Thanks kapusta for explaining. That must be so painful. Thank you for posting this because now I will be super careful with what I say and what I ask people…

Kapusta, I’m not sure I understand what you’re saying but I really want to understand because it might very well be that it’s something that I do to others and if it bothers you then chances are that it bothers them too.

If you don’t want to explain though, u don’t have to. Don’t worry!

For now, good luck!!

bad bad bad idea. There is another “frum” or “jewish” chatroom that I joined stupidly and it brought me down so much, you could not even imagine. I think we should leave the cr the way it is!!

aries, thanks for the hug:)

And it’s funny you say that I shouldn’t emotionally involve myself with anyone because the devastation of losing them might be too much. Don’t they always say that every person needs atleast one person who is going to be there for them throughtout struggles and who will know e/t that is going on?

Also, I think I’m going to just take a step back from this friend. Leave it be for a while and see what happens.

Middlepath- thanks for the emotional hug;)

princess- thanks! Your support is soooo helpful!!! Thank you!!!

I don’t want this thread to go off the front page so trying to bump it up. I think it is a way helpful thread that should stay put for a while!

This might sound funny to you but check out ebay. I needed a bag last year and got a longchamp for really cheap… and it’s not a fake!

My family waits 5 hours and a minute (into the sixth hour) before eating milchigs after being fleishigs.

middlepath- my heart just broke for you when I read your post about the aufruf. Just know that you are an amazing person and you will marry an amazing girl who will appreciate everything about you.

Oh, and all the suggestions for you to move away really are good ideas. I know, it takes time to work things out and to start becoming comfortable with the idea but definitely you should keep it in mind, imo.

Aries, ya. I really am stressed about it lol.

He thinks I’m leaning too much on him, or thinks that I gotta take care of stuff b4 he can talk2me. I don’t know. And I really do understand where he’s coming from but its torturing me at the same time!

adorable- it’s not nosy, don’t worry.

I know this person does not do it anymore to anyone. It happens to be I see this person on an everyday basis.

I act completely normal around them and give them the utmost respect that they (I guess) deserve.

Need some support now please?! Really want that friend to care. It is so hard right now. I know I’m being pathetic but it’s so hard right now 🙁

Thanks aries and middle. I def have a good support system but this person is just a friend who knows everything and said they’d support me through the whole process so it’s hard that he’s not anymore in the same way he was originally. I know he’s still here for me but just not the same way he was before. He is actually waiting for me to do something in regards to this but I just am too scared to. And also I don’t even know if by me doing this it’ll change the way things are between us.

I know there are people who are in the same situation and it kills me!! And it should give me chizuk that there are ppl in the same situation but it doesn’t. It hurts me so much and I don’t know. I just feel strange 🙁

Sorry for complaining!! And thanks for e/t!!!

Try holding it away from your body when you open it. It might work. Also for a yogurt, before opening it, I usually like press my fingers down on the wrapper (foil usually) to get the stuff that’s on it, off of it.

I have no idea if you can understand what I said but worth a try.

Very scary. Reminds me of the 3 things that were in the tent of our imahos. Very scary indeed!

Thanks everyone. I hope I’m able to answer each one of you to the best of my ability.

Aries- thank you. I am in touch with a therapist, dr and a close friend who are helping me along with this. I still am torn about what to do but eventually I guess I’ll come to a good decision.

always- I know this person will not be able to do it to anyone else so I’m not sure I have such an obligation.

middlepath- I don’t know how to thank you for e/t. For your support and for your kind words!! You’re an amazing role model!!

kapusta- thanks!!

moi aussi- you may be right but I’m hoping there is a way for me to find menuchas hanefesh without reporting it, if that is my choice.

Thanks everyone here! You’re amazing!!!

Middlepath, I’m so sorry for asking questions that were probably so painful for you. I apologize!!

I’m sure you’re probably right about the reporting situation, I’m just terrified about it. I don’t want to be shunned or a/t.

onnea- I do not feel pressured from anyone in a public forum to report it. I don’t really feel pressured at all. I know the people that are urging me to report it are doing it for me own safety and for my own good.

always- I experienced s. abuse at the hands of a family member. I’m thinking it might be better that it wasn’t at the hands of a ‘community authority’ since I’m the only one that lost trust in this family member where as if it was a community person, many people would lose trust in him and it would be a big emb to the community.

I’m not sure I made any sense here and sorry in advance if I did not.

Middlepath, amen to everything you said above!

Now for my question. How exactly did reporting your father work? What was the whole process like? I’m being pushed to do this but am terrified of the consequences. I’m also nervous because like you said, the community was not supportive. In fact they made the situation that much harder for you.

I’ve been told that people will support me etc as long as I have evidence but without evidence then for sure no one will since it’s such a crazy situation. It’s almost not believable.

I’m nervous that the community really will not be supportive and will ridicule my family and myself. I just don’t know if it’s worth putting e/o thru this right now.

Middlepath, I’ve been following this thread since you started it and pretty much told myself that I wouldn’t post anything because it hits so close to home for me and I thought that the pain would just become too much for me.

But now I just have to respond. I can’t not anymore.

You are such an inspiration to all Jews. I think you have made a huge impact on my life by showing that you can really continue on with life even with this history. My situation is a little different but I hope to one day be able to follow in your footsteps and also be able to get on with things and lead a good and healthy life.

Thanks for the inspiration!!

If you find out, please let us know. We are very anxious to find out how Greta from the Oppenheimers hotel is doing.

Thank you!

Jarvis by Tag and Lanett by Rabbi Brown’s shul were very badly flooded. Like halfway up the mailboxes but the water receded already. There definitely was a lot of damage done to trees in this area too. I saw the entire sidewalk torn up because of a tree that was completely uprooted.

The surf at the beach is very high too!

Many many people in Far Rock are evacuating. Many people in Far Rock live in a zone A area (which is the most dangerous supposedly) and are leaving because Bloomberg said there might be mandatory evacuations ON shabbos.

I know that on my grandparents yarzeits the grandchildren don’t watch tv just like we didn’t watch during the week of shiva, when my parents were sitting for their parents. (Yes, I know we shouldn’t be watching tv at all…)

Honestly, these ice cream trucks make me think about molesters. I think the music and just the whole idea behind it just doesn’t seem safe to me. Half the time there is no adult with the child so what’s keeping the driver from snatching someone off the street?! And the music… just makes me think of a molester. I have no idea why 🙁

minyangal, r u serious about the global warming?

It’s just a made up thing by Al Gore who wanted to get some recognition for nothing!!!

Please don’t blieve in it. It is such a pointless thing!!