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There are certain things in life you may not be able to choose. These include, but are in no way limited to, the weather, your siblings, your employer’s mood on a particular day, the winning lottery numbers, the cost of the emergency visit from your friendly neighbourhood plumber, etc.
Some of these unchangeable things can be very stressful. Or not. What you can choose is how you deal with them and react to them. You can choose to do so in a way that will minimize stress to you, and, as an added benefit, to all the people who come in contact with you.
besalel, how could you forget to add Irving Berlin and his dreaming of a white… ???
I guess you do, WIY.
People who come here are spending time posting on the internet.
That rules out a whole category of people you might be more comfortable having discussions with.
Listen to The Goq.
You”ll never regret it.
It’s just wishful thinking.
Everyone would love to be able to claim the magnificent song and the singer as our own.
Sorry.
I noticed, stan, that you wanted to know what the fellas think. Guess you already know the non-fellas, commonly know as ladies, would think it’s a horrendous idea. Call a friend and laugh about how awful it was. If he doesn’t know who you just went out with, you can enjoy describing her down to the last excruciating, grueling detail. And be happy you got off easy, and spent only a couple of hours in her insufferable company. Some people get a life sentence!
Nice, Burnt S!!
This name i a t, you will first have to do some research to determine what exactly is the issur involved in operating an electronic device on Shabbos?
That is great advice, chochom-i !
But how many of us can really truly say we’re enjoying just for the sake of Shabbos ?
Goq, the flavor enhancers you mention contain a lot of artificial sweeteners. These can actually do more harm than good if your goal is to lose weight. I”ll leave it to you to look up the relevant studies. If this is your only alternative to loading up on sugary sodas and juices then use them. But your best bet is always plain water or seltzer. Try dropping in an ice cube and a slice of lime, lemon, or orange.
WIY, Thanks.
Been waiting for someone to say that.
The title of this thread is either ludicrous or sad, depending on your viewpoint.
And I happen to know someone personally who could not sit still since he learned to walk, through adolescence into adulthood, and he’s a huge Masmid. I’m in no position to judge whether or not he is a Gadol, not being intellectually equipped to farher anybody, but his hasmada is legend.
So which category do you belong to, Shopping6 ?
popa b a, does “v’hameivina” count at all?
It depends on when you are ready for the yolk of marriage.
Yeshivaguy, before I begin, let me make myself clear- I’m not an expert at grammar; I don’t have an advanced degree in English; I’ve been guilty of poor spelling and numerous typos.
I once deeply hurt a female poster by getting a great laugh at a ridiculous typo she committed. And making the mistake of telling her, here on the CR. But you’re probably, as your name suggests, a guy, and I’m hoping you won’t get all offended.
I just had to tell you- your “yolk of marriage” was fantastic! I had to share the laughter! And it gave me a chance to ruminate, while finishing my Shabbos cooking, on how marriage is a lot like a runny, messy, gloopy, yellow egg yolk, which is an important ingredient in so many delicious dishes, but can create a spectacular mess if mishandled.
(In case haifagirl is lurking in the background somewhere- yes, I am also guilty, on occasion, of run-on sentences.)
midwesterner, +1,000
Amazing attitude.
I would place my bets the 27 years have been wonderful.
May you be zoche to many more!
Oomis is absolutely right.
I have no idea why so many people disagree with her, and allow shadchanim to run the show.
Gamanit, if you’re a chimpanzee then the situation requires a whole different thread.
If you’re a human, then I’m with oomis on this one. We’ve dissected this (possibly fictional, possibly true, possibly silly, possibly weighty) story to death.
Hatzlacha to all the young men & ladies flying off to Israel soon. Here’s hoping their behavior displays their decorum, modesty and good sense. And may they all arrive with themselves and their luggage intact!
So happy for you, I forgot to answer your question!
DaMo definitely gave you some good advice. I don’t think anyone can tell you what to say. That’s a little silly, no?
But make sure you both have your cell phones OFF. Spend a little time together savoring the moment before the whole balagan starts. And say whatever you feel is right.
You got this far, I’m sure you can do it!
happym, seems like only yesterday you were asking about seminaries. You’re about to get engaged??
Wow!! Mazel Tov!!
Keep us posted…
I once had a professor who was a demon. He did have a beard, however he was very tall.
