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February 24, 2010 9:06 pm at 9:06 pm in reply to: Unfiltered Access to the Internet allowed? #675155hereorthereMember
And if those “strongest filters” block ebay so he looses his ebay business and now has no parnossa then what?
hereorthereMemberThere are varieties of various ways to things and not one set standard.
When it comes to whether something is right or wrong, it is quite black and white.
What ‘looks’ grey only looks that way to someone who does not know how to separate out the good from the bad sincve it all mixed these days.
But just like grey picture in a newspaper is made up of black dots on a white background and the grey is darkler or lighter depending on how many black dots there are per square inch so to the apparant grey in right vs wrong, is really make of black and white fine details all mixed in together.
There may be 20 different routes to get from Brooklyn to southern New Jersey and it is not wrong to drive there but it is wrong to drive there over the speed limit and certainly wrong to steal a car to drive there.
Someone might say “what if it’s ife and death and stealing a car is the only to save the life”.
Well what if the car that was stolen was rushing organs to the airport to fly to someone who needed a transplant in Pennsylvania and unless those organs got there in an hour, they would spoil and be useless and the patient would die?
Obviously stealing is wrong, no matter how you slice it.
Right and wrong are clearly black and white.
hereorthereMemberIs it part of H-sh-ms plan that some have to wait forever or at least, so long that they will be too old to ever have children?
February 24, 2010 12:58 pm at 12:58 pm in reply to: Unfiltered Access to the Internet allowed? #675143hereorthereMemberThe internet is an online representation of the world, if it must be filtered then the entire world must be filtered.
I remember hearing a story (I believe it was) about the Baal Shemtov and some of his talmidim.
They once went into an inn and before ordering a meal, asked all about the kashrus and who did the schecting etc…
And someone (who I think turned out to be Eliyahu Ha’Naavi, in disguise) said that people should be as careful about what comes out of their mouths as they are about what goes in.
Would anyone want to take any bets on what the Rabbonim would say is more harmful to the community if given a choice between the internet and rampant Loshon Hara combined with Sinnas Chinnom?
February 24, 2010 12:47 pm at 12:47 pm in reply to: Unfiltered Access to the Internet allowed? #675142hereorthereMemberI think the best Mashul would be going into a store that sells both kosher and non kosher and ‘not’ buying the non kosher products and then being told :
“You have no self control so you need to have all stores that sell any non kosher products filtered out for you so that you never get to even enter the store.
If that means that you can’t eat because you live in a small town and there are no stores that are exclusively kosher, then you must stop eating”.
hereorthereMemberAnd if sophistiocated is not goyish then there is absolutely no need to leave the Torah world to get it.
Everything is in Torah.
February 23, 2010 1:47 am at 1:47 am in reply to: Unfiltered Access to the Internet allowed? #675116hereorthereMemberSo what about those who do the filtering?
Aren’t they seeing the unfiltered internet since they have to decide what gets filtered?
hereorthereMemberIt can be more then embarrassing.
Someone (like a molester, for example) who wants G-d forbid to do someone harm, knows exactly who to look for, once their pictures are on the internet.
The camera can simply be turned toward a wall or corner or down toward the desk
(as long as everyone always remembers to leave it that way, when not in use).
hereorthereMemberOne neighbor of mine bought a used car for about 250 and put in another couple of hundred or so into repairs.
For that amount, the car lasted about 3 or 4 years.
hereorthereMemberWhen I first started looking for a shidduch I had not heard of Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis.
I met her about 15-20 years later and she invited me to come to her weekly lectures which had singles who could meet each other.
I however did not have the money to dress well enough on a weekly basis nor did I have the excellent high paying job that everyone else who went to such things had.
I would have looked and felt extremly out of place and did not have the kind of background or professional job that is needed to fit in there, either.
February 22, 2010 4:22 am at 4:22 am in reply to: Unfiltered Access to the Internet allowed? #675082hereorthereMemberI remember being taught that one may fulfill the mitzvoh of not knowing the difference between “cursed be Haman ” and “Blessed be Mordechai” just by drinking more then usual or by sleeping (possibly even just by drinking milk?).
