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The solution is simple, get a Panasonic phone that allows you to block a number with the push of a button. Most of these robo calls come from the same companies, I rarely get an annoying call anymore, they’ve all been blocked.
I highly recommend the book “The one minute masmid” by rabbi Jonathan Rietti. It describes a system of learning where even someone who feels discouraged about his learning can develop into a Talmid chacham. I know of others who felt a real chizuk in limud Hatorah after reading this very interesting book.
Don’t assume limud Hatorah is just not for you just because learning in yeshiva was difficult.Lehavdil bein Kodesh lechol. It’s part of levush Yisroel which differentiates us from the umos haolom. Dressing uniquely sends a message that we are different & are expected to act differently. It’s a hanhaga tovah especially at a time when we are becoming culturally affected by the society around us.
No respectable mekubal advertises his miraculous powers. Every month another charlatan comes to town trying to make a buck. Hashem doesn’t need these intermediaries to bring a yeshuah.
YWN should ban their ads.Every tool Hashem gives us can be abused including photos. I understood that the question was about the responsible use of a photo when looking into a shidduch.
Pictures only show a small amount of persons chein but they are still a useful piece of information.
Rav Matisyahu Solomon said a bachur should know that when he goes under the chuppa he takes along all his taavos with him. Being overly righteous while dating is a recipe for unhappiness later.
I don’t think it’s a chessed do date someone & then reject them for something that you would know in one glance at a photo.It all depends on the needs/values of the individual involved. If externals are high on the list then by all means pictures are useful. If not, then why limit your choices based on a photo.
David Lichtenstein posed this question to Rabbi Sorcher of Detroit & Rabbi Shafier of the Shmuz both endorsed the looking at a photo for shidduch purposes.The consensus among the poskim is that this din only applies to Adar sheini. Let’s be patient.
As I posted earlier, a person who goes in public without tzniusdig is a mazik es horabim. This is very different than someone struggling with a personal yetzer horah. I don’t live in the 5towns so it’s not my place to criticize them. Most are probably tinokes shenishbu. I this is a problem because whenever my relative from the 5towns comes for a simcha we cringe over how she will be dressed.
Tznius is not just a bein odom limokom obligation, it’s a bein odom lichaveiro obligation. A woman who dresses untzniusdig is a mazik es horabim. She is a walking michshol to every man than sees her. The Steipler called these people spiritual terrorists ruining the neshamos of those who see them. Many of these yidden are tinokes shenishbu who don’t understand how damaging their behavior is to others.
Does anyone know where Zohar Aghbashoff is today? He was very popular in the late 80’s & I haven’t heard about him since then.
Rav Avigdor Miller said you should remain loyal to the original store you used. He shtelled Tzu the story of Avraham Avinu who stayed at the same motel on his way back from Mitzrayim as the way there. This part of the midda of hakaras hatov & neemonus.
The following Rabbonim should be able to guide you. They have seen & heard the full gamut of human challenges.
Weinberger, Rabbi Moshe of Aish Kodesh in woodmere.
Rav Dovid Goldwasser
Rav Reuven Drucker of Highland Park
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We have a boys to girls ratio crisis which leads to many girls remaining single. The boys are doing great. They have long lists of girls to choose from & they can ask for as much support as they want for willing to marry someone.
Bitochon doesn’t apply to maasei nissim. We can’t expect Hashem to rain down 1000 boys from heaven to marry all the single girls over 30. We need to change the communal structure so that the boy/girl ratio is more even so we don’t end up with a bigger problem down the road.Suddenly once you’re married the crisis is over. 1-2000 girls over the age of thirty is a serious communal problem. They’re tired of “enjoying” their singlehood & would like to move on with their lives. Calling it a “Crisis ” is just a way to motivate people to try to ease the plight of these girls. If you have a better way to help the situation please tell us.
It’s an Es tzora for klall Yisroel when 1000’s of frum girls are remaining single.How about Toms River or Jackson? There’s no perfect place to live. Colored shirts are not a good enough reason to put your family through the difficulty of resettling somewhere else. The “pressure ” in Lakewood may be influencing you & your family in a positive way without you realizing. There guys just like you in Lakewood who figure out how to find a nice group. Wearing a white shirt is a small sacrifice for all that Lakewood offers.
