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I’m so sorry oomis.
I think you did not understand Mammele’s post.
May the aveilim, their families, and all of us be blessed with nechamos & yeshuos b’karov.
Agree with REALIST.
Netzach on 16th Ave-
I just happened by recently. Definitely worth the trip. The cuts of meat, the cleanliness, and the prices were impressive.
If you’re in Flatbush not BP, Satmar Meats on J has beautiful roasts, clean chicken, very good service.
Hi SaysMe,
No idea what made you so sad, but sometimes life is just sad…
Not a good time to think about the person down the block who just died, or the person around the corner who just broke their ankle.
Personally, listening to a shiur at a time like that would just give me a headache.
Drowning your misery in food is a really bad idea. (About as good a suggestion as telling you to take up drinking or smoking.)
Definitely good idea to go walking, running, swimming, babysitting, whatever will get you moving and breathing.
Bur sometimes you just don’t feel like it.
So, at the risk of getting all your good friends here a little upset, dare I suggest that it might be ok for a little while to pull the covers over your head (leave a crack for oxygen) and just be sad-?
Hope you’re feeling all better by now and don’t need my 2 cents.
Miss Purple, uh oh…
Storm coming!
Your problems are over by tomorrow morning.
Yehudahy, please enlighten- wouldn’t that be more typical on Twitter- someone letting everybody know what he had for lunch?
And Daas Y, good for your married friend, I suppose, but couldn’t he just have ignored them?
Snowbun, don’t put yourself down. Don’t equate accidentally ripping toilet paper with having issues (Ch”V) keeping Shabbos. First of all you said it was accidental. In addition there are issues of kavod habriyos here, and in certain extenuating circumstances it would be permissible- just STAY AWAY from the perforations, and rip messily in middle of the tissue. Please do not take my advice and act upon it; speak to someone more learned than me, preferably your LOR. Occasionally by accident ripping a hangnail or turning on a light does not mean you are having issues. I’m sure you believe in your heart that keeping Shabbos is extremely important. As long as you give it your best shot and truly want to do it right- you’re doing fine.
PLEASE NOTE!!!
The following applies to both Sephardim & Ashkenazim –
A & B Gefilte Fish is absolutely NOT Kosher for Pesach all year round. It contains actual chametz (Not kitniyos).
A & B does sell specially marked gefilte fish for Pesach.
RebD listed A&B in a paragraph after 9). Perhaps that one item can be edited out of his post. At which point you can remove this post too.
Snowbun, some of the people you see covering their legs with black tights all the time, for instance black tights at a wedding with slingbacks, think they are being fashionable. Perhaps erroneously. This is not to be confused with the people who wear them as a chumra, in which case it’s not Succos to Pesach- (why would the season make a difference as far as tznius is concerned?) it’s all year.
As for the exact halachic requirements, I would like to leave that to the more learned posters who can quote the relevant sources and offer proper references for what they say.
Feel free to consult me on matters of fashion, though.
Tznius, apushatay.
That’s the way it’s done.
nishtdayng, do you feel that you are jeopardizing the stability of zdad’s marriage?
Zdad, with friends like that who needs…
Definitely a good point, lesschum. We don’t know whether or not relationships between husbands and wives are getting worse. We only know that the divorce rate is going up.
So I’m sitting here waiting for AZ to post, (Haven’t heard from you in a while, Mr AZ) with an indignant reply to yehuday, who seems to imply that there’s something wrong with dating Bess Myerson just because she’s 88!
apushatay, I forgot the most important part- According to the Chassidim (who are the ones having the Mitzva Tantz, so let’s respect their intentions) the Mitzvah Tantz is a tremendous eis ratzon to be mispallel. When it’s your turn, have in mind to ask that all the wonderful brachos that can be present in a home set up through kiddushin should enhance the lives of the chassan & kallah for the rest of their long lives together.
Apushatay, not much is expected of you. Semi-discreetly pass the badchan a few $$ and say something friendly to him. Try semi (or not) discreetly to notice how much your brothers (in-law) or others give him. Take the gartel, or sometimes they have a long piece of fabric with kol sasson etc embroidered on it. This will be passed to you by a cute little boy from the family, the badchan, or other guy who got the job. Try to find the perfect balance between looking directly at the kallah and giving her a big goofy grin (Not good) and looking away, ignoring her, and staring at the ceiling (also not good, unless you are an extremely important Rabbi. Do a liitle tantz, sway back and forth a little and move your feet. No major complicated dance steps expected. Since the chosson is your nephew feel free to approach him before the ordeal and ask him to rescue you as quickly as he can. If not possible you can also ask the chosson’s father for the same favor. They”ll walk over, take the gartel away from you and then you get to dance with the chosson, his father and the whole mishpuche.
haifagirl- No, Not Me!
Health, “money took the place of Yiras Shamayim”?
That has to be the saddest comment I’ve come across in the CR.
I hate to think that you might be right.
And I hate to think what it says about our generation.
