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apushata, yes I understood TRUEB as you did.
As for Sam & rationalf, I don’t think an “eis tzarah” is understood as an individual in need of a shidduch (or an individual in need of anything else he feels is important to him). AFAIK an eis tzara is a time when the future of Am Yisrael collectively is at stake. Correct me if you think I’m wrong.
Tefillah b’eis tzara is certainly of great importance. Our chachamim have also instituted other standardized Tefillos for us. But an individual should not pray for his needs after exhausting all other possibilities. Our bakashos should be an ongoing part of our daily communication with our Creator.
TRUEBT, as apushata pointed out- are you saying that Tefillah is most appropriate for times of great distress and suffering? How about, let’s say, a random rainy Monday morning like today?
Kiruv Trollim
This could be the next big thing.
Remember, y’all saw it here first.
Very true, apushata.
I once read a beautiful article on the topic from Rav Y Reisman (Torah Vodaas). I have yet to read a sensible word on this topic here in the CR.
Smartstar, I’m sorry to see that your question was answered with such horrible sarcastic meanness. Personally, I’m more accustomed to daven for a yeshua than to use segulahs, so I can’t answer your post myself. But I do hope your own personal yeshua comes quickly.
Tbontb, Impressive.
I hear you’re appreciating your terrific wife.
But I would love to meet your mother.
Who raised a man like you.
What exactly does it mean when someone answers the phone with-
heyyyyy…
And what exactly is the correct response?
And oomis, is this how you answer your calls?
Tbontb, yes, agreed, chillax will be the order of the day.
No further digressions, please.
Let’s help yeshivabachur (was that maybe his name that made sm29 think he might not fit into an MO crowd? And am I about to get bunches of hate mail informing me that MO is as full of yeshiva bachurim as any other group?) find his place in LA.
Goq, LOL
Get a hold of yourself, PFlower. Nobody here said MO is not frum. You made the assumption yourself and then got yourself all excited. It was just pointed out that a certain neighborhood is MO. That’s all. Please don’t turn this into another – MO-is-great-no-it’s-not-yes-it-is-ad-nauseum thread. We have tons of those already.
And, just for the record, I’m part of a very very mixed family. The super black and white yeshivish, and the full-garb chassidim are never the ones bashing any behavior or hashkafa (although I have on occasion noticed them surreptitiously redirect their eyes) when we all get together at simchas. It’s the MO who always feel they have to poke fun at minhagim they don’t share, and get into long-winded discussions proving how smart they are. The others pass around the Mazel Tovs, tell a few stories, and leave the chakiras for the Bais Medrash.
Ben_Dav, this just goes to show you (and everybody else) – it’s obviously NOT just girls who worry about shidduchim.
All the hype and crises aside, shidduchim can be tough and complicated for guys as well as girls.
What I’ve noticed, keep climbing, is that there’s no formula that will predict who will have a hard time and who will breeze through the whole parsha effortlessly.
I’m sure you know Who’s pulling the strings.
Today is actually a great day to put in a good word for your future home, for yourself and whoever builds it with you. And it’s never too early to start. Translating the worry into Tefillah might be a good way to set yourself up on the path to success.
Thank you, SiDi!!!
Shopping6, “Just get out there!” —
When we hear of someone who has a problem that we’re blessed not to have, or that we’ve already managed to overcome, it’s always tempting to say, “Just get over it already!”
-Just throw away the cigarettes!
-Just concentrate and pay attention in class!
-Just stop eating and go on a diet!
-Just stop biting your nails!
-Just go get a job and you”ll be able to pay the rent!
-Just don’t be so picky and you”ll get married!
It’s not always as simple as it seems.
Keep climbing, I’m glad to hear you’re doing something about your situation and getting yourself real help. I wish I had some good tips for you. The only thing I can suggest is- give yourself time. Change happens slowly. Keep climbing, keep climbing.
Yashi & P, as you saw from my earlier post, I am very much not in favor of people socializing when they go be menachem avel. But now that you clarified what happened to you, I wanted to add that I find it completely unacceptable to ignore someone offering a handshake. Even if that person was not introduced by the avel himself, which was what happened in your case. Ignoring someone like that is not normal behavior anywhere, including a bais avel. The person in question could have politely and briefly returned your gesture, without getting into a noisy conversation with you in front of the avel. You shouldn’t feel offended. You should feel very sorry for the person. If he behaved that way, he nebach clearly has no functioning brain cells.
One of the causes of all the shtus is poor reading comprehension when studying halacha. (Another is not bothering to study at all.)
So- interjection, let’s get your verbs in order.
She cannot be nichshal the rabbim no matter how short her skirts are.
She is being Machshil the rabbim who are then Nichshahl in a terrible aveira.
Yashi & P,
No, it’s not okay.
Brave but true,
Sam2!
(Anyone wishing to move that post to the poetry thread, is welcome.)
Interesting point you made, oomis.
A point that answers a few questions.
And raises even more.