One problem with drinking is that it’s not just public but could endanger the public such as when someone drinks and the G-d forbid, drives.
The internet does not cause such direct immediate damage.
Technology is not good or evil.
It’s how it’s used that makes the difference.
February 22, 2010 2:42 am at 2:42 am in reply to: Unfiltered Access to the Internet allowed? #675076hereorthereMemberThere is quite the problem of yichud out there in the world.
When a person is alone in a store, just about to close and someone walks in
or two singles live on the same floor in an apartment building for example.
February 22, 2010 1:15 am at 1:15 am in reply to: Unfiltered Access to the Internet allowed? #675069hereorthereMemberAlso even in the middle of the most frum community into the grocery stores and the shoe stores and eateries etc….the most untznius people sometimes come into shop.
Smetimes they are not even Jewish at all.
So unless everyone is going to be banned from working and banned from even comming out of their houses banning the internet will not insulate anyone from the rest of teh world.
I never ehard of any frun yidden stoping from going into the Jewlery business and working in Manhattan because some extremly untznius people would come into teh stores and be seen on teh streets where the yidden had to go to and be in order to do their jobs and I never heard anyone quoting Rambam or Aurach Hashulchan, in complaint against it.
February 22, 2010 1:06 am at 1:06 am in reply to: Unfiltered Access to the Internet allowed? #675066hereorthereMemberIn the section on shidduchim someone said that part of the problem with shidduchim was that (not an exact quote, but the basic idea of they said was) “the women went out into the world and learned to have minds of their own and the mothers of the boys could not manipulate them they way they used to be easily manipulated”.
Saying they “had minds of their own” strongly implies it was good for the girls to go out into the secular world and get some ‘sophistication’ that the boys did not have so they would not be “manipulated” or have to ‘look up to the men going out to work and earning the money” as it used to be in the old days.
And yet this outside world is exactly what is being complained about that is brought into the home, by the internet.
So which way is it?
Is it good to go out and become “sophisticated” as they praise the girls for doing or is it the bane of the frum community and harbinger of it’s destruction?
hereorthereMemberWhen I being a “baal Teshuvah” went to shadchannim I had one main
quality I was looking for, that that was a girl who wanted to be careful about Loshon Hara, not someone who wanted to know the “latest juicy gossip” but who wanted to focus on building a family based on Torah and Mitzvohs.
I was told by the shadchanim that such a girl (even though she may have been in yeshivah only a few months)deserved a boy who had been in yeshivah for 10 years or more.
It did not matter they said, that the boy was interested in being careful about such things.
All that mattered was the number of years, he spent in yeshivah.
So a guy with lousy midos would be pared with a girl with excellent midos just because of how long he had spent in yeshivah.
Such attitudes destroyed my chances of finding a good shidduch for me and in my opinion the blood of all those of my descendents who will now never be born, is on the hands of those shadchanim and those who think like them.
hereorthereMemberIf being out, away from the frum world, “gives a girl a mind of her own” then it would seem the answer is that the boys too, should go out in the world away from Yeshivah so they too can be “sophisticated” and have all the non Torah qualities they can’t get in yeshivah that constitute “having minds of their own”.
January 22, 2010 7:04 pm at 7:04 pm in reply to: Yeshiva Students Make Kiddush Hashem On NYC Bus #673253hereorthereMemberThis is why when I take a car service (or taxi) I try and make it a point to give a reasonably generous tip to help dispell the myth that Jews are “stingy penny pinchers”.
hereorthereMemberThank you Jewishsoul; I understand what you are saying but I wonder if the soul really fully understood how hellish life down here would be when making that choice.
Did my soul truly know that my life would be so bad that I would spend every single day wishing I were dead?
It reminds me of what is said about the Avos and how they each prayed for
something and G-d said “You have asked for a good thing it will start with you”.
And it seems that what they got was not what they asked for.
For example Avroham Avinu asked that people be able to tell him from his son Yitzchok so G-d made him old.
But with old age, came weakness and Avroham did not ask for his strenght to run away with him.
He only asked that people would know him from his son.
