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I cannot swallow pills either. Neither can my kids. I’ve tried all the recommendations – NOTHING WORKS. So I have to resort to either chewing them (ugh) or opening capsules and putting the “beebles” in ice cream. Sometimes my doctor can actually get me the med in a liquid or chewable form – but not always.
middlepath: I couldn’t agree with you more!!! (I just hope I’m not one of the people to whom you are referring.) It really upsets me when I see some of the mean spirited comments here. I am also very surprised at some of the comments and words that are allowed to be posted on this site.
mexipal – I wish what you said were true – that people are kinder than we think. Too often, it is exactly the opposite! Especially in school, but even later on. Kids and adults can be quite mean. It’s just that adults will do it in a different way, they won’t act out as kids do.
ToomuchOO – I’m not saying that is the general rule. I’m not trying to scare you or make you more nervous. Surely there are some girls you can count on to help you out. Is there a teacher you can speak with – preferably one who will be at the Shabbaton with you? Hatzlacha Rabba – have a great time!
My husband was raised in Memphis. He has been wanting to take me and our children there for the longest time. We have yet to go. Hopefully this summer. We are all looking forward.
I’ve met quite of few Memphis friends of my husband and my in laws. They have come here to visit. In fact some came in for our sheva brachos almost 22 years ago. Then a few came in when we celebrated my in laws 50th anniversary approximately 7 years ago. They are a very warm and close knit community.
BTW – I am a born and bred New Yorker who now lives in Chicago. Growing up in NY, you think it’s the be all – end all of places. You can’t imagine a frum community anywhere else. And certainly any place like Chicago or Memphis or any other OOT place can’t possibly have “regular, normal” people. Well guess what! That is totally false! There are many wonderful frum communities outside of New York.
Nebach – I see popa is off his meds again. Refuah Shelayma.
Squeak- thanks for your idea. Now we are all decent. I was really worried about being retarded.
ATTENTION EVERYONE: THIS IS A PUBLIC DISCLAIMER:
I just noticed that his book is published by Gefen publishing co. – I want to say that there is NO CONNECTION TO ME – REPEAT – NO CONNECTION!!!!!!! I never even heard of them before.
never heard of the game. how do you play?
Always: Look at what you wrote:
“I must reiterate HE IS NOT VIOLENT TOWARDS ME or even walls or objects (i have done that) he just lost his temper at our child”
He JUST lost his temper at your child??? This wasn’t the first time.(even ONE time is too many) You said he did it to another child 7 years ago. He also reacted very badly when your daughter was eating candy Friday night. I’m sure there are more cases you didn’t tell us about.
I know you love your children very much so please please think of them! Of course you should be thinking of yourself as well. Please let us know what happened tonight when your husband came home!!! We are worried about you. Don’t stop posting here. All the best to you!!!!
Always: Syag and flowers are right. We never bang our kids heads against the wall. Yes we have been frustrated at times but NEVER VIOLENT!!! Please stop making excuses for him!!!! I agree you both need help. But please, for the sake of your children – if not you yourself- GET HELP IMMEDIATELY!! Making those phone calls was a great start but don’t just stop there!
Always – I just realized that you already answered my question about having family to contact. Sorry, I didn’t see that before. I also see that someone told you they can be contacted if you ask the mods. This person is apparently a professional who can offer guidance. But I just want to say that if you want to contact me for support (no i’m not a professional – just someone who cares), you can ask the mods for my info as well. Perhaps others here might also be willing to be contacted. You need a group of friends. We at the CR are here for you.
PLEASE KEEP US POSTED
Always – GET OUT FAST WITH YOUR KIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He IS an abuser! It’s typical for an abuser to be “sweet” at times. That is not his real personality. The abuser part is his real personality.
Don’t worry about ruining his life. He’s already ruining yours and your children’s lives. The way you speak, you sound like a typical victim of an abuser. Trying to make excuses for him. STOP!!!
YOU DESERVE BETTER!!! You must go to the police! A lot of people here are telling you to go to a Rav. The only problem I have with that is that many times a Rav will side with the man. (there have been many such stories) Yes I’m sure many Rabbonim will truly listen to you and do the right thing but you have to be careful. Do you have any family or friends you can confide in? Another good piece of advice I see here is to call the Shalom Task Force.
PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN! KEEP IN TOUCH WITH US. WE CARE A LOT.
“It is going to take a few days no matter what” Um…. it could also take a few weeks or more. but it will happen. Don’t despair and don’t feel like you or your child are a failure because it’s taking longer than you thought. Kids pick up on ur feelings of stress so try to remain calm. Praise him when he gets it right. When he has an accident, just say “it’s ok – let’s clean it up – next time you’ll try again” One day you look back at this and probably laugh. Every moment in raising children is precious – even if they are stressful at times. Hatzlacha Rabba. Enjoy their youth, then the pre-teen years, the teen years, and then adulthood!!!
