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@Ofcourse-

So instead, the boys are in a no-win situation. Either they say no to the girls in advance, thus eliminating the pain of rejection but opening themselves up to being called “unreasonably picky” by shadchanim who just “know”, despite having never met either party, that “it’s bashert, and you’re throwing your life away by not picking up on it!”; or, they finally give in, say yes to the girl, have an absolutely miserable time on the date that they never wanted to be on in the first place, and are then labeled “well I won’t call you off the derech, wink wink”.

Poppa –

Is it really your birthday, or is it just another story you’re making up? :-p

Dunno if this is the situation here or not, but I often get red names of girls that for some reason or another I have no interest in dating, and I don’t always want to tell the shadchan why. That being said, though, her response to you was disgusting.

@BSD:

Considering that I am tired of going out with girls who think that Martini is an upscale clothing store on 13 Ave, yes, if I got a girl who ordered a martini I would give her a second date.

Empire State College

Walden University

University California Southern

University of Phoenix

I’m sure there are more…

Seems to me that adding a date can ruin an otherwise good beer, whereas adding a beer can enhance an otherwise bad date.

@fan of pd-

Yup – neither one can quite tell whether or not something is in the ballpark.

Maybe Sterling should switch to doing shidduchim…

“I tell you, you can’t predict Shidduchim! You know why? Cuz every day, the bochur changes!”

“Help keep your family safe and secure w/ Dor Yeshorim…”

What’s a good idea for the first date? “It always begins with a walk…”

How should I set up the next one? “…send a TEX MESSAGE!”

What if I show up in a minivan? “She’s….GONE!”

@AZ-

That was my point. We can crunch the age gap numbers from today until tomorrow and cry all we want, but the fact is that there ARE enough boys out there for all of the boys. Why it’s taking so long for them to find each other, only HKBH knows, but I believe 100% that He has a plan to match us all up.

Yes, AZ, you must be right – Hashem obviously did not create enough boys for the girls.

Maybe I’m unfamiliar with the age gap, or maybe I just have the bitachon that Hashem has a shidduch for me and everyone else who’s still looking.

@AZ

“Mod 80: Navi Sheker

about the boys perhaps true about the girls false”

First of all, he is no more of a navi sheker than you are, and at least he’s optimistic and believes that there is Someone up there who has the right one for each person, no matter what gender. I’m not good at math, and I’m certainly not good at biology, but I’m pretty sure HKBH knows them both pretty well.

And besides, the girls are just as likely to get married as the boys are.

@Wolf –

Dunno what the Wikipedia writer was on, er, referring to, but I have a Masters in psychology and am in the midst of the doctorate program and have yet to have had a use for any trig (which is good, because I didn’t know it in high school, and don’t know it now). Statistics yes, but not trig.

@Charlie –

I forgot the Rav you mentioned who earned a PhD in chemistry (I’m not going to go looking for it again), but I doubt he would say chemistry is an important topic for every single person to know.

@Midwest2 –

CHILL! If HIE wants to use texting language on this forum, what’s it to you? And you people say New Yorkers are uptight…This isn’t a medical journal, there’s no problem with using “cuz”.

Wolf –

I think killing oneself and killing someone else are two completely different deviant thought processes (b”h I’ve never really thought about doing either one); I don’t think a suicidal person is necessarily a danger to others. (Obviously, there are some cases where you’d be right, but I don’t think that that’s the case across the board.)

Raya –

I would say it depends. Some people just have aggressive personalities, as do many members of their families, and in those cases, there may be several relatives who are predisposed to becoming abusers (although there is no guarantee that they will).

However, many people become abusers do to their own experiences (NOT EXCUSING IT IN ANY WAY!!!!!), and that would be irregardless of family. There’s a caveat though – let’s say one’s father was abusive, so he grew up with that and it becomes ingrained in him, he may indirectly be abusing because of his father. Not genetic, but due to family experience.

Basically, it can go either way.

Don’t even bother, Cedarhurst. Apparently it’s the “in” thing now to blame the bad, bad boys for all of the problems.

Aries –

I’m pretty sure the R’ Moshe p’sak is talking about year round, not Sefirah or the 3 weeks. I’m not saying no one says it’s okay, but we don’t go heter-shopping.

Um, probably, yeah. But what type of Yeshiva are we talking about? He came home for the day, or for Shabbos, or what? Do you know who his friends generally are? As they say in the Chinuch Roundtable, we really need more facts…

I’m sorry, but for all of the complaining that everyone does – especially about this topic – let’s think for a second. Yes, back in the last generation, there was not nearly the amount or variety of Jewish music that we have today. But that doesn’t mean that all of that generation’s kids were listening to the stuff that you are looking at nostagically – in reality, most kids were listening to goyishe music (officially, as opposed to now) and it was considered acceptable. Between the two choices, I’d much rather my kids be listening to what’s available now. Anyway, what makes a song Jewish or not? Is it the words? The music? Who originally sang it? What if it’s an old goyishe song, but someone adds in the words “oy oy oy” – is that “megayer” the song? The whole issue is subjective anyway, and the matziv now is a whole lot better than it was then.