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Right now Ulpan-Or is offering a free 1-month subscription to their e-newsletter. It’s really very helpful.
I LOVE that shiur by Rabbi Keleman. He has a lot of good shiurim, in fact, but that is my favorite. I cry more each time I listen to it.
Interesting! I learned that it was a machlokes whether Moshe wrote them with tears or that Yehoshua wrote them. Apparently it’s discussed in Bava Basra 15b but I don’t have a Gemorah handy.
That Robby story is beautiful. However, as a musician (and piano teacher) I was a bit skeptical, especially when a kid who could barely play, suddenly was able to play a concerto. And while I have heard students play their part of a concerto at a recital, it isn’t usually done without accompaniment. Further, a piano in the Murrah building? Not impossible, but not likely.
Finally, checked it out with snopes.com. Sorry, this is also false.
I know a similar story that is true.
After a fire had destroyed their store, Mr. & Mrs. B. had decided to retire. They took the insurance money and fulfilled their dream of retiring in Yerushalayim.
One day when Mrs. B. had a dental problem her dentist was unavailable (out-of-town, I think). Luckily a dentist had opened an office just next door, and he was able to see her.
Her problem was not a simple drill-and-fill, but required a few visits. At the last visit she took out her checkbook to pay and the dentist told her she had already paid. She knew she hadn’t, but the dentist told her the following story:
Once there was a young boy whose father sent him on an errand. His father gave him 15 cents and sent him out to buy toilet paper. Clutching the money in his hand, he dutifully went off to perform his assigned task. When he came home, his father asked him where the toilet paper was.
The boy had stopped on the way home to tie his shoe. He had put down the toilet paper and forgotten about it. He went back to look for it. It was no longer there.
Thinking that maybe somebody found it and returned it, he went back to the store and asked. “I’m sorry,” the woman in the store said. “Nobody turned in any toilet paper.” And with that, he began to cry.
The woman asked why he was crying and he explained the situation, and that his father would be very angry with him.
The lady handed him another package of toilet paper and told him to take that home and he needn’t tell his father.
“So you see,” the dentist continued, “you paid for this dental work when you gave me that package of toilet paper.”
I didn’t always live in Haifa. I used to live in Yerushalayim and I worked for that dentist. That’s how I know the story.
AZ: There are a lot of people who like to argue for the sake of arguing. I believe you might be one of those people.
You say you have a secret that will alleviate the problem, yet you won’t share it. If you are really as concerned about all the single women as you claim to be, and if you really know some way to alleviate the problem that hasn’t yet been made known, you would be shouting it from the rooftops and buying billboards.
Instead, you just keep repeating your age gap mantra and using hurtful words that don’t help. You’ve said Tosafos used the word “aguna” in the Gemorah. Yet, for those of who don’t regularly learn Gemorah, and don’t have one handy, you have refused to provide the entire quote so that we can see the context. Is there something you are afraid to reveal? Like perhaps the issue isn’t as clear-cut as you make it out to be?
If you have a REAL solution, please provide it. If the Tosafos is as you say, please provide the entire quote in context (in English please) so we can all see where you are coming from.
If not, then just admit you are arguing for the sake of arguing and we can all get on with our lives.
I need a better vocabulary. I don’t have the words to describe how unbelievably offended I am by the use of “aguna” to describe me. I know agunos. I would NEVER presume to include myself in their category. The gehinnom they are in is something I would never choose for myself. And to have AZ assign me to that gehinnom is beyond my capabilities to describe.
Just remember – dust and dirt are not chometz! Don’t make yourself crazy.
And don’t use a plastic cutting board. Wood is healthier. (As is usually the case, G-d made products are better than man-made.)
And BTW, when I say everybody seems to get along with everybody else, my friends here run the entire spectrum: not frum, modern Orthodox, Litvish, Chassidish. Do you find that is true in Jerusalem?
1) Check the weather forecast. We have a much better climate.
2) Check the apartment ads. Our rents are much, much, much cheaper.
3) The people here are amazingly friendly, and everybody seems to get along with everybody else. In fact, the last time I was in Jerusalem, one of my “friends” told me I should start davening at a different shul than the one I usually daven in. She didn’t think I should be friends with this particular group. I don’t hear that kind of thing in Haifa. The people here accept me for who I am.
4) In Jerusalem I hear mostly English spoken. I always feel as if I’m in America.
5) There is no neighborhood in Haifa that I won’t walk through during the day. (Okay, night is a different story, but that has more to do with my paranoia than any basis in reality.)
Haifa isn’t perfect. No place is. But I lived in Jerusalem. I’ll take Haifa.
I definitely think EY is the place to be. And I highly recommend Haifa. To me it’s the best city in the entire world.
Okay, AZ, let’s try an experiment. I’ll give you the name and number of an agunah I know. You contact all the shadchanim you know, and see how many are willing to redt her to someone.
That should show you the difference between a true agunah and a not-yet-married.