Who asked for the suffering from the weakness of old age?
hereorthereMemberIf the person was specifically supposed to suffer then how is G-d following Torah as I was told he did and we know that one may not punish in anger or
make suffer just for the sake of making suffer without the one being punished knowing why?
If his soul needs clensing that could have been done inbetween lives and seems wasteful during a life where he has no clue.
Thank you positiveaynayim and Bemused and oomis1105 and
squeak and happyOOTer.
You have all expressed some beautiful thoughts and ideas and I appreciate them all.
At this point in my life my biggest concern is that as I grow older and weaker I will no longer be able to do my physically demanding job for which I get low pay and have no life savings or pension of any kind (except a pittance from Social Security, which I am quite sure will not exist by the time I’d be able to collect it)and no healtn plan (and Obamas plan will only make it worse, I dread existing under THAT plan)which is problem now even before I get that weak.
I have no clue whatsoever what I will do next week or next year or a few years or at whatever point my boss tells me he is hiring someone younger and stronger when he notices that I am not keeping up like I did when I started there, over 12 years ago.
I have no way of fixing my teeth which desparately need fixing right now
(for years now and about to get unbareably painful).
I know, pray, study, give tzoddeka, and hope for miracles and I have been doing that for years now………….sigh………
hereorthereMemberIt is not so easy to accept the tafkid why you are here if all you do is suffer.
Especially without the slightest knowledge of exactly what your specific tafkid, is.
To the moderator;
#1 Since you mention it here, please tell me why my other post “had to be” deleted?
#2 That story still does not explain how his suffering is supposed to cause him to do teshuvah in life where he has no clue as to what is going on.
#3 I know very little Yiddish (or Hebrew for that matter) what is a Chushuv and what is a Zakain I am unfamiliar with either of those words or their meanings.
Chusuv means important in Torah ways, Zakain is an old wise Yid
Thanks.
hereorthereMemberI feel trapped between two worlds.
Since I first went to yeshivah I do not feel I can go back to living in the
secular world but after having lived in Crown Heights for awhile but not having
yichus or Geszher and having been told I was “a ben Niddah”, I can never feel part
of the Heimish world, either.
So I chose a screename that reflects that I do not know if I am supposed to be here or there.
It also has a double meaning since my tribulations, make me wonder if I should be
be living in this world or if I’d be better off in the ‘afterlife’.
hereorthereMemberThat amount of money does not yet exist, on the entire planet.
No one individual has even a trillion dollars ($1,000,000,000,000) and the entire planet does not have as much as you listed, there.
hereorthereMemberBloomberg, demanded that Giuliani be term limited out, just so he could get in.
Now he wants no term limits.
He bought himself the election and no one could compete with his money.
In his race for his first term, he ran as a Republican and revealed his true liberal self after he had won, saying that he knew he couldn’t win the Democratic nomination
(or perhaps it would have cost him a couple billion dollars and he felt he could get away without spending that much) so he lied about being a Repubican (ok he did not use the word ‘lie’ about himself, but that is what it amounts to).
Then he claimed that he could not stop illegal immigration and the drugs and gang violence that comes with so many other illegal immigrants.
He said that was for the federal government to deal with, not a city mayor.
Then he hypocritically goes around on a never ending campaign to take away our 2nd Ammendment rights, and suddenly in this case he thinks it is not for just the Feds to deal with but he goes around to all the other mayors of other cities trying to get guns banned.
This mayor claims to be an indepenent but is just another extreme radical, leftist in disguise who through ending term limits and with his vast wealth, has apponted himself city dictator, for life.
hereorthereMemberTake them horseback riding, it can be quite fun in the winter.
hereorthereMemberSorry Charlie but the government plan is designed to make the cost of private insurance so prohibitive that employeers will be forced to ‘choose’ the government option which will effectively eliminate all private health care and fporce everyone onto the government plan.
Why do you think it is over 32,000 pages long?
Why do you think it is going to cost trillions of dollars and permanently bankrupt the country?
Just to insure a few who do not now have a plan?
hereorthereMemberThe triangle factory fore was caused by fire hazzards, and had nothing to do with the amount of pay a worker got.
