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Hashem’s name was erased as well in that case. Are you implying that if a spouse wants you to erase His name that you may do it for shalom bayis?? Definitely not!
You need to differentiate between basic shalom bayis (everyone smiling) to extreme cases, where a rav might guide you to disregard issurim/tznius. But don’t come home at night livid that supper isn’t ready, and then give up your basics of yiddishkeit!
How about a beer with cholent? And a piece of overnight kugel? You can eat AND drink away a bad date! Don’t forget some chocolate for dessert, bad dates must get chocolate…
Here’s my recommendation (although I doubt you will accept it); take the first job offer you get. If you finished your education I imagine that you are good at it. Your second job you can be picky about. Look for something that will use your degree but something that you enjoy… or while you are working you can go to school for something else.
good luck
I am a firm believer that different diets work for different people. You need to figure out what works best for you! Some people do well with a day of vacation, some people can eat unhealthy in moderation, while others need abstinence from anything unhealthy.
It seems like you are from the abstinence crowd. Anything not dietetic is trief! Use w/w challah. Buy the small bilkelach (or matzah).
Fill up on fish and soup. I like chickpeas in my soup along with lots of veggies.
Shabbos day you can have a bean and chicken cholent; and enjoy your salads!
Desserts are for people who can tolerate moderation; I’m not one of them! Only fresh fruit (& Tums!)
How many chiropractors does it take to change a lightbulb?
Only 1, but you’ll need 2x a week visits to make sure its aligned properly.
I highly recommend John Sarno’s book/video. He has helped millions of people.
Most people want someone, or at least prefer someone with some type of experience. Volunteer, find a mentor, work in a school, anything, so that a boss can find out that you are reliable and responsible.
I am married with kids. This week the gabbai honored me by giving me gelilah. When I was done, I politely shook his hand and thanked him for the honor. I considered it as a gift, which is what it was.
Anyone who is ungrateful is undeserving.
Yes, I am using a book designer who advertises.
I believe that there are two ways of stating a request politely; one way is please, the other way is stating it as a question. Please pass the salt is option 1. Can you pass the salt? is option 2. Keep your ears open and you’ll see that most people use option 2.
I’m not talking about halacha. I’m talking about showing respect to G-d’s home. Showing that you care about talking to G-d (a.k.a. davening). Showing that davening is an important and integral part of your life. And last but not least, showing that it’s important to you that people who come to shul to daven (with or without their children) deserve your respect by not shmoozing in shul or in the hallway.
I can’t say that they were going to be frum, but they didn’t get a feel for coming to shul and talking to G-d, when others feel that talking to their friends is more important.
I know people who are OTD b/c their father davened in a shul where people who were socially astute came to shul and didn’t daven; rather they stood in the hall and shmoozed. When the kids grew up they didn’t want to go to shul anymore.
I get irked when people tell children that they must use please. In America, we don’t say please when we ask someone to pass us something. We say “Could you pass the overnight kugel,” “Can I bother you for more kishka.” But children we insist on them saying, “Can I please have more cholent.”
Is it wrong to idolize Deli 52’s overnight potato kugel?!
Is “idolization” the same as serving idols? I think not.
I recommend working on your diet. Any caffiene? Anything else that might set you off? Try playing with your diet to see if you skip something if it helps. Milk, wheat, sugar, citrus etc.
Good luck!
I agree that it’s not Jewish. And I think that you are beginning to agree that it’s not the worst thing for self-esteem.
What do you mean by Golden Calf?
Kyolic, taken orally, works for my kids. You need to give it for a couple of days.
Hey, jewishness, what do you think your comment did to my self-esteem?
Kids, and adults, compete in this world. It’s important to feel good about yourself. Everyone must understand that there are and will always be winners and losers. Teach your kids and teach yourself that so that you know going in that there is a good chance that you’ll lose, but the competition is fun!!
Here’s my personal opinion; people should learn torah as much as possible. Yeshiva bochurim and young married people should stay in yeshiva and learn.
