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SC – “Btw Health- that, to me, looked like you were offended”
That’s just making a statement on my posting, not answering to you.
“But the post doesn’t reflect well on the writer.
That was my point. It just wasn’t nice!”
Now it seems you are trying to offend me!
BTW -I’m not always a nice person; at least I’m real, not like a lot of people!
PBA – No she wasn’t. She just didn’t like the seat facing the wall. She felt she deserved the best seat in the house due to her age. And the ten y.o. should give her seat for this older lady, esp. when everybody could have been happy in this scenario.
I’m asleep already, but yet I can post while sleeping.
PBA – Well there are different ways to do that. In this case she should have offered her own seat. While giving in, she could make a comment about her behavior. “It’s not right for us to have to move because you don’t like facing a wall!
CF – Go to page 4 in the diabetes support group topic and see what I wrote from JHU.
The American College of Endocrinology (ACE) and the American Association of Clinical Endocrinologists (AACE) adopted a target A1C of <6.5% at their diabetes treatment consensus conference in 2001.
The target from the ADA, (what you are quoting) is very confusing.
Should be below 7, but really below 6 in certain pts.
The ACE is straight forward.
PBA – You’re wrong! If you react to someone obnoxiously even when they are wrong is bad middos. Two wrongs don’t make a Right! This is true esp. in this case when there is a viable solution, ie- EstherHamalka could have moved to her daughter’s seat and given the 60 y.o. her seat. Would the other Esther Hamalka that you were reading about in the megilla acted this way?
smartcookie – “Health- how can you be so certain that I’m not a mod?”
If you were, we wouldn’t be having this convo now, you would have just deleted anything you didn’t like.
“I’m not here to tell you to stop talking. I can’t control anyone but myself.”
At least you realize that and maybe also you can control your husband & kids.
“I was just making you aware that what you were doing isn’t the nicest thing in the world, in case you didn’t realize it.”
Thanks for the realization, but when it comes to posting – I post and if it’s not up to par, the mods have the edit & delete buttons.
“Sorry if you were offended.”
I wasn’t, but it seems that eclipse & s2021 were.
I’m not against women. But the women shouldn’t paint all men with one brush. I completely understand the anger and frustration, but in order to go on in life, you have to work on this. Sometimes you can’t do it alone and you need prof. help.
“What do you mean go on? Look how accomplised I am, etc…”
I’m talking about getting remarried.
“But I don’t want or need to.”
Yes, you do. It’s a mitzvah to have kids for women also and there is no end point, necessarily. Also, a person is not whole without a partner. Nuff said!
Eclipse & s2021 – “No,you are probably right.
Cookie- It probly wasnt very nice.. but it was SO fun.. I wouldnt really talk about him at all in real life, and it felt really good to vent a lil..”
Stop feeling guilty -I don’t. She’s entitled to her opinion, but she isn’t a mod.
I will continue to post whatever I feel like posting and if it doesn’t pass the mods -ok that’s their perjorative. But my posts don’t have to meet anyone else’s approval!
“EVERYTHING IS FROM HASHEM,but “migalgilin chov AL YIDEI CHAYAV”
I know a lot of people who fit into the end of the sentence.
eclipse -So now you’ve become the Judge, jury and executioner on all single males! Does this make you feel better?
eclipse – LOL! I’d rather my head be dunked in water, I don’t like the taste of sand.
Eclipse – Wrong! You can only lead a horse to water, you can’t make him drink! Don’t be like the ostrich with her head in the sand. There are plenty of good eligible, bachelors out there!
s2021- My ex-wife doesn’t need any cowboys helping her -she’s got the mob behind her!
s2021 & cshapiro -How did the two of you end up with such winners?
eclipse – “Only a miracle can do that.”
Now you are finally beginning to understand what marriage is about. “Kosho Zvigo K’krias Yam Suf.” Only a miracle can bring about the two people who belong together!
jewishness – “And being that no one is exempt…why is it so ignored??? I know everyone is thinking, of course there is an Afterlife! But even the humans that believe in it pay it lip service. They say, yes yes yes…but they go back to thinking and talking all day about the totally transitory fleeting world!”
I don’t know if you learn Gemorrah, but it writes -“Drink and be merry for tomorrow we do the same -this is the middah of a Rosho; Drink and be merry for tomorrow we die -this is a Beynoni; Don’t drink and be merry for tomorrow we die -this is a Tzaddik!
eclipse – ” I wonder if I will merit to outlive the age of my mother,who was nifteres at the age of 50.”
So you better get remarried real quick -so your kids don’t go back to ur ex after you go. Even if they do go back, but at least they will have somewhere to go after they turn 18. LOL!
s2021 – It’s funny that you wrote ur ex would come after anyone who married you; I once overheard my ex discussing taking a hit out on me.
s2021 -So did ur ex come out pro or con?
eclipse – “Health–and humble?”
