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Its more of a complicated situation. The point is that once my parents divorced (for the good) i never saw him again.
arwsf- Im sure your daughter will look back at this and regret what she said. Once she becomes the parent of her own child will she realize all that you did for her, and if it wasnt for you, who knows what she could have turned up to be (for the worse).
When you, (kids of divorced parents) were growing up how did you deal with the fact that your parents are divorced? For me its kind of hard to make new friends and become social with people. Once they know that your parents are divorced thay are like “oh”, and then I feel them starting to get distant. Sometimes I hate it that my parents are divorced even though I know its for the best. I just hate it when people look at me strangely and start judging me.
I am not upset with anyone that my parents are divorced. If anything I am happy and proud that my mother had the courage to get divorced. Except, there are so many times I wished I had a father. I cant help but feel sorry for myself. But at the same time as I wrote earlier, it did bring me closer to Hashem. Whatever some ordinary kid would ask their father for, I went straight to Hashem.
This is really moving. I’m sure that children of divorced parents have a deeper conection with Hashem because He is the One who they can count on to always be there for them, and these kids are constantly talking to Him in every thing they do.
thanks am yisrael chai. But what if you dont get to see the family before shabbat? Or even after shabbat? is there any way you can give it on the same day?
I heard that you are not allowed to give gifts on shabbat unless its for the purpose of beutifying the shabbat and making it more “kadosh”. Therefore what most people do is they bring a cake or a bottle of wine or some nice dish in honor of shabbat and the hosts then use it at the table. But here is my question, are you allowed to bring the family something that isnt food like a challah cover or a book? if you do, is the family forced to use it on shabbat according to halachah?
Does anyone know if they have a dorm?
I heard this seminary is very intense but you can get your degree very quickly. It is more of a college rather than a seminary but they do have a hebrew part of the day and its a good choice if you really put yourself to work hard and want to get over the college years quickly and get a 4 year degree into 2 years!
Yes, when Sephardim say shema we (Sephardim) form our fingers in to a “shin” for Shema and cover our eyes.
Oh I didnt know. I have been to plenty of Ashkenazi shuls and whenever I do that everyone just looks at me strangely so I just assumed it was just a Sephardic custom, unless many Ashkenazim have picked up on it now?.
The lifting of the pinky is done when the Torah is held up and done by the Sephardim. Sephardim also raise their hands towards the Aron Kodesh and the Torah when it is opened and then kiss it.
i still dont get what “ani lo tachas omed” means…
The female sfardim say “shlo asani goyah” and “shlo asani shifchah”.
yossi z.- thanks for the welcome note. i dont usually post much at all but once in a while i might pop up randomly. ive been a member for about 5 months… and thanks again! =)
I am a couple of months in the coffee room but I seem pretty new every time I post cause I don’t post as often. I also don’t have a computer so whenever I’m at a friends house I’m always at their computer. I love the coffee room but I mostly read what other people post.
Yossi z.-
Is it Zidell
i only know that sharmans, michlala, and afikei sent out acceptance letters. for pninim and probably many others its on feb.15.
“1.I know of one class in a certain school (not sure if its every year or only one class) that decided amongst themselves not to discuss seminary or getting accepted (among classmates/friends) for 2 days after getting letters. Believe it or not, it really helps. And just because you got in to your “choice” sem doesn’t mean the person you are asking did. If you are in a position to initiate something like this, know you will very likely be saving someone, somewhere, a lot of heartache. Even if only amongst your friends, its a big help.”
kapusta,
i wish my class had that rule, its so sad to see the faces of those girls who didnt get accepted to the seminary they applied. even if they didnt tell any one yet you can see it on their faces. later on when they said that that they didnt get accepted i knew i was right. it was hard for them to stay happy for those that did get accepted to their same seminary but they did anyways because it was their friend and they were happy for them.
Good luck to everyone else, and wherever you get accepted know that it was meant to be, even if you dont know that yet.
see you next year in eretz yisrael!
Do you have any info about the new Gateshead?
Wow. you sound just like me. School has gotten so stressful lately.
Therefore i try not to participate in things like school plays even though i would love to but i have more important things to take care of first than a “stupid play”. (sorry, but our schools plays are not such a big deal). I try to focus on things that are more important and that will have a lasting effect later on in the future.
Sorry i didnt really answer your question but i feel like we are on the same page here about stress and school work.
Wonder how it changes later on in the future if for the better or the worse.
All the best!
Leah222-
THANK YOU SO MUCH! You have no idea how many times I have googled Gateshead for the past month and still could not find anything. This really helps! =) Tizku L’Mitzvot!
neudmama-
I really like the idea of a less gashmius lifestyle. I am also trying to work on myself in any way i can and Gateshead sounds like the right place!
