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My friend I also like the point you made about the necessity to go to the extreme opposite as a nation in our need to identify ourselves as opposed to assimilating with the ideas and knowledge around us. (you did point to that didn’t you?)
Well having said that, I therefore must say, that is what is RIGHT ABOUT SATMAR. Very “Backwards” as in shtark and unwielding to the “Times”, yet pure in keeping our mesorah.
Bottom line is : IF people want their STARBUCKS COFFEE THAT MUCH They will find a way to get it. Excuses are just that.
Real Brisker this is a brillian observation and so true! My daughter always tells me that she knows WHO I am speaking to on the phone just by the way I intoneate my accent to the listener. And I do find I am guilty of this actually! I will speak a retarded English to an Israeli immigrant neighbor, or put on a chassidish hungarian accent to another person. Or I can do British accents real good too. I am not schizophrenic either.
After pausing and thinking what you said through, I wonder if we ourselves, as the speaker, don’t have our limitations in what we believe people’s intellectual capabilites are, and rather assume they are only understanding as we understand them.
Thanks for pointing this out.
My friend that was very nice of you to post this. Just this morning I was saying to my daughter that we jews almost had it “spiritually better off” when we were hated despised and known as the dirty jews in European Shtetls.
My daughter responded that they learnt that we have to beware of Esav as in last weeks parsha. It refers to him as Esav, Esav my brother. He may come to us and be scary as Esav, but he is even more threatening to our identity when we receive him as Esav the brother.
WHen I was growing up, my mother gave us a minimal jewish education.But B”H.. Sunday mornings she drove us to our Reform Synogogue to a kids’ Sunday School Class. It was impressed upon me that the Orthodox have unreasonable laws especially surrounding what is considered kosher, which were suited to set them above and beyond everyone else and were therefore snobbish to anyone less observant.Oh, and intimidatingly wealthy, to boot. Although, when I would see them on TV they appeared so humble and I would think “those are my people..and one day I am gonna live like that”.
But I loved my synogogue as a little girl. And identity as a Jew. I often asked my mother why we didn’t have Shabbat. So she did it a few times. Candles and grape juice.
From the moment I would walk into the lobby of the shul, there was the smell of Chanel perfume, of velour seats in the ‘santuary’, and this feeling that I belonged and was special to G-d here cause I was a jew. B”H.
Although I never learned Hebrew, and in fact stopped going altogether once my mother remarried a man of another religion I never forgot I was a jew and that idol worship was an abominable repulsion.
Because I went to a public school I really did not know any other jews. And until I was 26 years old I never met a frum person in my life, where I was invited immediately upon our acquaintance to their shabbos meal. I was impressed with the unique simplicity of their home, and the unparalled genuine concern and love they seemingly held for me.
Within a short time, I was keeping shabbos and then kashrus, completely committed in heart and soul and before I had to wait too long i was already a kalla. B”H.
Only later did I reflect back and laugh at what funny notion I had held of Religious Jews growing up.
WIY I completely disagree. COMPLETELY! What you say :
“If the lack of a thank you bothers you, then your Chesed is lacking in Lishma that’s the vort. Chesed is a Mitzvah that Hashem commanded us to do, doing Chesed is emulating Hashems ways..”
Acually I believe that if a person takes and takes and is such that they are a Take-everything-for-granted-type-of-TAKER THEN YOU ARE ACTUALLY m’chiev to stop giving! You are doing them a disservice by putting in front of them a stumbling block. They are not grateful and therefore have a major spiritual/midda deficeit. WHy feed it?
True, its your problem that you are bothered. But who wouldnt be?
Homeowner, no, it was not Starbucks where I worked. This was the day well before Starbucks was around. It was Tim Hortons. But I believe the point, is that if Starbucks today does serve food, you should be aware that everything gets washed together in hot water dishwasher as it did at Tim Hortons.
