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  • in reply to: smoking on Tisha Ba'v #2305234
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    Another Bump

    in reply to: Shaatnez testing Brooks Brothers Suits #2253123
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    Avira – “It is an absolute obligation to check suits for shaatnez when many such items have it.”

    How many suits of yours have been found to have shatnez? Your direct acquaintances’ suits? How common is common? These are halakhic shiurim. The last time I asked a competent halakhic authority I was told that for a generic cheap wool suit there is no *obligation* to spend money to check. But for Brooks brothers I was told to spend money to check.

    in reply to: Shaatnez testing Brooks Brothers Suits #2251842
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    The chiyuv to spend money to check for shatnez, generally, is highly questionable. Brooks brothers suits, however, bc of the frequency of shatnez found in them, may be an exception.

    Don’t ask shatnez checkers. They are technical experts, not rabbanim. It’s like asking a restaurant owner if they’re kosher when there is no hechsher. The financial incentive creates huge biases. Ask a qualified rabbi who is familiar with facts on the ground. And anyone who doesn’t answer you in terms of chiyuv (i.e. you are not mechuyav but a bal nefesh should spend some money vs. “why wouldn’t you, it doesn’t hurt?”) should not be answering the shaila.

    in reply to: Elementary Mathematical Equation #2179917
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    Modern answer is 16. Classic answer is likely 1.

    See YouTube video /N-rsAGbk26o

    in reply to: Silencing the Psychotic Medication Debate #2142288
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    Phil – you’re a troll or a fool. Either way you are being mechalel shem shamayim. Lives are saved every day by use of antipsychotics. Frum culture already shames the use of these necessary meds too much. What you are doing is perpetuating a mentality that causes so much suffering and is the antithesis of genuine Judaism. Shame on you.

    in reply to: intrenet awareness #2122868
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    Talking about danger is not the same as exposing to danger. You can talk to kids about the dangers of drugs without exposing them to drugs. You can talk to your kids about the danger of pornography without exposing them.

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    If no one can provide the research and methodology then this is #fakenews and a waste of time.

    frumnotyeshivish
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    I want to read this study. Can’t find it on Google. Care to share the name of study and author? Tia

    in reply to: Is it proper to blame your parents for your problems in life? #2005211
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    Any relationship one has with an omnipotent perfect entity has its own rulebook, obviously. Hashem never said “no taainas,” regarding parent child relationships. Ever.

    in reply to: Is it proper to blame your parents for your problems in life? #2005037
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    UJM – it is possible to have hakaras hatov and also “have taainas.”. There are a number of comments here that attempt to oversimplify complex issues.
    Having an ongoing meaningful relationship with anyone requires a level of accountability. The idea that because parents start off so far “up” in terms of giving to the relationship that they have nearly unlimited “get out of jail free” cards seems (to me) to be wrong, and a terrible way to view relationships.

    in reply to: Is it proper to blame your parents for your problems in life? #2004556
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    It’s two questions:

    1. It’s improper to blame your problems on your parents. It is also wrong for your parents to blame their problems on you. It is quite oftenly very difficult to figure out whose problems belong to whom.

    2. You are “allowed” to “have taainas” on your upbringing. This doesn’t mean the taainas have merit. Moreover, “having taainas” is merely an emotional state of feeling hurt. Finally, as with the rest of life and perhaps moreso, just because one may have taainas, that doesn’t mean that it is prudent or productive to focus on them or to communicate them.

    in reply to: Is English the new Yiddish? #1967465
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    There are two issues in deciding the which language is the “new Yiddish.”

    Yiddish eventually became a uniquely Jewish. Also, it was the most widespread primary way jews of all stripes understood each other in the latter half of the second millennia of the common era.
    The question: if a language has only one of those two qualifications, can it be the “new Yiddish”?

    Next question:
    If you take a random grouping of 1,000 known Jews (defined by orthodox tradition) and say a sentence in Hebrew, Yiddish, and English, which language will be understood by the most people?

    I’d guess English >> Hebrew >> Yiddish but I’d need to do more research on the demographics of known Jews.

    in reply to: Tznius of the legs – Oz V’hadar Levusha #1960254
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    Damoshe: I would have phrased what you said significantly more strongly if I could have gotten away with it.

    That book is (at the very best) not for everyone.

