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D B-M, in one word- daven!
Before you get upset, let me tell you I was quite upset myself with how other posters made assumptions: you have no job, you’re not looking for a job, you don’t have the brains to apply for public assistance, etc etc. So I’m not trying to jump on the overcrowded bandwagon and make the most insulting assumption of all- that you ch”v do not daven. Just asking you to keep in mind that the key to parnassa is not in the hands of the Government of the United States, or the posters of the CR. Lipa seems to be out of favor here, but he may have been on to something with his “heib auf deine h…”.
I think it would be kind of all of us to have you, and anyone else who approaches us for financial help, in our tefillos. I understand that people are not always eager or able to open their wallets- fear of being scammed, fear of strangers, lack of funds; a sincere heartfelt prayer can never hurt. And there is never any excuse for turning a disagreeable chilly face to another person.
OOM, I think your mother was referring to stone fruit: peaches, nectarines, plums, apricots; apples, pears, citrus, can be refrigerated with no ill effect.
Did you mean “haute couture,” rebdoniel?
Or were you just trying to make sure we all know your right-wing frum background is intact and unsullied by association with any BT’s?
I’m actually flummoxed to the point of breathless bewilderment by some of the comments here.
Questions: Do I know any of the people here in real life?
Where do these ideas come from?
Newsflash Yidden– We’re all Yidden. Yes, all of us. Even the guy next door who pronounces his daughter’s name funny and takes forever to finish bentshing.
“Where is everyone?” Wisey asks-
Out on a date.
The guys that is.
Everyone here knows the girls can’t get dates.
Hmmm
Something here doesn’t add up.
Maybe P bar Abby can help?
Or perhaps a clear sign of offices, banks and other places of employment being closed, and non-Jewish teachers celebrating their holiday and requesting the day off.
Good advice PBA, I hope Miss Gem is paying attention. You need to look for more than just the OU (or Israeli equivalent) sticker. The heating, cooking, serving, can raise all sorts of kashrus problems.
I hope you do have an awesome time! Das’ advice was best of all. If you can extend your trip and get to know the land a little better on your own, you won’t regret it!
Dear Popa,
Your wisdom astonishes me. In a good way. And I love how you answer everybody. I actually did notice frum in the tum’s post and I also noticed you skipped that one. I thought it was because you agreed with my (unvoiced) assessment that it was completely unworthy of having any attention at all paid to it. Matter of fact, it made me wonder (not for the first time) what makes the mods delete some posts and leave others. Their ways are a mystery.
Agree??
Perplexed
Very interesting, Ender.
Health, I loved that you were careful to specify that he”ll sing the different tune AFTER he recovers from the stomach illness.
Precision in Halachic matters is not to be taken lightly!
Quenelles are delicious.
Recipes?
On another thread perhaps, lest we raise the ire of troll seeking members and strictest mods.
Ok, this is the point where I raise a resounding “Objection!”.
Those of you who take note of CR history will know that I’m a relative newcomer here. And I’m definitely not one of the 10, 15, or even 50, most famous & influential posters. Maybe you never even noticed that I am a poster!
For a long time I got used to reading inside jokes, comments, etc about someone named Joseph. In recent days the plot thickens further and becomes a bit sordid. Ok fellow members, I may not be privy to your Joseph jokes, or aware of exactly what’s going on, so I skip over to the threads that I find more interesting & comprehensible. But when some of you, for reasons only understood by yourselves I presume, decide that the story of Joseph in the CR should be linked to the name of Yosef Hatzaddik- that is where I object, protest, and request that the venerable, famous, longtime posters here take a breather and think before setting their keyboards in motion.
Thank you!
Hakatan– What?? He was serious?? Impossible!
Shmendrick– LOL! Thanks! You gave me my first good belly laugh of the day. (If you frequent the internet – although that may also imply you are wearing a colored shirt – you may find the relevant medical articles suggesting you also boosted my immune system and provided me with a host of other health benefits.)
sw3, I have come out of retirement / emerged from hibernation because your post was one I could not ignore. I have no personal experience with your issues, and am in no way qualified to give you guidance. However, as a member of the human race, I am quite familiar with all manner of pain, emotional and other, and with the feeling of being alone in a room (or blog) full of people, who I’m sure can’t imagine what I’m feeling. I wish I could find the right words to offer you some comfort in the face of the horrible things you have experienced. I want to thank you for your post. I don’t know if it has given you any amount of solace, but I feel it was extremely important for all the rest of us to read. Also, if you are familiar with the vagaries of the CR, you will know that the nitpickers in our midst cannot resist typos, poor spelling, and grammatical errors; and in addition to the facts and sentiments expressed, your post was beautifully and cogently written.