By the way you don’t have to have Starbucks actually serving up Ham sandwiches to get Treif coffee. Say if the employee brings in a treif sandwich from home, and on lunch break wants to cut it with a knife? What standards of kashrus do they have to stop her from bringing in outside food? NONE. What will it bother them if she uses store equipment such as a knife to cut her sandwich? Then of course it gets into the dishwasher…
Also even if they are only selling cheese sandwiches, there is the problem with Rennet, which is the gastric juice from a pig/cow used to make cheese curdle. (aka bacterial enzymes)What would be interesting to create is a documentary of Starbucks’ pratices and how “kosher” it really is to get a coffee.
Someone should just go in with a video camera and order something and then ask a few questions about where do things get washed and have them show you around. This would be an eye opener to watch.
Addicted : This is a big problem. Kashrus wise. I should know. AS a girl I worked at a nonkosher coffeeshop. (before my days of making teshuva).
In these establishments they also sell sandwiches. One popular one is ham and cheese. When the plates or knives, or anything- needs washing, they put it in the same dishwasher as the glass heat proof coffee pots, which catch the perculating coffee!
This is a BIG Misconception, that we can buy black coffee in a disposible cup. People need to think Whats going on before the coffee hits your disposible cup? The stainless steel coffee filter that holds the grinds is in fact washed out in a sink/dishwasher that serves up pork as well.
When I read Wolfishmusings’ comment the first thing I got was HE IS JOKING!
I never derived from that he really suffers from low self esteem! From his posts its obvious he is self confident, calm and composed even on highly neurotic topics, at times.
Anyhow, can anyone here really claim they are fully esteemed in their own self image? At least he was being honest. WE need to weigh ourselves at times, and do an honest check.
Holy brother, as for why we didn’t hear much about self esteem “way back” was because if you are following the commandments asked of you, plus extras like Sefer Orchas Tzaddikim and working consciously on middos, etc, you will naturally have a positive self image of the good person you have become.
Wolfishmusings, I like what you said. I am reading a book now by Rabbi Meir Lamberski “Through Your Hands” the complete story of Chanukah. And today, whilst swimming during the “religious ladies swim” in our community pool, I looked around and asked myself, what exactly WERE Torah Jews like, in those days? In other words, would we — swimming around here–even be considered frum to them? I don’t think so. IT may have looked like the misyavnim who were building the gyms and pools for the body.
Bottom line is, whether we are talking about Bukharians or Chinese or arabs, vs. Jews is A GOY IS A GOY. You will never see voluntary deeds done by them especially Arabs such as building hospitals, institutions to help people, etc. as the Yidden do. Just look at Bikkur Cholim alone. Would you ever see such an operation in Jordan or Saudi Arabia? You only see them destroying as the malach who told Hagar that Yishmael will be a wild a** of a man, his hand against everyone etc…
My husband believes its a mans job to support the family and to work. He feels that if a charedi yingerman is willing to WORK they deserve a medal! This is because its’ not an adhered to hashkafa, which is sorely overlooked, in exchange for accepting tzedkah unfortunately.
He detests boys who use “learning” as an excuse to be lazy. He always says if the boy is a “real” learner then there will be a line up to FULLY SUPPORT him, instead of at the wifes’ expense.
In yiddishkeit throughout Europe there has always been classes. Why are people afraid/ashamed now to be amongst the working class? DOesn’t fulfilling the mitzvah of earning your bread by the sweat of your brow deserve some respect? In other words, working is commendable. Emunah, and avodas Hashem are important but you do not have to sit in a Yeshiva to be important to Hashem. There were many stories of simple unlearned Jews who kept shabbos with faith.
Why are ppl afraid to be “less than the best”?
THe “low class” i cannot tolerate however has nothing to do with workers or learners categories. Rather its the late night hangouters, the “boys” who have a wife at home with a few babies, but they do not go home as a rule, rather they sit together smeezing until 11 or 12 about where to get the best sale on the next bluetooth in very loud and obnoxious voices in a Grocerystore.
