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  • in reply to: What is ur wierdest fear? #741558
    hudi
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    I cringe sometimes when i look at the running garbage disposal. I imagine my hand being sliced….uuuhhh

    in reply to: moving back to the USA #740463
    hudi
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    Which communities would you consider?

    in reply to: Creative Ideas Needed #738708
    hudi
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    What about a purim kit?

    You can put in a package of face paint, some cute gift bags, a couple groggers, maybe a mask. Kids can buy them to use for purim.

    in reply to: The name Shira – A Problem? #1160891
    hudi
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    I would much rather be named shira than eezevel.

    in reply to: Can I cough down a cough drop? #734377
    hudi
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    This once happened to me, while I was talking on the phone. I gagged it up.

    in reply to: Rabbi Keleman – We Are Never Alone #733816
    hudi
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    It was AMAZING! Such Yad Hashem!

    in reply to: Makeup Tips #734212
    hudi
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    Put moisturizer on the eyelids, let it dry, and then put on shadow.

    in reply to: intellectual thread #733564
    hudi
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    People are happy when they feel they are moving foward or others around them are making progress.

    Supposively, depression is caused by spiritual stagnation or decline.

    And no responses about chemical imbalances. This is the intelectual thread…

    in reply to: The name Shira – A Problem? #1160689
    hudi
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    What about names from the gemara?

    jl- wasn’t there a rabi meir in the gemara?

    in reply to: Places in PA #732885
    hudi
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    There’s a huge outlet mall near lancaster. But that’s not a fun inexpensive thing to do ;-).

    It’s called tanger outlets. They have ann taylor factory, banana factory, calvin klein, coach factory, gap outlet, j.crew factory, RL factory, TH factory, and other good stores.

    If you go on the tanger outlet website, you can get printable coupons for their stores.

    in reply to: lady photagraphers for women section #732621
    hudi
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    I think it depends where they are. If they are right behind the dancing circle- definitely not.

    Have you ever crashed into a photographer who was trying to walk forward with a huge video camera, while you were walking backward in a dance? It could happen.

    Any photographers who have this question can ask the LOR for P’sak Halacha.

    in reply to: Where could i find a nice straight skirt? #732964
    hudi
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    Go online

    in reply to: Most popular names #734338
    hudi
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    In the frum jewish world

    girls: esther, rivka, rochel, sarah, chana

    boys: moshe, aharon, yaakov, yosef

    mohammed is one of the most popular names in the UK when they ignore all the spelling variations.

    in reply to: realistic?? #732392
    hudi
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    I think it’s great that you are thinking of working in the medical field. I’m in nursing school, and I aspire to be a nurse practioner or nurse midwife.

    I did consider med school or pa school, but I decided that it is too much schooling. Plus there is a residency. And I like the patient centered approach of nursing.

    A nurse practitioner is an advanced practice nurse – on the masters level. You have to go to nursing school for 2 years to get a bachelors and then go to graduate school for another 2 years to get a masters. The advantage is you can work while you are still in school and it takes far less time then it does to become a physician. In many states, nurse practitioners can work in private practice, and must be affiliated with a doctor.

    Hatzlacha

    in reply to: internet filters #730826
    hudi
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    K9 web protection filter is free and it works.

    in reply to: proving judaism #730507
    hudi
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    It’s very likely that the earlier meforshim had some kind of ruach hakodesh. (This is definitely true of Rashi)The more modern meforshim and mussar sefarim based their hashkafah on the earlier meforshim.

    Either way, shiv’im panim l’torah. Torah doesn’t only exist for people to follow. It’s there to be discussed and questioned.

