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Keep doing what you’re doing. If the kid is waking up in the middle of the night and kvetching, or feverish, you can give him some children’s Advil/Motrin. This lasts about 8 hours, so they (and you) will have a restful night. URI’s can last a few days to two weeks. You’ll get used to it – I did.
If someone has mice, an exterminator is very expensive. As far as traps go, whether the snap or glue type, they usually catch at the begining, but the rest get smart and stay clear.
What I recommend is products from Tomcat. They almost always get rid of them. They have traps, but I don’t know how well they work.
There are 2 types of poison bait out there -Decon & Tomcat.
Decon works some times -not all mice/rats go for the bait. Tomcat works almost always. You put out the bait and you usually don’t ever see them again. (Don’t ever touch any bait with your hands. Including but not limited to, peanut butter, cheese, poison bait. Your smell will keep them away.) They take it with them to their family and return to their nest. They die there.
mbachur – A couple of questions -Did he have all his shots when he was an infant? Can you describe the way the cough sounds?
How is his appetite? How many times did he throw up Today? Does he have diarrhea, runny nose, congestion, fever or any other symptoms, Today? Did he finish all antibiotics?
A humidifier or warm vaporizer at night is a must. Increase fluids that he drinks.
When you get back to me with the answers, I’ll see what else can be done.
I bet the OP was babysiting and decided to let everyone know how it’s going. If you want to be babysit only on your terms, let the people who hired you know. I doubt anyone here is going to follow what you have to say. If someone doesn’t give you enough time to let you know beforehand -just say No! There is nothing to feel guilty about. If the parents actually can’t find babysitters at the last minute, guess what they will do next time? And btw, do you really think the husband wants to drive you home? Just maybe the wife can’t always do it.
eclipse – “If you have a cold,it affects your taste buds.Really”
Where, oh where did you get this one from? Snopes?
A cold can affect your sense of smell. Except for four tastes, all of our tastes come from smelling what you put in your mouth.
eclipse – I wasn’t talking about you, I was talking in general.
I got hit, but never hit except in self-defense.
Two reasons -1. They like heimish products which they are used to.
2. They want to give their business to a Yid.
eclipse – I found means I located, not started. I have nothing to do with them. There are quite a few telemedicine sites out there.
eclipse – “They fault you for everything.If they don’t fault you,they defend him.
Example:
Me:My husband raises his fist at me when we disagree.
Rav:Did he actually hit you?
Me:No,but it’s pretty scary!
Rav:Well,THIS IS THE WAY A MAN GETS ANGRY.The main thing is he didn’t HIT you.”
I can’t understand how anybody can raise a fist at anyone, especially a wife, unless it’s in self-defense!
eclipse – I already do and have been doing so since I came here!
I found a web site called “kooldocs”, that doctors practice medicine over the web, but they charge $100. If someone can’t get out to get a prescription, maybe it’s worth it.
shlishi – “yaff80: lack of tznius is one of the MAJOR reasons for shalom bayis problems”
I think you are sadly mistaken; Halevi it should bother the men when the woman doesn’t dress Tzinus.
aries2756 – “Good call Health,”
You’re not the first one I diagnosed on YWN, but you are the first that has confirmed it. TaDa!
To stop a bronchitis from developing some complication -Daven. Seriously only Hashem can really stop it, but you can make Histadlus which will help. All the things that I’ve and everyone else posted on how to take care of bronchitis will help prevent complications. Ya’know- lots of fluids, use of humidifier, rest
(No running after grandkids), etc…
Refuah Shelaima B’korov!
GAW – Even Yosef Hatzadik had to run. He wouldn’t have even lasted an extra second to take his clothes with him.
You are right, never underestimate the power of the Yetzer Hora!
to really smile – “ur right, BUT internet IS doubly bad because if used in the wrong way, it can affect everything else.”