Anonym, you are right that as scientists are making progress in studying genes, it seems that all diseases are genetic. Diseases are caused by mutations in our genes (either one gene, or a few).
That doesn’t mean that all diseases are inherited. Some gene mutations are inherited from our parents. Others are caused by environmental factors that have an effect on our genes after we are born and exposed to the air we breathe, the foods we eat, etc. Genetic mutations can also happen randomly. Some diseases are caused by a person with a specific gene mutation being exposed to environmental factors.
Chinchilla.
-No sugar in potato kugel
-1/3 cup oil unnecessary
Heat 2-3 Tablesp oil in pan in hot oven while grating potatoes. When you’re done with batter, remove pan from oven; pour some of hot oil onto grated potato batter, mix briefly, pour all back into hot oiled pan & return to oven.
-I’d say 1&1/2 teasp salt
-6 potatoes can use 5 eggs
-my family likes a nice dash of ground black pepper
-T613T, it”ll never be as good as fresh, but you can freeze: Let kugel cool slightly (15 min – 1/2 hour) after removing from oven. Wrap tightly in heavy foil. Freeze. When removing from freezer leave wrapped in foil. Put directly into preheated very hot oven (400 +). After about 45 minutes, remove foil, lower oven temp somewhat and bake longer. Almost as good as fresh.
Reby, that must have been an attempt at humor, but we don’t want to mislead any budding balabustas out there- NEVER try freezing raw potato kugel.
Oomis, I completely agree with everything you wrote, except for one small point.
A mother who won’t let her daughter go out with a guy wearing colorful socks is definitely not crazy.
She is undeniably certifiably clinically insane, and in need of intensive counseling and medication.
Interesting, oomis.
Your posts never fail to get either of 2 reactions from me-
Usually: Completely agree!
Sometimes: Completely disagree!
But you never get an indifferent shrug.
Guess you know what I thought of this one…
Thanks for sharing, shuli.
And thanks for bumping, reby.
Still laughing…
Yes, out LOUD.
Can you guys hear me out there??
??
Ridiculous? –
I’d say tragic.
Irrelevant? –
To his Neshama, certainly not.
To the rest of us, relevant only as far as “kol Yisrael areivim…”
Yash & Pem (aka Roc. Z.),
I enjoy your FJJ letters.
But I enjoyed your –
-STOP TAKING EVERYTHING SO SERIOUSLY! –
even more.
I’ve been wanting to say that round here for a while.
Please don’t take any offense from all the very serious posters and leave us.
We need you here to lighten things up when they get too serious & somber.
Oomis, +1.
By the way, I think the old moshol you’re talking about is this quote that has been attributed to Mark Twain:
“When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.”
Nfgo, and this is going to solve the shidduch crisis?
At last.
Epis, absolutely all the aticles- truest of the true, holiest of the holy, sweetest of the sweet.
DaasY, you’re reminding me of the guy who went to pick up his date and was asked to sit down at the dining room table where he was farherred by the girl’s father. Partly it was nerves and partly he wasn’t the biggest lamdan out there, b’kitzur, he failed the farherr miserably. Finally the disappointed father asked him, “Nu, so tell me, what kind of a girl are you looking for?”
And he answered, “A Yisoima.”
Post of the Week, Rebbe Y!
Make that Post of the Year!
Not sure about tough.
But their ways are mysterious and inexplicable, that’s for sure.
They allow all kinds of propaganda and other nastiness, both pro and anti the medina.
And I mention Tarpat, and the next thing I know, I disappear!
The facts, apparently, are what they object to.
The insulting rhetoric they allow and leave to fester.
MAZEL TOV OOMIS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
May you continue to enjoy much Nachas from all your children and grandchildren!
Sam2, it seemed neither you, nor anybody else in CR Land, were interested, or able, to help out.
So a real person in the real world did. (Thanks!)
And here it is:
Avira d’Eretz Yisrael machkim.
It’s in B”B.
I was going to leave it at that.
But since B”B is so long, I’m offering a bit of help.
It’s in the 9th perek.
Syag, agreed.
I think most secular, not-yet-religious, Israelis would be happy and comforted to know that something spiritually significant was being done in memory of their loved ones, even if they’re (sadly) not familiar with learning Mishnayos. Not to mention the many religious families who mourn relatives on this day, who would surely appreciate it.
Move out of Williamsburg?
Move out of Boro Park?
Move out of Flatbush??!
Move out of LAKEWOOD??!!
Can’t believe the mods let this one through.
Beware mods! Next he”ll be suggesting sushi instead of gefilte fish.
I think you’re wrong, Sam2.
I’m pretty sure it is “avira” (as in air of, not “ara” as in land of) and it is “machkim”.
But I can’t find it!
Anybody care to look it up?
With regard to yishuv Ha’Aretz, there’s a great tape from Rav Frand on it. He can tell you a lot more, and a lot more authoritatively, than I can.
Takahm, your attitude puzzles me.
I’m curious how much time you’ve spent studying the issue.
