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Can my shower tonight (Motza’ei Shabbos) count for next Shabbos if I have in mind l’kavod Shabbos?
The blue stripe is a zecher for techeiles (actually beged is supposed to be same color as strings so when there was techeiles this was lichatchila now it is just a zecher)
When they made the medina they made the flagwhite with blue stripe to look like a tallis.
After the flag the minhag was changed from blue to black in order not to look like the flag of the medina.
Men have a mitzvah of pru urvu so don’t want to marry a girl who is 40. Also, they have issues of hirhurim so shouldn’t wait until they are older themselves.
It could be that it is better for men to get married younger and struggle through a few years of marriage until they mature in order to avoid hirhurim. That being said, if they are at a point where they are still so immature that there is a high chance of the marriage ending in divorce then obviously that would defeat the point.
sm29, I’m wondering, are you speaking from experience as someone who got married young/old? Were you born in 1929 or are you just perpetually 29 years old? 🙂
If a couple wants to send their kid to a yeshiva day school but can’t afford full tuition they give the kid a scholarship and then ask me me contribute to the scholarship campaign. Why should it be my (and the tzibur’s) responsibility to pay for this kid’s schooling. It is obviously a very nice mitzvah to teach a kid Torah but if the parents can’t afford it, why should I have to pay?
You say that a first date is hishtaus. But how do you expect to get that first date. From what I read here in the CR it sounds like every guy has a long list of girls. So how do you expect to get to the top of that list? Every little bit counts and if you have a nice picture that can help too. It’s not that the boys are shallow, they are human. No shadchan ever told me that a girl is ugly or has bad middos; they tell what you want to hear. So if a boy has to choose between a whole bunch of “great” girls what is he basing that decision on? It’s the little differences-one girl has a better job than another, has a better education, family etc. But even after all those things there is still a list, so why not go out with the prettiest first? Not only that, but all those little things that a resume might list will sound that much better when he has a picture in his mind that he likes. This isn’t shallowness, it is human nature. So take advantage of it!
“And the Satmar Rebbe Aaron Teitelbaum has declared the event useless to his people because Satmar dont have computers.”
Isn’t the whole point in this Asifa that the gedolim are finally admitting that Internet (and definitely computers) are an unfortunate necessity and therefore they are no longer assuring them but rather teaching us how to use them properly. If that is the case then according to that quote above, the Satmar Rebbe is arguing with this view. And tell me, do Satmars really not use computers? Don’t any of them work? How do their schools keep records and accounting? I understand if a Rebbe wants to say that Internet is not necessary (and therefore should be avoided) for certain members of his group (bochurim, etc) but I can’t believe that an entire sect of Klal Yisroel has no computers, we aren’t Amish.
“Can they be purchased online… Is there a website?”
I can’t stand these dumb jokes that everybody seems to make. If the point of this event is to admit that the Internet is not totally assur than what better way to demonstrate this than by having a website for the event.
That is the big kasha that many people have on most segulos (and most chassidus, especially chabad). In essence the segulos and Rebbes are intermediaries to Hashem Ch”V, but the people practicing them don’t really mean it that way, and if they do they most probably don’t realize that it is wrong and very possibly A”Z.
Stop thinking about girls.
“coke on a daily basis is extremely bad for you.”
But if you are addicted already then doing coke should be OK because it’s a tzorech (assuming you have done your hishtadlus to try to stop)
This is interesting. zichmich is trying to convince us that some MLM programs are not scams. And the mods are letting it through. So let’s dissect this…
In all of these programs they get you to pay money upfront for “something” that they claim you need. Often this “something” is something that they will say you use already in some way. Such as water. The Kangen water people will try to convince you that not only is Kangen water much healthier than regular water, and that regular water is very unhealthy for you, but they will tell you that you spend thousands of dollars per year on bottled water anyway so why not spend $2000 upfront and you will save lot’s of money in the long run. (Then they tell you that you will actually make that $2k back).
Same here, Ambit tells you that you use energy anyway, so you aren’t paying any more than you would have. And of course, their energy is better for whatever reason. And you will make money.
The question is, is Ambit energy really any better or cheaper? What is the catch? (I don’t know enough about this program to give answers here, maybe popa can help us out)
In terms of Kangen water… Are you really spending thousands of dollars per year on bottled water (or can you just spend $50 for a good filter for your sink)? Is regular filtered tap water really that unhealthy as they say? Does Kangen water really make you any healthier just because it is “ionized”? The answer to these questions is probably really a resounding “no”. But they will bring you all kinds of “proofs” that they are correct and since you are not a doctor you will take their word for it. When your doctor tells you that they are wrong, they will give you a whole conspiracy theory that doctors and the medical/pharmaceutical business just don’t believe in it because it will take away there business.
tryinghard, why isn’t it good for you? I understand that some people say it doesn’t really help, but it sounds like your doctor thinks it is bad for your health. You are assuming that s/he was saying it is bad for anyone’s health. What is the reason for that?
Farrocs, I think kangen water is a multi-level marketing scheme.
my opinion about this type of marketing:
If a product is not good enough to sell itself in the traditional fashion then they try to convince people that not only is it a good product but you can even make money off of it so you aren’t really spending the $1500 on the product.
