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Thank you all for the great advice.

My outlets are done.

Next I’m climbing the tree in my yard to check the bird’s nest that was built there recently for crumbs and whatnot.

Any suggestions for cleaning a nest?

Why do all the learned and esteemed yeshivaleit of the yeshivaworld post so confidently about the absence of the Bais Hamikdash?

Is it possible?

Is it possible that they see us comfortably ensconced in our holy cities of Lakewood & Brooklyn, forever? Is it possible that they don’t say, every day, “Be’chol Yom She’Yavo”?

When they drink their wine and are mekayem the mitzva of Sippur Yetzias Mitzrayim, are they just telling a story? That couldn’t happen again??

Just asking.

Only in the coffeeroom can you find a Yekke who makes jokes that can actually make a person laugh.

Showjoe, it was because they had pessel micha with them. They actually carried it into the Yam Suf where they were being saved and the Mitzrim were being killed. The complaint was at the juxtaposition of these being saved and those being drowned- same time, same place, seemingly same type of people.

Your idea makes no sense because the neis of splitting the sea was done in such a way that the yabasha was divided into 12 by The One who made the Neiss, not by the people walking through. But if you bring me a source instead of an “I heard”, I’ll give you a pass.

IvduEs, don’t worry, you can keep on loving everybody Ad Bi’as Goel, and (hopefully) beyond. Remember- “Yitamu Chata’im…”, Not Chotim. Maintaining individuality in our path to Avodas Hashem, according to the derech of our Mesora, doesn’t mean we hate anybody. Not sure what you’re having trouble with.

And to think- all of this from a taxi driver!

Those NY cabbies, nothing like ’em!

Aries, I read through your post and I could hear the pain you and your mother went through at your father’s name not being given to your grandson. I agree that young people blessed with a new neshama to name should be sensitive and try not to cause pain to their parents. And I agree when you say that it’s a good idea to discuss it before the actual naming so there is no surprise and hurt at the simcha. But your friend who will “shut her mouth when she shuts her purse”?! Strongly disagree!

As parents it is our pleasure to help our children, financially and otherwise, even when they’ve flown the nest and are busy building their own. (Maybe especially then?) And when helping them is a burden we feel we can’t manage, of course we should tell them and not make ourselves sick trying to give more than we can. But giving money, gifts, time, does not give us a right to interfere in their lives or meddle in their issues. I just don’t see the connection. If it makes you happy, give them gifts, give them cash, but remember to give them the gift of independence!

And by the way, when I serve my husband a nice dinner, I don’t tell him either that he can only eat if he takes the garbage out afterwards. And when he helps me out or indulges me with a gift, he doesn’t make it contingent on my reciprocating by providing goods or services. Economic models work well when arranging cash flow analyses and budgeting. Loving relationships exist on a separate plane.

Just stopped in to see what’s doing here-

I cannot believe that after what happened it’s the same old same old bickering going on.

Amazing that “Va’Yidom Aharon” but here in the CR we all know why things happen and what we need to do and who’s right and who doesn’t know what they’re talking about and who’s both arrogant and stupid and who should go check the batteries in their smoke detector.

On the plus side, I just know in my heart (my brain has been partially disabled by cleaning agent fumes) that all the posters here, arrogant, stupid, or otherwise insensitive, are the kindest gentlest most patient most sweet people, distributing Tzedaka before Yom Tov, helping their neighbors and relatives and total strangers, yielding the right of way even though they’re in a rush, and preparing to observe all the Mitzvos that are soon upon us.

They just come here to bicker, but would never do so in their real lives.

May HKB”H wipe away our tears and lead us quickly to the Days when our doubts and pain will disappear.

I am blessed with the strength, finances and wonderful family to make Pesach in my own beautiful home.

I would like to take my head out of my cabinets just long enough to ask that whoever starts an anti-Pesach-hotel rant, and anti-sheitel rant, an anti-shadchan rant, an anti-yeshiva-tuition rant, an anti-black-hat rant, or any anti rant at all, please take the time to simultaneously start an Ahavas Yisroel rant.

I wasn’t going to answer your post, interjection, because I couldn’t possibly have put it better than DY.

But I was (slightly) offended by your comment about men ogling every other woman on the street.

I can’t speak for all men. But I know a few, personally, who are careful with shmiras einayim. That doesn’t mean you have to be their challenge. There are enough challenges out there for them.

And I know at least one who, while he deals with this when he’s out in the world, is uncomfortable to find himself in improper surroundings when he’s attending a simcha. It’s not always possible to walk out and go home, and it’s not the kind of place where you expect to have to walk around looking at your shoelaces.

** As of yet my husband’s Rav has not requested that he bully me about anything at all, but I was wondering, what’s wrong with an A line skirt?

