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  • in reply to: Do women need to stay up all night of Shavuos? #1725195

    klugeryid – “The reason to stay up all night is to attone for sleeping late at מתן תורה AND THE FACT THAT THEY WOKE UP EARLY FOR THE חטא העגל. the women did not do the עגל so there is no reason for them to stay up all night”

    The Mogen Avrohom makes NO MENTION of chet ha’egel, just states reason of staying up all night is to fix that yidden slept in by mattan Torah. So where did you get such a notion from?!

    in reply to: Do women need to stay up all night of Shavuos? #1725163

    lasker, I transalate while you add your own commentary. The words in Be’er Hetev are: “yashlim shanoso” – he will complete the year which means he will live the year. You don’t like that because then if he keeps staying up learning, he never dies, so you want to kill him by saying “yashlim shanoso” means he won’t die “suddenly before his time”, but he still might not be “yashlim shanoso”. Ok, go argue with the Be’er hetev.

    in reply to: Do women need to stay up all night of Shavuos? #1725152

    Does the rule of “miktzas hayom k’kulo” apply to Shavuos night, that staying up “miktzas ha’layla”is k’kulo? And if someone accidentally fslls asleep, can she make a hashlama on the second night of Shavuos? And in Chutz L’Aretz – we REALLY need to stay up both nights because of s’ feka d’yoma – and not to be mezalzel in a rabbonim – so why not? We can do this!!!

    in reply to: Sports #1725134

    I am sure among the MisYavnim there were many kluger yidden, maybe iber chochomim, but they adopted Greek Culture (I don’t know if they did or didn’t eat Greek Yogurt).

    in reply to: Sports #1725055

    If you google “The History of Sports, From Ancient Times to Modern Day” you will see confirmed that:
    “Ancient Greece introduced formal sports, with the first Olympic Games in 776 BC, that included sports such as human and chariot races, wrestling, jumping, disk and javelin throwing, and more.”

    This Greek Culture infiltrated Bnei Yisroel and many became MisYavnim. The CHashmonoyim fought this Greek Culture, but some Yidden nebech retained it. Those that continue in this Greek “mesorah” today, are following in the derech of the MisYavnim.

    in reply to: Do women need to stay up all night of Shavuos? #1725048

    It is an “inyan” (not a ye’herag v’al ya’avor, but a minhag Yisroel Torah hee) to stay up all night of Shavuos.

    This is codified l’halacha (yes, golly, there is a source for it no less than – ) Magen Avrohom s. 494, s”k 1, in name of Zohar, and cited in Be’er Hetev s”k 7.

    The Be’er Hetev brings the segulah that whom ever does not sleep at all that night and learns Torah is GUARANTEED to live the year and not have any form of loss.

    Take it for what it is worth, but you don’t get such guarantees with davening with better kavana!

    Anyway, this inyan and segula should apply to women too.

    Babysitting can be arranged for those needing childcare, or, they can stay up at home learning.

    The menfolk are not invalids and can help themselves to coffee and cheesecake in the morning – if they are capable.

    “Loma nigara” – why should women be left out from receiving such a brocha?!

    If everyone agrees, I will blast this out to my contacts and Whatsapp groups to start this trend!

    in reply to: Are women required to make brocha when saying on Hallel on YH? #1725053

    Clearly the reality is that the majority of men say hallel (- either with or without a brocha). The only ones that don’t say hallel is radicals that consider it Nakba Day. Since women were also included in this miracle, they too should say hallel, as we do on Rosh Chodesh and Yom Tov. Why is there even a question to exclude women?!

    in reply to: Do women need to stay up all night of Shavuos? #1725073

    Just to clarify, I am not suggesting that it is a chiyuv for women to stay up learning (portions of Torah which they ARE michuyav to learn such as the halochos of mitzvos that apply to women – which covers many mesechtos, from Mesechta Brochos, Eruvin, Shabbos etc plus all the Shulchan Oruch applicable, plus Teshuvos etc., not to mention the entire Tanach with meforshim).