Then once you were conned into buying it, you feel the need to make your money back so you delude yourself into thinking that it’s a great product and tell all your friends about it.
Then the same thing happens to them — they buy it, want to make money back, etc…
The people at the top of the pyramid make a lot of money while most people just end up spending a lot of time and money for a product that they don’t really need.
True, many doctors are baalei gaava who don’t believe in Hashem, Tov shebirofim l’gehenom, yet doctors were given permission to heal and we have a chiyuv hishtadlus to use them.
As for alternative medicine, here are 3 psukim to think about:
M’chasheifa lo sichayeh.
Tamim tihyeh im Hashem elokecha.
Ushmartem m’od linafshoseichem.
Derech eretz kadma laTorah — the one who makes a living walks in front of the one who learns Torah…
No one has answered yet why it would be illegal. I know of one that a friend of mine was involved in Herbalife and as far as I know it was legal. I haven’t heard about it recently so perhaps it has fizzled out. I don’t know whether he actually made money off of it.
“Do the maths”
It is a pyramid, the people at the top make money. Those at the bottom don’t. Depending on the commission structure, you need a few levels to form below you on the pyramid in order to make money and only a few actually achieve that. The pyramid theoretically grows exponentially but in reality you eventually run out of customers and it ends. At that point the bottom few rows which are exponentially larger than the ones above them don’t make any money. I understand that it is risky because of this. Of course, depending on the product itself, even those who don’t make any money might gain in other ways. With herbalife for example, they supposedly are healthier.
Parshaman – what company are you referring to?
I am closing this thread. I do not want anyone peddling their scams on this forum. The CR is a place to come bicker; not to come scam each other.
If you must be a scam artist for a living, please go rip off the feds or the goyim. Then, you can join 600kilo bear’s federal koillel.
All these businesses are a scam; you are stealing money from the people who you convince to sign up. And usually from your friends and family. If you join, you will probably end up with no money and no friends, and not even a bed in otisville.
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It also happens to be illegal.
What is illegal about multi-level marketing / pyramid schemes?
Side question, has anyone here ever tried one of these pyramid schemes? Do they work? Why or why not?
The Best Time Tested Segulot
Segulah for recovery from illness: Go to a doctor (Berachot 60a; Bava Kamma 46b)
Segulah for longevity: Lead a healthy lifestyle (Rambam Deos 4:20)
Segulah for marriage: Look for a suitable wife (Kiddushin 2b)
Segulah for shalom bayis: Love and forbearance (Sanhedrin 7a; Bava Metziah 59a)
Segulah for kavanna in prayer: Take it seriously (Berachot 5:1)
Segulah to prevent drowning: Learn how to swim (Kiddushin 30a)
Segulah for honest parnassa: Learn a profession (Kiddushin 30a)
Sehulah for pure faith: Don’t believe in segulot (Devorim 18:13)
Coffee addict, see here
If there are inappropriate pictures on the other news sites, it is assur diyoraisa to visit them.
Ika darka achrina – there is yeshiva world news.
So why do you feel the need to damage your neshama by visiting those other sites (especially huff post). If you really can’t stop yourself then at least turn off images in your browser before visiting them. End rant.
Bpt, should men say good Shabbos to women they pass on the street in BP? How about at least to other men?
Google SafeSearch is probably run by Mishpacha
Nyuk nyuk nyuk
Popa, I’d say anywhere from slightly overweight to morbidly obese. If you like, you can get in touch with me through the mods and I’ll try to set you up with one of the heavier ones.
Shmuely crossed the line years ago.
“One thing you can not fault Judaism for, is that we always spell out precisely what is d’oraisah, d’rabbanan, and chumrah. These halachos are spelled out precisely in the poskim.”
Poskim? Who actually asks pokim? Who actually reads halacha? Most people here get there psakim from the CR! And if the CR says it is assur diyoraisa to have elbows uncovered then it is! (Thank you Sam2 for refuting this)
“Facebook is not a good place for any singles! Whatever you put on the Web stays there forever!”
If you have a Facebook page but are VERY careful about what you post this should not be a problem. There are legitimate reasons to have it and if used correctly it can be fine, single or married, assuming that the person has self control and knows what they are doing.
“Similar to the texting problem, it does make it easier for teenage boys and girls to talk. But once you are in shidduchim anyway, I don’t really see the harm.”
Are you dating a teenager or a young adult. If the shidduch in question had Facebook as a teenager then you might have a legitimate tayna. Then again, people change a lot after they hit 20 so even someone who was a big Facebook user in High School shouldn’t be rejected right away. Like any issue in shidduchim, you have to realize that everyone is different and it is very dangerous to make a blanket statement that “s/he has Facebook and therefore I have no interest in the Shidduch”
I think that if you are investigating a shidduch with someone who has Facebook, check out their page (not just for the pictures). See what they post (and what they don’t post), how often they post, etc. Then make an informed decision.
Abie Rotenberg, Journeys II
Post her private info on the CR, then we can all join together in stalking her
“Please every mother with a married child think of others! I started doing this when my eldest daughter married, I felt upset thinking about her gorgeous friends who were single.”
