afraid of? Doesn’t the torah state that עַל־פִּ֣י | שְׁנֵ֣י עֵדִ֗ים א֛וֹ עַל־פִּ֥י שְׁלשָֽׁה־עֵדִ֖ים יָק֥וּם דָּבָֽר: Right now you are giving us hearsay. Unless they are willing to say this publicly, I have no reason to believe them.
Thank you GH. I did retract my original mistaken posts less then 2 hours after posting them.
TLIK: “It was approximately in 1947, and was part of a casual conversation among a group of baalei batim in a shul on the Lower East Side.”
So you are disputing what Rabbi Hoffman wrote that “some trace it to Rav Menachem Mendel of Riminov (1745-1815), one of the five main disciples of the Rebbe Elimelech of Lisensk. Others trace it to Rav Shalom of Stropkov (1855-1940) (See Yisroel V’Hazmanim, Rav Dovid Rossov p. 291). It is clear, however, that Rav Shalom was quoting the Riminover and did not make it up himself. The original Sfer of the Riminover is not easily accessible as only the first volume is readily extant.”
If it was written in a sefer of R’ Mendel that we no longer have, how can you be certain that he descendants know or don’t know of it?
Maybe it’s a segula maybe it’s not. Maybe it’s a true minhag, maybe not. Is there anything wrong with spending 5 minutes reading pesukim of the torah with it’s targum?
If you read his article he addresses everyone of your issues which I know is found on another website. Just curious is to where you have semichah from.
See Rabbi Hoffman’s article:
huju: Since the US is not on the metric system….
I take back my previous posts. I looked on the website of a Brooklyn Seforim store and it does correspond to the length. 70 centimeters (cm) is a little over 27″. 50 CM is a little over 19″.
Product Description
Pack contains 4 sets of strings enough to tie 4 corners.
Length: 70cmJoseph: I read HML’s differently keying in on the word “he accommodated all her SIL’s demands with their chumras”. From those words I concluded that her friends SIL demanded that she accommodate his chumras. While I would try to accommodate someone it will not come at the expense of the rest of my family.
Maybe I should have said the thickness of the strings, not the width.
the size indicates the width of the strings not the length.
You are right it is a forum and I have a right to state my opinion which we all know that everyone has one. You seem to be bothered by the fact that Oorah has another revenue stream which, according to you, may take them out of the realm of a tzedakah organization. If that is the case, give you maaser money to another organization and use regular funds.
I am neither a fool nor a troll. Why don’t you just use regular funds and stop wasting everyone’s time.
IMHO, I don’t think adults should be wearing costumes at all. Children can choose any costume they wish.
Yerushalmit: What do you mean take over the time schedule? I leave for shul when I normally do whether my SIL is ready or not. (BTW, my shver A”H never waited for me to go to shul as I generally went to shul earlier then him). If he decides to daven in another shul, I wait to make kiddush a reasonable amount of time just like I wait for my sons (both Leil Shabbos and Shabbos morning). If he does not arrive within a reasonable time (and the same for my sons) I make kiddush and he has to make his own. He holds 72 minutes after shkiah and generally says V’yiten Lchah before havdala. If i arrive home from maariv earlier then 72 minutes, I wait for him.
My SIL has not “demanded” anything so I am not sure how i would react if he did. I doubt he will since he seems to take after his father and I have found that he is not a demanding person.
Nechomah: There are those who pronounce it as “cholam” and those who pronounce it as “choilam”. The kamatz is generally sounded as “AW” and the patach as “AH”.
Again, what’s the difference between Oorah and any other organization? The fact that they have another income stream? Yeshivos have another income stream – it’s called tuition. I suggest you call Rabbi Mintz directly and ask him. He will give you the answer.
Joseph: My kids know I can be stubborn and persistent. If talking to him didn’t work I would have discussed it with his parents.
Joseph: The incident took place was in my house and my daughter was there at the time to see it and why I was upset about it. If people want to “condemn” me for it, oh well. All I know is that he has not acted in that manner since.
Rand0m3x: The word ישראל has a KAMATZ under the ר which should be pronounced “RAW”. However, many people pronounce it as if it had CHOLOM which would be “RO”. People usually spell it in English as YISROEL hence the OP’s question.
to yerushalmit: In order to discuss this one has to know what exactly he/they are doing that is disrespectful. I had an issue with my SIL and told my daughter exactly what was bothering me. I gave her the option of she talking to my SIL or I would do it. She handled it and the issue was resolved.
me12345: If your rav told you yes, why are you asking again?
in what way are they being disrespectful?
me12345: What is the difference if Oorah raises money from kars4kids? What if they had a “gvir” donate the same money they raise from kar4kids? Would you be asking the same question?
