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Interjection: “The paragraph should not come across as flaunting, but you want the shadchan to be able to tell your personality from what you write. Are you deep? Are you spiritual? Are you fun? Are you serious? What means a lot to you?…etc.”

I see what ur saying, but I also agree with yentingyenta that we are complex individuals, and it’s kind of hard to really describe oneself. Hey – I’ve been married almost 22 years, and I still can’t describe myself 😉 Good thing we didn’t have shidduch resumes way back then.

So anyway – Yentingyenta – do the best you can to write something about yourself (see Interjection’s ideas) and probably write more about what ur looking for. I’m no expert anyway, and also there are so many different ways of writing a resume. So once again, I wish you much Hatzlacha and you should find your bashert soon.

I don’t know that it’s necessary to have a paragraph about yourself, as ppl can call your references to find that out. Also it may sound a bit haughty (for lack of a better word) to point out all your wonderful points – let others do that for you.

However, I do feel it is necessary to write a paragraph describing what you are looking for. Even those who know you well may not know exactly what you want.

Just wondering – what does your resume look like if you have nothing on it? Just your name, age, parents and sibs names, and schools you went to?

Hatzlacha in your search.

Wolf – I’m with you! (I usually agree with you on most topics- I like your way of thinking).

We don’t eat fish and meat together but we do eat fish and milk/cheese together. So I guess I’m just at horrible as you are. 🙂

I dream a lot about deceased relatives. Particulary 2 aunts, then sometimes the 2 uncles, and my father in law. Less often, surprisingly are my parents. You would think they would be the most often in my dreams.

I, too, wake up kind of upset sometimes, depending on what the dream was. I’ve never asked any Rav about it. Maybe I should.

When you’re dreaming, do you know that they aren’t alive? Or does it seem normal that they’re there? By me, I have both types.

Mammele – I haven’t even checked this thread since the last time I posted, which as you can see was 10 months ago. But even if I had, I don’t think I would have realized that your post was meant for me since I mentioned nothing about a Fried family. I just asked if anyone knew her maiden name. HELLOWORLD is the one who mentioned the name Fried and said she’s from bp.

So anyway, I guess I don’t know who Mrs. Ullman is as I do not recall a Fried family.

writer34- I’m really sorry this thread got carried away. I hope you get some real answers to your question.

“Dear Lunatic” – LOL. You really make me laugh.

Avhaben: hmmmmm. A compliment together with an insult. What? You thought maybe the insult wouldn’t be noticed?

compliment- “you know way too much” – I take that to mean I am sooo smart. 😉

insult- “was it the 50’s?” Hmph!!!! Thanks a bunch!! But ur WRONG. I guess I’ll just have to keep you in suspense. Oh well!

Avhaben – “someone from your generation might have some recollection of the event.”

oooh! Them’s are fighting words. So you’re assuming I was around then?! What chutzpah! How do you know I wasn’t born in the 70’s?

Now – try to wiggle ur way out of this one. 😉

Dear Bar Abby,

It really bothers me when people say or write “yontiff”. IT’S YOM TOV – BLAZES – CAN’T ANYONE GET THAT RIGHT?

Yes dearest bar abby – you are guilty of that too.(see one of your above posts)

What can I do to get over this? Or rather what can I do to get everyone in the world to say/write it correctly? AHHHHHHH!

No – I am not hysterical. I’m a very calm, cool, and collected person. 😉

ok yummy – lemme give you my credit card number. it’s….. oh wait! i forgot! you know where my purse is. 😉

Happy Birthday to my wonderful cupcake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Never had self esteem and really still don’t.

Tried reading some Twerski books but I just couldn’t get into them. (Yes, I know he’s a brilliant psychologist and author – I’m not saying anything against him or his books – chas v’shalom)

So anyway – somehow you get along in life even without self esteem. Though, of course it is much better to try to work on it. Maybe therapy can help. Hatzlacha.

If she has a somewhat common name, or even if it’s not (she could have relatives with same name), just make sure you got the right person. You might say I don’t want this girl based on x or y that I read about her, when it’s totally a different person.