gavra_at_work

It is clear from the Gemorah and Meforshim Rishonim and Achronim that the type of punishment indicates what’s worse.

You are somewhat correct (Ayin BB 88B for a large exception), but that is not relevant to the point being made. Someone who doesn’t know (or recognize) that Chillul Shabbos is a problem (e.g. a Tinok Shenishba) will be punished less for that than someone who is MeAnes, or someone who cheats, while knowing it is wrong. Only the Ribbono Shel Olam knows what a person’s situation is and what they should be doing B’Asher Hu Sham.

Secondly, GAW, if a frei Yid knows that the Torah is true (even without internalizing it) and does not keep it, he is a rosha.

Judge not, that ye be not judged.

(In general, it’s not a bad idea, and certainly to those who have taken a step up so they should not look poorly on everyone below tham)

Once again, you don’t know where someone is holding and what the Ribbono Shel Olam expects from them in their situation to declare them to be a “Rasha”*. Perhaps they passed (or are passing) their Nisayon, and are doing what Hashem requires from them.

* There are exceptions, such as hitting someone or cheating, for which Chazal or the Torah (resp.) call someone who does them a “Rasha”.

sheepyaff: Punishment doesn’t equal “worse” in Halacha. “Worse” is up to the Ribbono Shel Olam to decide.

MDD: Most non-frum yidden don’t know enough to be a Rasha. Even if they “know”, its not internalized.

As for RSS, his statement has nothing to do with loving a child or not. He is simply saying that he will not be Over Avairos due to them (if it came to that).

There is a Chazal where R’ Meir says:” why should I accumulate money for my children? If they are righteous, HaShem will provide. If not, why should I accumulate money for enemies of HaShem?”.

Lulei D’mistafina, I’ll keep my mouth shut.

I imagine this argument is similar to one had between Bais Shammai & Bais Hillel.

PBA, Mod42: Love you both too 🙂

Either: “20 years coulda been paroled”

Or “soulmate forever partners in everything”

(Eizer or Kenegdo?)

You can say that they crashed into each other. When the fighting subsided they decided to marry.

LOL

As everyone else said, why can’t you tell the truth?

You completely distorted the gemara. The gemara tells us that shalom is so great that hashem allows his name to be erased. It says nothing about the fact that he allows a pritzus situation to facilitate shalom. In fact, the stated reason for “uncovering” (see Rashi on the word pura) her hair has nothing to do with shalom, rather it is to shame and rebuke her.

Yes, and so?

If Tznius was so important, then it (uncovering hair) would not have been allowed in the Sotah ritual. By the fact that it is allowed shows that Shalom Bayis is more important.

FYI, in general use among Achainu Beni Yisroel, the term “Hashem” is capitalized.

Dew Drop Inn – what sort of name is that? For a Pub?

One day your already rebellious teen says “I don’t have to listen to you, I’m 18 I’m an adult you can’t tell me what to do.”

Help him/her to be able to function like an adult and assist in getting your child a job.

WADR – with all due respect.

miritchka: I just added that it should be done privately. IMHO (in my humble opinion), many Tznius offenses are not due to blatant disregard, but rather not understanding or having been mistaught. That can be fixed, but only in a positive and private atmosphere.

apushatayid, thanks – you’re one of the first to mention talking to the husbands. I agree wholeheartedly – that seems to be a good point.

Completely disagree, unless you want to ruin Shalom Bayis and create divorces. In fact, it is better to not say anything than to cause friction in the home. After all, the Sotah’s hair is uncovered in the Bais HaMikdash (not Tznius!?) to create Shalom. (and FYI, the gemorah cares less about that than Mechikas HaShem).

I think having another woman, best if its the rebbitzen of the shul, go over and tell her straight out that she may not be aware of the halachic guidelines in the shul and please dress appropriately. It’s been done in the past. I would imagine its the same idea as a BY. When a student even wears the wrong sweater, there is a knas or some sort of warning before the knas.

Sometimes the best way is the blunt way.

WADR, being confrontational will only push the women in the opposite direction. If your goal is to make those who are not at your standards no longer Frum and thereby remove them from your shul, this would be a good idea.

BYM:

I don’t see how learning Gemarah will help you (although I don’t discourage it). Your issue seems to be that your entire life’s learning has been on a 5th grade level, even when you went to high school, seminary and beyond. Learning Gemorah on a 5th grade level will not help you understand “the Judaism stuff”. IMHO, you need some heavy Hashkafa (which unfortunately no one really writes in this day and age. “Popular frum hashkafa” is IMHO mostly shallow). I would suggest the Rishonim and Geonim, their Hashkafic works, and looking at them with a critical eye. Then work out for yourself a blend of what works for you. For example, the Chovos HaLevavos is a wonderful sefer, but I can’t agree with his thoughts on predestination, so I personally reject that.

Learning Abaye and Rava arguing about Yeush, although a wonderful thing, will not answer any of your questions.

Hatzlacha.

I would prefer a straight capitalist economy.