    In Rabbi Falk’s defense, there are very few halachos of tznius that apply objectively to all, regardless of minhag. Thus, the book, while mostly detailed opinion, doesn’t directly contradict halachah – as there mostly is none.

    in reply to: DRINKING SMOKING AND VAPING IN COMMUNITY #1931069
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    @zveidinim

    Smoking causes 14 years less life on average?

    Zvei questions:

    1. How many years does the median (not mean) smoker lose?
    2. The average is of what? The average smoker by volume? Or the average time prior to life expectancy “smokers” die? Define “smokers” please.
    That is all for now.
    Thank you.

    in reply to: Mentioning a person “dies of Covid” in headline #1912612
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    There are many people in covid denial. Do you have a better way of waking them up?

    in reply to: Name a Gadol That Endorsed Biden #1898938
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    Gedolim tend to head tax exempt organizations. They avoid endorsing candidates so as to avoid risking their tax exempt status.
    Further, endorsement implies knowledge of the ramifications of each respective candidate’s victory. Unlike in Israel, gedolim in the US are not privy to backroom deals in national elections.

    in reply to: smoking on Tisha Ba'v #1887996
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    Bump. Not nidcheh.

    in reply to: Shuls Closed While Restaurants Opened?! #1840459
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    There is a simple explanation:

    The rabbanim and administration of shuls and mosdos are more responsible than restaurant owners.

    I am pleasantly surprised at this chiddush but newly optimistic about broad Jewish leadership.

    in reply to: smoking on Tisha Ba'v #1772148
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    Bump. Still nidcheh…

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    Actually, the State can target religion if the regulation passes strict scrutiny. Which it should in this case. Despite the fact that it’s not religion.

    However, the OPs premise that *the State* is denying these children education is wrong. It is the children’s pigheaded parents who are denying their children the “right” to be educated, and the more important “right” to be healthy.

    in reply to: The Importance of Having Short Hair #1756076
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    I’m about to take a haircut. Am I allowed to, without flying to Israel to ask the “sar hatorah” whether he agrees with the style? Per the OP, perhaps not.

    in reply to: Star-K Article about Electric Shavers #1756071
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    Just adding something: I hereby attest that R’ Shurkin, talmid of R’ Moshe, told me, personally, halacha l’maasa, that lift and cut is mutar lechatchila.

    If I recall correctly, the lomdus was in relying on the rambam, and holding that electric shavers of which their blades are blunter than a razor’s and rely on speed to cut, are like mispirayim k’ein ta’ar which the rambam mater’s.

    It takes a blade as sharp as a razor to be a ta’ar. One blade which cuts hair even when in slow motion. That is all I have to say about that.

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    “Everything except hashkafos.” Interesting phraseology. Quite specific, in fact.

    For a marriage to succeed, I think, you need to have two people who care about each other enough to make sacrifices for each other, and who are committed to making the relationship work. Could it work? Of course. Is there inherent harm in introducing a shidduch idea to two adults who will then make their own decisions? Of course not.

    I guess what I’m struggling with is what my hashkafa is on the scope of the word hashkafa as it pertains to stereotyping individuals and regarding playing semantic games relative to a non-issue.

    in reply to: PURIM TORAH!!!! #1689165
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    Says mibnei banav shel Haman lomdim torah biBnei Brak. Pshita? Teiku.

    in reply to: Kol Salonika #1687915
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    There is a YouTube channel by the name of “Al Neustadter.” This channel has a # of old Jewish LP’s uploaded with the record labels. You will find Kol Salonika there with far more details within the video.

    in reply to: Is Watching Sports Okay? #1680265
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    why play when you can watch? Most people need hobbies to stay sane. Watching sports is not the worst potential hobby.

    in reply to: No blackface this Purim #1680263
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    I vote to ban the Mishe-Mishe song too. Blaring the tune of “pick a bale of cotton” on Purim is idiotic.

    in reply to: Studies on vaccines you might have missed.👨‍🔬💉🚫 #1651731
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    @doomsday: What are your credentials so that I can consider your presumably misinterpreted and miscited medical studies?