And I hate to resort to worn-out platitudes and say we need Mashiach already.
But we do.
I don’t think so either, DY. Nobody wants to be rude to Miss Purple. (I’d post a recipe myself if I was more of a baker.)
Haifagirl just couldn’t resist commenting on the viola.
Voila! CR mayhem instead of yummy recipes.
eman, in theory you are absolutely right.
In real life (where most of us are sending our kids to Yeshiva) anyone trying to meet your standards will end up home schooling. Especially now that economic realities are not as rosy as they were a few years ago, the hanhalla is influenced by certain parents. And we all know who they are.
The most we can hope for is that the hanhala will not blatantly favor certain families, and that they will not allow them to have a say in specific matters of chinuch or halacha (e.g. zmanim of tefillos, which masechta to cover, tznius standards).
Zabachur, maybe not more sophisticated. But I’m hoping they’d be a little more into the actual learning and a little less concerned with what kind of boots and eyeliner their compatriots will be wearing and how cute and friendly and chilled and yes/not out of towny their roommates are likely to be. And guys generally expect the learning to be text based and as a result are not as concerned to find out if they’re expected to read Rashi, and sometimes even smaller letters, INSIDE.
Dear P b A,
Interesting discussion up above.
I did find it weird once when I realized a poster thought I was a guy. Poster was very kind about it and did give me a long, detailed, non-insulting explanation for the mistake. (Including fact I am sarcastic. Funny- I never knew men have monopoly on sarcasm.)
Do you think posters should be required to identify themselves as male / female?
Or not?
(We can already tell which posters are, shall we say, below a certain age, so that’s not as much of an issue. And if the Mods want they can keep all males over 11 out of the interminable sem threads.)
Popa- That would be unblemished male rams, 40 days old, that never carried a yoke. (Or was that yolk?)
Surprised at you, Popa. Should’ve known that.
Wife M-
++1
Thanks for writing that.
I can sympathize with Mr Frum, since I also have a hard time having proper kavana when I daven. But he needs to figure out a way to solve his problem without involving this elderly gentleman. And I hope your reply will go a long way towards getting him set on the right course of action.
Is it possible somebody is confusing Arba Kehillos with Sheva Kehillos? Sheva Kehillos were 7 communities in the Austro-Hungarian Empire. One of these was Mattesdorf, where the Chasam Sofer (Rav Moshe Sofer) had his Yeshiva. This would fit in with the discussion.
Veltz, it’s possible you are wrong.
But this is still better than the time a different poster accused me of being a guy.
benign,
Don’t confuse feeling thankful and appreciative of H-m’s boundless gifts with being happy.
All our words our counted.
Even all those comments posted- counted.
Wow!
Just a little note to give us pause…
Shraga18, with all due respect to the Gadol whose inexplicable quote you quoted- if you spend any amount of time in EY, you will notice that most of what people say to you there, from the Rosh Yeshiva all the way down to the taxi driver yelling at you as you navigate the curb, is simply incomprehensible. The whole mentality and lifestyle of people living in EY is about as understandable as quantum physics. Published in Greek. And the relationships between different groups are full of animosity that you will be hardpressed to match. (Unless you wander into a grammar thread on the CR.)
Those of us whose misfortune it is to live in chutz la’aretz can never pass judgement or hope to understand. We can only offer up our most fervent prayers that H-m watch over and protect all the different types of Yidden who live in His land.
Torah613, Really, you are kidding, right?
Such an abject, humbling apology for a spelling mistake?!
Somehow I cannot seem to get my feathers ruffled as much as other posters over grammar & spelling. Even though I do enjoy pointing out the most egregious and/or humorous errors. For which, I might add, I get precious little thanks.
What does irk me a bit is the fact that your name uses “Torah” with a lower case “t”.
Care to change?
Daas Y, that was just an inconsequential addendum.
My “NO” vote was already posted.
Way at the beginning.
Anybody out there keeping count? Making sure ballots are secure? OP?
I’m feeling sorry for the OP. This was supposed to be a thread for votes. Not discussion. Most of you apparently did not bother reading her post.
Perhaps before we address the issue of how, and in what language, posters should be allowed to WRITE their posts, we should encourage the good members of the CR to READ.
Syag- Not even your infants & babies??
My infants and babies woke ME up. All the time.
That is one of the most confounding complications of childraising:
They start by waking you up until you are in a perpetual state of exhaustion; then they turn the tables, feign exhaustion, and don’t let you wake them up!
Where do you find that great music torah613?
Latma is a guilty pleasure? Why guilty? Agreed, it’s good for a laugh. Hard to feel guilty while I’m laughing.
No
Miss Purple, you are sweet!
I realize there is a certain member of the grammar police wishing to have your form of English banned from the CR. But for my part, I’m touched. I don’t think anybody ever told me “toda rabs” before!
Bevakasha!