    Even if there isn’t any “concrete proof”, there is proof enough that they are ethics we should follow because these people represented Torah and lived through torah in all aspects of their lives. Therefore, we can assume their ethics are the torah’s ethics as well.

    in reply to: Not All Liars Are "squinty-eyed" #730757
    hudi
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    Touching the mouth or putting the fingers close to the mouth are supposed to be signs if lying.

    in reply to: Shin on forehead??? #730571
    hudi
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    🙂

    in reply to: Shin on forehead??? #730562
    hudi
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    Cool! How did you do that?

    in reply to: Nothing To Sneeze At #730257
    hudi
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    Very true. And if you just need to sneeze and can’t make it stop, try rubbing your tongue on the roof of your mouth.

    in reply to: Divorce Rate in the frum community #728517
    hudi
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    1) They are getting married for the wrong reasons

    2) They are getting married too soon

    3) They are not mature enough to give in

    in reply to: Boycotting Israeli made goods #727626
    hudi
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    I heard about these recent boycotts – and they’re not just in Canada – it’s flooding through Europe as well.

    in reply to: Yeshivish and Manners #727337
    hudi
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    From wikipedia:

    “In sociology, manners are the unenforced standards of conduct which demonstrate that a person is proper, polite, and refined. They are like laws in that they codify or set a standard for human behavior, but they are unlike laws in that there is no formal system for punishing transgressions, other than social disapproval. They are a kind of norm.”

    *I understand the difference between manners and middos. I’m just trying to make a distinction between the two.*

    MDG – I agree with you about the disctintion between manners and middos. (In fact I actually typed the disctinction, but decided not to write it.)However, I think manners teaches that particular actions are wrong – don’t interupt, don’t cut the line etc, while middos teaches that certain CHARACTER TRAITS are wrong. For example, it is wrong to be a ba’al ga’avah – it might lead to cutting the line, interupting people, and lack of respect, because you think you are better than other so you can do these things. I think manners just say – don’t do this it’s not nice, while middos says – a Jew must behave differently than the non-jews – which involves working on negative character traits that lead to behaviors that are considered bad manners. I think it is easier to say “people don’t do that” rather than “work on this midda.”

    ha ha ha – this particular situation was 5th grade BY girls

    truth be told – I don’t think apple pie and fried chicken are societal norms. I also don’t understand why logic is necessary to make this particular point.

    in reply to: Yeshivish and Manners #727332
    hudi
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    I do not have an agenda and I’m not trying to put anyone down. As a matter of fact I consider myself yeshivish and my friend is more yeshivish than I am.

    I merely want to point out something that I, and my friend have observed, so people can do something about it.

    Also, manners and middos are not the same thing so they cannot be interchanged, as some people have done. Manners stem from societal norms, while good middos come from torah study, self improvement, and mussar.

    The observation is that more so called “modern” people are more in touch with societal norms, and general society, so they MAY BE MORE LIKELY teach their children manners. While, so called “yeshivish” people are less in touch with societal norms and general society, so they MAY NOT teach their children good manners.

    in reply to: "Please Get Outta Here" and other Polite Rudeness #726924
    hudi
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    Excuse me for saying this but…

    in reply to: Designer Clothing – Waste of $$? #727026
    hudi
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    designer clothing is better quality, but the price is majorly marked up, so the value goes down.

    Lets say

    A calvin klein suit that costs $400 has a quality of 6 out of 10. The value is $66 for every point (400/6)

    But the Baroni suit for $3000 which a quality of 10 out of 10, really has a value of $300 per point (3000/10).

    So although the Baroni is better quality, the Calvin Klein has a much better value. It’s not worth it to pay so much more for slightly better quality.

    in reply to: Would you marry a smoker? #725970
    hudi
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    Absolutely not! Total deal breaker.

    in reply to: MAJOR Mazel Tov!! #725430
    hudi
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    Mazel Tov!

    Mod-80- I know who they are and in their case it may not be so. There will be many people who will be happy to know the news who won’t hear it directly from them.

    in reply to: What car should I get? #724990
    hudi
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    Mazda 2

    in reply to: seminary interview questions #724527
    hudi
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    in reply to: Boys Who Learn & Go To College At Night #724378
    hudi
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    Do boys who learn and go to college at night generally start working (at least part time) as soon as they finish their degree. By agreeing to a boy in this situation, are you agreeing that he will stop learning full time as soon as college is up? Have you heard of boys who get the degree and continue learning for 2-3 years later and then start working?