I had such a style oven (from Israel but don’t remember the manufacturer) but sold it for the following reason. Lechatchila the matzot should not be touched once placed in the oven until the bottom is baked. In my oven, due to the position of the fire, part of the matzot would burn before the rest was baked . It would need to be moved before the complete bottom of the matza was baked.
It’s not worth the tremendous work involved to produce second rate matzos.The Chachmei Yisroel don’t need to provide anyone a written teshuva explaining their decisions. The Yishuv in E.Y. has long fought for it’s independence from the Zionist regime. Nachal Chareidi was a big chidush & never intended for a boy able to sit in yeshiva. There are many reasons why the chachmei yisroel want us out of the army, not only because of bittul torah. If you don’t respect their opinion then no written Teshuva will change your mind, if you respect their opinion then you don’t need a Teshuva.
First work on perfecting your Davening, your learning, your bein adom lechaveiro, & then we’ll aim for a pure hatzolah that doesn’t bill insurance for services it rightfully can bill for. Your mitzva is as chashuv whether insurance is billed or not. Let’s stop being OCD about this subject.
Thank you neville-chaimberlin, I couldn’t have said it better.
The repository of Torah has always been the Chareidim. The modern orthodox yidden were the Zevuluns who went out into the academic/professional world. “We” strive to be shevet Yisochor who are the spiritual backbone of klal Yisroel.
Look at you seforim shelf, at least 95% was written by a Chareidi yid. Artscroll Shas etc. Written & edited by a Chareidi Jew. Mishna Berura, kitzur Shulchan aruch, Aruch hashulchon, Igros Moshe, all Chareidim.
The chachmei hador belong to the chareidim because they have invested so much into producing gaonei yisroel.
They have taken responsibility for the chinuch system in E.Y.
It is absolutely foolish for unqualified people so voice their opinion about this subject. It’s no different than a layman expressing his opinion about how a brain surgeon should operate. Or a Chareidi Jew telling a MO Jew how to run his hedge fund or law practice, everyone should stick to their area of expertise.I never claimed such a thing!. There is an army. They don’t need us to protect the country. We will be pulled down spiritually if we join them. Therefore, we don’t join.
It is better for them that we don’t join since thereby Klal Yisroel has more zechusim by us remaining pure.
Quoting a senior Talmid Chacham & recognized leader is not a “joker card” It’s how orthodox Jews have been making decisions since we stood at Har Sinai. (Excluding Korach & several others)“WE” are the yidden who believe in the Torah’s commandment to follow our senior Talmidei Chachomim of each generation.
“WE” don’t pasken for ourselves on our own from cliche like Yishuv E. Y., We rely on the guidance the senior chachmei hador of each generation.
This is how Yiddishkeit always was before modern orthodoxy took off.Rav Ahron Leib Shteinmann was a recognized Manhig Yisroel & this was his opinion as you can read here:
Recently Released Letter By Maran HaRav SHteinman To Hagon HaRav Don Segal Regarding Nachal Charedi
We believe that a) the army is not an acceptable place for any yeshiva bachur regardless of how little he’s learning.
B) the nachal Hareidi was only intended for boys who would otherwise become mechalilei Shabbos.
C) The yeshiva draft law places all Yidden in E.Y. In danger by weakening limud Hatorah, which is our main zechus.
D) If Nachal Hareidi boys were killed, it signifies we need to do Teshuva & accrue more zechusim.
E) We certainly protest the draft which would leave us with less zechusim & thereby more soldiers dying Ch”vsh.
F) We don’t make a specific misheberach for Israeli soldiers because we need to be clear that it’s existence is a terrible bedieved, only for boys that would otherwise go otd. We have them in mind by acheinu other general tefilos for klall Yisroel.
Those that died protecting klal yisroel are kedoshei elyon.
Don’t be frummer than the gedolei Yisroel like rav Moshe, rav Yaakov, rav Ruderman, rav Ahron, etc. Non of them celebrated this non Jewish holiday. They had a better understanding of hakoras hatov than any of us.
It’s a shame my choice of gefilte fish isn’t decided by daas Torah, it would taste so much better.
There’s a concept of loeg lorosh. We don’t cause others to feel bad that they don’t have as much as us. This is why we don’t perform mitzvos in a cemetery since it pains the meisim that they can no longer do mitzvos.
We don’t sing shelo asani isha so as not to pain women. Let’s remember that for most of history women were illiterate & knew little about what men said by davening.
Shelo Asany goy the ainom yehudi don’t hear so there’s no life lorosh.