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AVI K: So I guess according to Joey and DY, Rav Soloveichik (along with many other chashuvah rabbonim of recent generations) were engaged in kefirah.
The “Dear Abby” type of advice columns don’t seem especially appropriate for frum couples seeking advice on marriage issues. While it may sound trite, starting with your own rav/rebbitzen may provide a useful foundation for resolution of some issues but more importantly, they may refer you to a marriage counselor or therapist that himself/herself is frum or at least experienced In dealing with frum clients.
If you wanted to by a cynic, it means a plan for building a business stressing limited selection, above-market prices, poor quality service etc. In the context of this thread, I suspect it means a plan whereby a yeshivish guy with limited academic and business credentials, not a lot of money but willing to work hard can build a small business and possibly obtain some outside financing along the way. If you open the classified section of Jewish week, hamodia, yatid, etc, you will see a gazillion businesses advertising themselves as “heimeshe” with no coherent theme or common attributes.
DY….the stress on young frum women is to a large extent the outcome of the self-imposed expectation that if you are not married by XX years (depending on the specific community) it is indicative of some “flaw” in your appearence, behavior, intellect etc. and this kind of damaged goods mentality becomes a self-fulfilling reality.
You can find literally dozens of books on Amazon on business start ups. However, before you spend money on books, you can get some really good guidance online for free on the website of the Small Business Administration. CR rules don’t allow for posting links to the specfic pages but you can find links to the tutorial information easily by searching on the SBA.gov home page. The information you find there will help you narrow your Amazon search to books on the specific matters you feel you need to explore in greater depth. its also informaiton meant for a small simple startup business and not some high-tech company looking for venture capital. Good luck.
DY….agreed in some cases but the term “crisis” is now used in a mindess way in relation to young men and women in their 20s who haven’t yet married. The stress and pressure makes them feel like damaged goods.
Its only a “crisis” for shadchanim without successful shidduchim.
So based on the legal analysis of the NYC Code provided by Lowertuition 1120, all the school bus drivers in BP and Willy should also be designated as “Assistant rosh yeshivos” and they could designate their homes as an annex of the yeshiva and therefore legally park overnight??
Why not dress up as “ad sehlo yadah” so everyone will be guessing what they are dressed up as. Otherwise, consider dressing the yinglach in a Gebrochts costume, which I understand will be the hottest theme this Purim
The counter argument would be that each school bus allows one or more local families to avoid owning cars that would be needed for school transportation that otherwise would be parked on the same street. Also, in many communities, street parking in residential neighborhoods is restricted to non-commercial vehicles. Not sure what the rules are in your local area
There are many orthodox yeshivos that include some limited instruction in Talmud in their curriculum for girls so obviously some rabbonim do allow. I’m sure some will question whether these are truly “orthodox” schools and whether their rabbonim hold by the right hashkafah. I somehow don’t think a baas yisroel will confront a prosecutor in beis din shel maalah charged with learning talmud.
There needs to be aggressive enforcement of no parking rules for school buses on residential streets, including towing and severe fines for chronic violators. Yes, it will mean that the school bus companies/schools will have to pay for the drivers to get up earlier and work longer hours to pick up/return buses from/to approved commercial parking lots and depots but from what we read here frequently, the illegal parking situation on local streets has gotten out of control. The alternative is to eliminate school buses entirely and leave it up to the parents to get their kids to and from school like they do in some other cities, but that could be even more burdensome to some families lacking their own vehicles.
Every time you hear the media and other politicians (including Rs) say he has become really “unhinged”, he proves them wrong but saying or doing something even more outrageous. There is no bright line test under the 25th Amendment for “incapacity” in relation to removal of a President from office and the procedures make it unlikely to ever happen, given the alternative (aka Pence).The reality is he will be in office until 2020 when the electorate has a chance to decide if they want another 4 years of this circus.