There is no such thing -an aveira is an aveira. There are plenty of people who speak LH so much; don’t think for a second this isn’t affecting you in many ways. While it’s apparent to everyone when someone looks at bad things, that they are doing something wrong, most people who speak LH don’t even think that they are doing anything wrong. I’ve seen in Mussar Seforim that half the teshuva is realizing that you are doing aveiros; a lot of people speaking LH don’t even have that realization. Your husband realizes his faults and is going to do something about them. I give him a lot of credit!
eclipse – “My ex also had/s a similar addiction and I tolerated EVEN that,against my will.But EVERY SINGLE RAV’S advice pointed to ME being at fault somehow!”
Wow! I should have had you ex’s Rabbonim. No Rav ever took my side. There were Rabbonim that I didn’t even speak to and were against me. The problem is and knew about this from before is that some Rabbonim are Nogeiah B’dovor. I’ve seen cases like your husband that they protect because of PC and cases like me which my faults are 1 millionth of these guys, they attack.
cantoresq & SJS – It’s one thing to disagree; it’s another to deligitmize anyone you have a disagreement with!
Can you bring any Rabbonim who say like you?
Even if you can, you still would have to say -Ayloo v’aloo divrei etc.
to really smile –
All people have nisyonos, some have it with one thing, some have it with another. Everybody has to work on themselves. Do I think someone who looks at bad things is worse than someone who speaks LH all day? NO! But in our generation a lot of people believe the only evil is Internet, TV, movies, etc.
SJSinNYC – “IMO, its unethical for a person who has the ability to support themselves to choose not to and live off of the charity of others.”
In the opinion of many Rabbonim, it’s perfectly fine to live off charity, even gov. charity, if you are in kollel!
shlishi – “health, it isn’t even unethical to receive food stamps if you technically qualify under the legal guidelines that determine eligibility, even if your parents are Rockefeller but you are an adult child who has no income”
If your parents/inlaws give you a lot of money and/or merchandise, and you really Can survive without the gov. programs, then- Yes, it is UNETHICAL!
“(kollel people actually do not live in the lap of luxury.)”
A good percentage of kollel people do! (Not all.)
B’H you told him, but it wouldn’t have made a difference, as far as if you would have stopped breathing totally, because that’s what anethesiologists do. Most operations they give you drugs that produce General Anethesia, which means they put you to sleep and stop your breathing. Then they breathe for you, with either a BVM or a respirator, with sometimes putting a tube into your trachea (windpipe). With the endoscopy, they usually don’t need or do GA; they just make you a little groggy.
Enough with teaching medicine -Go see a doctor!
It’s not unethical for a guy who sits and learns, who really needs it, to take it. It might be unethical, if due to their family, they live the lap of luxury, but they take it because technically they have income within the guidelines!
eclipse – “My mother had a symptomatic cough at a young age….an x-ray is a clear window to the lungs…Health,please “let” her take an x-ray!!”
Not exactly a clear window, but the reason I said she doesn’t need a CXR in this case because the diagnosis should be apparent without one. We don’t like to give x-rays and expose pts. to radiation unless it’s necessary. If for some reason the PCP will not be sure what he/she is dealing with, then they will order the imaging technique they feel is necessary. As a teenager, as nervous teenagers are, I had a cough that was lingering, the doc ordered a CXR. I remember thinking who knows what he thinks I have, ch’vs. I was petrified. Of course, it was negative.
Practioners: Talk to your pts. Let them know why you are doing things.
aries2756 -“Pap machine when I get home”
I don’t understand; why would you leave the CPAP in NY, when you need it every night?
aries -“because I have sleep apnea”
What do you do for your sleep apnea?
“always here
and always on schedule
aries~ the only connection of the pink eye to everything else that ails you, IMO, would be the germs from coughing,etc. got into your eyes 🙁 “
Could be, but more likely the sinus infection spread to her eyes. In other words not a real eye infection!