The source of the Mitzvah is the passuk in Parshas Masei (Bamidbar 33) where it says “Ve’yishavtem bah.” Right there it begins with a seeming disagreement between Rashi & the Ramban.
There is also a lot of discussion by those who came after him as to why yishuv Eretz Yisrael is not in the Rambam’s list of Mitzvos.
There are poskim who discuss the Gemara in Kesubos about a husband or wife compelling their spouse to move to Eretz Yisrael, what the halachic ramifications are, and how all this connects to the Mitzvah of yishuv Ha’Aretz. (I think it’s the end of that part of Kesubos that ymbyi quoted to us. And just as an aside to ymby- when you want to quote something like that, please tell us the exact source of your quote. Some of us don’t know pages and pages of Gemara by heart.)
Questions arise as to whether the mitzvah of living in Eretz Yisrael is just a part of being able to observe the mitzvos ha’teluyos ba’aretz.
I think there’s even one opinion that the difficulties in observing the mitzvos ha’teluyos ba’aretz make it inadvisable to live there!
It’s not a topic that I pretend to have a clear or (anywhere near) full understanding of, and I wonder if you think that you do, takahm.
I don’t think anyone will argue with my saying that the Rishonim and Acharonim that analyzed all of this are NOT people that you can refer to as being incorrect.
Takahm, it is not entirely clear that the mitzvah of yishuv Eretz Yisrael is applicable for all generations. Some put it into the category of those mitzvos that apply b’zman she’beis hamikdash kayam.
Machkim.
Avir is masculine.
Maybe you should buy a ticket, 147. Or start rowing.
Back in seminary, I could have written a fine essay on one of a few interesting choices.
Today, I have to say in all honesty, I’d be afraid to meet any of my ancestors mentioned in Tanach.
Because what would they say when they see me, their great-great-granddaughter?
I think I’d just hide in a corner and try to catch a glimpse of them from far away.
The-art-of-m, I’m impressed with your question!
From what I can see where I live, a lot of your contemporaries (not all) are not as interested in this as you are.
And I liked ihear’s answer. Like he said, complicated topic for a guy to post on, but I think he did a great job.
Easier for me to comment (not a guy!).
I would only add, keep your eyes open and look around you. As mentioned, tznius has a lot to do with not standing out. You’re not expected to dress like the Rav’s wife in Me’ah Shaarim if you live in LA. But find the people in your community that you have a connection with and look up to. And notice how they speak, walk, even wear their hair. No need to blot out every spark of individuality and buy exactly the same shoes or earrings! I’m sure you get the idea.
A man once told me, with regard to sifrei mussar, that his Rebbi IS a mussar Sefer!
I think the same can be said about some women whose behavior and manners can teach you more about tznius than a Sefer.
Good luck, and hope you don’t mind my posting when you asked for guys’ opinions!
So what exactly was the point of resurrecting this old thread Erev Pesach?
Was the thought, ok as long as we’re bashing each other over eating / not eating gebrochtz, let’s find some more divisive stuff to bicker about?
IMHO we better get back to our pre Pesach preparations, and pay close attention at the Seder when one of the little kids (or grand kids) (or big kids) talks about the 12 paths in the seabed when we all crossed the Yam Suf together.
You raise an interesting question, 147, as those who eat Kneidlach on the last night prepare them when it’s already night. I think there are actually tshuvos written about whether / how to cook those famous (or infamous) matzo balls when Pesach comes out like that. Maybe the posters who usually chime in with their piskei Halacha, will chime in here.
As for the thornier issue of machmirim & meikilim looking at each other the wrong way, and being offended by each other’s attitudes, and worrying (or imagining) that they’re not getting enough respect from each other- that can easily be solved if we all learn not to take ourselves (or our Kneidlach) so seriously. There are so many other things to worry about, it’s a waste of time to be so busy making sure the other guy is giving us and our minhagim (or lack thereof) sufficient kavod.
Please Y & P aka R, Don’t leave us in suspense!
Where can I buy certified kosher l’Pesach batteries??
Mine conked out and I can’t move.
And I still have tons to do…
Permission to laugh, oomis?
That was very funny…
I like the way you put that, Bookworm.
And you brought back such good memories of chol hamoed at the museum of Nat History. I hear today if you’re not taking your kids at least a thousand miles from home and/or staying in a place with more than 5 stars, you’re not yotzei. But we loved the museum.
A long time ago I found a typo in a post here in the CR very funny. While laughing, I typed a reply. Bad idea. The poster was deeply offended to have her typo pointed out, and needless to say, she did not find my comment humorous at all. Ever since then, if I do find a typo funny, I keep it to myself. And do not lol. I just swallow the laugh, resulting in a bit of a cough, and move on.
Wolf,
Please stop confusing us with the facts.
If you’re going to bring logic into the picture (as in considering the fact that Succos, Pesach, and lunar eclipses occur only when the moon is full) you’re going to ruin the whole thread.
And, come to think of it, at least a few other ones as well.