I wonder the point in you using the term “gorgeous” about your daughter’s friends. Do you consider all of them to be gorgeous or are you only thinking about your daughter’s gorgeous friends and not the others? This I believe is one of the great problems we have, people are “working” for the “gorgeous” girls and not for the rest. Work for girls as people, not as gorgeous objects. The older the girl gets the less “gorgeous” they are considered so they get fewer people “working” for them.
Maybe you need Rabbi Jonathan Shippel.
Jothar, if you claim that they are true kofrim, do you eat their hashgachos? Because if I understand correctly, many out-of-town mashgichim are Lubavitch, if you eat OU or Kof-k or any other non-local hashgacha, they have mashgichim in random plants throughout the world who are Lubavitch. And even if a local hashgacha gives a hechsher to a food or restaurant, that restaurant is using ingredients that are under the larger hashgachos. Am I correct about this?
Then there are girls looking for trophy husbands, best guy in Lakewood, etc, many of these end up as “older singles”
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Of course it’s good advice, you shouldn’t be in college at all. If you are ther u should at least keep your head down to avoid seeing things you shouldn’t.
It is not tznius for women to vacation at all. It’s even worse with her husband. She should stay home with her daughters while the husband and boys vacation
If this is a doctor you are dealing with, isn’t s/he going to be touching you anyway? I guess you might say that that is necesary but shaking hands is not but it does make it harder to explain.
So it seems from the above posts that the gender is not determined until 40 days but after 40 days the vlad is no longer considered maya bi’alma so the Chinese have no choice halachicaly but to take what Hashem gave them.
It was mentioned that by goyim it is considered a chiyuv misa but by a Jew it is not. Can someone please explain the difference. I assume that the issur by goyim is murder since that is one of their 7 mitzvos. What is the issur by Jews?
Speaking of the Chinese “choosing” the gender of their child, is a ben-Noach halachicaly allowed to terminate a pregnancy after 6 weeks? What if a Jew lives in such a country, would they be allowed to do such a thing in order to have a boy?
Fargo, North Daakota
How about Levi Levy?
Rav avigdor miller quotes new testament that a jew who called another jew “reika” (empty of knowledge, aka an am ha’aretz) was subject to a stiff fine. Perhaps the moderators should fine people who call others dolts
In honor of this thread I made sure to say “good Shabbos” to all the girls I passed in the street over Shabbos.
Many years ago before the days when this kind of thing was accepted and before the airline security we currently have, there was an airline that offered a Valentines Day special of buy one ticket and your Valentine flys free. A guy from a NY yeshiva was getting married that day in Toronto so his friends went to the airport 2 by 2 and got half price plane tickets
“I’m aware of that Theory.
In a case where you both ARENT interested in each other.
I am 5’9 he is 5’2. Not going to happen. What then?”
You obviously don’t understand the theory. No woman understands it. But it is basicly true. Yes- even among frum men.
I went to a wedding yesterday and there seemed to be a lot of mix-ups in the seating. Some tables had too many people with place-cards with not enough seats fpr all of them and some people who were invited didn’t have place-cards at all (I didn’t ask if they had sent in the response card). Inviting all the appropriate people to a simcha (and giving them seats) can be a very complicated thing, especially if you are a Rebbi in a large yeshiva. I assume that this is what happened in your case, The Goq. You seem to think that it was on purpose but there is a good chance that it was just an oversight and has nothing to do with you being invisible. You are being too hard on yourself.
Also, if I remember correctly Goq, you have stated that you work in an office with mostly women and you are a single man. It could be that all the women were invited because their husbands were invited and not because they work in the office. So it wasn’t that the baal simcha purposely invited everyone in the office except for you, he just happened to have invited all of their husbands.
Imy”h you should find your bashert and should have to deal with these issues of inviting people to your wedding.
Go for it! It sounds like the two of you are the type of “older singles” who were brought up in a “Yeshivish” environment where you never spoke to the opposite gender. In some cases like that, it could be helpful to have productive conversations with each other about inyanei shiduchim. These conversations can hopefully help you along in the process of finding the right one for each of you. Obviously this should be done with the right mindset and you should always be on your guard that you are approaching it appropriately.
Onkeles in parshas vayishlach translates “aluf” as “rabba”. It seems that all of Eisav’s wives were Rabbas! Did they get smicha from YCT?
They should be taught to use the Internet responsibly while still under the parents control. They will get to it eventually, better have them prepared for it.
Wolf seems to think that young R’ Tarfon would have read his name in a mishna before he himself aid the “opinion”.
The way I understand it is that R’ Tarfon learned the “opinion” from his Rebbeim, they obviously did not say it in his name as he had not yet said it. He then taught it to the next generation and it was therefore written down in his name. Why it was written in his name and not in the name of his Rebbeim is another question, I assume that R’ Yehuda HaNassi was quoting R’ Tarfon directly and therefore R’ Tarfon got his name on it even though R’ Tarfon was quoting his Rebbeim.
How machlokesim came about is another discussion. We say Eilu v’eilu, it seems that 2 talmidim each interpreted the same teaching in different ways and they are both correct.