Thank you so much for this information. As I am about to start applying for different schools, I would really like to apply at Gateshead, but I cant find any phone number, email, website (maybe there isn’t since internet is probably most likely not allowed).
How can I get a way to contact them?
Does anyone have contact information for Gateshead? I have been looking everywhere but I’m starting to get hopeless 🙁
All i know about Gateshead is that there are two buildings: one is more seminary/yeshiva type, and the other more college type.
If anyone else has more info please share cause i have to start applying for seminaries soon.
morrocan fish- you can use salmon or tilapia, then add some thin sliced tomatoes, onion, black/green olives, alot of olive oil (you can never have too much, dont worry its very healthy), tomatoe sauce, and some spices (salt, pepper, garlic powder)to spice things up any way you like.
hope im not missing anything else.
for our chamin, we put a bunch of stuff in the slow cooker like potatoes, chickpeas, beans, carrots,eggs, onoin and a clove of garlic for flavor. fill the slow cooker with water, add oil, spices, and your off to go! (it looks a lot like a soup and its very yummy)
we also add rice in a rice bag on the top and then cover it with the lid. once youre ready to eat lunch just dig in!
I LOVE SEPHARDI/MIZRACHI MUSIC!!!!
But,…this CD wasnt what i had expected. Maybe its just me but some songs dont sound sephardi at all. Sure, he might be pronouncing the words as a Israeli/Sephardi but the style of the music doesnt really sound SEPHARDIC to me.
I dont hate his CD. There are some songs like habibi, yaala, and the first song called libi b’mizrach i think that i really like.
I guess i had my hopes up a bit too high for some real sephardic music.
Hashem always listens to our prayers no matter what. He might not answer them when we want but He definatly listens to them and saves them in a special “box”. He knows what is better for us all the time.
Always daven with kevana knowing that one day all of your tefillot will be answered. You wont regret it. All the best!
So far all i’ve been reading about the age gap was about a 5 year difference between the guy and the girl. But what about a much bigger age gap where the guy is 20yrs older than the girl? What do you think?
I believe that the younger sibling should wait a little while till the older sibling gets married.
If a little while takes longer than a “little while” and the younger sibling could be missing good shiduchim then the younger sibling should start dating and also get his/her life moving.
Everyone is different and no one should be pressured to getting married because he/she has a younger sibling waiting to get married after.
I know someone who was going on shiduchim dates and couldnt find any good match. She was already in her 30’s.
She comes from a very big family and is one of the oldest. Meanwhile, everyone else under her who were in marriagable age werent able to get married yet. They were also getting older and by the time this person got married it became harder for everyone else to get married.
Dont forget that everybody is different and everyone should get married when the time is right and not wait because…
The younger sibings also shouldnt pressure the older sibling to get married. (everyone is different) maybe the older sibling isnt ready yet or is having a hard time to find someone. Everyone should be supportive whatever the case is.
SJSinNYC- “People aren’t property.”
I know. That isnt what I meant though.
I mean that it is the parents responsibility to educate the child to behave in the right way. If the parent feels that in such a case its right to give a potch to the kid then the parent shouldnt feel afraid to do so afraid of what the child services might do because “you were potching the tush of the child who almost put his/her life in danger”.
I know people arent property, especially children. They are a gift from G-d and parents are instructed to raise them in the right way.
Sorry if you misunderstood me.
Disclaimer-I just joined this thread and didnt read all of the other posts yet.
I think that the main problem is in America. I dont have anything against America but i see a big differance from where i come from and America. I grew up in Europe (not long ago, im quite young) and my mother always potched me if I did something wrong. It was the norm in europe 20 years ago and now. I and my sibling still behave to this day (I remember some misbehaviour now and then as we were just “kids”).
Then, we came to America and my other younger siblings were a whole different story. It wasnt (and still isnt) normall to potch your kids here in America. I was behaved as a more “educated” person while my younger siblings just did whatever they wanted . It doesnt mean that my mother never put them in time-out but it is much different when you grow up in America now than growing up in Europe.
In America, if you potch your kids any neighbor walking by could call child services because you were potching the tush of the child who almost put his/her life in danger.
If you potch your kids for the above mentioned example the kid could be terrorized because you just potched him, even though you are his parent and you have every right to do so.
Its like the kid doesnt even belong to you. It belongs to the government and if you “ruin” government property you go to jail.
Sefardim have the whole “superstitious” thing with the hamsa and the eye to ward of any ayin hara.
I’ve also heard that people who dont believe in this dont have to worry about getting any ayin hara. How does that work?
wow. that is really cool and such a good idea.
hope it works on my cell. thanx!
ever heard of the name chananyah? i only know of one person with that name.