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smerei

Well as the old saying goes “Friends come and go. Enemies accumulate” But seriously it is unlikely that they are consciously avoiding you because they don’t associate themselves with people of your kind. Rather it is probably because they have moved in different way and have much less common ground with you. (out of sight out of mind)It is also very likely that they aren’t inviting you to simchos because they are scared that doing so would be rubbing in your face how they have families and you don’t (yet).

Respoinse: when I see them in a distance they avoid mwe

Put yourself in their shoes. Had the vision you had for yourself of torah ugedula bemakom echad,came true how often would you still be thinking about those who you knew forty years ago that didn’t make it?
Response I thiink so
When you were the one who was considered a baal kishran, and envisioned a life of torah ugedula bemakom echad,how much attention did you pay to the bochrim who found learning difficult, were not socially adept and had no friends?
Response: I spoke in learniog with the shvach bochurim (who got in bc of $$) and wanted to speak to me

OPINION:

Spot on !

Pinchas,
Its erev tisha baav. This is not about me. Its about the oilam time for better bain adam lechavairo with same hakpada that you put on your esrog

Joseph, heard from my zaidys, bubbys, parents and Rabeyim. In addition to reading many anecdotal stories. Feel free to bury your head in the sand.

Jacob,
It appears that my post was misunderstood. I am not bemoaning my present situation. Rather I call attention to how the definition of friend has changed, even by bnei toirah.