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Brilliant! Let me ask you, does there exist second hand smoke with e-cig?
If not, why in the world can’t one use a ecig in public places?
Punchline: Anti smoking agenda – has become an agenda unrelated to health, and the ecig is definitive proof.No matter what you cook up about e smoke, it’s for sure safer then real cigarettes, and MANY people stopped smoking in it’s merit. But the heartless agenda carries on – like most agenda’s, they end up soulless and unrelated to the original theme.
Smoking is not healthy, nobody thinks it is, but people that spew hatred, and meaningless grouching at smokers – are most probably endangering their health more.
The relevance of this question in the form presented is not clear. Assuming the question is comparing the challenges of an older bachelor vs. a divorcee, there are obviously tough challenges on both sides. What may be important to note is that divorcees/male are stigmatized excluded and treated as irrelevant in our “frum orthodox societies”. I n addition to the often being tortured in the divorce process , and maintaining relationship with children. Although impossible to compare or judge, a bachelor’s life is for sure very lonely and comes along with stigma, selfish advice and more, but is left to deal specifically with “being single” excluding the dirt, emotional strain etc. of divorcees.
Listen Up! You will not believe this! The link to the auction was posted on a group chat, someones little brother took his phone and hit the bid button! The seller is not allowing him to cancel! He is threatening a din torah, claiming he’s a seasoned toyen (lawyer) and will get his money, and if not go to court! Furthermore he has contacted this person’s family members harassing them!
As far as when to bring this up: The question should not be based on the number of dates, rather the point of relationship, and other variables. If there is something serious you suspect you must deal with it before the relationship get’s serious, otherwise you are hurting everyone. A basic picture of his divorce is mandatory before you meet, and then intuitively following up based on what you see.
(Excluding very extreme cases) You will seldom get to the bottom of why he got divorced, besides for above mentioned “his story” her story”, usually there is no black on white one word answer (relationships that are not properly maintained go down hill, not in one day). What you really want to know is, what has he learned from his past? How has he grown? Worked on his issues (takes 2 to tango). Even more important: How did he behave in divorce?! How does he behave in the face of conflict? And then of course how he deals with his ex and his relationship with his children. Preferably you should talk with his mentor/rabbi before you meet, and then the serious pinpointed questions should be developed as you meet, if there is something you see, then do your research. Research means asking mature people that know the story firsthand, in cases of conflict, if your going to ask his enemies, your better off dropping him, as you will never receive accurate information. Marrying someone with life experience that has learned from their mistakes gives you more chances for success (not addressing the many other possible complications of second marriage).
Yes, of course you are right. Do you honestly doubt it? Obviously people that are “under the influence” will not agree. Now the question is how to rectify the issue, and how to influence others constructively.
Haleivi’s proposal would basically be asking her if she learns Reb Baruch Ber, or maybe he’s suggesting a testing communication with and umdenah?
Unless he knows who your proposing too, generally even today’s biggest “lady-tiflus-lamdanim” don’t learn Reb Baruch Ber (nor R chaim).
And if the plan to communicate is with umdenah, you can scratch the proposal!
Best Idea is to be yourself! Don’t copy others, be real and propose with something that expresses YOUR interest!
Sounds like the kotzker, guy ties a red bracelet on his foot before going to mikevh, falls off and someone else put’s it on..he comes out and who am I!
Fascinating to see how deep the “anti smoking” campaign has gone!
Wake up dudes, the e-cig is obviously the best alternative to smoking (yes of course stopping is too-very smart), I know people that chain smoked 50 years that stopped.
Let’s stop the “anti” and ignorant selfishness.
Drop smoke is a very good option, he’s a great guy, trustworthy, with great service, he will help you with your specific needs. And no I don’t work for him, I’m a loyal customer.
buy it in israel its cheaper
Call Rabbi babad from releif 7184310352. He will set you up with a proper therapist that can help you. Chazak vemutz!
Broklyn shadchan: Very valid point, from what i understand the new ruke in lakewood that boys over 22.5 will not be acepted is not only meant to bridge the 6 months gap, but also to possibly minimize and possibly illiminate boys going to e”y. But there are a few points that are not acurate. 1.A large portion of the boys officialy go to brisk which is somewhat a new derech halimud which one can’t receive in the us. 2.Alot of boys are not mature enough yet. 3. There was a meeting of roshey yeshivos a while back trying to acheive this but the boys are not holding by listening to this. 4. This might blow some peoples minds, but from my expierience with loads of boys in e”y a large percentage are going down there and the world sits by quietly, im saying this from first hand expierience.
1. To withhold a get in such a situation where the children are being held back from the father, is not only mutar, it is advised, its mandatory, how can a father give up his children like that based on false claims?
3. Even after giving a so called peaceful get his wife treats him like a peace of garbage, does whatever she would like, if he would have held off the get for a while he might have taught her a lesson or two, which is what the rabbanim were suggesting.
4. A few tips: Once you see your spouse is under the influence of her parents, friends, and is lying, you cannot depend on the marriage counselors or rabbanim, because she can be directed to take action against you behind your back. (My friend was tricked by her to leave the house for a few days until a proper separation is set up, the rabbanim took resbonsibilty that it will stay status quo!)
6. We must organize a processes where only rabbanim that have the proper experience and guidance can state opinions in a divorce situation, any rav that gets involved without meeting both sides is automatically not relevant.
Ive been to ramat beit shemesh a few times, excuse me but the streets are FULL of boys and girls hanging out.
