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Queen -“??? is not now. Now in yiddish is ???? It means only. ‘listen only’ It doesn’t translate smoothly.”
Excuse me, “listen only”, isn’t the exact translation! It would be “Hear only”. That’s why I posted – “Hear now”!
Queen – that was a question to Apushatayid, not to everyone!
Btw, the exact translation is “Hear now”.
Joe -“Generally speaking, the same people who are machmir on bein adam l’makom are also machmir on bein adam l’chaveiro”
Not, that I’ve seen! I’ve seen Machmirim who are Oiver Bein L’chavairo all the time!
Jaybird -“Just wondering if anyone has success treating swollen adenoids or tonsils with anything else but surgery?”
Oh Jay – Did you try antibiotics? If yes, which one(s) & for how long? What was on the C & S?
GAW -“If the policy is full tution or elsewhere, that is the price that needs to be paid!”
So what is wrong with my post of -“There should be 2 full tuitions, one for the rich & one for the poor!”?
I never have been in Glatt Gourmet!
APY -“That would be Frau Noh. He didnt use titles.”
No, it wouldn’t! Do you know what he meant by “Herr Noh”?
GAW -“After all, they have a nut bar.”
What’s that?!?
APY -“Everytime her husband wanted something from her it was “Herna, the fish please”, “Herna, mind if we sing zemiros now”.”
I get the joke, but if you want to write Yiddish with English words, use German. In other words, “Herr Noh”!
GAW -“Lishitas the defenders of Lakewood elite schools, there are always new schools that are opening. Let the new schools take the rejects, whether they are those with filtered internet, working parents, or those who don’t pay in full”
First of all, there aren’t enough place or schools. Second of all, no one would financially support such a school!
This actually happened, no one supported the Day School & it had to close down!
From above:
“There was once just the Cheder, Day School and then came YTT.
Ya’see more is not always better. All it did was create more Sinas Chinum!”
My Rov calls his wife – either “excuse me” or “ahem”.
Gaw -“If the policy is full tuition or elsewhere, that is the price that needs to be paid.
There should be 2 full tuitions, one for the rich & one for the poor!
29 -“Joseph, have you ever sought help for your obsession with this subject?”
Why limit it to his obsessions? Say – Joe, have you gone for help recently?
LC -“Annulments are , under the proper circumstances, are granted.”
In which state are they granted & what are the circumstances?
LC -“Health, A. The CIVIL marriage was annulled.”
Sorry, No such thing! I’m still going to court after 6 years of divorce. From previous -“Xtians do annulment (Catholics), we do divorce!”
ABS-SA -“In these matters one should bend over backwards to be as positive as possible about anyone they are asked about. This is a simple manifestation of Ve Ahavta L’Reacha Kamocha.”
With my marriage, not only did they speak LH, but they added their own opinions. Eg.- “You should divorce him.” This is a simple manifestation of the Chet of the Meraglim!
Mods – This topic should be closed. There is a Masseh with the Chassam Sofer – that he was at a Bris & there was a question which food should come first – eggs or something else. So s/o said V’haeye Mekedem. The Rov was displeased, because you don’t make jokes based on Torah words!
LC -“A friend had his son’s wedding annulled within a month when he learned the kallah had mental issues the had been controlled by medication. She stopped taking them right after the wedding and the symptoms returned.”
What are you talking about? Xtians do annulment, we do divorce!
And what does marriage have to do with medication? Either you need it or you don’t?!?
Goq – When are you and me gonna find our match?!?
Comlink-X -“If you realized that he meant to insult you,
then his attempt to be insulting was successful”
Here’s one: He shouldn’t become a spelling teacher!
What’s a “phycologist”?
2scents -“This IS a Halacha question and needs the psak of someone that is qualified to pasken.”
My point was – that you don’t need to go into things that could be a Shailoh. And I thought that my point was obvious!
Thateasy32 -“Is that a problem of moichek on shabbos?”
Why does everything become a Halachah question, when it’s a medical one? You don’t have to go into kid pullups, when they sell adult pullups! Use a small size.
Also, learn what to do about bed wetting. Eg. go to WebMd – children – bedwetting.
Queen -“Health: In that case, boys should give pictures too. Why should women/girls waste their time?”
Where do you live? I live in Lakewood.
To answer your question – any Shadchin who asks, I send them a picture!
Mazal77 -“Get rid of the resumes. I say to the girls stop giving in resumes.”
Yes, get rid of them, just send pictures.
“Automatically a girl is turned down because of her looks.”
Yes, and that’s the way it should be! Why should men/boys waste their time?!?
Torah613Torah -“Re thread title: I am still not married. Of course there is a shidduch crisis”
I’m still not married, but there isn’t a Shidduch crisis!
But there is a Loshon Horah crisis.
Neebee -“Is authentic Judaism incompatible with being rich and famous?”
The whole topic isn’t quite right! For sure in previous generations it wasn’t like this, but even nowadays it’s not. Eg. I’m poor and Mr. Rechnitz is rich & we both are Frumme Yidden.
The Yetzer Horah can work on e/o from A-Z!
RY23 -“Our opinions don’t count.”
It depends. Probably when you post somewhere, it doesn’t. But if you’re a parent, it sometimes does count!
RY23 -“Experience counts.”