The whole situation is so disheartening! Our people have a lot to learn. It’s so sad to see such sinas chinam. Will we ever learn? Have we learned anything yet?
Hatzlacha Rabba!
Depends what you’re looking for. Like sem20 said – be more specific.
There really aren’t any Chabad houses there? I was so sure there was at least one. Are there any Jews there at all?
sem20 – i’m thinking…i’m thinking.. i just haven’t come up with an amazing idea yet. i know that’s hard to believe but it’s true!
hey! how about something to do with parking at fire hydrants with your blinkers on? LOL
you can dress up as a car with lights blinking and walk around carrying a fire hydrant. for the shalach manos, you can give out “tickets” to a “concert” – together with a beer and popcorn.
Wow – there’s nothing left for me to say. I agree – mikehall, aries, r.t., oomis, and tahini – you said it all. when will we learn? this is not religion – it’s insanity. sinas chinam. do we really want moshiach? let’s act like it!
rainbow – thanks – i never saw you here before but i already like you. 🙂
So……. are we ever going to find out who’s bday it was?
good point zeeskite. at least we know our Hebrew bday is the same. and it’s a special one too.
yeah – but that had nothing to do with me. what? you have a quota of apologies and then no more?
now that you answered me on this thread, have you checked back at the other thread – ya know – the one where you said we’re back to our feud?
popa- wow you actually sound hurt. well at least you admit it was a snarky comment. therefore i would have to say that if we’re back to the old feud, u started it. 😉
btw – you haven’t even responded to my last comment on the other thread.
yoya – do you really think popa cares?
popa: i didn’t call you any names – chas v’shalom. i would never do that. i was just offended that you wrote “Firstly, I’m not calling you” – it sounded so rude. that’s all. i’ll accept ur apology 🙂
cool! what’s ur english birthday? of course we know the Hebrew one is the real one but i’m just curious.
anyway – great people share great things 🙂
zeeskite: i must be slow today. what do we share? birthdays?
Bar Shattya – WHAT?
Syag – WHAT?
Popa – I’ve been very nice to you (as i am to everyone) until you said you are not calling. so don’t give me any of that!
always- nope, not me. mine is the first day of Succos.
syag – someone from midwesterner’s family?
ur not anonymous anymore if ppl here (on cr) have already met you.
and boy do you have an attitude!
popa – we’re insulted that ur not calling us! when are you leaving chicago?
so… are you going to call us? we’re sitting by the phone.
popa – so you think you know our last name? hmmm. i know you can’t say it here, nor would i want you to. but i’m really curious if you’re right. why don’t you look us up and call us? no – we won’t say you’re stalking us.
midwesterner- did you give us away to popa?
ah! but you still don’t actually know us or where we live.
Popa – so you know the family who made a wedding? Even if you do, how would you know my husband? Did you ever meet him?
popa – my husband’s cr name has identifying info? so you know who we are? how’s that possible?
happy birthday. would you like a pair of glass slippers? i know i know – that was really bad – just couldn’t resist.
we get first dibs on the jewel game tickets! so there!
Popa: we’re having donuts at our house on Shabbos and for melava malka. you are welcome to join us. first you have to find out who we are and where we live – but i can’t give out that info. so we’ll just have to meet at the bakery. you didn’t tell us what time to meet you there.
ya – i knew too
Tel Aviv Bakery on Devon. What time should we meet you there?
syag: phew! first i thought u were talking to me. then i saw the last sentence! unless you’re telling me to go to my room 🙁
onegoal- she’ll manage better without you? nah! i don’t think so. she’s gonna miss you tons.
btw – say hi to ur sis in E”Y from us.
Shticky: yup you guessed it. i’ve been married to what’s his name for almost 22 yrs. there’s actually a joke about this. you may have heard it:
a couple were celebrating their 50th anniversary with a big party. the husband kept referring to his wife as honey, sweetheart, etc. someone finally went over to him and said “wow – it’s amazing that after all these years you still use such terms of endearment” the husband replied “to tell the truth – after all these years, i forgot her name”
Zeeskite – what do mean? we’re good buds aren’t we? we seem to have the same opinions many times and we support each other here. we gotta stick together.
Hands down – i’m just the best and most favorite poster here!
hey – i figured since nobody else will mention me :(, i might as well do it myself. so i’m tooting my own horn – toooooooooooooot! there! i did it and it feels good. um…well not really. so pathetic!!!
booze – are you blackmailing us? if we don’t vote for 95 we’ll be banned? well guess what? i’m not gonna be threatened by you! na na na na na na – so mature of me. 🙂
anyway – i also vote for second place (i’m #1 as i said):
zeeskite
yummy cupcake
my other daughter who doesn’t want me to mention her screen name
ymhtb1
my husband (oops – can’t remember his screen name – don’t tell him)
midwesterner and his wife of course
syag
onegoal
kapusta
wolf
sometimes even popa