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I am so happy for you that you are able to have that clarity in your eyes to see the positive and to always have bitachon in Hashem no matter what.
May this be the cure to all of your setbacks by having bitachon in Hashem.
May Hashem truly bless you and give you and your family yeshua!
“Forget kissing the hand of a tzadik. There’s this new fab that some bochurim do that after they shake your hand they kiss their own hand as if you have some holy powers or something and it’ll transform itself to him. Man that is annoying!”
LemonySnicket- This is definatly NOT a new fab.It’s exactly what essy8 said. It is a sign of respect. It is not only done by the Persians but by the Sephardim in general.
Sorry guys, I dont have a source for the sleeping with socks on. It’s just one of those things that I hear. Just like how I heard that a woman shouldn’t sit at the edge of a table or else she won’t get married for 7 more years…???
I also heard that if you put your clothes on backwards other than for tznius purposes, it causes one to forget their Torah.
Another is, sleeping with your socks on. (Then how do all the people sleep without freezing in the winter?) IDK.
I like the one that says “Slow Kids at Play” and you are supposed to read it as “Slow_Kids at Play” but instead I like to read it as “SlowKids_at_Play”. So funny!
I am really sorry to hear of your pain and suffering. I would list a whole bunch of possibilities to help you with your many difficulties but you probably alraedy tried them or it was alraedy listed on your other thread. (I did not post on it but have been reading through and have kept you in mind in my tefillot).
But here is one suggestion that I dont recall being mentioned.(Maybe it was?) Have you spoken to a big Gadol/Rav that can see in to you and tell you what you should do?
Sure, probably tehillim would help, or you could try all of those segulot out there but maybe that is not the solution or “medicine” to your hardship and poor physical health. Maybe you are suffering for a tikkun in this life and you need to fix it in a different way.
Don’t ever think that Hashem hates you (even though you never mentioned this feeling), but always keep positive. I know it is easier said than done but gam zu l’tovah. Keep praying. We all will keep praying for you. Keep begging to Hashem, your Father, the only one that can heal you. Don’t stop. Ask him to send you the right shaliach to help you. There is only so much Hashem can ignore us. Keep knocking at His door. And dont ever say you are starting to get depressed. You are only worsening your condition. You are showing Hashem that you don’t have bitachon in Him and He will prolong your difficulties (Chas V’Shalom!) You can do it.
I do not know what you are going through because only certain strong people can deal with such hardships. You are that strong person and you will surpass this too.
Much hatzlacha.
I think I get your question mra01385.
Obviously we should notice that the dishes were done when we come in the house from doing groceries. But sometimes when we don’t notice the obvious I think that it’s just because we are a bit absent minded, too many thoughts running in our heads, we are thinking of whet to do next… It might even be that sometimes we are so tired from being out shopping that all we want to do once we get home is to just relax. This is just one example obviously but maybe we can apply it to other things.
However, those who don’t notice things as easily should get in the practice of beeing on the “lookout” of what your husband might have done in the house. And if your still not sure, then say, “hum, somethnig feels/looks differnet in the house. Did you do something honey”? Then at least he will think you noticed (if he did anything) =)
Hope I made sense and answered your question.
About the whole idea of not naming a girl after a male got me thnking of something I heard. I once heard that a person’s last gilgul comes as a women since that is the highest form one can achieve, or something like that…
But, I don’t really hear much about girls being named after a male.
Anyone here dare to ask a Rav and post what he said?
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Not-it! ;0)
So would one say that it’s minhag hamakom if one could wear a NOSE ring?
I think that a nose ring is something to consider, but a piercing on some other part of the body is disgusting. I associate it with tattoos, and weird people…
I would actually love to have a small nose ring. I would pick something like a small studd diamond, barely visible. But, the community I live in and the people I am surrounded by would probably not permit it. Oh well. I guess its not going to happen 🙁
Cheating is cheating. You might tell yourself right after you look at the other person’s answer that you were going to write the same thing so therefore its not cheating. But that’s not true. You are just looking for ways to make your act seem better than what it really is. The fact that you looked at the other person’s paper means that you let your yetzer hara get to you and now your yetzer hara is just scheming reasons for why it was okay to do what you just did.
Control yourself and belief in yourself that you know the right answer. Otherwise, just study harder next time.
I usually ask the host but if they are not around I just make the bed so it looks good.
Thank you. I couldn’t have said it better.
Enjoy the colors of the world and be happy!
The way I was told to remove nailpolish on shabbat (that is a chatziza) is that you could rub nailpolish remover on your nail with out a cotton ball or napkin.
LOL! Now I understand what all this is about.
Sorry peerimsameach if your not icecream. He/she is just really annoying me. Guess i will have to deal with it.
