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“Depending on getting set up by friends is a recipe for disaster and will only INTENSIFY the Shidduch crisis. Not happening, my friend.”
Why do you say that??
I happen to find that a single who is not 19 anymore(i.e. has been on the shidduch scene for a bit) who gets married, will keep her single friends in mind and try to help her out because she knows exactly what her friend is going through, because shes been through it herself. I wouldn’t ‘depend’ on single friends, but they are definitely a great resource.
I agree that the system needs an overhauling but its not the job of wealthy people to support shadchanim. Kol hakavod to Sam2-it Is really special to make a shidduch. And that is the point-we cant leave it up to the professionals alone-they need help. And the amateur laymen have the same ability to bring about a shidduch. As a single myself, most of my dates come about through friends and family, and not through ‘professional’ shadchanim. Lastly, I know that there are many singles who feel that their ‘married’ friends have betrayed them, but I personally don’t feel that way-I have a bunch of amazing married friends who think of boys for me and set me up. We have to bring about this trend. The young couples are the ones who hold the key in their hands. The husbands know boys and the wives know girls!
The ‘Age Gap’ is one of the main causes! My father, an actuary, was very involved with NASI in developing the Age Gap Theory. He has done extensive research on the topic and has put together many articles and lengthy reports proving every minor detail involved with the theory. One day when he retires and has the time, he will publish his work.
@ groisnaches: I guess it really depends on your skin. Maybe have a consultation with a makeup artist and she can tell you what products and techniques would work. Good Luck!
Hi BP girl. A lot of people ask me how my makeup stays on all shabbos, so I am glad to share the products i use and tips…i use Revlon Photoready Airbrush Foundation (it’s like a small aerosol can, avail in CVS or any drug store), and like others already wrote, Urban Decay Eyeshadow Primer Potion is amazing (Sephora). then any eyeshadow on top should be fine(i use Covergirl). Eye liner: urban decay pencil is great, but i found a cheaper alternative (since i go thru eyeliner like water), in CVS: Milani Liquid Eye (it’s not liquid, it’s liquid-like eyeliner pencil). Mascara: Covergirl lash blast, I use waterproof and it stays on really well. Now, the next step (which is really important)is to sleep on your back and keep your hands away from your face (do not touch your eyes). If you cant sleep on your back, sleep in a way that only the side of your head (edge of cheek) touches the pillow. You can use a silk pillow case (or slip), but i never found a difference with/without one. In the beginning it might be a little hard to change your sleeping position but you’ll get used to it after a few weeks. For hair, it really depends on the type of hair you have, but try sleeping with it pulled to the side. And lastly but definitely not least, when I apply my makeup on erev shabbos and before I go to sleep friday night, I ask Hashem that my makeup should stay on for the entire shabbos. Hatzlacha! Let us know if these tips work:)
There are a lot of unknowns here. First being, what is your motive in becoming a doctor (as opposed to going into any other field), is it because you would like to make big bucks and hold a prominent position in that people will respect you more? Or do you want to go into this field for the sake of being able to help other people in a phenomenal way (and of course make nice $ too)? If it’s only for reason #1, you might not make it through until the end (and even if you do, you will not be happy with your job)because medical school is a huge undertaking financially, scholastically, and takes a toll on family etc… From the way you write your post, it seems like out of the blue you just one day woke up with this idea. Most people who successfully complete med school have been entertaining the idea for years and have prepared themselves in all aspects for the ‘adventure’. Also, medical school is a lot more than 2-3 years. Besides for pre-req’s and all, there’s internship and residency. It’s a long process. Lastly, who knows how doctors will fare with the future Obamacare. I’m not trying to discourage, but you gotta look at all the factors here because it’s a major decision. Hatzlacha!
In response to question #5. How many of the people involved in propagating this simple math have a working understanding of statistics let alone graduated high school? My father is an actuary, and was very involved in working with NASI, long before they were known, figuring out statistics and #’s that led to this theory. So in response to Mr. Voice of Reason, no this is not a ‘cute mathematical idea’. I don’t find it ‘cute’ watching tens of older amazing and awesome girls sit on the sidelines waiting to get married. NASI’s agenda is to bring awareness and some solutions to the current shidduch situation. I find that there a lot of people that talk about the whole “crisis”, but NASI should be commended for coming out and doing something about it. It is amazing to see that in only 5 years, it has become so normal and accepted for boys and girls to be of similar age. And this is all thanks to the awareness that NASI has brought to the forefront.
The great part about donating a kidney is that one can continue living a complete and healthy life with only one kidney afterwards. When going through the process of donating, there are abut 9 tests one undergoes to check compatibility and make sure he is 100% completely healthy. Along the way, they ask you your motivations in donating. Of course there is no price tag you can put on a kidney, however know that it is an amazing mitzvah and it is awesome to realize that you saved someones life!
It is very sad to read some of the ‘not so nice’ posts here. NASI is only trying to help alleviate the plight of singles, with the crazy shidduch world that is out there. Noone ever said one MUST join this project. If you are not for this initiative, simply don’t join. As someone who knows who is behind NASI, I know that they are so involved in trying to change the shidduch system, only for the sake of the klal, and their motivations are solely L’shem Shamayim. I don’t necessarily agree with all the details of this program, but I definitely appreciate and respect NASI for trying to help alleviate the plight of singles. It gives those of us who are ‘in the parsha’ much chizuk knowing that there are dedicated indivduals who are trying to change the system for the better. But, we all know that the ultimate shidduch comes from davening and pouring oneself out in tefillah to the the Master Shadchan.
This is totally illegal. When one donates a kidney, they are asked straight out(by the social worker)why they are donating, and if they are donaing to get any money out of it.
There is a frum man named Mr. Philip Rosenthal who is very knowledgeable in the areas of computer and internet safety. He deals with many people around the world regarding obsessive computer behaviors, online gambling and Internet safety. He is recognized as an expert in his field and is called upon regularly for consultation with mental health care professionals, schools, lay people, and community leaders. In my opinion, I would strongly urge you to get in contact with him. Even though this may seem to be a relatively simple question, it can be a starting point for undesireable activities if it is not addressed properly. You can contact him at 914-714-3086 or [email protected]. Hatzlacha Raba!