    I am suggesting it as a chumra/hanhoga tova for extra zechusim and segulos.

    in reply to: Shidduchim between FFB and BT’s #1725082

    I think a better question is would you be comfortable with having your son/daughter marry a Jew from another race (e.g. a Black Jew or an Oriental Jew)? Why/Why not? They are 100% Jewish, even FFB but can you get over the colour of their skin or shape of their eyes? If you can’t – are you a “racist”? Maybe this needs a separate thread!

    in reply to: Hallel with Bracha on YH? #1724968

    Neville – I observe YH yet am makpid on recorded music during sefira, even recorder Cappella without instruments, since the machine playing the singing it IS in itself an instrument. Indeed there is no heter to play a musical instrument (call it radio, cd player or music box) that plays musical sounds of people singing. I keep the entire sefira (except lag b’omer) because I believe there is a need to be machmir, especially due to the tzoros Yidden had during these times when Jewish blood flowed like water and women were violated (via Crusaders and expulsions etc.)

    in reply to: Shaving during the Omer #1724581

    laskern – do you follow ALL the psokim of Chasam Sofer, or only the ones that help your lifestyle? One can always find a shitah that allows something or a shitah that prohibits something. Do you pick and choose whom to follow?

    in reply to: Waiter’s finger was in my my soup! #1724579

    Helth – “Rebbitzin, did you ever hear of 30 Mitzvos Bnai Noach?”

    No, I only heard of 7 Mitzvos Bnei Noach.

    Please share the 23 I never heard of.

    in reply to: Sports #1724578

    The entire source of sports and watching sports is from the Roman and Greek coliseums. (Hence the birth of the Olympics).

    The Greek culture that the Chashmonoyim battled, remained with some Jewish MisYavnim.

    They passed the “mesorah” of Greek Culture to those that follow sports, but it is the same Culture of MisYavnim from the past..

    Mi L’Hashem Eiloy is the battle call to erase the Grrek Culture from our midst.

    in reply to: Hallel with Bracha on YH? #1724577

    lakewhut, why is s/he an apikores for not making a brocha on hallel, maybe he is simply a shoteh? Is it one of the 13 Ikrim to make a bocha on hallel?! Further, he says he is following his rabbeim, are you saying that they too are c”v apikursim?! On what basis???

    in reply to: Payos behind the ears? Why? #1724575

    The hair on head is called sayor, same letters as word “shiyur” (measure) which is a limitation, known as gevurah. Likewise, it has the same letters as “se’or” yeast, which is known to be associated with Din (judgement). (It is also the same letters as “sha’ar” (gate) but that is another discussion, and also the word se’ora – barley, as in sefirat haOmer when the 24,000 students of R’ Akiva died).

    in reply to: Payos behind the ears? Why? #1724558

    Mrs Joseph, if you check with males that have facial hair, they will explain to you that long peyos ha’rosh, if left hanging down onto the face, mingle with long peyos ha’ponim. Kabbalistic sources stae that they should not mix, like shatnez or milk with meat.

    in reply to: Acharon Acharon Chaviv? #1724484

    The mods can close a thread, leaving the last posting as the final say on the topic. (not necessarily the “maskona”, sometimes it’s like walking away from a debate).

    in reply to: Acharon Acharon Chaviv? #1724368

    As I wrote: “it would demonstrate the koach of doing teshuva m’ahava (that zidonos na’asu lo k’zochiyos)” – to demonstrate to others (which is a form of kiddush Hashem).

    in reply to: Shaving during the Omer #1724264

    Shaving for a man is prohibited by the majority of poskim. The only absolute hetter to shave is for women!

    in reply to: Building a Mansion #1724262

    The novee promises:
    “כי לי איים יקוו ואניות תרשיש בראשונה, להביא בנייך מרחוק כספם וזהבם איתם”
    as such, not just will
    עתידין בתי כנסיות ובתי מדרשות שבבבל שיקבעו בארץ ישראל
    but when Moshiach comes BBA, also
    ספם וזהבם איתם
    including mansions.
    therefore, no lack of emunah in geulah by buiding a mansion with such an intent:
    to have a mansion in EY.
    (NOT like Avi wrote: ” Chatam Sofer adds that someone who builds such a house in Chul shows that that he does not believe that we will go back to EY (or does not want to).” – which isn’t fully correct).

