The laws of Shmiras Halashon are very complex especially as regards shiduchim. I try to daven a short request to Hashem to help me when asking about a Shidduch, both in asking the right questions and understanding the replies. I am a very direct person, literal-minded and don’t understand when people speak in codes as they sometimes do. Baruch hashem on several occasions Hashem helped and put the right words into people’s mouths telling me things I wouldn’t have thought to ask,which were very important. Its a very good thing to ask Hashem for help in every undertaking and its amazing how things sometimes turn out to be “custom made”, after that. hatzlacha to all. and Shana Tova