Winnie: Well said. The vast majority of young frum women who pursue advanced degrees and a profession do so for their own personal reasons and aspirations. As you note, that doesn’t mean they don’t also intend to pursue a family. While such a woman is unlikely to be interested in a shiduch with a guy who has limited secular education and life experience, there are plenty of guys who have been able to pursue a balance of limud torah and secular studies. A much bigger threat to a successful shiduch is a vast disparity in intellect and education, not earnings level.
Boki…..yes, he will get some additional funding for border security in exchange for some temporary relaxation of DACA and other undocumented residents from some countries facing deportation. He will never get a “wall” unless the Mexicans build it on their side of the border to protect against waves of Americans fleeing south if the Trumpkopf is reelected in 2020.
RY23; Azoy, but we also thought that there was only one true “President” resdiing in the WH but apparently he was abuducted sometime on January 20, 2017 by undocumented Martians and they substituted one of their androids in his place who was to be remote controlled by a secret satellite orbiting the earth. Unfortunately, the satellite went into the wrong orbit and the radio commuicaitons have been lost leaving an uncontrolled android runnig our country.
To “1”. Whats not the “reality”?? There are multiple data sources showing more young Jewish women getting advanced degrees. So you must disagree with the notion that ultimately, most educated frum women will choose a choson based on their intelligence, midos etc. rather than their income?? Perhaps you subscribe to the notion that $$$ are the most important metric for a baas yisroel seeking a shiduch.
There is a reasonable chance that a moderate Dem with military background, some serious gravitas on foreign policy issues and not intent on “spreading the wealth” could beat Trump in 2020. Sadly,however, it appears that the Dems are intent on forming their usual circular firing squad and will end up moninating some far-left (aka “progressive”) candidate who will turn off the same historically Democratic voters in Blue states who voted for Trump in 2016.
I guess the point here is whether its “OK” for yiddeshe mosdos to sponsor fundraising activities that would likely be not be considered as activities for a shul’s or yeshiva’s own tzibur but are somehow “OK” for wealthy outsiders. I personally find anything smoking-related very objectionable because of loss of family and close-friends to smoking-related health issues. There seem to be so many other fund-raising opportunities, but some note the “arms race” where there is a need to outdo the last event or the multiple competing events from other mosdos. Some things should be off-limits.
Fake News. The Councilman is referring to the OTHER Uncle Moishi. As reported here on YWN, there are TWO Uncle Moishis .
Given that there are more frum women entering certain higher paying professions that historically were male dominated including law, investment banking and certain technology fields, its not surprising that earnings disparity becomes an issue. Also, many women are deferring starting a family to complete grad school which compounds the issue (aka they are older and higher earning than the bochurim that may be seeking a kallah in that demograhic). Ultimately, I think most women will focus more on the intellect and midos of the young men they consider for a shidduch rather than their W-2.
I still haven’t heard a coherent reason why the Trumkpopf is asking for tax dollars to pay for the wall that he promised 233 times during the campaign would be paid for by Mexico. His nareshkeit about the new trade deal yielding benefits that might arguably “pay” for the wall has been ridiculed by leading members of his own party. The Trumkopf should impose a tax on all Mexican restaurants to create a fund to pay for border security as he promised. Such a “Burrito Tax” would pay for the wall within 2 or 3 years and get him off the hook and allow the government to reopen.
Perhaps its because of the FACTS that a physical barrier would take tens of billions of dollars and nearly a decade to build across those portions of the border where a wall is even feasible leaving hundreds of miles open to illegal crossings to those who wish to go around the barrier. It doesn’t even address the hundreds of thousands who fly into the U.S. and overstay their visas and simply blend into the population. Any serious terrorist will simply change flights at Heathrow and fly into Toronto and walk across 2300 miles of unfenced Canadian border. Other than that, its a great idea.i
Given that the nominal head of the Republican Party recently refused to appologize for his campaign demand for a “total and complete shutdown of Muslims entering the United States”, a Republican Congressman from Iowa (King) will be censured by the House this week for affiliating himself with anti-Muslim racists and white Supremacists (aka nationalists) and 25 percent of the Texas Republican party leadership voted this week to oust a local Republican leader simply because the Muslim religion is “incompatible with Republican idealolgy and values”, its quite surprising that even 13 percent of the U.S. Muslim population identify as R’s .