    in reply to: Payos behind the ears? Why? #1724261

    In basic kabalah: Payos of rosh are connected to gevurah while the beard is connected to chessed. The two should be kept separate most times, hence the peyos ha’rosh are kept behind ears or up under the yarmulka, so that they do not mix with beard.

    in reply to: Hallel with Bracha on YH? #1724260

    If you daven b’yechidus – do as the minhag of your family (many posters wrote about the importance of keeping family minhagim), BUT if davening in a minyan, then It depends on the shul/minyan,, you see, one must not be poresh min ha’tzibur, so if the shul you daven in says hallel, you must also, likewise, a shul that doesn’t say hallel, you must not say it either. Regarding the brocha, one must answer amen on a bracha, and when the chazon says the brocha and you answer amen, you are yotzeh with his brocha, so no need to say a brocha yourself.

    in reply to: Acharon Acharon Chaviv? #1722456

    laskern – “haughtiness”? he held that if he does proper teshuva, bmokom she’baalei teshuva omdim afilu tzaddikim gemurim aynom yecholim la’amod shom, not only does he deserve to lead, but it would demonstrate the koach of doing teshuva m’ahava (that zidonos na’asu lo k’zochiyos).

    in reply to: Difference between Chabad and everyone else? #1722106

    DY, I don’t defend anyone. In fact, I don’t think that need a defense at all. I think the attackers are hypocritical and full of baloney. Of c”v the movement had kefira, gedolim would not have accorded exteme kovod to their Rebbe and routinely study his seforim. That is indisputable evidence.

    in reply to: In Chad Gadya – HKBH was “wrong” #1722012

    Lernt – I am not “pro-Lubavitch” just as I am not “pro-Sefardi” or “pro-Yekka”, if I am “pro” anything, it is pro-Yidden. I even have ahavas Yisroel for the yidden maskilim and communist Yidden.

    However, the ACTIONS of maskilim were intentional to destroy ou mesorah (while the actions of Communist Yidden was to remove religion and instill atheism).

    There is no such thing as “masiach lfi tumo” by a maskil who has an agenda.

    As far as books in the Lubavitch library, I have no knowledge of them, never visited, have no membership or library card there, but you seem to have experience and first hand knowledge, which exposes you as one of them – not that there is anything wrong with that.

    in reply to: Difference between Chabad and everyone else? #1722008

    Lit – “Difference between Lubavitch and others? PR (Public Relations), publicity is one of the ikarim (fundamentals) of Lubavitch.”

    Let me mirror back your words after I just pulled out of my mailbox a 12-page glossy colorful magazine with photoshopped pics of Gedolim and a Dial a Segulah 800 number:

    Difference between Litvish and Yeshivish?

    PR (Public Relations), publicity is one of the ikarim (fundamentals) of Litvish…Vaad HaTzedakas, Vadd HaAniyim, get a brocha, segul, will daven for you for anything and everything you want…dial 1-800-Give-Gelt..

    in reply to: Difference between Chabad and everyone else? #1722006

    Horrified – “Problem with chabad, is their is no rebbe so no direction.”

    Let me mirror back your words:

    Problem with litvish/Yeshivish/Sefard/Yekka community is there is no rebbe so no direction.

    in reply to: Acharon Acharon Chaviv? #1721881

    In seder ha’nivro’im (creation) – man was created last – because of chashivus.

    Likewise, in zman, shabbos is the last day of the week – because of its chashivus.

    Likewise in Olom, Olom Haba comes after Olom Haza, its chashivus makes this world like a foyer to the next world.

    In Nation, also Am Yisroel was formed last, after the formation of the 70 Nations, finally, Bnei Yaakov in Mitzrayim formed Am Yisroel.

    In Bais Hamidosh, the Second Bayis was “greater” in size and duration than the First Mikdosh, but the Third Bayis will be far grander and with greater chashivus.