That being said, I don’t know how to explain to a non-observant Jew that they should fight a war and let the chareidim learn. Our learning is as important as them risking their lives in a war?? You can explain that?? Our learning guards them so that they come back alive? Do they believe that if they don’t even keep Shabbos?
I am not a doc. I will not give you medical advice. Good luck!
His ADD diagnosis is questionable, definitely get a second opinion. Definitely not ADHD if there aren’t symptoms.
Meds work for some kids and not for others. I haven’t seen any children that Omega helped (out of 3 students who tried), neither has my principal (I don’t know amount of children who she knows about).
Caffeine might help. There is some research about interactive metronome (I don’t know anyone who tried, but the research is impressive, I would try it for my child).
An interactive teacher is a must; the child must take notes, a SmartBoard is very helpful, if not a SmartBoard then the teacher should write on the board as the lesson progresses. It’s great if the child can exercise for a few minutes before the lesson.
Good luck!
When I was a teen I bought alarm clocks that went progressively louder. I found that those woke me up. I had to change them every couple of months, but the regular ones lasted much less.
I currently own an alarm clock that has a light that comes on ten minutes before the alarm goes off AND the alarm is a progressive one. Works great!
Of course some of the bright minds become lawyers, doctors etc. They were brought up in a home where the values were hard work and a comfortable lifestyle.
Some of our bright minds become Roshei Yeshiva and klei kodesh b/c that’s what their values are.
What to do about it? We need to teach our children the value of torah and of being a one of Hashem’s emissaries to disseminate it. Think about what a zechus it is to have such a child!
1. Do you want to make sheva brachos? What is your relationship with your sibling and with your niece/nephew?
2. What does your spouse think (I hope you don’t value my opinion more than that of your spouse!)
3. If you want to make sheva brachos, but don’t b/c your sibling didn’t make for you, it might be an issue of nekama. Discuss with your rav.
“Abuse is defined as any action that intentionally harms or injures another person.” (Medical Dictionary)
I don’t think that the child was abused. I do think that the father was embarrassed. I also think that he should be; a child who might make noise in shul should not be brought into shul. A parent should be embarrassed that he didn’t realize that his child’s stage of maturity. Unfortunately, he reacted to his own shortcomings and not to his child’s.
It will be a great day when we only react to our children’s shortcomings and not to our own. Whether we are reacting to how we were parented or whether it’s to a bad day that we’ve had, it’s hard to always be patient with our children. Let’s first work on our own shortcomings before giving parenting advice to everyone else.
BTW, when we shush a baby, we are telling mom to “NOT BRING A BABY TO SHOFAR!!
Your opinion of the shvigger!
My favorite is Make Me; Don’t Break Me, by R. Moshe Gans.
I recommend to speak with his rebbe or principal in yeshiva, they might have ideas of what works/doesn’t work with him.
Good luck on the most important/rewarding job in the world.
Option 1:I would see if the class can have a meeting with the principal or see if the class can speak with the Rav.
Option 2: Write an apology note and ask your parents and the principal to sign it. Ask the principal to hand it to the teacher and see where you go from there.
I was once lost in downtown Manhattan; trying to find my way to the tunnel through the streets. The girl started getting nervous and wanted to know if we might end up in Harlem!!
I agree that it’s not Jewish. Granted.
You people have no idea what self-esteem is about. If someone has a better voice than you… that’s not an issue of self-esteem. Most people are better than you in some way or another. Self-esteem is when you don’t feel good about yourself for any reason. If a person has a bad voice (like me) but has other good qualities, there is no reason not to have a healthy self image. Good luck to all you people that think that your self image depends on other people liking your voice!
I know several secular studies principals from chassidishe yeshivos in Boro Park. So, let’s set the record straight.
Some yeshivos start secular subjects in 1st grade. Most don’t; they start in 3rd grade. Dr. Jed Luchow from the BJE says that it would help the Hebrew reading if the children would start reading English the same time that they start Hebrew. I agree with him.
All of the yeshivos that I know of take the subject matter seriously. They try to hire qualified teachers, research text books and workbooks that are appropriate (Ever hear of Palmtree Publishing? They make sure that there are only appropriate pictures in their books.) and try their best to maintain decorum.