    Also – which hours are considered “at night”? Does “night” start from 3:30 and continue til 9? or is it literally a person that is in college just when it is dark outside? Meaning he learns in kollel the whole day and then goes to college at night as an aside – maybe 1 or 2 classes each semester.

    in reply to: Please Include Photo #907645
    hudi
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    Basically, I met her and it was fine. She didn’t even ask for it. I guess I made myself clear on the phone.

    *I’m not unphotogenic, I’m just against a girl’s looks being the first impressions of a girl many boys have, even before they look into her!*

    in reply to: Please Include Photo #907638
    hudi
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    This shadchan I’m going to see says I should bring along a picture with my resume. I am against pictures, and generally do not give them. I told her that I don’t have an official picture. When she saw I was hesitent, she told me that she sees so many girls that she needs it to remember who I and that she wouldn’t show anyone. She said it could just be a picture with a group of girls. Should I bring one or not? If I don’t bring it then she may think I don’t trust that she won’t show it. And if I do bring it, maybe she will show the picture to somebody.

    in reply to: The Math of the Age Gap #723759
    hudi
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    The shidduch crisis is a product of galus. When Mashiach comes, the shidduch crisis won’t be over because equal amount of boys and girls will be born, or because boys will marry girls their age, it will be over because men might choose to have more than one wife. Personlly, I would not want my husband to have another wife, but just a thought.

    in reply to: Communities for Baalei Tshuva #723924
    hudi
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    I think Baltimore is a great choice. It’s very accepting and has a decent size baal teshuva community. There are also lots of singles, so you won’t have any trouble finding a roommate.

    in reply to: People with Yichus #724103
    hudi
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    In some cases yichus does make a difference.

    However, there are frei people who are descended from great people.

    in reply to: The Rationalist's Guide To Judaism #721736
    hudi
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    I don’t thinks it matters whether these events are rational or not. Rationality comes from the human mind. It comes when there is doubt that something is true or evem happened. A person rationalizes to feel comfortable with his wrong decision, to make him feel like he is right even though deep down he knows he is wrong. A person who says these events are not rational only sees things in black and white. He has tried (maybe subconsiously) to come up with some reason how such events have occured, but he is not able to, because there is no reason that is within the regular laws of nature for the occurence of these events, so he regards them as irrational.

    This person will only accept these events as true if he trancends his rationality. One way is to accept the Torah, which describes these events, as divine.

    in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973261
    hudi
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    I think that’s a great setup. I was actually just thinking about it yesterday. I guess there has to be a mutual understanding in place as well.

    in reply to: Ad Meah V'esrim…? #720612
    hudi
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    Sorry ItcheSrulik! I should have known.

    I learned about the lifespan in a gerontology class I took this past semester

    in reply to: If You Could Be ANYONE For One Day,Who Would It Be? #720750
    hudi
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    moving mountains – you totally cracked me up 😀

    I would be myself.

    in reply to: New Word Game #1041479
    hudi
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    snore

    in reply to: Ad Meah V'esrim…? #720599
    hudi
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    Well, Moshe Rabeinu lived til 120, so that’s where we get the phrase, ad meah v’esrim. Scientists, with their purely scientific minds, say 120 years is the maximum lifespan of a person. It’s a bracha when you tell a person to live til 120. You’re basically telling them, you should have the max time possible to fulfil what you have to fulfill in this world.

    in reply to: Can You Say "No" If…. #720103
    hudi
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    I think you shouldn’t jump right to it if the other details fit. You should do some extra checking out, find out WHY they got divorced, and if the boy/girl have any role models of shalom bayis outside their home (assuming they got divorced because of shalom bayis issues.) It’s very important for people to have role models of shalom bayis, because the way your parents related to each other is the biggest cue you have for relating to your husband or wife. This is true even for children of married couples. Unfortunately, not everyone who is married has shalom bayis.