Also it would have changed because of public pressure and government did not need to get involved.
Now the same ones who want to eminimate transfats are the same ones who want to legalize drugs.
There is a massive difference between caring about safety and trying to regulate everyone out of business so this country becomes a third world colony of the New superpower….China where capitalism is allowed and they are reapng the rewards while we go down for the third and final count, never to be heard from again as any kind of economic or militarty power.
hereorthereMemberSo some illegal alien who gets so much in government freebees that effectively he makes twice what I make, will also get free tuition while me an American citizen has to pay for HIM and still I am deemed “too rich” to get any tuition.
Why is the government NOT supposed to cover living expenses but they want to destroy the economy to cover free health care for everyone?
If I had the tuition plus living expenses, I could get the degree and then earn what I need and never have to rely on government health care.
This proves that the whole system is not about helping anyone, but instead is simply promoting the agenda of ever larger government, till they control everything in everyones lives just like they do in North Korea.
hereorthereMemberTo Health;
The problem is that I do not qualify for any financial Aid and I have
have had more then one person claim they could find some for me and they have ALL failed including those who work full time finding such financial aid for people.
Besides that even if I HAD such aid it would not cover my rent and other bills
while I was not working and going to school so as to finish in any reasonable time
(like fast enough to get my teeth fixed before the agony becomes totally unbearable).
To Ben Levi;
The minimum wage laws, have done nothing to help anyone or to stop crime.
An employer without them, might have hired someone with no experience; So that person could start learning how to do a job and how to keep a job.
Now, they will in most cases, make sure the inexperienced person will never get that necessary experience by never hiring them (I have plenty of personal experience in this matter trying for years to get many different jobs where I could start working while training).
Sure you might find and exception or two, but in most cases those without experience are priced out of the market by minimum wage laws.
And those who turn to crime will do so no matter how high the minimum wage goes.
Because street drugs will always bring in more money in one hour then any minimum wage would ever pay in a week (or even in a month, in many cases).
In fact, it is these liberal laws and the media and liberals in general, who always blame business and constantly reinforce on children the idea that the entire work system is corrupt and only those “greedy CEO’s”, will ever have the luxuries of life.
This convinces many to turn to crime which they would do, even if the minimum wage were $60.00 per hour.
hereorthereMemberLaws for handicapped people do affect non handicapped people.
A restaurant that has only a few tables and a small space does not have room or renovation money to install handicapped facilities.
And small stores which are required to widen aisles to accommodate wheelchairs
will have to eliminate some shelves which in turn makes them far less competitive
and could possibly force them out of business.
I have seriously suffered all through my life because of minimum wage laws, from unions and their influence.
Way back, when I was a teenager I worked part time after public school (My family and thus I too, was not religious at the time in any way, we did not even know from it)
and they started me at a lower training wage which was fine with me because I was still earning more money then I had before I started working, and did not need rent money.
But I ‘did’ need the experience and was grateful to get it.
The problem was that after two months the state law required them to raise my wage to minimum and to put me in the union.
The business management decided I was not good enough for them to be committed to
paying the extra and giving me union immunity from being fired and other remedies they would otherwise have against employees who did not work out or were not worth such wages.
So they fired me.
After that, I never was able to keep any job, long enough to gain the necessary experience to make me a valuable employee and move up the business world.
I have finally achieved some small measure of understanding what a boss wants and how to do it properly, but it too far too long.
Now I am not too far from retirement age and have no prospects of
starting out at any new job and earning enough to pay my expenses while working let alone in retirement.
I now have no prospects for the future and no hope.
Minimum wage is a scam as are today’s unions.
If a person is worth a certain wage, they will earn it.
With artificially raised minimum wages employers simply demand that every new hire, has plenty of experience which means beginners never get the chance to get that experience.
Unions pretend to be for the average worker but they too will not let the average worker into the union, they ate elitist closed clubs which only a privileged few, can ever enter.
It is easier to get into an exclusive private school then into any union where someone can get high pay, just because they are in that union.
The more government stays out of business and not just stops new regulations but eliminates many that are already in place, the better business and the better off, the average worker will be.
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