    In Korbonos, the Korbon Shlomim is listed last (ויקרא ז’, ט”ז – זֹאת הַתּוֹרָה לָעֹלָה לַמִּנְחָה וְלַחַטָּאת וְלָאָשָׁם וְלַמִּלּוּאִים וּלְזֶבַח הַשְּׁלָמִים )
    because of its chashivus, that it is never botel in the future (as the Korbon Todah is one of the Shlomim: לעתיד לבוא, כל הקרבנות בטילים וקרבן תודה אינו בטל. כל התפילות בטילות, ההודאה אינה בטילה

    In Aliyos, Shivie is usually given the Rov, but Maftir trumps in chashivus.

    In Nozir 66b (and Brochos 53b): Answering Amen is greater than the making of Brocha, first the weak ones battle and later the strong ones win the battle. The chashivus of coming later is Amen.

    And in Shulchan Oruch the most choviv and choshuv halacha is the last Ramo: “וטוב לב משתה תמיד” Drink and be always happy – don’t be a hateful bitter person. L’CHAIM!!

    in reply to: Difference between Chabad and everyone else? #1721892

    Lernt – if you really believe the foolishness you write then YOU must keep it, and as such all those Yidden are possul l’eidus for gitten and kiddushim, their wine is ossur (hope you don’t enjoy the Italian wine under their hechsher), their shchita is possul, you can’t rely on the OK or all those yidden servig as mashgichim for the national kashrus organizations, and you can’t include them for a minyan, even when you are a chiyuv.

    In other words, either stand by your words and keep them, or stop being silly. You can’t have it both ways – either they are kosher frum Yidden  or they are apikursim. It’s all or nothing.

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    in reply to: Difference between Chabad and everyone else? #1721441

    Us Litvish?yeshivish Yidden keep halacha.

    Yet it is perplexing that nearly all the Litvish Ywshivos make a “hoicha kedusha” mincha minyan (when chazan only says shemonei esrei out loud till kedusha) – which the Bais Yossef and ALL poskim say is wrong.

    It is also perplexing that although we are careful to follow the Mishna Brura and study the writings of the Chofetz Chaim, Litvish Yeshivos urge bochurim to shave, even though the Chofetz CHaim held it is forbidden.

    At the same time, we point to other Yidden that we feel are doing contrary to halacha (not sleeping in sukkah or eating cake before davening) as if we are so much better at halacha-keeping than they are.

    in reply to: In Chad Gadya – HKBH was “wrong” #1721351

    Lernt – You bringing rayas from what the old-time maskilim wrote?! Yiddish linguist Chone Shmeruk was a maskil that tried to pervert yiddishkeit. They sabotaged many parts of siddur and unfortunately succeeded in some areas (like remiving part of Oleinu – “sh’hem mishtachavim l’hevel v’lorik” – which the TAZ SAYS yIDDEN HAD A CUSTOM TO SPIT AFTER THESE WORDS!

    kluger – the question is why is the name achron shel pessach only used for pessach?

    You say EACH yom tov has a special name for the last day. You say it is like asking: “No other yom tov is called pesach so how come this one is?”

    Well, pessach is exclusively called that because “possach al botei avoseinu” – Hashem passed over the houses…so there is a direct reason/connection with the Yom Tov.

    Zos Chanukah is exclusively connected with “Zos Chanukas…” etc.

    But what is the exclusive connection between last day of pessach with name of “Acharon shel pessach”?

    in reply to: Difference between Chabad and everyone else? #1721353

    yo – “There’s a lot of mahloket among Ashkenazim. Sheesh.” It’s called “sibling rivalry”. Last I heard, sefardim also act as siblings, Deri and Yishai and their respective chachomim/gedolim…

    in reply to: The four “sons” – what about daughters? #1720040

    laskern – “RG, the father is asked not the mother”

    Review the halchos.