If any guys from Ohr Sameach see him in Monsey, they are strongly advised to keep their distance from the glow of his malevolent red eyes.
jfem02, you would like to tell us that you are a Jewish feminist. I have a strong suspicion you really are Jewish; however, I think you’re not a genuine, bona fide feminist. An authentic feminist would never dream of spending that much time in the kitchen just to please a male (in this case a husband). But you should be proud of yourself. You sound like a wonderful Jewish wife!
And don’t feel bad. I don’t play golf very well either.
Got it, Pixela.
You meant “Admoni?” From- “Adom,” red?
Pixela, redheads are called Edomi?
Source?
Torah613, you may be acquainted with an individual Sephardic girl who is more intelligent than an Ashkenazic girl; however, in an educational setting you will find that the Ashkenazic students as a whole will score higher on tests and perform better in oral presentations as well. This does not mean that you cannot find a brilliant Sephardic student.
Some studies seem to show certain genetic indicators for higher intelligence to be passed down from the mother’s side. Interesting in light of the fact that young men looking for a bride are cautioned to check out the mother’s brothers. There will always be those who prefer beauty to brains though, and they still stand a good chance of having a happy home and well-adjusted offspring.
Oomis, wasn’t Yekusiel 1 of Moshe Rabbeinu’s names?
I always wondered how it became Zalman.
notsucha16, the answer is simple.
It puts them in the right frame of mind for their years and years of Kollel life following their year of seminary.
Yes, jewishf02, that was what I meant.
I had a good laugh when I saw what the mods put through before I could edit.
Do you think they do it on purpose?
The Mods, I mean.
-Putting through typo-ed posts in a flash, while letting the serious posts languish in cyberspace for hours on end…
jewishfem02, you must be kidding!?
I hope you’re kidding.
NYC Mayoral Race, rebd?
The dissertation was nice and well-written. But I’d sum it up in one word-
Feh
Me too.
Agree with Torah 613, that is.
Can’t help always feeling a little suspicious of these type of threads.
And have had the honor & pleasure of coming across more than a few yeshiva bachurim who did not behave like morons.
Moi a, I always thought that’s the real, genuine, die-in-the-wool Hungarians who get all emotional as the Hoossen and the Kalleh stand under the Huppah by the Hasseneh.
Fry a lot of finely chopped onions and minced fresh garlic in a few tablespoons of oil before you even start. Sprinkle a teaspoon of salt and a half tsp of paprika on top and leave it for a while sizzling gently in your cholent pot. Much better presence and aroma than onion soup mix. If you’re using a lot of ketchup, barbecue sauce, mustard, etc etc then you might be cooking an interesting baked bean type of dish, but it’s not cholent.
A tablespoon or two of ketchup is enough; maybe 1 bbq sauce, and 1/2 or less of mustard if you really want to balance your reds with some toxic yellow. No root vegs besides the aforementioned and potato. Other roots, like parsnips and carrots and beets, should kindly stay away from the cholent pot. A few packets of George Washington Golden, dark & light,will give it a great flavor if you’re leaving out the meat. And if you’re not being too generous with it, a drop of mushroom soup mix (never fresh or canned or any kind of actual mushrooms) can impart some depth.
As for how you can improve, sorry, I really have no advice for you in that department.
But perhaps if you could take the time to publish a small kuntriss on shidduchim (with impressive haskamos encompassing all chugim) you could also personally and entirely be responsible for solving the shidduch crisis.
If you look through some of the threads around here you will see that it seems, ba’u mayim ad nefesh.
Mr. Schmutter,
I consider you personally and entirely responsible for preserving my sanity and well-being during a particularly difficult Pesach by writing “Don’t Yell Challah…”
And I’m sure you know what they say about kol hamekayem nefesh achas…
Can’t think of a sadder, more heartbreaking story than WIY posted.
Thanks, WIY!
As a victim of gawkers when Hatzalah was needed, I’m glad you brought this up. There’s something else I’ve never heard mentioned; I’m hoping because it doesn’t usually happen. It was very embarrassing and upsetting to my family to realize that the whole neighbourhood knew the details of the Hatzalah call due to the lack of discretion of at least one Hatzalah member. While everyone is busy thanking and praising them (as in fact we should), Hatzalah members may forget that they should be careful not to cause unnecessary pain to those they are taking care of by regaling their friends and neighbors with tales of their exploits. Nobody would stand for this kind of “yenta” behavior on the part of other health care professionals. In fact, some of them would probably lose their license to practise for sharing details of their patients’ medical conditions.