Curiosity, Exactly.
Thank goodness AZOI!
You had me all nervous there for a minute.
Specially when i saw your first two initials.
I thought you were signing in to suggest we need to start buying the older ones.
Mikehall, we, the Jewish people, do not “probably deserve what we have gotten since the beginning of time” as you wrote. We most definitely deserve every punishment and tzara that has ever befallen us. The judgment of H-m is perfect in every way; there is never any question of a person suffering through something they do not deserve.
What I find extremely offensive is when people like you presume to tell us why we deserve to be in Galus. There have been great Talmidei Chachamim who have pointed out areas of improper behaviour or lax observance that can cause, or already caused, troubles to come upon us. But for the common man (I’m sorry if you find it insulting to be included in this category) the proper approach is to examine our own deeds and see where there is room for personal improvement; not to point fingers and decide that we are privy to understanding the workings of HKB”H, which most of us cannot fathom.
(b) (d) (e)
Oy!
Or am I the one who misunderstood??
Wedding gift- probably bad idea. Ask.
I’m not the resident CR poseik so I decline to suggest an answer.
I’m not sure I understand zahavasd & Wolf who seem to be saying that the problem with shidduchim today is that people are too picky and too quick to find fault. I also find the new cultural norm of finding fault with plastic tablecloths and obsessing about dress sizes to be unseemly, inappropriate & destructive. But health is something we all pray for and beg HKB”H to grant us. I don’t think you can equate someone wishing to go into marriage with a healthy spouse, to all those people out there with lists of criteria full of narishkeiten.
yitzchok & yaakov, i think you misunderstood. The OP is not giving a wedding gift. Just a gift.
I like the mezuzah idea, but I wonder if there’s a problem with putting a mezuzah in a position where it’s likely to be disposed of disrespectfully?
From the perspective of a married person, and as such my answer is of course hypothetical, sorry, but, No.
MediumThink, it’s not that I disagree with your comment, but please, a little respect!! This is the YW CR, not, as you so insolently refer to it “some blog”!
Thanks, ZK.
No kidding, Mr 42!
Shoestore a, should that maybe be a “Tes” not a “Tav” in that last word?
I hope you”ll tell us, Wolf, that your Zaidy lived to see you born, and to enjoy the thrill of a grandson!
(Calm down all you posters who are thinking of calling me a misogynist; I’m sure Wolf’s grandfather loved all his daughters dearly.)
Hello there feif un! You still with us? You really left? And Morahrach, this is for you too. You’re not planning on running off too, are you?
Let’s not get so excited. Nobody’s hating anybody. All those venerable posters who can quote rishonim and achronim on matrilineal descent, patrilineal descent, and shaking hands with members of the opposite sex, are fully aware of the absolute prohibition against feeling, even in the innermost, hidden recesses of their good Jewish hearts, one drop of hatred for any fellow Jew. Jews do tend to feel passionately about things. We’re an opinionated bunch. Our first and greatest leader referred to us, his beloved nation, as an “Am k’shei oref.” And we haven’t survived 2,000 years of Galus by not standing up for what we think and believe. But please don’t take it all personally. Don’t join dolphina, whose post was one of, if not THE nastiest I have ever seen here, finding vitriol and hatred where there really wasn’t any. Did she come here expecting everyone to smilingly and nebbishly agree with every opinion she holds dear? The CR, kishmo kein hu, is here to put our feet up, enjoy an imaginary cup, and hear what the other fellow has to say.
If we all start to take ourselves too seriously we”ll have to rename it The Hallowed Hall of Cogitation, or something equally offputting. And then EVERYONE will leave for greener, more relaxed pastures.
Chas veshalom!