I raised my child basically milk/dairy free until she was over 3 years old. Until she was actually 6 or 7 I didn’t go out of my way to even buy milk on a regular nutritional basis.
I use to make my soymilk from beans, grind, boil, squeeze it out in cheesecloth. From this I made yogurt, sometimes, or tofu. Usually I just bought tofu.
The “fear” or “bad rap” soy has gotten is the fear of the high amounts of estrogen it contains. However, there is no real evidence showing it has messed up girls reproductive systems. In fact there are cultures who eat this as a main staple in their diet. I heard the Japanese for one.
As well, there is that commune of hippies in Tennesse who had a population of 3,000 at one point, who had set up food production on an industrial size basis to feed each other, all based on the Vegan diet, no milk, mainly everything came from soymilk. And I never heard that this interferred with “baby having” later in life.
You can actually order their cookbook “the farm vegetarian cookbook”
http://www.amazon.com/New-Farm-Vegetarian-Cookbook/dp/0913990604
Yeah, why not try out the Ice Hotel in Quebec City, Canada? The entire hotel is carved from ice, including your beds, which you sleep under fur sleeping bags. Its only about $549 per person to freeze for a nice weekend. If you don’t believe it you can see
I almost “lost it” uncontrollably a few times at work or just in public being confronted by someone/thing unreasonable and I do have a bad temper and can blow a gasket rather quickly..however, one trick I have learned that really is effective in the midst of all this inner temper tantrum is to breath and turn my inner mind conversation to Hashem and speak these words:
Hashem I know that you created this world in order to reveal yourself to your children
I know that this is possible by your will
I know that you love me and want me to come to a new higher level
and that everythign I have gone through up until now has been in order to come up
I believe in your revelation/yeshua
I am waiting for your revelation /yeshua
I believe Hashem wants to help me in order to do His Will.
Then I refocus on whats making me upset here and now, and ITS GONE!SO trivial in fact, I am like a new person.
mdd ha ha ha ha ha. Communists in Russia care what their neighbors have while they wear fur?
Listen for the record I am quoting the sefer “Orchas Tzaddikim” :
OBviously not in Loshen Ha KOdesh but in the translation by Rabbi Shraga Silverstein, publisher Feldheim.
(Vayikra 19:14) “And do not place a stumbling block before the blind”. Therefore it is a virtuous trait in a man not to wear unusually beautiful or costly garments, neither he, his wife, nor his children. The same applies to food and other matters- so that others not envy him. But if one has been graciously favored by the Blessed Creator with wealth and property, let him benefit others thereby, both rich and poor and comport himself gently with them and accord them lovingkindness.
However, it goes on and this is all within the chapter of The Gate of Envy and i must agree to what Bombmanic has been saying all along in a sense, that ….”Therefore one should keep himself far from envy and desire and NOT desire anythign possessed by others.”
whoa. Ok. thanks.But is there any reason you decided to inform of us this now?
Don’t do it, you can pass this test.
ostentatious – 3 dictionary results
[os-ten-tey-shuhs, -tuhn-] Show IPA
1. characterized by or given to pretentious or conspicuous show in an attempt to impress others: an ostentatious dresser.
2. (of actions, manner, qualities exhibited, etc.) intended to attract notice: Lady Bountiful’s ostentatious charity.
Compare that with the definition of Modest (Tznius)
[mod-ist] Show IPA
1. having or showing a moderate or humble estimate of one’s merits, importance, etc.; free from vanity, egotism, boastfulness, or great pretensions.
2. free from ostentation or showy extravagance: a modest house.
3. having or showing regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, dress, etc.; decent: a modest neckline on a dress.
4. limited or moderate in amount, extent, etc.: a modest increase in salary.
Sacril what was “…a hilarious Pathetic post to state to begin with” ,which you are referring to?
If you look in the chumash it says:
“Y’vorechechu Hashem v’ishmrechu….” I heard once a nice thing, that this refers to getting a “Blessing of Gashmius”. We should get a bracha but rise above it, and not let it rise above us. Inflating our egos above us.
