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Yeshivos/DY: You agree that parents have been tapped out in terms of what they can afford to pay and the political likelihood of any near-term increase in public sector subsidies is very small. For any business, if your revenues cannot cover your expenses you have the option of floating debt to be purchased by those who believe the world will change in the future and you will have the revenues to pay back the loans (perhaps with interest), ask your employees and vendors to accept lower compensation (aka cut pay for teachers etc) or find other ways of cutting costs (fewer hours of instruction, limit new admissions if they don’t cover marginal costs, etc.) Its economics 101….cut costs or increase revenues (or pay your bills in a new heimeshe yptocurrency endorsed by rabbonim and see if you can find enough yidden to accept it in lieu of dollars)

Try to visualize the shiduch police rounding up all the unmarried singles in town,, dragging them into the shul or Simcha hall, , pairing them up based on some undefined matching criteria and forcibly detaining them until after kiddushin. and shevah barachos. were completed when. the dazed couples were sent home to begin their lives together. Sound like something out of the made up horror show called joseph’s purim spiel

“….Its been said that one should compliment their spouse …” (spouse=wife based on cooking reference)

Said by whom??? Reb Yosef, resident posek and troll here in the CR, brings down from chazal several times a week why wives should be at home in the kitchen dressed in in at least a hijab taking care of their children, having more children and serving their husband’s whims…..to complement them would risk diverting their attention from their primary focus in life which is to make the husband happy

In the near-term, there may be some additional security/transportation/special ed type functions where public funds can be applied to private and religious schools but there is zero political support for school vouchers in support of tuition, at least in those states (NY, N J, MD, CA ) where the majority of yidden are located. Maybe Florida, but even there it will be an uphill fight beyond the limited vouchers already provided. The only long-term solution is for Yidden to budget for their kids’ tuition in the same way they budget for housing, clothing and other essential expenses. Since most frum yidden would not find “public” schools to be an option, there is no easy or direct source of funding beyond contributions from wealthy askanim and families’ own funding.

There are 2 or 3 organizations that serve to intermediate financial aid requests by parents of boys and girls attending yeshivos so that confidential financial data/documents doesn’t have to be provided directly to the administrative staff of the yeshiva and could be embarrassing to the parents. In many cases, the yeshiva’s admin staff may daven or move in the same social circles as the parents. These organizations audit and verify the documents and suggest suitable levels of financial assistance based on some standard guidelines (e.g. percentage of income, family size, etc.) Hopefully, more yeshivos will implement these types of arrangements.

Yeshivos are no different from any other business or mosdos. Their good works do not excuse them from both halachic requirements and labor law obligations to pay their employees in full and on a timely basis. In rare circumstances, there might be a situation where meeting a payroll on time is impossible but even then, payment to teachers (and support staff) should be prioritized over other payments and employees should be given advance warning that checks may be a few days late.

Several of the postings above correctly note the tension between maintaining anonymity and privacy while taking advantage of the convenience and access to information provided by the internet. Unless you want to live in a cave and engage in barter transactions its impossible to avoid some confidential data leakage to the internet but there are numerous ways (some noted above) to minimize your risks.

Rebbitzen: Yes, of course a Rav today can impose legitimate conditions on whether and when and where he will be mesader kiddushin for a couple , insist they show an understanding of certain areas of halacha and approve of the hashgacha at the simcha hall but he cannot tell them to delay their wedding until his daughter and a few of her unmarried friends much less all the single girls in the senior class a the local Beis Yaakov have found their beschert. I’m sure he could try to impose such a policy but he will be rightfully be ignored by the vast majority of frum yidden who will take their business elsewhere.

Rebbitzen….giving your provocative suggestion (aka troll) the benefit of the doubt, I’d just call it a misguided and uninformed proposal that is infeasible, indefensible and most likely contrary to daas torah and halacha. Rabbonim can assist in the shiduch process, a beis din can adjudicate commitments related to the initiation and termination of a marriage but in todays world (Joey nothwithstanding) a beis din cannot dictate who marries who much less restrict others from marrying the person of their choice.

Mod 29: If you can get a drivers’s license in New York beginning next year by checking a third gender box (“X” or uncommitted) it is only right that a trolling rebitzen should be accorded the same gender anonymity

Keeping ALL stuidents out of school to resolve the school assignment/acceptance issues for a small number of students having difficulty finding a match make no sense. You don’t fix the problem by holding a gun to the heads of parents who have zero ability to fix the problem by keeping their kids from learning, creating enormous disruption to their daily lives since most work and have no alternative day care arrangements etc. You are not going to build new classrooms overnight and temporary trailer classrooms on school athletic field or parking lots may not be an option in crowded urban locations. Perhaps consider some hybrid arrangement using the public schools on a limited basis so the kids get a mimimal amount of secular instruction and organize interim afternoon programs at shuls and other mosdos for limudei torah for a few weeks until some additional space can be found at regular yeshivos. Again, many frum parents may not want their kids to attend a “public” school even for a few weeks and would rather teach them at home until a desk opens at a local yeshiva.

As we have noted on multiple threads and multiple times, a school is ultimately a business that must raise sufficient revenues through tuition and donations to cover the costs of chinuch. Up to a certain point where the school has open desks and class sizes are not too high, there is very little incremental costs incurred by adding more students but when that point is reached, either they have to find additional revenue stream and additional physical facilities or stop accepting new admissions. Diluting the quality of education for students already enrolled just to accept more students is unfair to everyone.

BTW….why would you be saying tehillim during chatzi kadish in the first place? Maybe I’m missing something.

The fast food places seem to change hashgachos more frequently than higher-end places so that I would always check in advance. Problem is that many have very simple websites advertising “kosher” without identifying the name of the rav ha’machshir or the specific hashgacha. I’ve even seen places with a te’udah in the window with the name of a Rav who was niftar years ago.