It’s not easy; the boys are all worked up after a long morning of work. Some of the work is memorization, while some of it may be handwriting… each child has weaknesses and strengths; things that they enjoy and things that are torturous. But, all of the teachers and principals try hard. Some children speak only Yiddish at home and may have learning difficulties. Unfortunately, the parents are spending money for tutors in the morning and might not be able to afford additional help for secular subjects.
That being said, I can’t speak for Oholei Torah. Maybe someone else can.
In the first year you can still say “Hamokom yinachaim eschem…” I was very appreciative when someone told that to me instead of “so how old was your mother? Was she sick?” As if those two questions was how I defined my late mother.
Did you check yet with your GI?
What would you say to welfare to workfare? All people who are on welfare should be told to learn how to drive a bus (or become a matron, I wonder what qualifications are necessary for that job) and get to work? Same for sanitation workers etc.
lol, 42!!
B”H most people have happy marriages. Nobody will post, hey I have a great marriage!
That being said, a lot of marriags have issues that need ironing, you see a lot of those issues as questions in the CR.
Some marriages don’t work out. You see some of those in the CR as well.
It’s healthy and important for people to work out their differences. It’s not a reason to not want to get married. On the other hand, I heard from R. Shlomo Brevda ZT”L that when parents have a bad marriage it does affect the children. Find someone to be your mentor! I can say that my Rav has been instrumental in my Shalom Bayis. (Yes, people should ask their questions to their Rav and not to the CR!!)
Good luck!
All in favor of CIO: You are teaching your baby two things. First that crying won’t get him anywhere and he should stop crying and go to sleep (it usually works). Second that you don’t care enough about him if he’s uncomfortable and crying.
Good luck, MorahR
If person #2 tells you that your feelings aren’t appropriate because she had it worse then she is wrong. Your feelings of pain are yours, and a person should feel a friend’s pain.
If person #2 tells you that she understands pain, as she has felt pain too, that’s called commiserating and it’s something that is very much appreciated.
It seems that both person #2 and #3 are correct. Person #2 commiserated, yet person #3 understood that she was invalidating.
I would have told person #3 that you appreciated person #2 telling you about her pain because “misery likes company.”
This is a pet peeve of mine! In the younger yeshivos (usually litvish), the Rabbeim know that they can’t leave the class alone! In the old fashioned yeshivos (usually chassidish) the boys are left alone by recess!
I don’t think that you will change the yeshiva. Pick your priorities. I don’t think that it’s the right thing to do, yet if there are adults in the building I don’t think that there is an issue with “Venishmartem.” A boy can run for help if there’s an emergency.
I am generally happy with the chinuch of the yeshiva that my son goes to and I swallow this issue.
If you feel strongly enough about this issue then change yeshivos. I don’t think that you will get the rebbes to lose their coffee break.
When people post a question, they are looking for an answer. DUH! So, if you have an answer for the question, then answer it! If you don’t, then don’t. If you feel that people shouldn’t go on cruises then feel free to start a thread about cruises. This one is about a minyan on a cruise!!
Abigail Rosenfeld told me that the electric combs don’t work.
If you google you’ll get some hits for tea tree oil or coconut oil.
That being said, I recommend calling in a pro for a home visit. You might get some ideas where they are waiting around and/or why they aren’t going away.
Some bosses feel a need to boss workers around. Some feel a need that workers should discuss their work with them. Some just feel a need to see that workers are competent and dedicated. Some like to feel part of the crowd. All need respect. I’ve seen them all. Are you having a particular issue?
You aren’t very clear if she is spending on necessities or luxuries. Is she holding herself back from spending on the months where you don’t have $$$? Shouldn’t you appreciate that instead of being upset when she does spend?
Dear PBA,
My hubby hates asking for directions, after all he is a male. I bought for him a GPS but now he won’t speak to me b/c he says that a GPS is like asking for directions and as a male he can’t and I’m mixing into his masculinity. What can I do?
How do you know if you should trust a response in the CR? If it makes sense. Does the girl make sense to you? Think about your priorities and decide if she’s for you.