Bombmanic Don’t let it run your life, running to buy the most “expensive” shirts, albeit superior quality, maybe monogrammed too, etc.
Everyone knows the test of being wealthy is much harder than the test of being poor. When poor folks don’t have – they don’t have. Simple.
But when ppl have $$ and show it off its sickening. Its a real defect in character. Its the principle of it. How can you drive a lexus, have your wife in a fur coat, and vacaction in Florida when you know for a fact that your neighbor down the road can’t afford pampers for their babies? You do hurt others openly living a lifestyle others cannot afford.
You should feel shame when you live that much higher than the majority of the world around you.
Everyone knows that the test of being “blessed with wealth” is to learn to loosen up the attachment to holding on to the material. To open the unclenched fist and to give. Maybe that “Giving” means giving up the show of a higher standard of life that is not within a modest torahdik way.
My daughter’s teacher pointed something out real nice last week about the parsha. She said that according to what Avraham Avinu could have really afforded, it could be said (argued) that Rivkah Imaynu got cheap jewellery, as the gift from Eliezer. The point is that we should be happy with a modest amount.
WIY I am still pretty new around here, but lately you’ve been posting one nice word after the other. true words of wisdom. I like what you said, the first long thing you wrote. But I have one problem with what you said as follows.
: “if we believe that everything that happens to us, whether pleasant or otherwise, comes from Hashem than the people who deliver Hashem’s will are simply puppets. We therefore harbor no resentment against people who have wronged us”.
This can sometimes lead me to feel angry at Hashem. After all, He IS the Master with the PLAN! And here I am suffering.
How does one over come this???? I did get publicly humiliated this past week in a retail store by a heimishe owner, unrightfully so, and i am still angry against him. I see/know/believe it was Hashem who wanted this to happen to me. Its hard to say “thanks abishter” even if I did remove a few aveiros through it.
this post is getting more hilarious by the hour.
Addicted that was very well said.
I will share with you something personal about me. Before I became frum/religious I was very anti-esthetic like, anti-materialistic-worship like, and in fact you could say I was an “Au Natural granola type”. I used cloth diapers, sewed clothing, made our meals from scratch, organic soymilk from beans. My dream was to live and walk with Hashem humbly. I would never have been caught dead in my wildest dreams with a fur coat or leather couch. I was a vegetarian.
Anyhow, i grew up and ended up joining the “real world” eventually like most of us, and as I melted into the chareidi lifestyle I slowly found myself getting caught up and lost my head when it came to materialism. I won’t even go into detail to what extents I was willing to go in order to keep up with “looks and styles”. But I finally asked myself “where am I?” This is not me! WHen I look around at the majority of the ladies I am surrounded by in my neighborhood, and I feel ashamed that these righteous tzedakeses are turning heads when they cross the street! I am not sure they are even aware how “good they look”. But I have seen goyish men turn to stare.
Tznius is not even trying to keep up with styles. Tznius is suppose to be a statment. That you are like Avraham Avinu, going against the grain, against all of the world’s and society’s beliefs and styles. When ladies wear what is popular and stylish but in a “tznius way” I feel it sort of is like a compromise of our pure values.
This idea of “Kosher human hair wigs” is a bunch of baloney. How many European women have you heard of grow their hair for Industry purposes? It does not exist! ITs still grown on the heads of idol worshippers in India but exported for sale to Europe where they say “.. its European”. Its impossible that one can put a hechsher on a sheital, as if from the time its cut off the woman until its’ end creation some mashgiach will be watching over.
I will tell you a true story. In the place where my husband works there is a number of goyim from those countries. One day one of them approached my husband and shared with him, out of interest sake ” Yeah you know something,,,each year in our country back home our women shave off their long hair to bring as a offering to our idols in the temple and then we sell it to YOU, for your women who make the wigs…neat huh?”.
My husband was like super dumbfounded cause this was well AFTER the big explosion of the sheital crisis!!!