Sushee, you really think it’s in my hands to allow or disallow any segment of the population to assimilate? I know I’m one of the best posters the CR has, but really, you’re making me blush. And giving me too much credit.
MO schools have their problems; they also have their challenges, one of those being that some of their students start off from day 1 very weak in their Mitzvah observance.
If Rabbi Pruzansky wants to ask us, as parents, to strengthen our homes and the chinuch we give our children, then that is something we can all take to heart, whatever schools we send our children to. (Personally, I have been dismayed to see one of the things he mentions- children participating in sports on Shabbos afternoons dressed in a way that is not in the spirit of Shabbos Kodesh. The gift of Shabbos has the potential to imbue our children with Kedusha, and it’s sad to see the gift squandered in the name of physical fitness.)
However, if you want to take a study whose author, and his methodology and biases, are unknown, and use that study to malign a large segment of our people, then sorry, but I’m not buying in. And if you think that you’ll save all the poor, misguided MO Jews from assimilation by slandering them and their educational system then we all have a bit of a problem. I think more than a bit.
MediumThinker, before everyone starts excoriating you for daring to mention such a non-PC issue as aprreciating yichus in shidduchim, let me add that this dates back to Avraham Avinu sending his eved, Eliezer, to find him a wife for Yitzchak who was not from Bnos C’naan. Eliezer himself was a C’naani with daughters, and may have found this less than comfortable, but Avraham needed a daughter-in-law from a better family. Of course the individual is what matters, and our history is replete with geirim and ba’alei teshuva who were great people and made outstanding contributions to Yiddishkeit; nonetheless there is nothing wrong with factoring in yichus mishpacha when considering a shidduch.
Thanks, Yussel.
So nice to read a happy post from a happily married poster!
I always liked happy endings!
“Studies”, especially those without clearly defined origin and authorship, hold as much weight with me as polls predicting who will win on November 6. This is not the time to get all judgmental (and worse) with a large segment of our community. We need each other more than ever, it seems to me.
When you need guidance in halacha or hashkafa, consult a Rav who follows your derech, be it yeshivish, chassidish, MO’ish, or whatever you prefer. But the rest of the day, keep the studies to yourself, and remember how Hillel defined the Torah al regel achas.
An recent article regarding new neuroscience research on handshakes found,
This puts a new light on the fact that some poskim find a handshake assur in all circumstances, as if it were considered an act of chiba, and others do permit the handshake under certain circumstances.
Of course, halacha lema’aseh, we follow the guidance of our Rav.
But interesting nevertheless.
Good morning.
Someone decided to wake up an old thread.
So, for my part, what I didn’t understand in the whole long discussion was the poster (was that you oomis?) who thought keeping Shabbos is in the W”T (I realized the poster meant Written Torah) but being shomer negia is not in the W”T.
What? Yes, Shabbos is in the 10 Commandments. So is the prohibition against arayos. Nowhere in the W”T are the 39 melachos of Shabbos mentioned. So nowhere in the W”T do you find out you can’t grind peppercorns onto your salad or pick out the little bits of scallion you don’t like or pick the herbs in your windowbox or turn on the dishwasher on Shabbos. You have to study Halacha for that through Torah Shebe’al Peh. Likewise for arayos, where the details are in Torah Shebe’al Peh.
It’s unfortunate that some people find the weak Torah observance by the earliest immigrants to America to be normative or even preferred behaviour. Nobody is trying to judge them, the challenges were immense; but longing nostalgically for the bad old days before Rav Ahron Kotler, Rav Moshe, the Satmar Rav, the Lubavitcher Rebbe, and many others too numerous to list brought true Torah observance to America, is foolish and misguided.
To oomis-
Yom huledet sameach!!!
Many many Happy returns!!!
So, how was it?
Hope it all turned out well in the end.
May this be the first of many jitters.
First date jitters.
Walking to chupa jitters.
Walking out of elevator onto maternity floor jitters.
First PTA as a parent jitters.
Letting her cross the street to her friend jitters.
Letting him drive the car first time jitters.
A strange boy is taking MY daughter on a date(!!!)jitters.
I know it’s trite. I know it’s banal. But you won’t believe how fast it all flies by and leaves you breathless, jittery, confused, and above all grateful, in its wake.
Wow haifagirl! Impressive post! You should join the CR more often!