Writer…..Mods sometimes allow an entire megillah to be posted when brevity might have made the same points more efficiently. Point was made that under the CR posting guidelines, SEVERAL of the factors I cited as to why a post might be deleted have to do with its length so hamayvin yavin.

Not sure what world some of these posters are living in but sales of perfume have gone way down over the past decade as fewer and fewer young women show interest in fragrances of any sort. At the outset, most colleges and workplaces have explicit policies discouraging the use of any perfumes, deodorants/body oils with strong fragrances etc. because as someone noted above, many people have strong allergic reactions. Even more so, most millennials today surveyed simply don’t feel they either want or need such enhancements and prefer very limited natural/organic cosmetics in general. This “husband” sounds like he has considerably more serious issues than olfactory tzinus concerns.

1: You are entirely correct that the wasted time, inaction, kvetching, uncertainty or slow-motion movements on the bimah make the tzibur restless and invite the schmoozing and shushing. Its probably unrealistic to expect the davening, kariyah, mi sheberachs, derasha etc. to move along like clockwork, permanently ban any shaliach tzibur who thinks he is Moshe Koussevitzky and for the rav to get directly to the point of his dvar torah but certainly, some acceleration in the current pace of the davening would reduce (albeit not eliminate) the schmoozing and shushing. I was at one shul where after the chazaras hashatz and while the gabboim were getting the sefer on the bimah after pesicha, the Rav got up, wished everyone a gutten shabbos, asked everyone to wish the same to those sitting nearby and allowed about 2-3 minutes for everyone to complete their “critical communications” before putting their mouths into “silent mode” until after davening.

Rebyossel: It depends on which jurisdiction you are in and attempting to park in a spot where there is another yid attempting to exercise chazakah over a public parking space for his Shver who is still 20 minutes away. In general, if you can gently ease into the space and push him up on the curb with your front fender without inflicting injury, you can avoid criminal liability. However in Utah, Alabama, Kentucky and the District of Columbia, the initial contact between your vehicle and the parkingspotsitter could put you in public housing (aka the local jail).

Its only considered retaliation if you preface your shush with an even louder “Gut Shabbos Malkie” and then wishing the shusher a refuah shelamah for her “issues”.

I think he stopped recording several years ago, but I’ve put together some really good workout playlists from some of the early vintage Lipa albums.

There are certain thread topics that seem to have a resiliency that defies understanding and keep reappearing at regular intervals under slightly different headings. M’shenichnas Adar (rishon or sheini) marbim b’recycled CR threads.

As to DY’s skepticism of Rav Tendler’s credibility, I’ll repeat my original admonition to take anything attributed to anonymous internet sources with a grain of salt. I happen to have great respect for Rav Tendler as a talmid chacham, scientist and ethicist while understanding others may disagree. On the narrow inyan of cholov Yisroel, there seem to be a number of others who hold by similar views of Rav Moishe’s original statements and practices.

Neville: If you read carefully, I prefaced the story with the usual disclaimer about stories repeated on the internet BUT this particular attribution from Rav Tendler has been repeated/posted on multiple occasions. If you want to get into the whole Rav Tendler/?Rav Moishe Z;TL issues regarding credibility of Rav Tendler’s recollections of his father-in-law, save it for another thread.

pushatayid: And what baal simcha would knowingly schedule a simcha in a shtieblach with 40 seats that are full every shabbos if he know in advance that he has invited at least 25 additional guests who will be coming and there is no where to put them (other than in the kitchen, or the ezras nashim (and telling the latter to stand outside)

“Never seen a camel on the NY Thruway”
In the category of “don’t always believe what you read on the internet”, the following comments were attributed to Rav Moishe’s son-in-law, Rav Tendler, on the occasions of Rav Moishe’s 25th yahrtzeit.

Eating non-glatt kosher meat is not the only controversial stance Rav Moshe took. More famously, Rav Moshe ruled that all milk in the United States certified by the government as coming from a cow or other kosher animal is considered Chalav Yisrael. People still debate what Rav Moshe’s “true” opinion on the topic is, but, according to Ravi Tendler, “He meant exactly what he said. What he said was that we only drink Chalav Yisrael, but milk in America is Chalav Yisrael because the halacha says, ‘Im ein tamei b’edro’ – if the farmer does not have any non-kosher animals on his farm, then you don’t have to watch him. All you have to do is stay outside the farm to make sure no one comes in with a camel or a donkey.” , Rav Moshe argues that one may rely on government supervision to ensure that milk is kosher, but Rabbi Tendler said that in personal conversations, his father-in-law often stressed that dairy farmers in America simply do not have camels and other non-kosher animals on their premises. “He used to say to me, ‘We go to the Catskill Mountains on vacation; I never saw a camel. I never saw anybody milking a camel.’ We spoke about this very often and really in a kind of light mood. He didn’t understand what [his opponents] didn’t understand [and why they were attacking him].”

Everyone in Rav Moshe’s house drank regular milk, Rabbi Tendler said, and the only reason Rav Moshe himself did not do so is because he did not want “to be mattir neder” – to formally change his lifelong practice, dating to the first 40 years of his life in Europe, of drinking “traditional” Chalav Yisrael”

I’m not sure I’ve ever been to a shul where they run out of siddurim but I’ve certainly seen the “seat saving” issue, especially around the yom tovim. The most popular “reservation” methodology is the old fashioned spreading of taalasim over the seats (which I find offensive for reasons other than the seat saving issue). As to saving seats at Kiddush, chazal bring down the inyan that a”makom kavuah” does not extend to fressing cholent after musaf.