Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
Oh, believe me I have been unconventional almost for as long as I’ve been conventional, and @ 23, dating for 5 years well, you do the math… I simply dont have patience for things to “fall into place”.
Can we please come up with a definition of “older single”? I don’t consider Sacrilege an “older single.”
Double your age and add some. Then quadruple the amount of time you’ve been dating. That is an older single!
My parents owned a small business and worked together. They each had different areas that they were responsible for and that worked. On the few things that overlapped, there were sometimes arguments. I also worked for them frequently. There were no problems between my parents and me.
When they retired I was too young to take over the business, and I don’t think I would have been any good at it anyway, so they sold it.
How do older singles stay moral throughout a lifetime of singlehoodness?
By knowing the difference between right and wrong.
And btw, how many of those answering (other than yours truly) are actually older singles?
There is a fascinating shiur on this subject by Rabbi Dr. Akiva Tatz. It’s available online. In case the mods don’t allow this link, you can google it. It’s called “The Twins Decision.”
haifagirl – how are you? anything you can report for us?
All I really know is what I read on YWN. From where I live I can’t really see anything, but on the bus I could see the smoke.
One of the teachers told me he had a student this morning who is a former firefighter. He said since the smoke is now orange, and closer to the ground, it means the fire is worse today than yesterday.
I wish I had something more optimistic to report.
I don’t have access to good internet connections lately, so I haven’t been posting so much. But B”H I’m okay. I live in Hadar (one of the charedi neighborhoods in Haifa), and we have not been evacuated. From the bus on my way to work I can see the smoke billowing, but during the day I can’t see flames. Last night, at the bus stop on my way home from work, I could see some flames in the distance. The entire sky over there was orange.
Please daven for rain and for a quick end to this fire.
Thank you for your concern.
I have done more effective research. I have gone to several dozen American weddings over the past several years. Including at least 5 in Chicago.
Your point is?
Because it is something common in the goyish world, we can’t do it, even though it is practical and would save money? Isn’t that a foolish attitude?
And I’ve been to many weddings over the years too. Some in Chicago, some in Northlake, some in Rosemont, some in Niles. What does that prove?
My brother can’t stand when people talk differently to a baby. He always said the kid will understand you much better if you say, for example, “crib” instead of “criby.”
That reminds me of a woman who once told me her children really like me because I talk to them as if they are people.
“Well, aren’t they?” I asked.
You would be more convincing if your screen name was something else. Like, oh, I don’t know, chicagogirl?
How would that make it more convincing?
Try googling “disposable wedding cameras” and see what turns up.
don’t incorrige ICOT, he’s incorrigible.
🙂
haifagirl: Disposable camera’s??? i hope your not serious.
I’m sure what you meant to say was: Disposable cameras?! I hope you’re not serious.
Please spell, capitalize, and punctuate properly when addressing me. And yes, I was serious. It’s not that uncommon.
This isn’t “English” since he was Austrian, but I just heard Mozart on YWN Radio. Cool!
Flowers – in Chicago there is a gemach for centerpieces.
Liquor – while I enjoy a drink as much as the next person (okay, more), it’s not necessary.
Orchestra – one-man band
Photography – get disposable cameras and put one on each table. Get a few extra to give to trusted friends for the chuppah.
And I find it hard to believe you can’t find anything less than $50/person.
Help me out here, please –
What’s a good abbreviation for someone who’s a Wise Old Lupine Fellow?
🙂
This is a bit “out of the box,” but have you thought of places other than traditional wedding halls? For example, Oakton College has huge meeting spaces which would actually work very nicely for a wedding. I don’t know how much they charge, though.
Bnai Ruven doesn’t seat more than 100 with a dance floor. KINS gets crowded at more than 200 with a dance floor.
How many people do you need to have?
And here’s a good case for EDIT:
And don’t complain that 25 minutes is too shorrt, cause it used to only be 5 minutes…
Had you edited it, you could have removed the extra “r” in “shorrt,” and moved the misplaced modifier.
