Gadolhadorah

dofi….who called and people the “living dead”….the political analogy was to a classic horror movie that is obviously not your genre of heimeshe cinematography. The Republican 2024 waanabees are all fighting for airtime and visibility to challenge Trump w/o alienating the Trumpkopfs. Perhaps Saturday Night Live cold opening would be a better analogy for you.

Reb Yosef’s obsession with having some form of intimate relationship (marriage or some polyamorous arrangement) with multiple women is his issue and obviously triggers multiple clicks and responses (all simanim of a really talented troll). However, none of that addresses the simple and obvious question in the OP dealing with a comfortable vocabulary for referencing or introducing a young women who you are getting to know. I’ll go back and reiterate that whatever is simple and respectful (“my friend” or something along those lines) is probably the best starting point.

“This essay, outlining my arguments against shidduch resumes, is nearly 10 times as long as an average shidduch resume, whose purpose is to outline a human being and his potential spouse. Need anything more be said?”

Yes. Stop the hysteria about the phony “Shidduch Crisis” and allow for a less stressful process of young men and women making their own decisions about who and when they want to meet and the terms of those interactions.

Pompeo’s recent comments on the essential attributes of a Presidential Candidate.

“We need more seriousness, less noise, and leaders who are looking forward, not mindlessly staring in the rearview mirror claiming victimhood,”

Is anyone willing to speculate as to whom he was referring??

AVD: Valid points about generic musar on Tshuvah which obviously is universally applicable to ANY set of circumstances. I’m referring more to the comments we see here in the CR as well as some commentary by rabbonim claiming the earthquake in Turkey was retribution for a particular Palestinian terrorist attack or that those attacks, in turn, were a consequence of specific moral failures by yidden ranging from insufficient adherence to tzinius to just about every possible other inyan where klal yisroel can be more obedient to daas torah.

UJM: Absolutely correct….some minority individuals interpret normal interpersonal actions or offers of assistance as patronizing or threatening.

The mindless comment about two yidden have been niftar in the 60+ years of manned space flight is about the least intelligent posting I can recall in a long time. We have chashuvah rabbonim and askanim offering conflicting reasons over the past week for the big Earthquake in Turkey, the terrorist attacks in EY and even why the Eagles lost the superbowl. These speculative rants provide very little useful information other than the antidote for every tragedy is to never leave your house and do tshuvah.

“Some of those who permit going on har habayis really know what they are talking about…”

And thats why for a long time, the YWN editorial staff found it necessary to include a warning in BOLD BLACK FONT in all the news articles on the subject that gadolei yisroel prohibit going up on har habyis and violators are chayav kores…..Perhaps BG should try his luck again and go up to har habayis to disprove the fears of all the Gadolim (and the wimpy editors who subscribed to the views of Gadolei Yisroel).

AVD: Batei Din throughout the world routinely rely on photocopies and video evidence in their deliberations and the burden is on litigants to demonstrate that such evidence has been tampered with. In many cases, it is physically impossible to present original documents and circumstances preclude any possibility of first-person visual testimony that can otherwise be corroborated by video cameras. There are several well-known cases where a beis din relied on video surveillance in matter involving gittin, theft and hashgachos allowing treifus.

Those who advocate efforts to “expel” the entire Palestinian population (other than known or suspected terrorists) from EY are delusional. It will not happen under even most right-wing (nationalist) government. And those who seek to promote Kahane type terrorist actions against the general Arab population with that end in mind are likely to face similar outcomes. Netanyahu seems to understand the limits of how far to take the “collective punishment” strategy and will not hesitate to squash the right-wing zealots in his own coalition who seek to act beyond those limits.

With all respect to those who claim to know, the reality is that we really don’t know who knows, and that the Ebeshter will reveal his decision in his own time and way w/o having to obtain prior approval from the CR naviim. Even speculation by chazal is still speculation.

I’m not a big fan of Netanyahu but I do respect his political skills. He deliberately allowed BG to go up on har habayis early last month just as the government was being formed to let him score some political points and deflate the issue. Now that Netanyahu is trying to establish ties with the Saudis, ANY such provocation would be stopped in its tracks and BG would be squashed like a bug. The Saudis have been relatively quiet about Israel’s forceful responses to Palestinian terrorists BUT if Israeli politicians provoked a violent confrontation on Har Habayis, the Saudis would immediately cut off any further discussions with Netanyahu on commercial “normalization” under some variation of the Abraham Accords.

One minor observation. As crazy as it may sound, adult children can react really weird to their Mom/Dad entering a new relationship. While we typically focus on managing the feelings of much younger kids in a divorce context, from a child’s perspective, Dad will always be “Dad” and Mom will always be “Mom”.
Having been one of your biggest CR fans for nearly a decade, much hatzlacha in whatever choices and decisions you make.