    Connect the dots:

    Women are michiyuv in all mitzvos of leil pessach.
    One of the mitzvos a women is mechuyov is sippur yetziyas mitzrayim.
    The mitva of sippur yetziyas mitzrayim is strucured as questions and answers.
    The questions are asked to the one who tells the story of yetziyas motzrayim.
    If all is correct, as stated in Shulchan Oruch, then the son (or daughter) asks the mother (if there is no father)..

    in reply to: Are you a Ka'eylah Jew? #1720055

    I am a Ka’Eyla Yid on Succos (In the middle of maftir I randomly shout out Ka’Ayla – it adds to everyone’s simchas yom tov, even the Rov starts laughing).

    rational – “Neither Succos nor Shavuos has a last day that is a yom tov.” So if I invite you for the day meal on Shavuos, you won’t ask me if the invitation is for the first day or last day of Shavuos?! You will carefully ask me if it is for the first day or second day (not c”v calling it the “last day”).

    That’s called a circular argument:

    Why is the last day of Pessach called “Acharon”, because Shavuos does not have a last day! Why does Shavuos not have a last day? Because only Pessach has a last day…classic circular logic. Not very “rational”.

    in reply to: Waiter’s finger was in my my soup! #1719953

    Health – “I’m waiting for Ubiq to reply. If he doesn’t, then I will.”

    And I am waiting for Moshiach. אחכה לו בכל יום.

    “pure am haaratzos”: is there pure and impure am haaratzos? Is am haaratzus just am haaraizus? I know there are several levels of a shoyteh:
    stam a shoyeh,
    a shoteh gomur,
    a shoyteh sh’ain lo shiyur, and
    a koful shmoneh shoyteh
    so there are probably also levels in am haaratzus, but are those in levels of tahara (“pure”/purity)? I asl because I never encountered “pure” am haaratzus, and wish to know if such a cheftza exists or is it fictional like Sasquash (my husband’s chavrusa for night seder), Bigfoot (grabs all the kugel at kiddush), Yeti (the shusher in my shul)?

    in reply to: Oy vay! The goy that bought the chometz died! BDE #1719981

    Neville, don’t make fun of my Joseph! or my sefer. אם ילד שעשעים כי מדי דברי בו זכר אזכרנו עוד

    in reply to: Difference between Chabad and everyone else? #1719504

    In wide broad strokes, chassidus focusses on the positive connection with HKBH, while mussar focusses on the loss to the person when he lacks connection to HKBH (Gehenim etc). Chabad Chassidus is an intellectual approach *study) while other Chassidus use emotions. There is lots of overlap and similarities in the mutual goal of serving HKBH. All the roads lead to the Kings Palace.

    in reply to: Oy vay! The goy that bought the chometz died! BDE #1719518

    Dinim apply, which may include some form of yerusha.

    Also dina d’malchusa certainly applies.

    in reply to: Difference between Chabad and everyone else? #1719519

    jakob – you found an opportunity to spew hatred against other Jews. I hope you feel good. You bring shame to your ancestors.

    in reply to: Oy vay! The goy that bought the chometz died! BDE #1719521

    NEWS FLASH: The goy is in a coma. Still alive B”H. but unconscious. Still a problem with the chometz!

    in reply to: Difference between Chabad and everyone else? #1719520

    Joseph, Et tu, Brute?

    in reply to: Eating Gebroks on Pesach #1719522

    Joseph, yes, common when someone is a choleh and can only eat soaked matza, he is mattir neder.

    in reply to: Oy vay! The goy that bought the chometz died! BDE #1719507

    This must have happened sometime over all the generations. What happens in such a case?

    in reply to: The Rov forgot (or missed zman) to sell the chometz on erev pessach #1719484

    The rov is likely an onus gamur, but the seller who appointed him is a poshaya for not planning a back up, just in case.

    in reply to: Pesach Sheni #1719486

    Same if someone became bar mitzva (or an eved knani becomes freed – for those of us that own one) between pessach rishon and pessach sheni.

    in reply to: The Rov forgot (or missed zman) to sell the chometz on erev pessach #1719474

    Onus gamur?! It is a peshiya not to take realistic precautions!

    Chazel say: “shema yomus – chayshinon” (we are concerned and consider the possibility that he may die), so if one does not take precautions, he is a po’shay’ah.

    in reply to: The Rov forgot (or missed zman) to sell the chometz on erev pessach #1719477

    Joseph, the appointment of rov can be done by phone or email, no need for a kinyan at all!

    Pessach also is only seven days.

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