Schtiqqy Gai,
Your currant spelling left my mouth tingling (and smiling) from its tangy taste.
Shlufnisht, I have no experience with your problem. I cannot offer you any advice. I felt I had to respond to your post because, as a parent, it’s breaking my heart. Seeing the name you chose to describe yourself hurts, and is so easy to identify with. I know the feeling of missing the sweet days when we lost sleep because our children needed to be fed & rocked & diapered in the middle of the night.
I hope you feel no resentment over the fact that your son has chosen to leave the derech that you must have worked hard to guide him along. The Goq’s comment is emmes. It’s very difficult to fault an individual who must have suffered terribly. We all daven that your son, and others like him, will find their way back to a life of growth & accomplishment.
I expect there may be some small comfort in the fact that your child chose to open up and tell you what he went through. At least now you can begin to try to find a way to help him heal. May you be zoche to yeshuos b’karov, and to see much nachas from your son and all your children.
Melech HaMoshiach is not from Shevet Levi.
Is he allowed on the roof of the Beis Hamikdash?
Must say rebd, you are quite the gourmand!
Yes, pixela, we know, and you are right.
Nobody would dare make an attempt at joking about the tzuris families went through struggling to feed their children.
I belieive Toi & ObstacleI are joking about the inelegant phrasing, which elicits sympathy for the subject of the clause, i.e. slippery bearer of the scales & gills; and not for our poor grandmother stirring the watery pot of soup with her worn wooden spoon while worrying about her emaciated children.
Perhaps Haifag would care to chime in and explain clearly how the misunderstanding arose.
LOLOL , Yehuday.
But I’m still thinking there has to be a better way…
Ironp, you’re young. Without knowing more about your life, I can’t be sure of this- but I suspect this is the first real challenge you’re facing, aside from a difficult final or a baby throwing up on your new sweater while you babysat. The way you deal with it will impact the way you face other trying times that may come your way. Usually, they become more formidable. So stay calm & do it right the first time-
Don’t let your friends, or the glossy ads in your local paper creating (instead of addressing) the shidduch crisis paralyze you with fear and foreboding. You say you went to BY sem. You must have some background then in a bit of Emunah & Bitachon. I know, they’re harder to implement in real life than when you’re raising your hand and declaring how wonderful they are on a random sunny day. But now is when you need them. Open up your Tehillim, call a shadchan, and behave like a mentsh.
One of those “mothers of boys” you’re so scared of is going to become your mother-in-law, so a good start would be not buying into all the hype that turns her into an evil villain. Some shadchanim are not very kind, sometimes because they’re very busy, or not extremely sensitive. There are a lot of really nice shadchanim out there though. This is one area where you might want to get some recommendations from others. And as for the competition, you’re not all competing for the same chassan. This is not that kind of game. You’re trying to find the one person with whom you can build a beautiful home.
Which brings us back to the Tehillim I already mentioned.
Check back in and let us know how it goes…
ubiq, you are absolutely right.
If we follow curiosity’s strange logic, we’re going to have sem graduates paskening for us. (I think we already had a thread on that topic.)
But can you try to do a better job spelling am harotzes? I can’t quite do it myself, but I know there has to be a better way.
Please don’t.
Exactly what I meant when I referred to this thread as being “interminable.”
This whole interminable thread was worth being brought into existence for just my hapence’s greatest CR comment EVER!
Curiosity, those men gonna eat those steaks sizzling right off the grill.
No womenfolk around, no dishes.
Sorry PYeedle, while everyone is getting all steamed up over ben yehuda, you’re being ignored.
I can’t help with your song.
But I can try to help out whatdik99-
Latish in Yiddish is an adjective meaning- fine, superior, solid, quality; usually used with regard to a person who is even a bit more than a ‘mentsh.’
Great Goq!
oomis, +1
No idea what makes Health think women are obligated to leave their homes & work. Didn’t see that anywhere in my Kesuba.
How did Sam2 get his post through?
In the 3 Weeks, no less.
(Not that I disagree with your basic premise, S2, but what language!)
Must be the heat.
Seems like we’re all getting on each other’s nerves round here lately.