Unless you have your head buried in the sand (or elsewhere), it obvious that in the real world there exists a number of older single individuals whose marital status is by choice. The number is probably small, but Huju’s comment acknowledges a reality so calling it “lashon horah” is to deliberately hide from that reality, even though some would consider it contrary to daas torah.

The guy who is 50 and still looking for a supermodel (age 35 or less) will certainly have his cheshbonos on why anything else will be settling. “And I just spoke to my rosh yeshiva, and he told me I dont have to settle”.

I’d be more worried about the Rosh Yeshiva who is advising a single 50 YO “Yungerleit” to wait for his “supermodel beschert” and not “settle” for any מיאוסקייט. Must be a very progressive yeshiva

You can keep “litigating” the facts of this case BUT the reality is that in today’s world such behavior incurs a considerable risk of being thrown in jail in the near term and longer term reputational defamation since the media will have moved on and typically don’t look back to update a report. If you are a “tzadik gamur”, have lots of time on your hands and don’t mind taxpayer funded housing, than insist on the righteousness of your ways and don’t bother thinking about how they may be misinterpreted.

To the extent you have to make any reference at all, just say “my friend”. In most cases the gender should be obvious to anyone you encounter so no need for “BOYfriend” or “Girlfriend”.

5T Resident: Hypocrisy knows no bounds. You now have a Toevah congressman from LI who has lied about EVERYTHING including his mother having escaped from the Nazis, etc. and the Republican House leadership shrugs their shoulders and claims they are powerless to do anything because they need a reliable Republican vote in a closely divided chamber.

I’m no longer surprised by the mindless postings that get hung up on the rhetoric of “the squad” but seemingly are ignorant or choose to ignore the anti-semitic rhetoric, memes and tropes of right wing, Trump acolytes. And you wonder why on one take you seriously. While most of us hold Omar and the few others like her in contempt, they were duly elected (the standard Republican excuse for degrading themselves and the House by seating George Santos.

“There is only 216 and a half years until the latest time for Moshiach to come and the end of the world as we know it….

Azoy. There is this tall guy with a beard who has been walking back and forth in front of our firm’s NYC office in Hudson Yards holding a big sign saying that the “world is ending” and its time to “return to G-d”. He is affectionately known as “Doomsday Don” and always has a smile and positive greeting. When I checked on my last trip to NYC several weeks ago, his target date was roughly 2028 (depending on certain “astrophysical cycles” that were well beyond my rocket science credentials). Perhaps your guys can consult with him and come up with a consensus date for your nevius. In the interim,many of us will avoid throwing trash out of our 53rd floor windows (that don’t open) on your thesis that none of this “environmental green stuff” matters given the imminent arrival of moishiach.

“Maybe you should go drink water from the East River. The Torah doesn’t say it’s contaminated, so go for it

The best location is the pier by the tennis courts just north of the Williamsburg Bridge….slight mineral taste with citrus overtones. B’Taovon

“Do we have here posts from the icebergs”

AAQ: Go early in the summer season (November) while the Penguins are still “white” (no sliding in the mud from the melting ice) and book your trip on one of the newer class of small “icebreaker” cruise ships can actually “beach themselves” on the hard ice. That allows you to literally walk off the ship directly versus constantly climbing in and out of the small zodiacs to get to the shoreline and then having to wade the last several feet in really cold water. Without debating “climate change”, there really is an easily visible recession of the glaciers. Perhaps its just a short-term phenomena and a decade from now they will be expanding outward again but I’ll probably not be there to observe.

Dr. P; Not sure who or what your were responding to but you make some good points. However, IF you were responding to my narrow point on the cost-effectiveness of existing government Medicare/Medicaid covering routine dental treatment in the same way they cover routine medical expenses, let me try to oversimplify the point.
If the government can spend $100 today to avoid spending several thousand dollars 5 or 10 years in the future (depending on your assumed discount rate), it should do so. Likewise, our private insurance should make the same actuarial calculations, although the cohorts may not be as easily modeled as in the case of Medicare/Medicaid.

“You can lower cost per year by marrying younger…”
The chassan/kalah will have to use Uber to get home from the simcha hall since they will be too young to drive. In most cases, they will be too young to earn a parnassah so the parents will be spending more supporting them. Younger doesn’t mean cheaper.

At this point, I think the repeated references to this clueless guy as a “Tzadik” is a deliberate troll. As just about everyone except R’ Yosef has acknowledged, he likely did not have any perverted motives, nor is he even remotely suspect for child abuse, but someone needs to take him and any OTHER such “Tzadikim” aside and give them supplemental instruction on basic common sense before they end up in serious trouble in a secular court that could care less about his beliefs regarding halacha versus hanhagah tovah.