Gadolhadorah

Its all in the Shtreimlach!!
What misnagid has not walked by a chosid bedecked in a 16 inch fur headpiece delicately balanced on his head on a hot summer day along with a beautifully tailored bekishe and not experienced a deep sense of envy and anguish about not having been born into yiddeshe royalty. Its not just feel-good niggunim.

“Not drinking doesn’t make you a kofer”

Any more so than drinking in excess and putting yourself and others at risk makes you a tzadik. Fortunately, most who do drink, don’t drive and many don’t even have a car.

AAQ: I think the OP was perhaps thinking about a quiet ride along a bike trail running through the woodlands and bucolic meadows of Rockland County rather than threading his way among a bunch of Odysseys on a bike lane in Willy or BP

Is “moderation” fundamentally (not just linguistically) incompatible with ad shelo yadah?

Biking is great in the right locations and using common sense. There was nebech a tragedy reported yesterday of a bochur who was niftar in an accident in suburban Baltimore while biking on a fairly busy highway (Reisterstown Road) right off the ramps to I-695. Unless you are a really experienced biker, I wouldn’t think of riding along a multi-lane highway without a protected bike lane.

“Perhaps that has less to do with bias and more to do with the cumulative accomplishments, innovations, social movements, and historical events with worldwide repercussions of ONE population versus another…”
Do you mean chassidish or Litvish?? If the former, do we have a special month for each Chassidus? I’d be intrigued as to how Satmar will celebrate Tzionist History month or how Misnagdim Appreciation Day will be celebrated at 770.

Reb Yosef to Reb Yosef: Excellent point made in response to your prior excellent points.

White history month(s) are the other 11 months of the year which are not Black History Month. For all practical purposes, history as taught in schools is essentially White Eurocentric history for obvious reasons. I’m not threatened by schools and media inserting a modicum of Black or other ethnic-centric history if done with common sense and avoids the usual hyperbole and fringe political agendas like reparations etc.

GTN: Still not sure what you are saying……..Bernie has been saying the same thing for 50 years, some of it legit and much totally inaccurate or hyperbole. Haaretz seems to slants its editorial agenda based on political opportunism of the moment. Much of the recent rise in anti-semitic rhetoric and tropes and other/ethnic racist attacks are clearly originating at the other of the political spectrum here in the U.S. Bottom line is that the hate is now coming from zealots at both political extremists.

“I found a Shidduch resume posted online 1870 years ago, but since then they seem to have fallen out of style”

Truly neis m’shamayim. Vinton Cerf (aka the “Father of the Internet”) developed the TCP/IP protocols and the architecture of the Internet which first appeared in early 1983. Several years later, Al Gore sponsored legislation providing funding for ARPANet which provided the commercial structure for much of the internet arrangements we still rely upon today. Thus, it is absolutely amazing to have found a shiduch resume posted just 80 years after churban bayis sheini.

The US President, Bill Clinton presented the U.S. National Medal of Technology to Cerf and his colleague, Robert E.Jul 30, 2019

Interesting note on the Sunday news shows that some “insiders” think that NH governor Sununu who has been quietly visiting some of the key early primary states might emerge as an alternative to the Trump “wannanbees w/o the baggage”. While he hasn’t been reluctant to openly call out Trump’s craziness and address substantive issues, my sense is that he will quickly get branded as a “Rhino” and MAGA voters will go back to bottom-fishing among Pompeo, Pence, De Santis and the other far-right contenders.

Dofi: i’m surprised you still believe that one can freely wish harm on others with impunity but my belief in what goes around comes around has nothing to do with the OP or the analogy to a political zombies seeking to climb over one another with the new Republican style hyperbole to gain the attention of the hard-core conservative base. I’ll leave it at that and forego further responses.

dofi….who called and people the “living dead”….the political analogy was to a classic horror movie that is obviously not your genre of heimeshe cinematography. The Republican 2024 waanabees are all fighting for airtime and visibility to challenge Trump w/o alienating the Trumpkopfs. Perhaps Saturday Night Live cold opening would be a better analogy for you.