I’m with oomis. I know, and have known, agunos. Those of us who are not yet married are not nearly in the same predicament. Calling us agunos is not fair to those who really are.
Wolf needs neither my defense nor my haskamah. However, I would like to point out that I once had a job where my employer gave specific permission for me to use the internet whenever I had nothing pending. And there were several occasions of downtime during that job.
Some employers permit personal stuff on “work time,” and others don’t. And perhaps Wolf is self-employed. I don’t know whether he is or isn’t, but I wouldn’t presume he’s a ganif when there are so many legitimate reasons he can be in the CR while “at work.”
Indecency can lead to spiritual death (of multiple people) which is worse than physical death.
Would it really? Admittedly it could lead to a lot of problems. But spiritual death?
Those people can still do teshuva. They can still perform many, many mitzvos. Those who are physically dead cannot.
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Actually indecency is potentially far worse than a driving accident.
Huh? A driving accident could kill not only the driver, but several innocent people as well. Indecency could lead to what? (Okay, we all know what it could lead to, but is that worse than killing people?)
Every day, when I insert my personal tefillos into Shemoneh Esrei, I always ask for Moshiach. However, I have a feeling the Chofetz Chaim and Chazon Ish and others also asked for Moshiach, and if their tefillos weren’t enough, what chance do mine have?
“My Rav actually suggested that I use one of these sites.”
Did he suggest Frumster particularly?
My Rav has absolutely no problem with my use of Frumster. He helped me write my profile. When I find someone I might be interested in, I e-mail him the profile and he gives me his opinion.
However, to be fair, I have not yet dated anyone from Frumster, and I’ve been on it a few years.
I’m not sure if I owe oomis an apology for what I just posted on another thread or not. If so, I sincerely apologize. I wrote what I did simply out of frustration with people (not just oomis) telling me what I feel. It was simply oomis who posted something that was easy to quote.
I guarantee you that if the singles are not crying (and I don’t happen to agree with you), their PARENTS surely are.
Hello everyone. I’m an older single. How old? Let’s just say my friends who are my age are grandparents. Do I cry? Sure I do. But it’s usually about something other than being single. I cry when I read about someone who R’L lost a child. I cry when I read about soldier being killed defending my country and my people. I cry when I read about people who are being persecuted simply for being Jewish.
Do my parents cry? I don’t know. Do people in the next world cry? I have a feeling they see things a lot more clearly than I do. They probably know why Hashem has presented me with this challenge. I’m sure if they could intervene, they would.
So here’s what I do about it: I daven. I tell people I’m looking for a shidduch. I go to work. I go to shiurim. I go grocery shopping. In general, I live my life.
Bottom line: Don’t tell me what I’m feeling. Don’t tell me I’m crying over my “plight.” Don’t tell me I’m sitting around with my life on hold while waiting for my bashert. I resent that. If you aren’t single, then you really don’t know, do you?
ronrsr: Some people can get very upset with stories like those. They could even make problems for you. You aren’t going to be very happy when John Phillip sues ya.
You should do the genetic testing before the first date. That is, if you are going to do genetic testing.
I guess I’m in big trouble. My internet is unfiltered. I just monitor my own behavior. And there is no such thing as a “public area” of my apartment, unless I go out into the stairwell. And the Rambam said women should not go out of the house more than once or twice a month. So if I don’t go to work, who will support me?
Years ago I found a french bread recipe and made it. It took forever, had way too many steps, and wasn’t worth it. I’ll stick with my grandmother’s challah recipe.
There’s a program out there called “Turn Debt Into Wealth” or something like that. I got it on a 30-day free trial. Okay, I’m not wealthy yet, but I did get out of enough debt to be able to return to EY.
Anyway, John Cammuta, the (millionaire who sells this program) recommends only buying. Not only that, he recommends only buying used cars.
Of course, you can always do what I did – move to EY and depend on Egged. 🙂
ronrsr: Those are wonderful! That last one reminds of a review (don’t remember who wrote it) of Alfred Hitchcock’s The Birds: He left no tern unstoned.
artsy: I know Mod-80 is going to disagree with me on this, but I know people who have been helped with NAET. The trick is to find a good practitioner. They aren’t all equal. The one I went to (although not for psoriasis) is a chiropractor and she was excellent. Different practitioners have different backgrounds.
When I once said I wish I could afford to go away for Pesach, my neighbor (at that time) said if I could afford to go away, I could afford to stay home. Hire a cleaning crew and hire a cook. I’d have all the advantages of staying home with the advantages of not having to do any work.
Now all I have to do is find a way to afford the cleaning crew and the cook. 🙂
A storeowner may charge whatever he sees fit
I’m certainly no Torah scholar, but isn’t there something in Shulchan Aruch about what a businessman may charge his customers?
the mitzav is only to give 2 peole ?
Not quite sure what you are asking. The mitzvah is to give a gift of two food items to one person. Some confusion seems to exist because the mitzvah of matanos levyonim is to give tzedakah to two people.