Since mdd alredy showed that someone who throws his nails on the floor is a rasha why are you boasting about it?
Some people don’t seem to have a sense of humor.
wallah
Wallah? Mah zeh “wallah”? Did you, perhaps, mean “voila”?
I was quite surprised by the opening post. I wondered if I had been out of Chicago that long that all the wedding halls had closed. (I also thought the Concord was the expensive place to which you referred. I always thought of K.I.N.S. as the affordable one.)
I’ve been to several beautiful weddings at K.I.N.S. I’ve been to beautiful weddings at B’nei Ruven and F.R.E.E. I’ve been to several beautiful weddings in a lot of different hotels. I was even at a wedding at the White Eagle, although why someone would want to get married in a place with Polish paintings all over the place is beyond me. But I’ll bet it was not expensive.
Did you call a caterer? A lot of times they know of places off the beaten track that are more affordable.
I have a Yiddish name and the Israelis can’t seem to get it. They keep calling me by my middle name. (I’m talking non-frum Israelis. Most of the frum ones have heard of my name and don’t have a problem with it.)
Would you invite your Jewish co-workers and exclude your non-Jewish co-workers? If they knew about it would that be a kiddush Hashem?
What about your non-Jewish supervisor?
It is my understanding that the reason it is called “3 meals” is because we are required to eat 3 meals on Shabbos, but don’t get “credit” for the first two until we’ve eaten the third.
Mod.80
If you eat Fleishigs by shalosh seudos then what do you eat for Melava Malka?(left overs from shalosh seudos?)
Why are you assuming he eats fleishigs for lunch? I know a lot of people who don’t.
There are yeshivos that aren’t in Yerushalayim. In other places there may not be as many temptations.
Opposite sex is the same as opposite gender no?
No. “Sex” refers to the characteristics that differentiate a male from a female. If you’ve ever filled out a form for a driver’s license or a medical history form, they asked for your “sex,” not your “gender.”
“Gender” refers to masculine or feminine in relation to language. That is, “???” is masculine and “????” is feminine.
When discussing English music, the name Henry Purcell must be mentioned. Some wonderful compositions.
Absolutely. And let’s not forget John Field.
I guess the answer to that question is me.
The Wolf
Me too.
opposite s*x
Thank you chesedname. That is a great solution to the problem of people using gender when they really mean s*x. I wish I had thought of it.
And how many problems have they had with flights that originate at Ben Gurion? Zero. And they don’t have the intrusive security.
Hebrew on a Mac:
Click on the little flag in the upper, right corner. Click on “Open International.” Add Hebrew. Then to change back and forth, just click on the flag.
I’ve eaten in the homes of many choshuva rabbis and never have I seen any of them force their kids to stay at the table.
The parents should say something to the kid and make it clear that he/she belongs at the table.
Well, there’s a good way to make sure the kid hates Shabbos. Way to keep him on the derech.
It depends on the age of the child. For sure younger children should not be kept at the table. Try sitting at a table where people are speaking a language you don’t understand. That’s exactly what your child is going through. (Thank you Rabbi Noach Orlowek for that.)
If memory serves me correctly, I believe the “statue of limitations” kicks in after conviction (and sentencing?). I forget what the time period is.
Before conviction there is no statue of limitations, and the accused can be brought to trial for the crime any amount of period after is occurred.
Is that any relation to the Statue of Liberty?
I agree it is disrespectful. However, I do it. I am sitting behind the mechitzah, so the rav can’t see me. And everyone knows I don’t know Hebrew well enough to follow what he is saying.
However, there is another shul where I go and a woman gives a shiur to the women. In that case I do pay attention even though I catch about one word of every ten.
From my pre-frum days: octopus. Yuck!
I walked up to the tayelet today. Not that unusual in that I used to do it regularly. But this is the first time I did it since I moved farther downhill.