Not sure how far away you are but Kosher Central, 5650 Stirling Rd.
Hollywood, FL 33021 carries it. and it is Schüg by Sabra.me12345: I didn’t miss your point. I disagree with it. I have taught over 100 bochurim, most of them since 2006. I haven’t had a complaint from any parent or Rov of a shul that my student leined in about my approach to teaching bar mitzvah bochurim. If my method is incorrect why do the same parents hire me multiple times for all their sons?
GH: I don’t know where you live but we don’t have $25 milchigs stand up kiddush in Flatbush. Most of us have a sit down kiddush (cake, herring, 2 types of kugel, cholent, soda, paper goods) for $10 – $12 a person. In addition, $60/pp for a sit down full fleishigs bar mitzva seudah is either double or more then double what caterers charge in Flatbush. I have B”H made multiple bar mitzvahs, so in your own words….get real.
ReuBrew: from what I recall, today, those who wear tefillin on Chol Hamoed remove them before except for the first day of Chol Hamoed Pesach (or Second if the first day is Shabbos) since we lein from the end of Parshas Bo which mentions the mitzvah of tefillin.
*before Hallel except
GC: We don’t know what neighborhood your BIL lives in so we can’t say if it’s reasonable or not. Based on the community in Flatbush it is extremely overpriced. We made an aufruf last year where the catered lunch for approximately 70 people was ~$1800.
me12345: I have made that suggestion to a number of parents. Almost everyone of them declined my suggestion.
You also wrote:
“It also doesn’t take more then 4-6 months by a competent teacher. Any teacher and a student with a decent work ethic. Any longer you need to question how good the teacher is and if your son really wants to lain…”. I am sorry but I would guess you have never given these type of lessons. Except for certain parshiyos like Netzavim and Vayelech it is difficult to complete this in 6 months. Possible? Yes. Having taught close to 100 bochurim I can tell you that the system I use takes closer to 8 – 10 months. One has to take into account when the bar mitzvah falls on the calendar. If it’s in September – December one basically loses the 2 months in the summer to sleepaway camp thereby causing one to start earlier than 6 months before. If it’s in January – March one has to budget time for the Yomim Noraim, Sukkos, chol hamoed trips, mid terms, finals, mid winter vacations and possible missing a lesson or 2 due to illness. My general schedule – Two weeks for trop recognition, two weeks to teach the tune. I start with the haftora which averages 4-6 weeks depending on the length of the haftora. For example the haftora of Vayechi is 12 pesukim and generally only takes 2 weeks with a third week to teach the nusach for the brochos after the haftora. Parshas Shemini when not Machor Chodesh is 39 pesukim and needs 6 – 8 weeks. Most pasrshios averages 120 pesukim. My students are taught 5-6 pesukim a week which means, on average a parsha takes 20 – 24 weeks which doesn’t include weeks set aside for full review. Parshiyos like Vayeitzei (154 pesukim) and Mikeitz (146 pesukim) take even longer as there are no pesuchos or stumos and the bochur only sees a “sea of words”. Please don’t throw around the word “competent” if you yourself have never actually taught anybody.DovidBT: You asked:
What’s the purpose of the Bar Mitzvah “event”? Not surew hat you mean by the “event” but it is brought down that one makes a seuda when his son on the day that the boy turns 13.
Is it primarily a family reunion, or is a recognition of the boy becoming a Bar Mitzvah? Boy becoming bar mitzvah.
If the latter, isnt it “fake” to give the boy special instruction to present the illusion that he has the ability to read any part of the Torah and/or the Prophets? Just the opposite. A bar mitzvah bochur is normally given the amud for maariv and to lead the zimun to specifically demonstrate that he has attained the age of mitzvos. Since we generally do not allow a child under bar mitzvah to lein or read the haftorah, this comes under the category of demonstrating that he has attained the age of mitzvos.
As someone who teaches boys to lein at the time of their bar mitzvah, it is not an illusion. They actually can read from the torah and I give them the “tools” to be able to become a baal koreh if they so choose.