(On the other hand, if you were trying to ask if the mitzvah is only to give to people, then the answer is yes. No mitzvah to give to pets.)
dont feel like reading through the whole thread but my teenage daughter wants to know if she could dress up this purim. initially i said no because i felt it would not be tznius but what do people here think? should i just change my mind say yes?
In some communities the women dress up. In other communities they don’t.
Is your daughter going to a school-sponsored function where there girls are expected to dress up? Is she just going to be hanging out with friends? Does the school have a policy? What do the other people in your community do?
Is it just me, or do others also see the use of the word “guy” when associated with someone learning in yeshiva, but when he is working he is suddenly only a “boy”.
It used to drive me crazy when I was in my 20s and being called a single “girl” while an 18-year-old would be a married “woman.”
However, when a friend who is my age became a “bubby” I didn’t mind being a “girl” as much as I used to.
(BTW, I still won’t admit to being older than 25.) 🙂
I agree with dunno. I’m getting a bit tired of hearing about people who have been dating for 2 or 3 or 5 years and still single. Yes, it’s difficult for them when their friends are becoming parents. My friends are becoming grandparents.
point b) well lets see. Boys a has a choice to date girl A (age 23) or girl B (age 19) if he is encouraged to date girl A then girl B just lost out on a date. pretty simple formula.
According to your age-gap theory, there are more boys in girl B’s age cohort so she will have plenty more opportunities. She just may have to wait a year or two until they are ready.
Anonymrs: For the costumes, put one in a black top, white pants/skirt and the other oppposite. If you’re handy with a needle, you can cut a shirt and pants/skirt (don’t know if you have boys, girs, or both) in half and re-sew the pieces together so the left is white and the right is black or vice versa.
I also thought of black and white cookies. Can you buy jelly beans separately? If so, you can get black and white ones. Licorice. White chocolate.
If I think of anything else, I’ll get back to you.
You’d have to be 69 years old or older to have been born when that song first became popular.
As I said, it’s before my time.
ronrsr: Those are great. Had me lol. Thanks.
Mrs. Doubtfire:
Salsa (green and/or red). Roasted red pepper dip or carrot dip (various recipes available online). If you want to use salads instead of, or in addition to, dips/spread, you can use beets or purple cabbage, or make a salad of green, red and yellow peppers.
Anonymrs:
For the food?
For the costumes?
Bemused: It looks to me as if you punctuated correctly. It doesn’t look at all like a run-on sentence to me. 🙂
Bemused: Not like me at all. I suppose some of those sentences are a bit long, but they aren’t run-on as far as I can see. However, there are a few typos that got through. Sorry.
I once had a problem that I knew could be successfully treated by my chiropractor. Unfortunately, I was in terrible pain and my MD was closer. What she did for me was almost worthless, but the pain pills allowed me to get to the chiropractor who was practically a miracle worker.
And important thing to point out is that there are various chiropractic techniques. For the problem I had he needed to see me every week or two. Other people who went to other chiropractors were surprised. Once said it shouldn’t take more than one treatment (obviously she wasn’t familiar with my problem) and another said I should be going much more often.
When I asked my chiropractor about this, he told me the standard protocol would be for me to get treatments three times a week for six months. Instead, with the technique he uses, I didn’t need to see him that often, and I was fully pain free in about six weeks.
estherh: I am so sorry for your loss, and so sorry you had to hear such a comment.
It was forwarded from somewhere else. But it was written by Mrs. Chana Rose and the e-mail said it appeared in the Yated Ne’eman last week.
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I find this part to be troubling, should parents be choosing a mate for their children? I don’t have a problem with parents finding their children dates but that’s a far cry from choosing a mate for them.
ydkm: I think you might be misinterpreting a bit. You have no problem with parents finding dates for their children. Why are they finding dates? To go to a movie and have good time? Or are they choosing dates to be a potential mate for their children? Therefore, shouldn’t the parents think “is this a good spouse for my child”?
I just got this in my e-mail and had to share it.
LESS ON THE SHIDDUCH CRISIS
Yes, I am a shadchan, but guess what, so are all of you! Every single member of klal yisroel has not just the potential but the achrayus to be actively involved in this avodas hakodesh. I propose that we get to work and solve the Shadchan crisis once and for all.
Let us fill our newspapers with articles on Ahavas Yisroel, helping others, eliminating machlokes and speaking less loshon horah and in that zchus, I trust that the Ribono shel Olam will shower our children with beautiful, meaningful, long lasting marriages.
smartcookie:
I don’t remember the technical term for it (and I’m way too lazy to look it up), but it’s an incomplete sentence. Completed it would be:
My alter-ego is a bit more excitable than I am.
You are allowed to leave off that last verb, but you can’t change the pronoun.
That reminds me of a story my former boss told me. His teenaged son played piano. Quite well in fact. Anyway, the radio was on and they were playing a Sonata that his son plays. His 3-year-old stood in front of the radio saying, “I’m here Dovi. I hear you playing.”