One has to question the common-sense of the Rosh Yeshiva and askanim from the Board of this yeshiva if they knowingly approved this fundraising event. Its only for adults? So aduls don’t die from smoking and kids don’t take their guidance from adults?? What do these ehrliche yidden have betwen their ears??
After reading 40 posts, I get the feeling that you have a bunch of blind men describing the elephant that hone has ever “seen”. There seems to be no clear and explicit definition of what is meant by a “heimeshe hashgacha” or what metrics of “trust” one is referencing There were some who believe that only a top of the line chassideshe hashgacha can be trusted until there were a few isolated allegations of incidents where the mashgichim knowingly or unknowingly allowed treifus to be sold in establishments under their supervision.
I find it somewhat amusing that you would assume that a group of young women from a paticular seminary would all share the same personal attributes or adhere to a particu,ar hashkafah. Would you ask the same questions for a group of bochurim visting from Mir or Brisk? Each of these young women are likley to have their own personality and practices so don’t expect them to all fit into some steretype.
Since these interactive devices are captive to the internet search algorithms they are linked to, any question posed verbally can be confused and revert back with stuff you wouldn’t want your kids to see. Not much different from misspelling a search and getting back pritzus.
Read the YWN news story from several weeks ago about all the detailed arrangements made for the frum group that took a cruise to the Anarctic. It is a great illustration of the challenges and the solutions found. Its also one of the greatest videos where the yeshivish-looking penguin in the far background of the guy who is finishing the siyum on the ice seems to be bowing up and down exactly at the moment in the video when the guy is saying “modim anachnu lafanecha…”
If the Peleg hoodlums were disrupting rush hour traffic, throwing garbage and starting dumpster fires in BP and Willy, I suspect that all the admiration and support for Rav Auerbach’s Z’tl shitah would disappear quicker than a copy of Lehovin on T22T’s doorstep.
An absolutely brilliant idea for an ehrliche yid anxious to burn down his home (along with those of other tenants or neighbors) while voiding his fire insurance coverage and likely subjecting himself to arrest for violations of the NYC fire and building codes. Whats even more amazing is your willingness to risk the lives of yourself and family al kidush hashem to use a portable gas-fired commercial oven indoors with no regard for carbon monoxide etc. Mi kamocha Yisroel!!1
By many estimates, both government and academic, by 2040-45, the U.S. will be a “majority-minority” nation from a demographic perspective (i.e. counting bodies not voters). Its also a reality that voting turnout among minorities is lower than whites (across comparable gender, income and regional peer groups) so it could be at least a decade or two longer before the reality of minority “control” will manifest itself in the electoral process. The hard core Dems are now crying Gevalt that the top 3 Dems in the early Presidential poles(the “3 Bs, Biden, Bernie and Beto) are all white males..
To 1: Because some of the articles cross the line such as a “special edition” some have attributed to the same publisher and distributed to attendees at the agudah convention hotel several weeks ago which was disrespectful to some chashuve rabbonim.
“Just do what this guy did. He took them back to the editors house on 1th Street” .
The newsprint used by the publishers of Lehovin is especially well-suited for wrapping fish (especially prime cuts of Matjes herring etc.) . You will be making a statement of appreciation for their great editorial work by first wrapping some fish in the most recent edition delivered to your door before returning it. If you have a cat, there are some more creative options for gift-giving to the publisher.