Yes it does, but not as much as a medical professional!
That’s why there’s a shortage of PCP’s, because experience doesn’t count that much.
RY23 -“but knows nothing about getting them.”
You don’t have to be the recipient to know about the procedure. Doctors are trained about side effects also!
RY23 -“The woman who had ten babies.”
You’d be correct, if the anesthesiologist was doing his residency during his first month!
aquestioningjew -“As such, everything that involves putting, “I” above Hashem is Avodah Zoro.”
I didn’t start this topic, but it looks like it was based on Halachah. Your post is Mussar, not Halachah!
RY23 -“The anesthesiologist’s opinions on epidurals don’t matter. Only the facts matter”
True. Who do you think that you’ll get a factual opinion from – the anesthesiologist or the woman in labor or the doula?!?
Syag Lchochma -“sure men can have opinions on epidurals but they’re meaningless.”
Tell that to the anesthesiologist before he gives it to a lady in labor. I’d like to see his reaction!
BTW, most anesthesiologists are males.
HIR -“Maybe their exaggerating, but they still meant their point that they are finding physical manifestations of things that can be used a Avoda Zara today”
I understand the point that they’re trying to make. A good teacher doesn’t have to exaggerate to make a point!
BTW, these issues of Tznius & technology, whether Osser or Mutter, have nothing to do with Avodah Zora.
HIR -“”when you are too in to your clothing you are turning it in to avoda zara” or ” the avoda zara of todays generation is technology or iPhone’s”.”
They’re exaggerating! Don’t take everything so literally.
“So I have a problem with that. Because it was probably that same teacher who said that there is no more avoda zara in this generation because the anshei kineses hagidola asked Hashem to remove the taiva.”
That’s the problem when women learn Gemorrah. The Gemorrah only says that there is no more desire. Who says you can’t do it even without any desire?!?
Could be the Gemorrah does say -no more avoda zara, but the Pshat is like I just wrote!
Wolf – I agree & disagree. When it comes to Bain Odom Lemokom people think they haven’t done enough. But when it comes to Bain Odom L’chavaro they think they have done enough, even when they haven’t!
Joe -“A simple Get…where the beis din doesn’t have to travel to the clients out of town and both parties are present typically runs from $500-$800”
“How much did it cost you, Health?”
This is a good price. I had to pay more because of travel.
“Were the costs split?”
No. I wanted a Get, so I had to pay for it! But I didn’t want to divorce.
ZD -“Rav Avigdor Miller forbid going to sporting events, I think because of Chukas HaGoyim “
My original post was against parties, not about watching or going to games!
Avram -“But do we then get to look down on everyone else in shul who wears one?”
I wear one, so you have to post to Wolf.
Wolf -“Why is a Superbowl party chukas akum, but wearing a necktie isn’t?”
If you hold wearing a tie is Chukas Akum – so don’t wear one!
LC -“Health, the whole concept of voting is chukas akum”
So don’t vote! What’s your point?
Sam2 -“Health: What’s Assur about having a party?”
It’s Chukas Akum to have a Superbowl party!
Ubiq -“Reb yid that is brlliant!
I think you are on to something
and maybe prices attached indicating how much nadin they come with”
No, he’s not! What do you think these Frum online Shidduch sites offer? A lot of people don’t let them post their pics!
And as far as $ is concerned, they won’t give it even after marriage.
Joe -“Why do you need a beis din of three altogether for an uncontested Get”
You don’t! For my Get, I used the Sofer & 2 Eidim.
The 3 come together.
Sam2 -“Chukas Akum we can talk about.”
I don’t have a problem watching a game, but this party business is Assur! These guys & some gals are saying – Shucks, I was born a Yid, instead of a Goy.
Ubiq -“I don’t follow, If the Father’s bank account information was required that is also degrading (though not as much as a full body picture, and the tznius issue wouldnt apply)”
My point is that there is nothing degrading in asking for a full body pic. OTOH, why should people ask about bank accounts?
“Are you serious? All a resume is some basic information about the boy/girl where they went to school where they daven and references how is that comparable to demanding a picture, wait just her face isnt enough apperently, rather a “full-length” picture. LEt alone worse or “much worse”
Are you serious when you type these things? OR are you trying to make some sort of point?”
The whole point is to look for Chesronos, not just some basic information!
DY -“A picture is only about the physical, though. I think it’s degrading to the kavod of a bas Yisroel.”
Why is it degrading? Be realistic, it’s degrading to say No, because Daddy doesn’t have enough dough in the bank!
“and if he’s not, then the date will probably be a waste of time.
Probably, but not definitely? By that standard, no one should should ever go out, because probably it won’t work out.”
What makes you rally against pics, requiring resumes is much worse!
OOmis -“Health, in my humble opinion, it is NEVER a waste of time for two people to meet”
Once upon a time, people were more relaxed & they had more time. Nowadays, even young people are in a rat race!
We’re coming from different worlds, in the MO world, the boy probably already knows the girl or what she looks like.
This isn’t the case in the Yeshivashe world. We don’t want to waste time. I’m sure that this is the reason the girl also asks for a pic.!
Shuli -“some of them told me to send a few full-length/body pictures.”
I see nothing wrong with it. It used to be, we would all go on blind dates. Nowadays, with the Shidduch crisis people don’t want to waste their time!