The one thing I really dislike all in all is the “putting on airs”, as people maneuver themselves across the room at parties, putting on an the elegant stunning act. In fact it says:
And what does Hashem your G-d ask of you?
To walk humbly with him.
Well its awfully hard to walk humbly with Abishter when you have all that materialism hanging off you.
Rebbetzin: Who “Peels and drops” nails? LOL Sounds like orange peels. Yes you are not suppose to dispose of them any other way except for in a manner in which they are sure never to come in contact with another human. Which is why burning them or flushing are most usual manner people dispose of them.
There is actually something dangerous to stepping on a finger nail, lying in its’ exact location on the floor where it originally fell. In other words, if you clip your nails but think you saw one flying and don’t know where, you should give a quick sweep to the floor area in order to mix up where it may have fell and that way if you do step on it….
Hey Whatrutalkinabout I really liked your answer about big gestures and taking on shmiras haloshen for asking for miracles. I know its true, just sometimes we need to be reminded. WOrds from the heart enter the heart.
I have learned the hard way through life experience to be FIRM but Polite. You must never ever be intimidated by anyone. Anytime.Never live your life for others.
Why do you have to dread anything? You have not done anything wrong, except to use your entitlement of better judgment in shidduchim for your kid. If anyone is doing anything that they may later on dread or regret when bumping into you, it should be that neighbor who wants to redt the shidduch, cause what right does she have to go calling up the grandparents??? Excuse me?
They have already married off their kids.
And what about being pushy? Doesnt that call for being embarassed in hindsight?
I am so dumbfounded by the lack of mentchlichkeit, honesty, integrity and a whole other long list of words that sum up the qualities I have found in shadchanim because of their need to make a few $$. You wouldnt believe some of the garbage I have had to put up with. Like for example, i have a shidduch redt to me for my daughter and they start out saying he is a such and such type of chasid and then as I kindly explain that its not for us, as we are of such and such a breed, she later on changes what Rebbe he holds by and that “oh in fact he is a suchandsuch chasid actually”. Oh please! I called my sources and verified he isn’t by the way. They should not lie.
Never be intimidated. As long as you are always firm but polite you will not regret your actions or words. Just kindly say, thank you very much but we are not interested in this at this time. For example
Parent of kid in parshah” No…… we are not interested.
Shadchan: Blah blah blah
Parent of kid in the parshah: Thank you very much for your call and for the thought, but we are not interested.
(repetition does get through to those who try to wear you down)
Shadchan: But he’s a good catch, a talmid, true? true!
Parent of kid in the parshah: Mmmm hummm. I see. Well, thats’ nice but we aren’t listening. Thank you.
Mother in Israel: I must make a correction. IT is called Dowsing. And How you described your friend’s food allergy/intolerance being diagnosed by a “doctor” who swung the pendulum for answers is exactly dowsing!. This neighbor of mine which I was referring to had her food tolerance diagnosed by someone doing dowsing with the pendulum.
I don’t think I made reference to her being over the phone or in person for this. Its irrelevant anyways. But the point is that its NISHT OSGEHALTEN!!!!
Its avodah zara.
I am feeling encouraged to share my own personal rant here, since it reminds me of how little patience I also have at “weird non jewish customs” making their way into our communities.
Has anyone ever heard of dowling? Well just go look it up on wikipedia or google it and you’ll see it comes from some sort of witchcraft. Well, its making its way into our charedi little shetel as I recently had a neighbor tell me how she went to a heimishe lady for a “DOWLING SESSION”. This lady does it for parnassah. It entails swinging a stick or rod around and in which manner it will move or swing she “reads & interprets” to give answers. Their Rav/Dayan said “as long as its for a refuah its ok”, according to her.
Or how about all these weird segulos like melting some ring or engraving soemthing on it and then your 3 wishes are granted or some bs like that.
I am also angry about Yoga. Its full Avodas Zara. Its roots are deep in idol worship. THere are plenty of other exercises out there. In one Jewish Community Y, they had a teacher leading the yoga class but before you knew what was happening she was describing this “Gentle stretch over” to be like we are now worshipping the sun.???