I take the paper off, put it in a loaf pan, cover it with spicy duck sauce and bake at 400 for 1 1/12 to 2 hours. It’s yummy.
I was thinking about this thread last week in shul, and I meant to post after Shabbos but forgot. I’m glad I waited.
Both last week and this week there was an aufruf (two different shuls). There were a lot more people than usual. If ever there was an opportunity for someone to walk in front of another while that person was davening, this was it.
IT DIDN’T HAPPEN!
So much for “the numbers are high.”
Just a thought:
Is the reason you seem to think it happens all the time, and I’ve rarely seen it because I daven in the Ezras Nashim and women are better at following halacha, or more informed, than men?
People who want expanded social services should read Atlas Shrugged.
100% of shuls? 99% of the kehilla?
Where do you daven? I think I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen someone walk in front of someone davening and still have fingers left over.
haifagirl: of course that’s why you have to have a responsible midwife who can recognize problems the second they come up so you can get to a hospital on time.
Absolutely right. Although in her case it came up very suddenly and was very serious. She wouldn’t have made it to the hospital.
i know this is really off-topic, but i can’t tell you how disappointed i was when i found out that in e”y they discourage home birth to such an extent that they won’t pay you the regular social security or wtvr they call it here that you get paid for having a baby. they consider it majorly irresponsible, etc. i was soooooo upset!! that now i’ll have to go the hospital, hate hospitals…
I remember a woman I met in a class I took in college. She had had seven uneventful pregnancies and seven uneventful deliveries. She was still young and about as low-risk as you could get with child #8.
A problem came up suddenly during delivery. Had she not been in the hospital, both she and the baby would probably have died.
Okay. Got a reply.
I wasn’t right about the location. He said the reason he doesn’t ask for it is because it’s not needed. Only the address is needed.
And he also said:
“Again, everyone should sell their chometz – regardless.
“Less than a kezayis we’re mevatel.
“We also sell any chometz we may not know about (even though in truth we are mafkir that too).”
do you sell chametz that you dont know about? im not sure but i believe you only sell that chametz of which you are aware. we rely purely on bitul for the chametz we dont know about (again, i think)
Good question. I’ve e-mailed my rav. However, I do know he holds that when you sell your chametz you put down just your address and not the physical location (3rd cabinet from the right, top shelf of the pantry, etc.) in case you forget where you put something, in which case it wouldn’t be included in the sale. At least I think that’s what he said once before. I guess I’ll e-mail him again. 🙂
i believe charlie said that they get rid of all their chametz so there is nothing left to sell
It really hasn’t been a burden to eat it all up, or give it to a non-Jew.
And if there’s a crumb somewhere in the house he didn’t know about? (And I know a lot of people who have found stuff larger than a crumb.) Then he owned chametz on Pesach. And the chametz that is absorbed in his keilim? Or does he kasher everything that can be and break what can’t be?
To charliehall: Have you asked a rav about this policy of yours?
Here in Haifa the city has employees clean the sidewalks every day. (I hate to think what they would look like if they didn’t.) When I pass one of these men doing a job I would really hate to do, I always thank him. I wonder how many other people do?
My wife and I have never used mechiros chametz. It really hasn’t been a burden to eat it all up, or give it to a non-Jew.
I’m not sure what you mean. Do you mean you simply get rid of all chametz food in your house, or do you mean you don’t even sign the contract with a rav to sell your chametz?
I used to have an Israeli classmate, and he used to do the same thing. Eventually somebody explained to me that it’s a cultural difference; in EY, pushing somebody out of the way is the American equivalent of an “excuse me.”
I recently heard a story about a 10-year-old Israeli boy who took a trip to England. When he came back and was asked about his trip, he said England was very nice, but the people were so rude.
It seems he was eating and the person next to him asked him to pass the salt, which was in front of this boy. He couldn’t understand why the guy couldn’t just reach over and get it. Why did his eating have to be interrupted just to pass someone the salt?
What we think of as rude, is sometimes just a cultural difference.