Health

Mr. wheelchair -Only bees -Bees (such as honeybees and Africanized honeybees) have a barbed stinger that becomes embedded in the skin, preventing them from stinging more than once. Other insects such as what we commonly find in the succah, such as yellow-jackets can sting more than once (repeatedly). Wasps also. Even bumble-bees can sting repeatedly!

Lia – As I’m in the medical field, I can pick up on those things, the avg. person cannot. They wear suits freshly cleaned -the odor is dulled by the cleaning smell. They use mouthwash and strong deoderant to mask the smell on themselves. Unless you are keen, it’s hard to pick up. One of the signs we look for -for alcholics is the green-mouthwash smell. They hide the alcohol smell with that. Smokers are more honest with med prof. I guess because there is no Detox areas in the hospital or psych wards for smokers as opposed to where we can put alcoholics.

Aries – I can forgive for myself, but not for my kids. She is trying/has made some of the kids frei.

Aries – My situation was worse – I was told I can sit and learn, but right after the marriage – I wasn’t given a dime. I still tried to continue and offered to go out to work. I tried many things but never had hatzlocho. Eventually, it finally collapsed. Life is full of nisyanos and I try to accept mine.

BOSD -Good Advice!

Forever 1 -I didn’t know you wanted the statistics for everyone.

Here is the first part of that article from the ADA:

“In general, if you are a man with type 1 diabetes, the odds of your child getting diabetes are 1 in 17. If you are a woman with type 1 diabetes and your child was born before you were 25, your child’s risk is 1 in 25; if your child was born after you turned 25, your child’s risk is 1 in 100.

Your child’s risk is doubled if you developed diabetes before age 11. If both you and your partner have type 1 diabetes, the risk is between 1 in 10 and 1 in 4.”

Forever 1 -There are subtypes that have a much higher risk. From the ADA website -diabetes.org – “There is an exception to these numbers. About 1 in every 7 people with type 1 diabetes has a condition called type 2 polyglandular autoimmune syndrome.

In addition to having diabetes, these people also have thyroid disease and a poorly working adrenal gland. Some also have other immune system disorders. If you have this syndrome, your child’s risk of getting the syndrome including type 1 diabetes is 1 in 2.”

Forever 1 – This is from the website called Genetic Health. There are many articles on Diabetes that write the same or similar things.

“If you or someone in your family has Type 1 diabetes, you may wonder if other family members are at risk. It turns out that Type 1 diabetes does often run in families. In fact, researchers have found nearly 20 different genes that can affect your risk for developing diabetes.

Two of the best studied genes in Type 1 diabetes are the HLA region and the insulin gene, etc…”

commonsense -It’s only possibly mutter if you start the line before YK, if you want to start a line on YK or Shabbos -it has to be a sakanah nefoshos!

I mentioned on page 1 -half of type 1’s have a diabetic gene.

Haros – are u serious about the kittel question or are you mocking divorcees right after yom kippur?

Smartcookie -Do you bite your nails? I do and I realize it when I’m biting -I just don’t put it in the forefront of my mind, but it’s not in the subconscious.

Aries -“Friends can’t interfere in a marriage, if one’s spouse is more important than the friends.” You’re right, but you have to see this mutual respect as a child. If you’re a child of divorced parents or a child of a bad marriage, you don’t know what it is. So it’s easy for you to be mislead from the right path. I pity people who have destroyed other people’s marriage -you don’t know what your punishment will be.

Oomis -If Mommy and Daddy want their little girl to marry a kollel guy then they have to shell out. Don’t tell the Choson to man up. He has no other means of making money except by being supported. Sometimes a guy will have a part time job, but this in no way can support a family. If Mommy and Daddy don’t want to shell out, let them look for a single Jewish professional, not the best guy in Lakewood! BTW, I’m not in Kollel!

