FIRST OF ALL, I want to say thank you to everyone for answering, like I said before, it REALLY means a lot to me that everyone cares enough to be so helpful with their advice and help!

going wayy back, thanks well informed yid for being so honest. Forgot to mention that before.

btw i once asked in class how a goy can say shelo asani goy, and my teacher told me that in essence when a person converts they become totally new, so they are not that person who was a goy anymore. hashem creates them again, so really, their new self was never a goy. so they can say it.

and also it’s come up many times in class, over the years, that question about what happens if a baby was converted, and what they do then (i don’t even think any of the times the question was asked by me) and the teachers always said the same thing – that they just have to reaffirm it by their bar or bas mitzvah and theyre good. i can’t say that i know for certain that that is the actual halacha, but by the fact that i’ve heard many teachers say the same thing, i pretty much accepted that as the general rule.