Have been having bochurim for 13 years, depends alot on wifes tzniyus, have seen (by others) enough times the bochurim trying to shmooze with the lady of the house. It is a known fact young couples espec shud not party together. This stuff is basic.Arayos is alot bigger then the actual aveirah, and anyone here making believe there is no issue at hand, is not even fooling themselves, and u know it!
proper search engine, especly in forums
Have not been able to read all the above posts, just one qs?
Has anyone botherd to mention what the chazon ish writes? u need a sanhedrin blishkas hagazis to throw someone out. Has anyone seen the sanhedrin or even a yeshivas beis din??
Personal story: i was in a yeshivah and someone made trble, i was called in and told “u did it” i said i dint, the menahell replied “ur a liar” long story short i was not kicked out but went a month without sleep, a while later i recieved a letter from a boy who already left the yeshivah asking for mechilah he lied and told the menahel i did it to save his friend… i begged the menahell then to believe me to no avail, i said do u have witnesses?? this menahell is no longer living, but he met me by a wedding yrs later and i totally ignored him.
pappa_bar_abba: way to go u are 10000% right!!! and most poskim even todays in ey, agree. theprof there is no dif btwn pizza and pashtidah, the fact that pashtida is covered on all sides is a “chiluk” without a “mechalek”, only qs left are 1. is the halacha like the piskey harid, pashtus of mechaber, mg”a and m”b’ or like the tanya rabsy taz. 2. is the dough changed to make it pas habu bkisnin regardless if its duznt have the kulah of memmulah. and one more thing if ur bragging im willing to take u to the task in ANY birchas hanehnin shailoh!!!! and no i wont tell u whi i am, ud be quite surprised!!
overeducated girls: i find that even when the overeducated aspect is non proffesional related, like a girl thats very advanced in torah vehashkafah boys stay away, and the reason usually isnt intimidation its the role a girl is suposed to be, no ones looking for a rosh yeshivah or teacher, to be quite frank i have a sis in law like that, and the issue is quite obvs.
ty: great question!! of course, the m”b says Kol makom shshayach lehachmir… pashtus today the old heterim dont apply and its at least a safic deorayssah, b”h r herman from monsey was mezakeh a large chelek of the tzibbur, but alot are simply ignorant, i once asked in a store if the bread is yoshon, and the fellows face dropped, he began screaming in yiddish “everything is fresh” lol again and again, or maybe cry??
tomim tihyeh: why hes female?
what bracha on shnitzel? and how much constitutes achilah gassah?
Also do u eat only when ur hungry??
ppl are still smoking for the same reason ur still working on ur middos. and if ur not, then for the same reason u cant break ur bad middos.
The uz nidbiru (r binyomin zilbershtein zt”l) paskens that its better to sit next to a girl then behind her. cuz he brings a rayah that theres a din of “achoreiy isha” even by sitting.
but for all those willing to deal with arayos issues head on , heres a little secret, the gemorah says that 2 specific amurayim are considerd tznuim legabey yichad and the mechaber paskens like that so anyone today acording to mechaber is considered prutzim and in a workplace with closed door wont help a feelow yid, even acording to the remah whos meykil r moshe says someone who watches tv is considered a parutz and duznt help for yichud, go figure how many ppl working with females are forgetting this. this is without adressing the real tzniyus issues goin on in workplaces. The amurayim had to deal with arayos somehow we got better????????????
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heloo 99: derech hachayim correct, but hemayeyn shum yireh, hes arguing with the beis yosef ramah etc, mishnah brurah entertains such a possibilty, again if rsh”z paskens like the derech hachayim and hes ur rav in all great, otherwise the halachas is like the shulchan oruch. Besides i was pointing out that rov poskim dont hold that way, the fellow was counting brachos books for rov.
Mr moq: No hard feeling brachos books are great, i just thought u were male, im sorry
Moq: The rishonim are clearly disagreeing, they dont waste time and ink on examples. And for those that bother learning tur beis yosef and sh”a )not pischey brachos) the beis yosef ramah and all the poskim state clearly its a machlokes, so again its brachos books vs rishonim and poskim. After u take out some time to learn the rishonim and poskim, and put aside the brochos books, i will reveal a mareh makom that says like u, but obvsly “ayn halacho kumoso”, with all due respect, ur holy brother
There is no stand alone profile of snack and food, if one snacks on bread it is still bread, the proof is the fact that the rishonim disagree what pas habah nkisnin is, why waste time, whatever is eaten as a snack is kisnin, bread is bread. obvsly thats not the ruler.
And pashtus burekas are the same
theprof: incorrect the mechaber is clear like the mg”a and the mishbah brurah. so its r yakov vs them, rov poskim dont hold like that. and rov is not made up from all the brachos “books” ava at ur local bookshop.
got bored so decided to join the party
Reb yakov yosef herman
Even if the dough has apple juice usually it is concentrate and is not enough to be considerd pas kisnin, even if there is rov of real juice, pashtus its not enough.
Besides there is a machlokes rishonim in regards to the shutah that pas kisnen is “memmulah” filled if its only when its filled with sweets or even a mainstay, the shulachan aruch paskens acording to the mg”a that “pashtidah” is pas gamur, pizza is exactly pashtidah so pashtus pizza is not pas kisnin
1. You only get paid back if u trust, it says “haminu bi”
2. the rishonim deal with a contradiction in one place it says borrow on me and i will pay u back, in another it says make ur shabbos like weekday and dont come on to people, big machlokes how to answer this, the mishnah brurah brings a machlokes when one duz not have money and has no idea if hell be able to pay back shud he borrow or not? he is machriah “hakol kefiy hinyan” which it appears to mean 1. the chances of being able to pay back. 2. the level of the person 3. possibly if he truly respects shabbos