IMHO this whole “beshert” thing in shidduchim is a little out of hand. Nobody is CH”V denying the undeniable Hashgacha Pratis that determines the progression of our minutes and days. But has anyone else noticed like me that young dating men & ladies will blithely say not to a shidduch on the basis of some minute narishkeit and then say, “well it wasn’t beshert”!? Then they”ll cry about their unending singlehood and insist they’re not being picky, they just haven’t found their beshert.
Miss Purple, “peeps” has not answered your question so I will. Hope that’s ok. Yes, according to halacha the meat has to be cooked before Shabbos. Not totally cooked but more than half cooked and edible (exact amount of “cooked” can vary and this is Hilchos Shabbos we’re talking about, so it doesn’t have to be cooked to a super soft falling off the bone doneness, but it should be cooked.) This does not apply only to the meat; it’s any food you”ll be leaving to cook on the blech. So if you are suddenly inspired to add half a cup of beans or a raw potato to the chulnt on your way to light candles- Don’t!
Nishtdayng, I hate when I ask a question and nobody gives me a clear answer.
So I will answer yours.
No.
Seems to me the issue here is not the value of the bird vs the cost of healing her (you already explained- she’s not worth much), or the act of being kind to an animal (you’ve already made the attempt to help out the poor creature). The issue here is the attachment to a “beloved pet,” as you call her. You and your family members are really the only ones who can figure out how great the attachment to the bird is and how much money you are willing to part with.
There are indeed starving people in need of money, as another poster pointed out, but you have the right to prioritize and set yourself a budget that includes provisions for pet care, or other forms of leisure or entertainment. I wonder if the poster who is so concerned about others going hungry would fault your husband if he bought you a dozen roses, a new piece of jewelry, or a game for the kids.
Gosh rebd, marvelous way with words you have.
Sure know how to spoil someone’s appetite.
Luckily, it’s hours to dinner. And not a floret in sight in my kitchen.
SaysMe, you are a good person!
Pleased to meet you, even if we’re both meeting under assumed names.
It could be that the aforementioned “blur” was created for just this purpose! And it’s great to see someone have the brains to use it as it was meant to be.
Some women, especially those who work or have other obligations out of the home, like to start Pesach cleaning early as it makes them feel calmer. Some women, especially those blessed with little kids who sprinkle cracker crumbs into every nook & cranny as soon as it is sterilized, like to start Pesach cleaning close to Bedikas Chametz. Some women for whom this is something new are not really sure what their plan is and may end up starting way too early or too late. Or both! Some women who have years of experience and have it all down to a science may find their plans disrupted by circumstances- a simcha, an illness, or like oomis (Good luck oomis!!!) a hurricane.
Mr Koillel1 I have one word of advice for how to handle your curiousity about how and when we all manage to clean for Pesach: Help! Help your wife as much as you can and you”ll be too busy to be curious.
Veltz M, love which is a material transaction does exist. It is called “Ahava sheh’tluya b’davar.” As our Chachamim have told us, it cannot last; it is not true, everlasting love.
Although we all think that our emotions affect our behavior- if I’m angry I scream; if I’m happy I smile; it’s a basic concept in Yiddishkeit that our actions influence our thoughts and emotions. Working on our middos and elevating our Neshamos is thus acomplished through actions and mitzvah observance. Not that we need their approval, but in the secular world psychologists also observe that the act of smiling makes us feel happy, and frowning can make us feel more pain. (Interesting to read study on subjects whose smiling is impaired due to Botox injections.) Acting in a giving, loving manner towards another person, will therefore make us feel inside the love we are acting out.
Everyone told me it would all be a blur and I wouldn’t even remember afterwards who I danced with. In reality, I knew exactly who I was dancing with, and who I still felt obligated or wanted to dance with, including the chassan’s sister whom I had barely met before.
You’re welcome Seahorse!
Picturing you in a gown with an ocean theme. Layers of organza shaped like waves billowing behind you in a fishtail train? Swarowski crystal fish in your tiara? Real South Sea pearls fresh from the oyster around your neck?
Whatever you choose, Seah., wishing you a beautiful wedding and many happy years with your prize catch!
Ditto yitzm.
I think that post needs to disappear. Soon.
Mods?
MorahR, I really like that.
Perfect way to make the day special for Kallah & friends without ruining sanctity & beauty of Chuppa.
What do you think Seahorse?
Poster, bridesmaids are not usually little girls. It refers to friends of kallah marching down to chuppa. Definitely not tznius to have teenage or adult females parading in front of a mixed audience all dressed up and made up to the nth degree. (They will assure you the excessive cosmetic application is for the photographer.) Especially inappropriate at a chupa which is a very holy slice of time. However, very common in some circles. I have seen many times; do not feel qualified to pass judgement when I observe since, as I mentioned, some kallahs seem to like it. It is an adopted “minhag” from non-Jewish weddings.
Mazel Tov Seahorse! You should definitely discuss with someone knowledgeable that you feel comfortable with.
Edvard Grieg
Now that’s entertainment!