No you don’t. You are not a “Randist”. Tax money has to go somewhere, and in all truthfulness, the state is directing it towards those who support the state.

Lapid is a “populist”, following the protests of 2011. If he would join with the Charaidim, his party would (rightfully) be thrown out, as that is not what he was elected for. To a large extent, he was elected in the same way and the same reasons as the Charaidim vote: Give us money. The only difference is that this election (unlike most), he was able to deliver while the Charaidim were not.

As per the MDD/BL point, it was a tactical decision by the gedolim/askanim not to join the social justice protests, when they certainly could have done so (and it would have made sense from an economic standpoint). That decision is now coming back to bite them in the nose.

Jerusalem reader: What do you do and (more critically) what is your (and your husband’s) education level? You could be working two jobs, but if they are Gannenet and Challah Baker it won’t do you much good. Even programming is saturated due to all the Charaidi females looking for jobs & pushing down wages.

I have a friend in Israel who works for IBM, another for MADA, and another in high-tech. They all (boruch Hashem) seem to be making it. The common thread is that they all have education.

Rav Moshe Wolfson from Torah V’Daas is quoted as saying that when Hashem decides what you get for the year, it is where you will be in the range of the work that you do. Usually it in context of Kollel guys getting rich, but the same is true for a melamed or a Janitor. If Al Pi Teva you will make 30K NIS, don’t expect that Hashem will give you 200K. Ask that Hashem give you at the higher range, as asking for something that is not normal is asking for a neis, and you have to deserve that.

Also did either you or your husband go to the army? Without it, employers (rightfully may) feel that you are missing a certain aspect of the attitude/culture needed for the work environment. Just an idea.

As a final note, if you really can’t make it and are suffering, and you owe money that you can’t pay back (which makes someone into a Halachic Rasha (Al Pi Nach)) speak to your Rov about being Yored. Its not something I would suggest L’Chatchilah, but it may allow you to keep your sanity.

Hatzlacha in all your actions.

Work vs. Kollel

http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/best-way-to-break-in-nine-inch-stilettos-before-yom-tov#post-484552

ND: Why? Its not as if he even said Hashem (which is also meaningless from a Halachic standpoint, and why we use it). Had he said “Amonai” is ridiculous, would you have said the same? How about “Konam”? (which after all means Halachicly Korban L’Hashem)? How about Conan? (as a Konam for Konam).

Where should it end? The Sem girl calling her date “KeliKaKu”? 🙂

r-bbiofberl-n – Thanks.

dveykus613: Different mindset. Everyone else may as well be talking to a Hare Krishna (or a Feegle) when trying to discuss the issues.

My original post still stands. As long as you are not living off the backs of others, Kol HaKavod.

“kiddush Hash-m”

Is that when you add Hash (weed) to your Kiddush? Please don’t talk about your drug usage on this website.

I’m not arguing in favor of incentivizing having kids (which most societies say they want to do). I’m arguing that the state does take an active interest in providing a safety net for people and kids are people.

You have changed your argument from the cuts to the original subsidies, and I believe that works in my favor.

I think my point is that the state feels they are currently incentivizing children (which is not something they want to pay for, and was an unintended effect (by the state, not the Charaidim)). This cost was OK (as long as the Charaidim voted with the party in power), but is now overwhelming other parts of the existing safety net (such as apartments for veterans). This caused the social justice protests (and is what brought Lapid into power). Therefore the subsidies were cut back to be more in line with what would benefit the most people who do service and support the state.

Here in America, we are in a similar situation. The safety net of Medicare/Medicaid is taking up funds so quickly that it is causing us to not be able to uphold other parts (such as Head Start, which is being cut due to lack of funding).

PBA: Even if you agree that there might be reason to provide subsidies for children, there is no inherent right for those with children to demand subsidies.

And yes, the Charaidim are the ones who pushed for the huge child subsidy that existed (and was designed to benefit Charaidim). Now that they are out of power, the subsidy is being removed.

I do feel bad for Shraga (as he is suffering due to the cuts), and would love to help him out. Since he would rather argue than work on his finances, I feel less bad. My final suggestion is go find a financial planner that can help you.

A quote from the Jerusalem Post, January 2013:

The numbers were stark. Of all bank account holders in Israel, 52 percent went into overdraft last year, half of them remaining in the red on a regular basis. Not counting mortgages, half the public was in debt of one sort or another.

Fully 20% of them were late in their bill payments, and many said they would not be able to deal with an unexpected one-time cost of NIS 8,000.

More than simply a snapshot of poor financial planning, the data paints a picture of a public that lacks basic financial literacy, a problem experts worry can have implications for the broader economy.

(Emphasis added)

Let’s ask an additional question, and then perhaps we could help. What is your (approximate) income, and what are your expenses? Does your wife work (Most people in the US need a 1 1/2 – two income home to make ends meet)? Perhaps you are spending on things that are not “basic needs”, and you just don’t realize it. Do you keep a budget, or a ledger of what you spend every month?