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MiI – “I think the expectations of you are the same as they are of everyone else who posts here–to use some thought and sensitivity when posting and not just write anything that comes to mind. Nothing more than that.”
You’re not the one who determines what the expectations of posters are -the YWN Editor does. These are upheld by the Mods. If my posts are put through -that is good enough for me. I’m sorry I don’t meet your expectations, nor do I plan to.
Eclipse – You didn’t respond to my post. I’ll reiterate -OTD has nothing to do with bad/dangerous behavior, that should NOT be tolerated.
I can’t comment on page 21, because I’m not 21!
It’s great that she survived, but there was a tragedy. One of her main rescuers suffered from PTSD and ended up committing suicide.
It’s not so easy being a rescuer in a high profile case.
Joe – Your statement should read -as in fact the polar opposite of “some” Kollel families.
Eclipse – Most of my kids aren’t frum, but when I’m with them, even though I can’t be with them in my house, I have rules. Rules that I won’t allow to be broken. My attitude is – they are what they are, but it’s not their fault. I treat them with kid gloves, but that doesn’t mean anything goes.
DY – “In which case, the parents could have refused then and turned down the shidduch. If they chose to go ahead with it, they shouldn’t complain now. (And I don’t think this is common either.)”
I definitely agree! Noone should be forced to give what they don’t want to. Why do I say forced? Because some people aren’t like me and feel if they don’t give into everything that’s demanded, their child won’t get married. They even resort to lying or wishful thinking (that one day they will be able to afford it) to give into the other side’s DEMANDS!
eclipse – “In some ways,your tests are harder than mine,because my female friends are very loyal and “there for me”,”
Hashem doesn’t leave anybody totally in the dark. You should count your blessings. Even though I never really had anybody in my corner, so to speak, Hashem gave me a very good therapist a few years ago. I was able to draw a lot of my inner strength from his advice, B’H!
With my attitude that I have now, I hope one day Bezras Hashem to be able to get remarried.
Mod 72 -“Did you know that a diabetic with other conditions may be better off in the A1C 6.5 – 7 range than under 6?”
Since you read all my posts in the diabetic thread -you know my first post above was from Johns Hopkins U. Also, I posted a different # above, later on.
” I think it is time that you state clearly your medical credentials”
I cherish my privacy. It’s funny- Mod 80, who is well known by YWN staff, won’t even tell us what type of Doc he is, when I asked him.
If I ever get to meet you in real person, I’d like to take you on a tour of the type 2’s sitting in nursing homes or hospitals due to complications of diabetes. Do you really think I post on YWN my medical opinions for my own benefit?!
MiI -“I will repeat though that you are not the OP’s PCP, so sensitivity would be expected on this forum.”
Since I’m not -don’t have any expectations of me!
Reb – “anxiety and depression”
A lot of times it goes together, but not always!
DY -“if not all did not demand it.”
How could you post such a lie when the OP said his/her kids did?
Second of all- maybe a lot don’t demand it after they are married, but a lot demand XY&Z before they get married; sometimes this includes a house amongst the Nadin!
cutie/adorable -“he thinks its just stress!”
This sounds like bruxism- Buy a nightguard. Or go get a script for a SSRI.
“I was completely honest and upfront about everything when I dated,”
I’m exactly the same way.
eclipse – “In many instances,I was competing with his softly-spoken lies,while I cried and screamed the truth–which was so ugly,they preferred the lies.”
Ya know, I had this. Not with my ex, but with others. The people judging up on the situation -just said – I must be the crazy one-I must be the one who is lying. It doesn’t matter to me now -the ones who sided against me will also one day have to answer for their actions or non-actions!
“deoderantlessness???”
I don’t understand – you aren’t marrying her.
eclipse – I feel left out. It seems everyone knows who you are, but me.
yogibooboo – If you can manage without meds, fine. But a lot of people who have long term anxiety, need the extra boost of meds. The psychiatrists that I know, don’t prescibe unnecessary meds.
MiI – Like you said -you dealt with specialists mostly. They have time to make small talk. Having a good bedside is part of their job.
“I can also tell you that the ones that don’t have good beside manners tend to lose their patients pretty quickly.”
This is with the specialists. I was talking about PCP’s. They have way too many patients and most don’t have good bedside manners.
Adorable – What happened to cutiepie?
seeallsides -“i am the working person supporting quite a large family, and i see that they appreciate every penny given them”
Can I join your payroll? I guarantee I’ll appreciate every dime (who wants pennies) you give me!
“I know a lot of people living in Lakewood. Not a single one demanded a down payment from the parents. Mod 80, you hit the nail on the head.”
“i will repeat what others have said – i too know many people in lakewood who not only didn’t demand a down payment, but they didn’t demand any money from their parents and/or in-laws.”
I also know a lot of people in Lakewood, as a matter of fact I live here. There are plenty of people who get money from others- whether they demanded it or not, I don’t know. Some actually have their whole house paid for, not just the downpayment. Sometimes on top of this they have people buy them new cars. I remember hearing about one young couple that they were receiving from their parents/in-laws $50 grand a year, because how could they live on less?
BY – ” but i disagree with you about the chocolate ice cream. chocolate itself is amazing or vanilla ice cream with the caramel topping,”
Same with me. I like choc and also vanilla ice cream, but I don’t like choc ice cream.
commonsense
not so common – But this time it is common. That’s how I make it. 1 piece for two slices. I don’t put the 2 slices together until after everything is finished toasting.