How do you get away with it though? I’ve found many members become deeply offended if their spelling/ grammar/ general incomprehensibility is pointed out. We could definitely use someone like you around here!
Myself included…
Hi miss anony!
Not sure what you’re talking about- can you clarify?
I don’t like pigeonholing people, but, yes, I have to admit there are different types and they usually marry within their own community. I can basically define chassidish & litvish (although the litvish I know think they are yeshivish; “litvish” is a word chassidish people use to describe yeshivish. Are you confused yet?)
What do you mean by “heimish”?? Someone who speaks Yiddish? Eats galla? Pronounces the puddings eating at the Friday night seuda “keegel” instead of “kugel”? Or should that be “choolent” instead of “cholent” for Shabbos day seuda? Someone who has mitzva tantz? Someone who wears a gartel? Maybe if you give us a better idea of what you mean, provided you yourself know what you mean (I’m assuming you do), then someone here can help you out.
Ummm, yehuday, your question did get a response. At least 1 that I know of. But it didn’t make it past the vigilant Mods. Apparently it’s difficult to phrase a reply on such an obviously unacceptable subject in a sufficiently modest, uncritical manner. So if you need to know, best to submit query to your LOR. Hopefully the Mods haven’t devised a way to censor his replies!
I declare Whiteberry the winner of Most Brilliant Comment Award!
Enjoying the banter!
Guess what?
The yeshivaworld CR Really is Yeshivish!
I realize we are bending ourselves into pretzels here just to make a nice mixed seating wedding, but that last suggestion just won’t work. With 10 or 12 seats at a table (for the math impaired that’s 5-6 couples) there will always be one lady sitting next to one man who is not her spouse. I’ve been there. Leaving one empty seat is a very costly solution. As anyone fortunate to have paid for a catered simcha knows, you pay by chair or setting. You have to give the caterer an exact count of tables, & settings at each, several days in advance & are charged accordingly.
Wolf, my husband sends me to wash the dishes and take out the garbage.
At a wedding there are waiters and there’s nowhere to send the women at bentching.
Miritchka, stop being annoyed. There are a lot of things tanna’im & amora’im said on a great variety of topics that we cannot understand. Even people who devote years of their lives to studying their words are sometimes left with “teiku.”
In your own world, look around at the Rabbinic figures and young talmidei chachamim that you are acquainted with. I challenge you to find one who expresses any amount of disappointment
at the birth of a baby girl in his family.
Hello AZ!
Nice to hear from you, cuz i was trying to contact you on a “NASI” CR thread, at the same time you were posting here, and couldn’t find a response! So I”ll try posting my question here; hope it’s not too “off topic” to find a place in this thread-
How are things with NASI?
Has the number of shidduchim accomplished in the new program gone above zero?
I have to admit I found your post about SYAS a bit confusing, but a simple yes or no in response would suffice.
Maybe, naysberg, because they’re not going to grow up to become the gadol hador. 😉
Sons AND daughters are the most wonderful amazing gifts that a person can get from H-m. And that’s all there is to say, as far as I’m concerned.
Agree, pet peeve. I can’t imagine why he passed that bit of information on to the shadchan. Pointless & foolish.
Are you sure, Dash?
Presonally, I think the cleaning help in Jewish homes have a good laugh at our expense when they go home. They are treated with kid gloves, paid far more than they are worth, and take major advantage of their employers.
aurora, not meaning to pry here, and i obviously have no idea what issue(s) you are referring to, but i have 2 messages for you:
-I wish you the best of luck in finding someone to share your life with.
-Miracles can happen. Miracles of the sort that can leave medical professionals clearing their throats & scratching their heads.
Are you for real naysberg? Or just having fun here?
How about you just try to raise your son to be a good, happy, ehrlich Yid.
Challenging, but with a lot of effort & even more siyata diShmaya, it may happen.
Wishing you much nachas!
?? Huh?
What snide comments, apushatayid?
Or were you referring to some old, old comments that seemed to take issue with AZ’s ideas?
For my part, i was just wondering. AZ used to be quite a busy poster around here, and always had a good word to add on the subject of shidduchim. I was curious if his latest project has achieved success.
But maybe he threw his computer out after the asifa.