    in reply to: Career Advisor #719651
    hudi
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    I’m starting nursing school next month. I chose nursing school because it takes only 2 years, you have pretty decent pay, and you work about 3 days a week per 12 hour shift. If you work in a doctors office, then you’re only there when the doctor’s there – maybe 9/10 – 4/5. Also, you can do chesed on the job. If you want 2 go back 2 school, like for nurse practioner, your hours are even more flexible and you have better pay. Also, nursing is really good exercise ;)There’s a reason nurses wear sneakers on the job.

    thefinalhorcrux – many hospitals prefer nurses with a bachelors.

    in reply to: internet filter?what to buy? #714549
    hudi
    Participant

    Ditto to MDG

    in reply to: Why Don't People Drive Normally In NYC?! #715669
    hudi
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    This isn’t only in NYC

    What bothers me a lot is when PEOPLE PUT ON THEIR BLINKERS AFTER THEY BREAK SUDDENLY TO TURN. You’re going your regular 10 miles above the speed limit, close to the slow car in front of you. All of a sudden, 10 feet before a side street, some one short stops, puts on their blinkers and turns. Is your mind backwards??? I don’t need a warning before you’re turning if you’re going to short stop before you put on the blinkers. I got the message loud and clear when I slammed on my breaks.

    in reply to: Jokes #1201439
    hudi
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    I heard this joke from a shiur by Rabbi Tatz that I downloaded. It’s possible you’ve heard it, but here goes.

    There were 2 women living in a shtetel who each had a daughter in shidduchim. There were no bochrim in town, so what did they do? They imported 2 bochrim from a yeshiva. The day came for the bochrim to arrive. They both went to the train station, and there’s only one bochur standing on the tarmac. So of course, they each want the bachur for their own daughter. They argued back and forth. Finally, they decided to go to the town rav. They brought the bochur in and explained the story. The rav said: I have a great idea. We’ll cut the bochur in half, so both daughters can get married. One woman protested: no we cant cut him in half. The other exclaimed: yeah, cut him in half, that’s only fair.The Rav said:we have found the mother-in-law !!!!

    in reply to: How To Raise My Self-Esteem #797576
    hudi
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    Another important aspect is to not compare yourself to other people. 1) you don’t see the whole picture 2)what they have isn’t good for you 3) what you have is ideal for you. When a person comes to the realization that everything they have been given is perfect for them and everything they have or don’t have was decided by Hashem – who knows what is best for us, then a person can have self esteem.

    Gaiva is the opposite of a low self esteem. This is when a person attributes their talents and abilities to themselves.

    Having a low self esteem means you don’t recognize your uniqueness and value. You don’t even realize that you have those special talents and abilities.

    Having a good self esteem is right in the middle. You value yourself because you realize that you have special talents and abilities, but you attribute them to Hashem, you recognize that Hashem gave them to you. We must all strive toward this.

    in reply to: How To Raise My Self-Esteem #797575
    hudi
    Participant

    I think what Rabbi Dr. Twerski is saying is true in a general sense. The fact that a person has a soul given by Hashem makes him or her feel valuable. However, in my opinion, a large part of self esteem is how a person is unique and can uniquely contribute to the world. Everyone has a soul and everyone Jewish has an extra soul. When a person feels special, that Hashem gave them special talents and abilities, then they feel worthwhile. When people receive validation from others for their talents and abilities, it raises their self esteems. (I’m not saying this is a good thing – because after all, you didn’t give yourself talents – they were given to you by Hashem – you were just born with them.)So self esteem is partly external, but true and strong self esteem is internal.

    in reply to: Baltimore – Gluten Free? #715084
    hudi
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    Seven Mile Market may have with their new health foods section

    You can always try Whole Foods on Smith Avenue or Fresh Market on Quarry Lake Drive. Both stores have a nice selection of kosher food.

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