This is so ridiculous. I seriously think that icecream and peerimsameach are the same people. When ever icecream doesnt get a response he/she will post on another name and pretend its someone else and respond to his/her own self . Please Stop!
Are you a guy or a girl? I cant tell from all your random posts.(oops, shouldnt have asked that, I might get in trouble now…)
sorry Jothar
I learnt that Ashkenazim could be yotzei with Sephardim but Sephardim can not be yotzei with Ashkenazim…
bein_hasdorim- “Have you ever tried to put two sleep talkers in a room, to see if they’d have a conversation while sleeping?
You should try it, It’s hysterical.
(sometimes you need an intermediary)”
LOL! My brothers do that all the time! I crack up all the time in the middle of the night. IT’S HYSTERICAL!
Sleep talking is when someone is having a dream…
Just make sure to never wake up someone in the middle of sleep talking or sleep walking. It could be dangerous.
lol shticky Guy!
Sorry, but I feel like I’m missing out on something. Someone care to explain what is the meaning of todays date, 11-11-11 or the time 11:11:11?
I’m not feeling it 😉
EzratHashem: Are you talking about the article,”Will Dropouts Save America” by Michael Ellsberg?
IMHO I would not worry what other people think when it comes to the future of your own life and your future family. People might agree that for you going to college is the best thing in the world and people might disagree that going to college is the worst thing you could do. It doesnt matter. When it comes to you having to feed yourself and your family no one is going to hand you a plate of food infront of you. You need to make sure you can do this yourself especially if your parents dont plan on supporting you in the future. So therefore, you need to make sure that you can stand on your own two feet, and going to college is the base for that.
One never knows what is going to happen in the future and if your partner cant bring enough parnassa home for whatever reason, you need to make sure that you and your future partner are going to work as a teem and that you too can go to work with your college education.
I would say that going to college for your first year or two you should attend a Jewsih college. Hopefully this way you can compromise with your parents too. Take their opinion respectfully but also try to explain your point of view and if it doesnt work then you should be able to make your own choice in this matter and decide what is best for you.
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“say tehillim… really?”
Whats wrong with saying tehillim?
chocolateluver- I once had a friend like this when we were younger. She was still in HS and I was so shocked that she was seeing boys without the parents knowledge (eventually they found out). All i had to do as a friend was be patient and try to explain to her what she was doing. (and i prayed for her so much).
Sometimes when people are missing some care and attention they try to look for it elsewhere. In this case she found herself a “boyfriend”. She was such a good girl from a good family and everything, but as people grow up, sometimes they want to look for something they feel is missing.
In my case it took some time till she learnt that she wasnt the only girl this guy was seeing. It broke her heart but thats when she realized that what she was doing wasnt right. Sometimes people dont have the clarity to see things as they are and now my friend upon realizing decided that this wasnt what she was looking for.
Try to be patient and be there for her. It could just be a phase (hormones) and all she needs to do is become a little more mature over time. Keep reminding her that what she is doing is wrong (this guy isnt meant for her) etc.
Now, I dont know how old you or your friend are. But if you are in shidduchim already try to set her up with someone else. Send your friend emails about Rabbi Wallerstein’s shiurim and talk about how good it was or how you heard it and thought it was great and you just wanted to share it with her(without mentioning your friends situation).
Good luck and all the best.
Cool story.
All that Im going to say is that it works. It happened on numerous occasions. I once read it with a friend for her uncle to get engaged and within a month he got engaged!
“i love coffe it’s not that i don’t want to get to personal it’s just that i want a professsonal that can tell me truly how to get rid of certain things and not just supress it like i’ve been doing for the past few years.”
So just tell your parents exactly what you told me. I dont know your parents but im sure they can understsand.
BTW, I think it was very mature of you that you were able to realize that you were dealing with certain situations/doubts and hopefully you would make the smart desicion of telling your parents. If they are not willing to pay for a psychologist maybe you can talk to a rabbi or a techer/counselor. Maybe all you need is a mentor… Try to keep your options open if they are available.
I sugest Afikei. They are very open and I believe they are very good on academics/trips. They are a little out of the box and care more for the inside of the person. I think you should look in to it a bit more.
Do you have seminaries come to your school and give you some info about themselves?
I think you should really let your parents know that you would like to talk to them and if not, let them know that you need someone to vent to or talk to and that you would prefer a therapist/psychologist because this isnt something you would like to talk to your friends with and you would like someone who you wouldnt have to get too personal with like you would have to with a friend. You could get personal with the psychologist and tell them whatever you want but it doesnt mean that the psychologist would take it personal since she/he is experienced with this. She would just give you good advice and a lending ear.
Sorry for the run on sentences. And good luck!
GumBall- Keep your enthusiasm and love for Hashem all the time and nothing will ever go wrong.
Don’t listen to other people.