Aries – Now you’re really making me work, I had to look it this up in another book -Currents 2009. The other I got from my pocketbook. It says for sinusitis and PCN allergy you use Bactrim or Doxycycline. Some people will give Macrolides for PCN allergy, but it’s probably better to use one of the other two. For refractory cases, you use a newer fluoroquinolone, eg. Levaquin.
Aries – We have so many pts. claiming nowadays to be allergic to PCN, we now ask what the reaction was? So what was your reaction or did you have an allergy test?
Sagittarius
mbachur – Surprising that they didn’t look in your ear during their exams.
eclipse – the only time in such situations we order CXR, is if we are not sure if it’s bronchitis or pneumonia. We try to stay away from imaging, unless it’s necessary. If by exam, the PCP determines she does have a sinus infection, there is no reason to get a CXR!
aries – Like I said, it’s very hard to get a clear picture of what’s going on from your description here. But from what I’m hearing because you say this is different than the last time, is that you had/have a viral URI, possible bronchitis and now it sounds like you have a secondary bacterial sinusitis. To all you armchair docs, Z-pack/zithro isn’t the drug of choice for sinusitis, like it is for bacterial bronchitis. Drugs for this are Amoxil or Omnicef or Vantin. For refractory or severe infection you give Augmentin.
If you start having difficulty breathing or you feel like you’re going to pass out or you start turning blue or gray, call 911!
eclipse – “What your ex did has not enhanced your life,and has distanced you from All of your children too.”
The one frum child I have is also distanced from me due to her belittlement of me during our married years.
“Health,I act like my story is over”
Noone who is divorced thinks this, but a lot of non-divorced people think you can put it all behind you.
“If I look at photo albums of kids who were unfairly taken from me…I can’t–so I don’t”
She took 90% of the pictures. I’m still waiting for my half. I’ll probably have to take her to court for this also. I want the option of not looking at them if I don’t feel like it and vice-versa.
Mr. Bachur – I don’t know how old you are, but there are a lot of factors that going into making an appt. 1. Cost 2. What will the guy/gal do for me?
Most people are hesitant to go for medical care, but I try to guide people here based on what they post. Sometimes even in- person, the diagnosis isn’t that apparent. I gave her the info what to do if she has a viral bronchitis. She obviously is worried, that she has a bacterial infection. A PCP can diagnose a bacterial pneumonia or bronchitis. PCP’s usually charge a lot less than specialists. Also, she is going to get antibiotics if the PCP feels she needs it. It’s better to get them sooner than later and that’s why she should be seen tomorrow.
Always here – Thanks for the second opinion. Are you also in the medical field?
eclipse -Any of those poems or rhymes are long-winded to Me! They probably aren’t to others who like that sort of thing.
I agree talking about everything and anything to friends is wrong.
But I don’t even blame my ex for talking, she comes from a frei, broken home. I blame her friends who misled her. 1 Letzonus can bring down 100 Tochachos! Letzonus doesn’t mean Joke -it means making light of something. Making light of me, my family, etc…
Shrek – Your experience – isn’t. There are plenty who are abused, there are plenty who try to work things out. There are also plenty who are spoiled and cry wolf to get sympathy from anyone they can. It’s very sad when the woman just wants out of the mariage and they will say and do anything to get there. They don’t even care what’s best for the children. I’m also sure there are men like this.
mbachur – It’s not a matter of that. It’s a matter of what he will charge her, being she ain’t a yeshiva bachur. Also, can she just get an appt. tomorrow without having to be pushed in?
Sorry, I’m not really into poetry or those long winded rhymes.
Maybe it’s because my ex is a writer or it’s just not my speed. Did I perhaps talk too much about my marriage?
Why do most women fear bugs? I think humans are bigger than them. No my house isn’t infested. I get ants once in awhile, but I get rid of them. Recently, I’ve seen some stink bugs flying around, but I saw right before the winter them all over the place in Jersey, maybe some came into my house for the winter. Dunno!