    I’d like to quote a recent study right now on a subject matter that I am expert in: “Doomsday is wrong and an idiot who is causing damage.” (frumnotyeshivish, et al, 2018). I got my qualifications on this subject from reading ONLY page 24 of this topic. Prove me wrong, and I’ll retract. But you obviously cant.

    in reply to: Pro Vaccination Paranoia in the frum community. #1617010
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    If i were texting, then caused an accident where someone died, I’d be pretty shaken up. Wouldn’t you be? The question here is whether your stupid decision directly caused another person’s death. The fact that many don’t clearly see causation is part of the process.

    in reply to: Pro Vaccination Paranoia in the frum community. #1616904
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    Haimy, it’s not paranoia, as the dumb decisions of dumb people, are having real effects on others. They are not murderers as they lack the capacity for such, but it is not unfair to call them rotzchim. A baby died. Every anti vaxer who may have been a carrier of the disease should be in an ir miklat. and their children should be forcefully vaccinated.

    in reply to: Getting a BTL and Going to Law School? #1580253
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    CTL- I mean no disrespect, only that your experiences, while fascinating and worthwhile to share, are not determinative of objective fact. I know of BTL’s who went through HLS. Penn, Umich, UCLA, Columbia, NYU, and Georgetown too, IIRC. I’m younger than you, and have less experience as an attorney, but exponentially more experience as a recent law grad. Idk of BTL’s in YLS, but that is a small sample size (both in terms of my circles, and in terms of yls class size). Bottom line- I’m not saying that a BTL should go to law school, just that it’s been done as a matter of objective fact.

    in reply to: Getting a BTL and Going to Law School? #1579511
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    CTL – your anecdotal reflections are interesting but not persuasive.

    People with BTL’s have attended elite schools, your adjunctcy notwithstanding. Further, the continued abundance of older attorneys is not fully reflective of biglaw’s need for young, bright, industrious, and trainable associates. There is a shortage of junior associates in many large firms these days. Firms are also more reluctant to hire straight out of school.

    Your experiences are fascinating, and I’d love to talk about them over a cup of coffee but I’d refrain from making decisions based on only your observations.

    in reply to: smoking on Tisha Ba'v #1562610
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    Bump

    in reply to: Is it muttar to block illegal driveways? #1554003
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    Joe- note the word “particular.”

    Should you make an illegal driveway? No. Of course not. It is unlawful and likely assur.

    The question here is how do you deal with someone who already did make a driveway, and uses it?

    The answer, to me, is find another spot. For sure in terms of the right thing to do. But even if it is a question of “rights” I still think a person should find a different spot unless desperate. You are entitled to disagree, and I’m entitled, as usual, to think that the fact that I’m on the other side of you on an issue, tends to show that I’m right.

    in reply to: Is it muttar to block illegal driveways? #1553385
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    To me there are two questions:

    1. Am I greatly inconveniencing a particular person for no justifiably important reason? If yes, don’t park. If no, then,

    2. How likely is it that there will be ramifications either legally (eg ticket or towing) or morally (eg chillul hashem or altercation). This is a hefsed aveira kineged schara type analysis.

    As a general rule, when in doubt, absent significant exigency, don’t park. My rule of thumb.

    in reply to: Is it muttar to block illegal driveways? #1551860
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    Meno and Ubiq.: From a statutory analysis standpoint your interpretation of “fixed obstruction” is ludicrous. A lawn is not a fixed obstruction by any reasonable interpretation.

    Further, while an approved permit is likely, on it’s own, a sufficient reason to assume a “driveway” is “authorized pursuant to applicable law” it is not the only “applicable law” which is relevant. Thus technically, even with a permit, a driveway can be unlawful, and even without a permit a driveway can likely be lawful. Property law is complex, and simplistic statements as to the lawfullness of driveways do not appear to be accurate.
    Towing or a ticket can occur if the relevant authorized party has a reasonable basis to believe that 408f2 was violated – even if it was not. Thus, parking in front of any curb cut should likely be avoided if possible and may result in annoyance or worse. That is my opinion, which is supported by a reasonable interpretation of the relevant municipal code and rules.

    in reply to: Smoking affects others. #1545072
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    Health, you need to work on your reading comprehension skills. Further, you need to come up with better analogies.

    in reply to: Smoking affects others. #1544323
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    “Public health message” ie not the truth?

    in reply to: Smoking affects others. #1544314
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    Nicotine is not more addictive than heroin, in my opinion. Disclaimer: I’ve never tried heroin.

    The CDC engages in “public health” campaigns all the time. It often publishes misleading facts and statistics, with the goal being to influence behaviors. The case of smoking in particular is enlightening, as the CDC has likely saved many lives by misrepresentation of smoking’s dangers.

