I had the same question. But slowly the perspective moved. I suddenly realized I matter. We matter. Jews matter. If G-d hated us, we would maybe be sidelined, surely not picked on. While I am down some days, it is not like it ever used to be. I am not looking to act like a gentile. Nor am I any longer interested in emulating their way of life and their ‘outlets’ a. I and you are rather facing a hard reality that we are different. We are unique. And G-d wants something from us. It is our prayer in deed and thought that the current unity and attention to our identity and actions is what our creator wanted. And we pray further that we will feel his abindant love with the turning of darkness to lihgt. Of losses to wins. And death to life. Both physical and spiritual.