I made a really good one the other nite. I took English muffins, cut in half, put Don Pepino pizza sauce on them. Then I took Amer. cheese and ripped them into small pieces and laid on top. Then I baked in toaster oven until cheese was well done. Delicious!
yogibooboo – If you have long term anxiety, like OCD, you should be on meds. Not the benzos, but the SSRI’s!
MiI – Technically you’re right, but I & others don’t have the time and energy for good bedside manners. Unfortunately it isn’t a perfect world. There are definitely some practioners who have good beside manners, but by and far, with the exception of a VERY few, I’ve found them to be very incompetent! So choose your poison – bad manners or bad medicine!
Cutie – Read my post!
Aries – “Ofcourse, again I say take it up with the Rosh Yeshiva especially if it is ruining the sholom bayis of the mishpacha.”
Thanks, you made my day. LOL!
seeallsides – You’re not seeing all sides! You just see your side of a yungerman or his wife living off others!
“The only difference here is that we’re not so anonymous. I figured out quite a few people here and I might be very close to knowing who S2021 is.”
“Certain posters end up revealing lots of info about themselves, and have people recognize them.”
These are the exceptions, not the rule! Posting and venting on an anon. blog wouldn’t even be considered Ahvak L’H!
MiI – “Well, you really should only weight 140. Keep trying!”
I’d probably say -Good job, but you really should only weigh 140. Keep trying!
That’s when I’m getting paid to have a nice bedside manner.
I’m just here to teach the proper way to maintain the poster’s Health. I find a lot of people just want someone to have a nice bedside manner, but they don’t really want them to tell them how to improve their health!
Ofcourse – You can’t start being Mechanech your kids when they are married already. I live in Lakewood in a small, broken-down house and drive an 18 year-old car!
s2021 – “Health- which one do u think it is??”
That’s so young it doesn’t make a difference. But I guess 21 because I don’t think you got married right when you turned 18.
TBT – “I do think there are pleanty of Lakewooders who are mistapek bemuat, and make due with very little.”
Some, not plenty. You should see the house I live in compared to almost everyone else!
” how do u know how old I am?”
I’m guessing -s2021 -stands for somewhere around 20 or 21! (:@
“who says i dont treat low blood sugars?!?!”
I never said you didn’t. My point is you don’t have to walk around with that low BG to get a lower A1c. An A1c around 6% is great.
A long story. It took years. Almost as long as you are alive.
Esther – “Where can one get this anger management from? Is it a class or do you have to see a therapist one on one?”
You definitely can go to a therapist, but they do have anger management classes. Relief Help is a frum org. that can guide you where to seek help.
Joseph – Congrats -a new posting name. What’s wrong with just using Yoseph or Yussie?
“I just heard my cousin who I grew up with and played house with is good friends with my ex and has him over for supper all the time and they chill together every day.. Im so hurt!!!!”
Sorry to hear about your mistreatment. I’m actually envious about your relatives. Mine are the cause of my divorce. However you feel towards them -quadruple it -the way I feel towards mine.
CF -“but i think most diabetics will agree with me when i say we always know when were low before the under 50 mark.”
You might feel it, but most don’t treat till it’s <50.
I don’t understand why you feel you have to walk around with a BG of 50 to achieve lower A1c’s. If you avg. a BG of 60 that’s equal to 5% A1c. 6% will equal to an avg. of 90 BG -this is very attainable.
“Non of my professors ever taught me that!!”
I wonder -why not? I’m not sure if I learned it in school either. A lot of my teachers weren’t too good. But look in your books.
Allsgr8 – Obviously if you feel ill, you must raise your BG. But not everyone will feel it till <50.
“I dont know who holds that your not hypoglycemic until less than 50”
Research it -you are in the medical field. BTW, this is the consensus.
CF – Noone said it was easy to keep the BG down. But I say it the way it is -not to put you down, but for your own benefit. You are still young (and the others who post here) -so you live in the here and now, but one day you won’t be so young anymore. I’ve seen the complications of diabetes on people and it’s not pretty. Like they say -An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
PBA – “You just try pulling that on me.
I would have picked her up and thrown her down a staircase.”
This is Pure Kaas and it doesn’t sound like your joking. Almost all violence that occurs in this world is because they were provoked. Acc. to Torah and the law, this isn’t an excuse. Self-defense on physical violence is the only reason a person should get violent. There are ways to defend against bullying without overeacting. There are ways to get your point across without being a Lemichel!
Anger Management anyone?
How did he abuse you? Not insinuating he didn’t, but a lot of people cry wolf.
Bruxism – Grinding your teeth due to stress. It can be treated with teeth/mouth guards and/or medication. You definitely need a second opinion by someone preferably who deals with bruxism and TMJ disorders.
95 – Yes they are, but much more slowly.
allsgr8 & CF- We actually had this convo in the diabetes support group topic. I’d rather not rehash.
But you should look into the research of optimal health for diabetics.
A lot of authorities hold you aren’t hypoglycemic until you’re <50 mg/dl BG. So You can have a lower A1c. Esp. look into Johns Hopkins research on A1c levels.
CF -Thanks for sharing, but I’m not a shrink, I’m in medicine. Your Doc is just going by the ADA, but there are other groups who disagree.