Look you can state the truth and not be affected by it. Moshe Rabbeynu wrote “Moshe the Man was the most humble person of anyone in this world”. He wasn’t affected by writing this.
Also, how did I know you were going to write what you did after I commented?
If he hunts him down -make sure you have a large life insurance policy on him. This will kill two birds with one stone. You will make money and your ex will go up the river for a long time.
fedup11210 – I posted this months ago under Diabetes Support Group -“it should be ideally <6. This will be very difficult to attain.”
Keep trying!
s2021 – Perfect solution -get remarried. And you won’t have to lie anymore.
Derech HaMelech – “I think people drink OJ because its not a complex sugar so it gives you a boost right away while you digest your starches and carbs. That’s my guess as a non-professional”
Not bad for a Non-professional; but the professional reason is because it has potassium!
Bagel and lox and OJ and toast & butter. Sometimes also cereal and milk.
Goq – What- you think you can’t eat baking choclate? If it’s too hard -melt it in a pot.
“Like people who can’t use beauty as a free pass in life have to be nice,sincerely nice?”
I disagree. I’m extremely beautiful, actually handsome and I’m very nice too boot!
Goq – The store. And if they don’t have it under the candy aisle, they will have it under the baking aisle.
No such a connection. There are plenty of nice looking Jews and goyim who do chessed and vice-versa. Everyone has Bechira, no matter what they look like on the outside. This is your creative, writing mind playing tricks on you.
SJS – Why would you bring Orthopraxy into the discussion here? This young man is totally OTD, while the Orthopraxs look frum on the outside, just inside they don’t believe in Torah and Hashem. One type has nothing to do with the other. Most people who go off have had problems with some of their mentors, either parents, Rebbyim, principals or teachers.
The best seat is a window so you don’t have to be bothered every time someone gets up. I would rather sit next to a woman than what I got stuck with enroute to EY. I had to sit next to a smelly, fat Arab. It must have been getting close to his yearly bath.
“when he unavoidably overheard a woman talking very loudly on her cell phone about her personal medical issues, (woman related ones,”
And how come when they get into the office and noone else is there, all of a sudden they can’t speak above a whisper?
“Im a woman n I certainly dont wanna hear about it..”
And you think I do, even though they are paying me? Somethings aren’t just worth it!
How about this?
“What?!You have …(amt.)kids and you got divorced? DIDN’T YOU HAVE ANY SELF-CONTROL???”
I did have self-control; that’s why I was only charged with assault instead of Manslaughter!
“What?!You were married …(amt.)years and THEN you got divorced?Why on earth did you WAIT so long??”
I had to get out of prison first.
“Oh,don’t worry,you can get back together–even after a ‘get’,really!”
I actually want to get back together -to finish what I started!
(Punch fist into the other hand a few times.)
“DID YOU EVER CONSIDER INITIATING MARRIAGE COUNSELLING?”
I actually did consider it, but I opted to beating the pulp out of him – it was much more satisfying!
“You know who suffers from the selfishness of the parents?Your kids!”
They didn’t suffer – I hardly touched them, but him on the other hand…
“What is it that makes people think it’s their place to comment on how/what you should do with your kids when your kids are welll-behaved and you are double their age or have double the life experience?”
Human nature is if they aren’t divorced, they think they are better than you and know more than you. You can’t let them have that misconception.
Also, after reading your little convo between you and your friend, if your friend isn’t a snob, it could be they thought you were seeking their advice. “Me:So my daughter came to visit…” ie -What do you have to say about it? If you don’t want their unsolicited advice try this – My daughter’s visit was nice and I enjoyed it -I’m hoping to see her again in the not so distant future. Make sure your comments aren’t open -ended, so the other person won’t think you want their opinion. Starting the convo with “so” can give the impression of seeking advice. If for some reason, you do it the way I say and still they put their two cents in, simply and curtly say -I’m really not seeking opinions on this. Or if you want to be mean say -I’m not interested in Your opinion -keep it to yourself!
Jewishness & all those that agree with you –
“but you find fault in people who at least keep the basic laws! I think there is some latent Jewish self hatred in such people.”
The only self-hating Jews are the ones who despise Frei Yidden. Your posts are typical of teenage yeshiva bochurim, but I’m surprised you never heard of the Halacha of Tinnuk Shenisbu after all you “learn” in a yeshiva. I’ve posted this many times -frei yidden are Putter for their actions nowadays as opposed to those whom know better. The Torah consists of basic laws besides Shmiras Shabbos -like for example, I consider not stealing or speaking L’H also part of the basic laws.