Rav Pinchus was just quoting the Chazon Ish. It can only be ossur if your intention is to have shorter nails and this is the way you make your nails shorter during the week also, i.e. you bite them as opposed to using a scizzors.

Mod -80, I know you’re a doc, but a poisek also? The Mishna Berurah says if you bite your nails and not use a scizzors it’s mutter. Some say this is only b’derech aaroy, not if you do this all the time. So it’s ossur to bite your nails on Shabbos if the purpose is to have short nails. S”A Simon 328 Seif 28 says if you pop a pimple to heal it -it’s ossur, but if you do it because you want to remove the stuff inside (because it bothers you), then it’s mutter. The M.B. explains a melacha sheh’ain tzricha l’gufa is only ossur md’rabbonim and with pain the Rabbonim never assured. If you bite your nails because you’re nervous and it calms you down, this would be exactly the same as a pimple. I think by most people nail biting is a form of OCD. You have the obsession and then you have the compulsion to bite.

Eclipse – You are talking about most people and that’s why most people are still married in the frum community. But the crisis isn’t among “if they have both had a decent upbringing and possess good midos,tolerance,the ability to compromise” these type of people. The people who don’t have these, what should they do to stay married? Divorce is common among children of divorced parents. I’m not going to go into why -that’s a parsha by itself.

In other posts, I’ve called for yeshivos to have in-house psychologists, this is but another reason to have them, for these type of children.

Sof davar hn- The only current that goes in a downward direction is a whirlpool. These are very not common.

You can swim without lifeguards. I’ve done it many times. You just have to be extra viligent. Also, understand how the ocean works. There is always counter flow current from the waves -you have to stay above that. Rip tides -if you don’t fight them you don’t have to worry. If it pulls you out to sea and it’s too strong to swim straight back to land, swim in a diagonal course. Of course before you jump in, make sure the water is calm. You don’t want to be swimming in big waves like we’ve seen with Earl. The body floats, but when there are a lot of waves the water can crash over your head. If you can’t swim without lifeguards -how can the lifeguard swim to save you -who will rescue him? Kids need lifeguards.

Frum not crum -Since she went to court already -why don’t you hire a good lawyer and try to turn the tables? There is even a “Get” law in NY state -maybe you can get her to take the “Get” with going to state court. I don’t know who advised you, but once they break halacha, you can also go to secular court.

Mosh – I know Max before he was a doc – a real good guy.

Coffeefan- Just a suggestion what I said before -if you’re having problems now, why not try it?

2morecents -I’ll start by premising, if a child is not on a good way, then not getting him/her a cell won’t make a difference. They will find a way to do whatever they want. Usually children who become like this were abused in some way, either by the parents or by their teachers. As far as good children are concerned, there is a big difference between them and a person who is overweight and smokes. The good children to start having bad friends is a Meeyot shaino motzay, which we don’t have to take into account, as opposed to someone who is overweight and smokes. Therefore acc. to Torah principles, I see no reason to not give them cells.

2morecents -“All it takes is one friend with problems to keep calling her or texting her. Her friend can also tell her friends to invite the cell phone girl to go with them to places that the cell phone girl would never dream of visiting but peer pressure is a tough thing to fight especially if she knows the girl from camp and likes her. She could very quickly via simple texting, become best friends with some of the other girls, boyfriends or girlfriends as they keep sharing and trying to get together.”

Your scenario is very far fetched. My children don’t have even one friend with “problems”. We shouldn’t dictate how to act in life because of conspiracy theories.

2morecents- “The idea of having even a plain Jane talk / text only phone is downright dangerous in and of itself. The internet capabilities (which is inevitable) is just the icing on the cake that can further do harm.”

Explain how it is dangerous? Don’t just make comments without any logical basis. Unless you mean because the phone can be upgraded to have the internet. If this is what you mean, it’s obvious you didn’t read my post. The phone I have isn’t humanly possible to have internet.

Forever1 -You need to go see your doc today, whether it persists or not!