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so, how DO we find those boys who are in touro. can’t stand out there on the street! Maybe touro should have a shadchan, students pay enough tuition!
why dont we work on FINDING A DATE before we worry about trivialities like opening up the door. PRIORITIES man
to apushatayid: excellent idea! I’m all for it
I too am looking for a solid guy whose working. Where are they all hiding? Who are the shadchanim that know the working population. They must be hiding under some rock someplace worried that no girls want them because majority of girls are “looking” for “learning” boys. Anyone help?
i want to know why people who call themselves “shadchanim” are allowed to withhold information about themselves? if you’re calling me and asking me about my child and then suggessting a shidduch for him/her, i want to know who YOU are.
my friend was asked the following about me:”what is the texture of her hair”.
I think there should be a push for people in our community to get the mental help that they need. Because of stigma and nosiness no one gets the help that they need- pple dont want thier children’s shidduchim getting affected and a myriad of other things. People have to grow up and notice that mental health issues dont heal on their own- pple need medication and help in order to get well.
YFR Bachur: Thank you so much! i’ve always wanted those notes.
I have to tell you the worst story I ever heard related to “insensitive things”. A woman I know (she’s in her 40s), lost her father and then her mother less than a year later. A woman came to be menachem avel to her and said “oy, this must be so hard for you. how does it feel to be an orphan.” mind you- this was a grown woman herself who said it, in her mid 50s. no brains or what?!
Being that I am a girl who is not a size 10/12, here’s what I have to say. I think it’s important for the shadchan to know both the girl and the boy so she can figure a way to tell each of them about the other. From a girl’s perspective, don’t think we like going out with boys when we dont know how “big” they are either. Not everything is about what the BOY wants, and how the BOY likes it… Think about the girl once in a while.