Why don’t you review the Haftorah of Shabbos Chazon and you will understand why Hashem punishes us and keeps us in Golus? Enough already blaming everyone who doesn’t agree with your political beliefs. BTW, I agree with you politically, but this has nothing to do with why punishment comes to the world. It’s much easier in life to blame everyone else, than to look inwards!
binahyeseira – A person who isn’t Someach B’chelko and who thinks “Allas Koomt Em”, won’t be able to see this on your level. Both the husband and wife are on different wavelengths!
Cum Laude – IYHO, at what point does a post-partum woman become clinical (in depression) as opposed to just having the blues and would need meds and therapy? (You checked the TSH already.)
binahyeseira – “is that really true – that the biggest cause of shalom bayis problems is lack of money?
if i would guess, i would say bad middos.”
Bad middos is the cause of almost every problem. The middah of not being Someach B’chelko is the main cause of lack of Sholom Bayis!
jewishness – Stop blaming the frei yidden for all the Tzoros in the world. Most of them are Tinnuk Shenishbu. I know plenty of fakirs who look frum and do every Aveirah in the books. L’H, Motzai Shem Rah, is rampid among us. Chazal say “Kshot, V’achar Kach Ksot Achairim”.
If you must blame, look inwards, not at everyone else. I always find the first to condemn are always the ones who are feeling guilty about something!
s2021 – Oh, I’ve experienced it all right, probably twice the amount of years that you’re alive. But even so, I still can’t understand it.
GM – “Health – I take strong exception to the thought that two working spouses increases Shalom Bayis!”
If there is enough money in the household from one salary, then I tend to agree with you. Nowadays, one salary is usually not enough to cover the basics, so the spouse has to pitch in. The biggest cause of Sholom Bayis problems is lack of money!
Aries – Yes and the husband should should share equally in responsibilities. There is no such thing as this is my responsibility and I’m not doing anything else. Eg.- The family needs $500 a week and the husband can only bring in $400, the wife has to bring in the other $100. The same would be if the husband can only make $250 and so on. Being in a relationship, everything is SHARED. Just the arrangement could be that the husband provides the income and the wife is the homemaker, or it could be the other way around like “Mr. Mom”. Or it could be any combination, as long as everything that needs to be accomplished -is!
CF – That is the job of the Diabetes Educator. They will tell you what to eat and what not. They should give you an exact food plan.
Call him/her.
I still can’t believe how my own relatives were Rodef me for so many years. And now that my wife is gone, they think it had nothing to do with them! De-nial is not just the name of a river!
s2021 – What was his excuse for screaming? I can’t understand how people can scream at the top of their lungs on a regular basis.
Grandmaster – True when it’s for benefit, but if it causes Sholom Bayis problems then we can learn from the rest of society!
My mother just screamed at me yesterday on the way to family court. When you get older you learn how to deal with all sorts of things. Maturity is dealing with adversary, not pleasantness. Some people never grow up. There is a European saying – A baby at 7 is a baby at 70. My Bubby A’H changed it for nowadays -A kid at 16 is a kid at 60!
OOmis – “Then they become very disillusioned and resent their men for not providing for them (as the Kesuvah mandates them to).”
This does sometimes make for bad marriages or divorce in the yeshiva world. A person should be mature enough to know what it means when they say “I want a learning guy”. Also, just because your hubby isn’t doing the right thing acc. to you because he isn’t supporting the family, who gave you the right not to work?
Two wrongs don’t make a right. In America right now most couples are forced to work to provide for their families, why are Frum Jews different?
Charlie – “YOU want the cop who responds to your 9-1-1 call to be able to subdue an intruder. You aren’t going to be thinking about your taxes when the person between you and a violent attacker is two or three times the attacker’s age. We need young and healthy police officers, firefighters, and corrections officers.”
So when is your wife retiring? Noone wants to put their lives in the hands of a doctor who’s ch’vs middle age! Do you know how much energy it takes to practice medicine? At least as much as being a public safety employee, if not more. I know because I worked on a ambulance, which has twice as much work as any cop or fireman or jail cop and I worked/trained in medicine.
If you want cops to be healthy -tell them that Donut shops are off limits while they are on-duty. Also, like I said before, let them start Walking a beat!
I guess you believe in the saying -that if you repeat lies enough times, people will start to believe them!
Charlie -“The property taxes long preceded Christie. But he is part of the problem as he, too, is stealing money from the pensions.”
He definitely is -he isn’t conservative enough. And now that I realize that this guy Walker isn’t going after cops and firefighters -he’s also a wimp!
BTW, Stop calling it stealing! You know it’s perfectly legal!
If it wasn’t, Obama’s AG whom is very bored right now because he isn’t bothering to defend the Marriage act because our Supreme leader has declared it unconstitutional, would be chasing after these guys to put them behind bars!
Where did you get your info & political beliefs from -the Communist Manifesto?