“Many of us now-single mothers had to become strong and unafraid IN ORDER TO RUN OUR HOMES AND TAKE CARE OF OUR CHILDREN ON OUR OWN.Do not jump to the totally WRONG conclusion that this new-found strength IS WHAT SCARED THE POOR LITTLE HUSBANDS.
You could not be further from the truth!”
There is nothing wrong with women standing up on their own to stop themselves from being abused. This is in the case of real abuse. There are a lot cases were the abuse isn’t real -were friends of the woman convince the woman that she is abused. If you don’t get your way every single time, then you’re abused. They can be doing this for years until the woman sees it as the “truth”. They can now take this empowerment and go off the derech and take the kids with them. The women’s lib movement was a lot about women’s empowerment -this isn’t always the way of Hashem. I think the women who cry wolf about abuse, is because a lot were brought up as JAP’s. They think “Alas Koompt Oonez”!
Aries -It’s called a Snowbird. You don’t need a pulmonologist. You’re wasting your time and your money. Go see a PCP! Do you have fever, aches, shakes, chills or night sweats? Have you been getting progressively worse or are you just coughing? You definitely should go to a doctor, but if you answered no to all the above, I posted before most cases of bronchitis are viral. If it’s viral, antibiotics aren’t indicated. Breathing in steam, drinking hot clear liquids and using a vaporizer or a cold humidifier at night will help you get over it quicker. I’d also just lay in the sun all day, since you’re in Miami. Just don’t forget to use sunscreen and drink a lot of liquids (Cool or hot).
Ask your friends there who they use for a PCP, you can even just use a neighborhood clinic. Most cases of viral bronchitis, by two weeks you are feeling better, but you have this nagging cough. If you’re still bringing up stuff, do the things above. If the cough is dry & hacking, you can try an OTC cough remedy containing dextromethorphan. There are also Rx products for coughs like codeine/hydrocodone syrup. These will help you sleep at night.
Eclipse -I doubt it. I think Teaneck, Passaic, Highland Park, Deal are somewhere in between.
What about learning guys and the rich parents give them everything possible -new house, new car, new clothes, etc…, but it’s not in the children’s name. They technicaly are eligible, so they take gov. programs. Comments?
Lakewood, Monsey, Queens, 5 Towns are all in-town!
Back to the topic: You can put on your list qualities that you don’t have, but only as something you would like to see in a spouse. You can’t demand a spouse to have those qualities that you yourself are lacking!
dunno -“Health
Are you suggesting we look for people with the same faults as us?”
Not the same faults, but if you decided you want a certain quality, make sure you have it too. Making lists is not about writing down every human quality that exists, it’s about figuring out what your qualities are and wanting the same in a spouse.
I love the way the men and women here have lists, some are even long. I never had a list, maybe I should have had. One thing I’d like to point out -Did everyone first look in the mirror to make sure you each have that quality yourself before you demand it in a spouse? Somehow, I doubt it!
We live in a time when all avieros have been done by frum looking people, not just LH. But for some reason, a lot of people think that TV, movies, internet, etc., is the worst thing in our generation.
cleverjewishpun – Maybe it shouldn’t have become so taboo in the community having an outlet like TV, internet, etc…
Maybe it’s better for the avg. person to do these things instead of constantly speaking LH. Obviously people who can control everything about themselves, not speaking LH, watching TV, etc., should. But I don’t think the avg. person can be holding in that “madreiga”.
There are lot of things that go into hygiene -some people can manage with showers twice a week and some need once a day. There are no hard and fast rules, it’s individualized. There are some societies where the avg. man doesn’t wear antiperspirant/deoderant. In E. Yisroel the avg. frum male doesn’t; I guess it doesn’t bother the women there because that is what they are used to. If it bothers the spouse what the other spouse is doing, for sure the one responsible for the problem should make every effort to change. As the saying goes -“The nose -knows!”