    Smoking kills. It often causes lung cancer. It usually causes more harm than good for most people. That doesn’t mean that the CDC is the most objective source for information on this topic.

    in reply to: Smoking affects others. #1541302
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    TLIK – The sefer you repeatedly quote, is it right? I think that’s part of the question regarding first-hand smoke. I think it is not. Quoting from it again will not help. Regarding 2nd-hand smoke outdoors, the sefer, plainly, like your opinion, is well-intentioned, yet completely irrelevant.

    No one is forcing anyone to smoke. Indeed, over the last 15 years, it became unlawful to smoke in many indoor public places. Chill out. Have a cigarette.

    in reply to: Smoking affects others. #1541069
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    What’s going on with the ad homimem attacks?
    Smoking affects others like eating garlic affects others.
    Also, there are folks that work themselves into a tizzy over seeing someone else smoke. But those folks shouldn’t blame the smoker. It’s not his fault that they have issues. Get therapy or something. Maybe have a cigarette or something. But don’t blame the world for your problems.

    in reply to: Isn’t Smoking אסור?!?!?! #1538991
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    TLIK – no manufacturers were mass producing cigarettes 300 years ago. No filters, either. Light cigarettes, despite being safer, you argue, induce more dangerous behaviors in smokers at large. I’d like to see that study, but I’m not disagreeing to that.

    takahmamash: you show me a doctor or study which shows that more than 50% of smokers (define likelihood please) die early because of smoking.

    in reply to: Smoking affects others. #1538980
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    As usual, people conflate their opinions about smells with health advice.

    Constantly exposing a person to smoke or ash in a relatively enclosed environment has been proven to have negative affects on their health.

    There is no study to my knowledge (please correct me if I’m wrong) which shows or implies that occasional exposure to diluted second hand smoke outdoors has *any* affect of one’s health *whatsoever*.

    It likely is healthier and in my opinion it smells better than diesel exhaust. Where are the complaints about diesel trucks? This is part of the CDC and public health establishment’s quest to reduce smoking, which, admittedly, saves lives. But the lives saved come at the expense of truth and objectivity.

    in reply to: Isn’t Smoking אסור?!?!?! #1535328
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    Why discuss public policy when talking about individual choices, which, by and large, don’t affect others?

    in reply to: Isn’t Smoking אסור?!?!?! #1534203
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    The burden belongs to the one who wants to prove issur. There are countless tshuvos from countless poskim over the last 300 years paskening heter re: smoking. Cigarettes have gotten safer over that period of time. Also, knowledge that smoking causes lung cancer (in the form of medical studies) has been around since the forties and fifties. Reb Moshe knew about medical studies.

    It’s one thing if y’all were so into making heterim because the previous generations made a mistake as proven by current scientific studies. But y’all aren’t (myself included). Be consistent.

    As to the op, no, it isn’t. It is unhealthy, but does not reach a likelihood of life-threatening harm to the individual smoker. Shomer pesoim hashem. There are rabbis that disagree with the above. Ask your Rabbi for halachic guidance pertaining to yourself, if you are unsure.

    in reply to: This Beer Predicament #1515373
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    Neville: The point is, that poskim did. And paskened muttar. If you find bread on the street immediately after pesach, if most nearby are not Jewish, it is muttar (assuming other Kashrus). Open and shut halacha lemaisa.

    Publish fact lists, if you are aware of relevant inknown facts. Let individual Rabbis do the warning. Unless the food is under your auspices.

    in reply to: This Beer Predicament #1514359
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    DY: I can’t answer as to “lists.” As a rule, they can be helpful in promoting public awareness regarding well-researched facts. This, in theory, should help inform an independent halachic decision.

    in reply to: This Beer Predicament #1514363
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    Obviously, of course, any such list should be framed in an informational PSA, in kind of an FYI scenario, with the sources of the information for your evaluation.
    Kashrus agencies should keep their brands far, far away from such lists.

    in reply to: This Beer Predicament #1514090
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    And now I respond for the umpteenth time that metzius doesn’t answer to you, or anyone, for that matter. It simply is. As to a person who bought random beer in a random store in NYC 5 days after pesach 2017, I believe that it is more likely than not (bemetzius) that it was not chometz sheovar. Accordingly, I believe that the halacha allows one to buy such beer.
    DY: my left field theories are just adding layers of safek. The main safek is: was the bottle your buying in the hand of a jew on pesach? Answer: at best, maybe.

    in reply to: This Beer Predicament #1513323
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    Random- you just did. This is a safek in metzius. Sh”a paskens that such a safek in chametz sheovar is muttar beachila. Now what?

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