Reb Yosef’s obsession with having some form of intimate relationship (marriage or some polyamorous arrangement) with multiple women is his issue and obviously triggers multiple clicks and responses (all simanim of a really talented troll). However, none of that addresses the simple and obvious question in the OP dealing with a comfortable vocabulary for referencing or introducing a young women who you are getting to know. I’ll go back and reiterate that whatever is simple and respectful (“my friend” or something along those lines) is probably the best starting point.

“This essay, outlining my arguments against shidduch resumes, is nearly 10 times as long as an average shidduch resume, whose purpose is to outline a human being and his potential spouse. Need anything more be said?”

Yes. Stop the hysteria about the phony “Shidduch Crisis” and allow for a less stressful process of young men and women making their own decisions about who and when they want to meet and the terms of those interactions.

Pompeo’s recent comments on the essential attributes of a Presidential Candidate.

“We need more seriousness, less noise, and leaders who are looking forward, not mindlessly staring in the rearview mirror claiming victimhood,”

Is anyone willing to speculate as to whom he was referring??

AVD: Valid points about generic musar on Tshuvah which obviously is universally applicable to ANY set of circumstances. I’m referring more to the comments we see here in the CR as well as some commentary by rabbonim claiming the earthquake in Turkey was retribution for a particular Palestinian terrorist attack or that those attacks, in turn, were a consequence of specific moral failures by yidden ranging from insufficient adherence to tzinius to just about every possible other inyan where klal yisroel can be more obedient to daas torah.

UJM: Absolutely correct….some minority individuals interpret normal interpersonal actions or offers of assistance as patronizing or threatening.

The mindless comment about two yidden have been niftar in the 60+ years of manned space flight is about the least intelligent posting I can recall in a long time. We have chashuvah rabbonim and askanim offering conflicting reasons over the past week for the big Earthquake in Turkey, the terrorist attacks in EY and even why the Eagles lost the superbowl. These speculative rants provide very little useful information other than the antidote for every tragedy is to never leave your house and do tshuvah.

“Some of those who permit going on har habayis really know what they are talking about…”

And thats why for a long time, the YWN editorial staff found it necessary to include a warning in BOLD BLACK FONT in all the news articles on the subject that gadolei yisroel prohibit going up on har habyis and violators are chayav kores…..Perhaps BG should try his luck again and go up to har habayis to disprove the fears of all the Gadolim (and the wimpy editors who subscribed to the views of Gadolei Yisroel).

AVD: Batei Din throughout the world routinely rely on photocopies and video evidence in their deliberations and the burden is on litigants to demonstrate that such evidence has been tampered with. In many cases, it is physically impossible to present original documents and circumstances preclude any possibility of first-person visual testimony that can otherwise be corroborated by video cameras. There are several well-known cases where a beis din relied on video surveillance in matter involving gittin, theft and hashgachos allowing treifus.

Those who advocate efforts to “expel” the entire Palestinian population (other than known or suspected terrorists) from EY are delusional. It will not happen under even most right-wing (nationalist) government. And those who seek to promote Kahane type terrorist actions against the general Arab population with that end in mind are likely to face similar outcomes. Netanyahu seems to understand the limits of how far to take the “collective punishment” strategy and will not hesitate to squash the right-wing zealots in his own coalition who seek to act beyond those limits.

With all respect to those who claim to know, the reality is that we really don’t know who knows, and that the Ebeshter will reveal his decision in his own time and way w/o having to obtain prior approval from the CR naviim. Even speculation by chazal is still speculation.

I’m not a big fan of Netanyahu but I do respect his political skills. He deliberately allowed BG to go up on har habayis early last month just as the government was being formed to let him score some political points and deflate the issue. Now that Netanyahu is trying to establish ties with the Saudis, ANY such provocation would be stopped in its tracks and BG would be squashed like a bug. The Saudis have been relatively quiet about Israel’s forceful responses to Palestinian terrorists BUT if Israeli politicians provoked a violent confrontation on Har Habayis, the Saudis would immediately cut off any further discussions with Netanyahu on commercial “normalization” under some variation of the Abraham Accords.

One minor observation. As crazy as it may sound, adult children can react really weird to their Mom/Dad entering a new relationship. While we typically focus on managing the feelings of much younger kids in a divorce context, from a child’s perspective, Dad will always be “Dad” and Mom will always be “Mom”.
Having been one of your biggest CR fans for nearly a decade, much hatzlacha in whatever choices and decisions you make.