THE absolute worst most embarassing moment I ever had socially was about 14 years ago. I saw a neighbour who had been expecting.She looked ready to drop a baby any day. Anyways, one day I see her coming home with her husband. They were getting out of the car, coming up the steps and I said hello. Then I went further, and in a real friendly voice, smiling, I asked “Hey, did you have your baby”?
There was the most uncomfortable feeling and silence for a second and then she said “Yes but he died”. Then she broke down crying and ran for her door, sobbing hysterically all the way. I felt so terrible.
I learned from this lesson to NEVER EVER ask questions until I first hear about a simcha of a birth. Until the news reaches me, I DO NOT INQUIRE!
Unfortunately the situation with that neighbor was such that I was so uncomfortable in what transpired I did not even have the strength to reach out to her, by paying her a visit or dropping in to deliver a cake.
We avoided one another until she moved. And her husband kept on giving me a weird feeling or dirty look, i felt.
Excuse me Kaveh but don’t you return rotten spoiled milk? Erev shabbos for example, I got my milk order and all 4 of the yogurt containers were SOUR. I just picked up the phone and told the driver to kindly pick them up and replace them with good yogurt. He said he’ll be back tommorrow.
Not that I am annoyed. However, its written that if one was to put his hand into his pocket to fetch a particular item or coin and pulled out the wrong item, and has to retry to fetch from the pocket what he orginally wanted, its a kaparah. Any annoyance or seemingly trivial waste of time or money has a purpose. Its a message.
But the point is not that I am annoyed, which I am. THe point is that they cannot sell you garbage. YOu have to do your hishtaldus to correct the situation and call them on it, return THAT MILK! GEt your money back.
Someone who was deperate for parnassa once approached my husband in shul for an eitza. THey spoke a bit about his situation and then the yingerman told my husband that he was about to pay a large amount of money to a kabbalist soon, (or some one of this sort of caliber) to prescribe a segula for his circumstance.
My husband told him “meet me here tommorrow I have one I can sell you”. The man was overjoyed at the price. Only $5.
Next day he comes up to my husband and is like “nu”?
So my husband writes something down secretly on a little piece of paper. Gets his $5 and then gives the paper over to the man.
The little paper just read “ARBIT”.
THe man was very angry. Humilitated is more accurate. But my husband told him that is the only solution. Because this man was not of the mentality to work to earn a living. He’d rather waste money on segulas.
So he got one.
Facts are the many educated professional women have unhappy married lives, are miserable themselves, their husbands have to look forward to coming home to “another man” and they usually have zero marriages.
A woman belongs in the home.
Maybe you could say life has matured me beyond the point of experiencing embarassment but I can’t say that I would feel shame or true embarassment from many of these stories. Especially not getting in the car of a big rav or rebbe, accidentally. I am the type of lady that would maybe gasp and look the guy in the eye and say OH I AM SO SORRY I THOUGHT I WAS GETTING INTO MY HUSBANDS CAR. I Made a mistake.
I think people are pretty human and can accept alot of these situations.
Until recently, I remained a slow-to-develop-maturity-type. So it took until adulthood to realize that my thoughts are not visible.
So, up until then, I suffered many “embarassing moments” from childhood on, not realizing that my facial expressions were NOT giving away my beliefs or thoughts.
For example, some of my most embarassing moments would be waving to someone who I thought I recognized as a friend, but was not her, or thinking someone was talking to me, and wasn’t. Or feeling put out of a game, a social circle, a hello, etc, and actually no one really knew what I was experiencing internally, anyways!
I realize now, nobody knew what I was thinking.
Thank g-d for being a grown up.
When I first read the title of this thread I assumed you meant lets discuss Scotch tape, and all the ways in which it gets used practically, in a yiddisher shteib!
We put it over all light switches before shabbos!
Dr. Pepper, I still don’t get your story, above. Can you please explain?
