gemgirl

firstly, let me make something clear- believe it or not i didn’t realize it was him until our first date because he has a pretty common name and they broke their engagement over a year ago so none of his references mentioned it. (not sure why). but once we went on that first date we just clicked right away, and i cudnt help it, we went out again. the second date became a third.. then a fourth…. after like the fifth date i sat down with my friend and we spoke about it and she said we was fine with me going out with him, bcz it obviously wasn’t meant to be for her. but now i could tell she feels hurt. probably the reality of the situation is sinking in. But doesn’t the fact that she gave me permission count for something?

Also the reason that he broke the engagement was, in my opinion, mainly her fault. she did not disclose some crucial health information until after the engagement and he was not prepared for it.

Dear Puhlease- When I was in seminary, one of my rabbis gave me a piece of information i will NEVER forget. Don’t judge Judaism based off Jews. Jews can sometimes be “less than perfect” to say the least, but that shouldn’t reflect on the religion itself. There is a story of a survivor in a concentration camp who went OTD because he couldn’t believe that a man made people give him their meager potions of bread for one time use of his siddur. How could a Jew be so greedy? The survivor was reprimanded- do not look at the man who took the bread; look at all those who were willing to give up their bread to pray with a siddur. I would love to be in touch with you more if you’re open to it!