Seems to me the discussion here regarding married women’s headcoverings is all about tznius. And tznius is not as simple as it sounds. Our Chachamim have provided us with general guidelines, but every woman has to find with her own heart and her innate wisdom the path to observing this mitzvah correctly, modestly, and pleasantly. There is no way to define with mathematical precision the manner of speech or dress or behavior that will attract too much attention. While I appreciate (as always) the learned CR members who kindly provide the relevant mareh mekomos, I think we’re better off leaving the sheitels to the ladies. And I hope nobody will mind my asking some of the ladies reading this to take a good look in the mirror next time they’re about to go out shopping or to a simcha, and think – is this how I want my husband to see me, or how I want everybody else’s husbands to see me?

Not “CERTAIN” traits, oomis, only one–

Me’od me’od hevei sh’fal ruach.

Other than that, find the middle ground.

But I digress. The subject was pictures. So I’m handing the floor back to you.

Has anyone else heard an expression stating that a kittel without wine stains on Pesach is like a Yom Kippur machzor without tear stains? Or something of that sort…

If it’s really getting out of hand, gavr6, and the thought of a plastic tablecloth makes you cringe, then just take DY’s advice.

Thank you for the answer, PAA.

Brilliant.

I especially liked the part about the kanteranim.

I think we can find some of their descendants kantering around here in the CR.

But of course who are we to deny them entry…

Let’s just keep in mind that we have no idea who is a big Tzaddik, who is a greater Tzaddik, and who is the greatest Tzaddik of all.

To pretend otherwise is foolish and ill-advised.

Each of us does have an obligation to choose a Rav to help us find our derech in Avodas Hashem, and to advise us in observing Mitzvos correctly.

There is no obligation or need to pontificate on the merits of other Rabbanim, or on the brilliance of our own Rav’s mehalach compared to others.

Oomis,

+1

&

+1

Gavra_a,

Ssshhhhhhhh……..

Oy.

Until all the Peerrim Rebbes out there figure out that the Zionism of Dovid Hamelech and, le’havdil, the zionism of Theodor Herzl, are two completely different entities, we are all doomed to hear ad infinitum & ad nauseum the same old same old same old…

The only way to get away from it is for someone to start a shidduch thread.

Any -wicked evil mothers, frustrated fathers, frustrated shadchanim, older guys, older girls, OOT’s who can’t get dates, girls with pictures, girls who don’t take pictures, guys in the freezer, guys on a date, guys wondering where to date, -willing to take up the cause?

***Or perhaps some sweet young lady wants to know about the merits of Machon Raya vs Nachlas vs Chemdas vs Tiferes vs Ateres vs Atzeres vs Mishmeres, all in one breath l’chovod Purim?

It’s hard to answer without knowing where your son goes to Yeshiva.

15 year olds hate being different. Is he your oldest? If you really have no idea what’s done in his yeshiva, ask some of your friends whose boys have been through Purim there. Unless he runs the risk of being the only one (nebbach) with or without a costume, let him do whatever he wants. If he’s a normal 15 year old, he will IY”H provide you with many opportunities to go to war and forbid him to do this that and the other in the next few years. Save your battles for something more critical.

Good point, akuperma.

And now that the prez took care of global warming and has us all freezing cold, he’s going to veto the Keystone pipeline, to make sure we can’t afford the energy we need to keep our toes warm.

Flatbusher, while I am not disagreeing with you, I would like to make something clear. There is a lot of talk about Achdus lately. Certainly it is a worthy goal. However, acceptance of every Yid as a brother means accepting the person who holds within him a Yiddishe Neshama, a chelek — mi’Maal. This does not include acceptance or condoning of any behaviors or actions that are not in keeping with Taryag Mitzvos, or any beliefs that contain even a mashehu of kefira R”L. We have to love the person. We don’t get to decide that we now love whatever he’s thinking or doing. This mistaken notion of achdus has the potential to lead us down some very dangerous paths.

Apologies to Accountant for having digressed from your topic! As far as advertising who you are on a date- I can understand your wish to present yourself in a favorable light. All advertisements attempt that with the product they’re selling. But the advertisers also know that they’re doomed to failure, and sometimes even a lawsuit, if they present their product falsely. Respect the person you’re dating and yourself by honestly presenting what kind of a person you truly are, and what kind of a home you hope to build together.

Interesting thought, DY.

As in “Va’yishman Yeshurun va’yivat” is what you’re trying to say?

Could be, DY.

But everyone here knows I always enjoy a post that makes me laugh.

Scareddd’s post did Not make me laugh.

At all.

Am I losing my sense of humor?

Or was scareddd totally out of line?

I hear you, takahm.

Certainly you’re entitled to that opinion.

And would you allow children of your elite, and of those less elite, to mingle in the same classrooms?

Rema, I’m not familiar with the exact Halachos involved, at all. But as far as being mechanech little kids, they’ll gain a lot more by being told that they’re not allowed to touch. And even Morah or Rebbe are not allowed to touch! By all means, if you have the opportunity, let them visit a Sofer and look at his quill and parchment. But teaching them respect and awe for Tashmishei Kedushah will accomplish more than allowing them the tactile sensation you’re inquiring about. Infants and very young children learn a lot from sensory input, including touching things. But a child old enough to be introduced to a Sefer Torah is old enough to hear what you have to say and be impressed with the information.