SJSinNYC
She wouldn’t last in Williamsburg.
Did anyone watch http://www.pennilessparenting.com as suggested above in this thread by some member? I went there, and was astounded at this young ladies’ unique way of living. From “family cloth” re-washable toilet paper, to canning olives she picked off some tree in old bottles. I am ashamed to ask Must people really live this way? I mean how much can Disposable Menstrual pads cost monthly? $4 ? She makes everything. Must a frum person live this way?
Fearful thinking.
Best segulah for raising kids who love and respect all their siblings, and are gentle and helpful is treat your spouse that way. Shalom Bayis goes far.
How about feeding animals on Yom Tov and shabbos? Once on pesach we were enjoying a sit in the park, and a young mother comes along with her brood of children and a bag of whatever, matza crumbs? And the start throwing it to the birds for fun.
How about washing netilas yadim and sitting at your place when you put the challa in your mouth, and actually swallowing a kezias or at least a drop before resuming partcipating in talking?
Or in one house the rebbetzin was washing each and every dish that returned to her kitchen after each course, and faithfully replacing them in the cupboard so everything should be in order, after drying with a towel, as well. As well as wiping the counter tops with a shmatta.
IF a Yid had have come out of the mine alive, what would be the Bracha he would make?
Ok I couldn’t resist. Before navigatig away I must put in my two cents. Here is one that goes written on a tombstone at a grave:
HERE LIES DEAR OLD JAKE
WHO STEPPED ON THE GAS
INSTEAD OF THE BRAKE
The name of this Topic says it all. We have finally reached the epitome of BORED. Limericks? C’mon I haven’t made those since Grade 3. But I will still be interested to read any that anyone posts! I am bored!
The worst Part about diabetic pregnancies is that they DO NOT allow you to carry past term, and some are even careful to induce you before term. There is a risk of the baby dying in diabetics, one for some reason they are not sure of, and secondly the placenta “ages” faster than in a regular woman. When that happens the baby does not receive oxygen and nutrients normally.
So having said all that, a diabetic pregnancy is more likely to have more interventions such as C-sec or induction. As you get around 37 or 38 weeks, its a good idea to start doing things to get you in labor. Some suggestions would be : accupunture, walking 2 miles a day, evening primrose oil placed internally, drinking blue/black cohosh tea (don’t quote me-see a herbalist), try castor oil, have a midwife stretch and sweep your membranes.
If you try to go into labor naturally it can save the induction and or a C-sec. I had diabetes in all my pregnancies and controlled my sugars near perfectly because I tested my sugar about 2x an hour.
My friends little 4 year old (or so) goes up to a old lady (a goy) with wrinkled face and white hair. Looks into her face and says “Are you dead?”.
Her mother had explained to her that when people get old they die.
I sometimes feel that I understand the words of that song “I dreamed a dream” Sung by Susan Boyle. Like a lot of dreams and opportunities have passed me by.
But I wish I could be happier, and make my kids/family happier. I wish I could let go of the past, and heal the sad child within me suffering from the pain of my parents bitter divorce as a child.
I wish I could be closer to Hashem.
I wish I had more strength to do the things I really want to do in life, and not worry what the neighbors will think or say. I wish I had the guts to wear what I like and not worry if they talk on me. I wish I had the chutzpah to ride a bike in my neighborhood. I wish I had the freedom I had when I was a teenager. I wish I didn’t care what people think of me. I wish I didn’t envy them. I wish people could see how interesting and special I am inside and not judge me from what they have guessed or heard.I wish they would talk to me. I wish I could spend the night in a forest way near the North West Territories, and see the Northern Lights, and hug trees. I wish I could travel through ancient waterways by canoe on an adventure. I wish I could go dirt-bike riding, flying over mounds of sand and dirt in country fields. I wish I could laugh with friends. I wish I didn’t mourn so much over the past, and re-account whats lost and remember whats gone.
Its not easy being a BT.
Is it just me or Hungarian sounds a lot like Farsi (persian)?