On a serious note, its not such a bad idea to scan these rags before trashing them simply to know what some of the nareshkeit that crazies at both ends of the spectrum are spouting.I think the above postings make a really critical point. There is a world of difference in the safety records of “private” planes. Aircraft maintained and operated by commercial private flight operators or corporate fleets have an incredibly high safety record, in many cases equivalent to commercial scheduled airlines. Aircraft owned/operated by individuals or by small businesses that rely on their inhouse pilots and maintenance staff have a considerably less stellar safety record in comparison. The author of the original post really didn’t provide much information to know which end of the spectrum he fits in. If he owns his own small plane that is maintained by a local flight services operator and only flies periodically, I can understand why some might be a bit hesitant.
Riverdale is about 20 miles from BP and 25 miles from Monsey but it might as well be on another planet from the perspective of those who have contempt for YCT/Rav Weiss and his hashkafah. To those that view MO, and especially the YCT leftist brand of MO as inconsistent with daas torah and yiddeshkeit, then there really is no common ground for discussion on the pros/cons of whether they offer an option for keeping some connected to yiddeshkeit because they don’t view it as “yiddeshkeit” and some would say no better than conservative/reform kefirah.
Continuing tensions between government “establishment/promotion” of religion practices versus more modern laws requiring reasonable “accommodation” of religious practice. Sadly, the two issues get morphed by both sides in the ongoing culture wars.
The religious “left” (aka MO) and the political left are NOT the same. Jews who have nominally associated with the Dems and political left are increasingly moving center/right as the left is captured by an increasingly strident anti-Semitic tone (masquarading as anti-Israel and not anti-Semitic). This was noted in another recent thread where most of the Womens’ march leadership has resigned in protest to the continued inclusion of anti-Israeli/pro Palestinian groups whose agenda is clearly anti-Semitic. Sadly, we are squeezed with anti-Semitism on both the right and left fringes of the American political debate. The religious right itself, which for the past 2 or 3 years was almost 100 percent pro-Trump has shown a slight centrist tilt as some are questioning their unconditional support for the current Administration and looking beyond its clearly pro-Israel policies to other issues.
Assuming you are cooking a whole chicken, the single most important factor whatever recipe you use is to make sure it is cooked through to the proper temperature when served (160 degrees) but not overcooked to the point of dryness. Also, instead of the usual high heat/low heat which is recommended for a crisp skin, try cooking at a lower temperature (325-to 350 degrees until you are close to done (depending on the size of the chicken) but also remember it will continue “cooking” a bit after you take it out of the oven. Also, if you intend to reheat later, allow for that as well. No matter how good your recipe and basting, a dry chicken is really not very tasty.
can you try to think of a kinder way to say that? It was otherwise a good point. (talk about judgemental) – 29
Behyme: Agreed!! If we required all the parents whose kids ride the yellow school buses to put their yinglach in little baskets on the back of their bikes and peddle them to school, we would solve the school bus parking problem. Another strategy would be to repaint the yellow buses green to visually replace the “green space” lost when those ehrliche yidden in BP with the illegal curb cuts paved over their front lawns to create parking spaces in front of their non-existent garages.
Leah: Thank you for the clear and 100 percent correct tutorial on “public” versus “private” space. I apologize if my attempt at sarcasm wasn’t clear. I was trying to make fun of those who claim “chazakah” on a public parking space but my attempt at humor clearly was too subtle. An even more selfish and sometimes bizarre practice I’ve encountered frequently in Boston and less so in NYC is the winter custom of placing lawn furniture, trash cans etc. to reserve “shoveled out” parking spaces after a snowstorm. In the latter case, the space may not even be in the front of the house of the individual claiming a reservation of a street parking space based on his/her prior efforts to dig it out.
Joseph: He already has “dissolved” the Congress, to the extent that the spineless Republicans who are left will not speak out no matter how crazy he gets.
If you can save a seat in shul, makom kavuah, why not a parking space??i
Hours of instruction have never been shown to be highly correlated with higher performance on achievement tests. That being said, it defies logic that for some of the yeshivos offering barely an hour or two of instruction in secular subjects shouldn’t increase the time and quality of instruction but the NYS Ed threats against schools and parents is politically a non-starter and way overdone.