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Do you know whats even more disturbing?

In this Coffee Room, a member has written Loshen Hara about Yidden, above. He has written above a description of the evil report on Yidden, which he got from a WORD REMOVED working for an airline.

Yet the moderators deleted my message to the OP in which I gave him a heavy dose of mussar about his comment. It was bad that he came away from listening to WORD REMOVED speaking negatively about his own people and didn’t even have what to answer them, or defend us. Then, he rather comes to a ‘supposedly’ frum website to ask his fellow commentors what we think about our rude reputation amongst air line hosts.

There was no apology or editing done to censor the OP’s report, on the Moderators part.

The fact is that this is a public website on-line. This conversation/thread is not exclusively private for only the frum community or Jewish people to contend with. Non Jews can read these threads, and derive conclusions from our own speaking derogatorily on our own selves.

The public can form judgments and form futher convictions they may have already held against Jews.

As with any derogatory statments and anti semetic opinions, my fundamental question to the dedicated Moderators is why would they delete a thread titled “Jews and Racisim” which I created last week, and I asked a basic question. Why are we discriminatory against “ WORD REMOVED “? I brought up a fundamental point about the socio-economic barrier and class distinction in this question.

However, I am surprised that you let the above thread pass which is a bad rap on Yidden. It is not even a question posed in order to quench an innocent ignorance. This thread posted by the OP is obviously loshen hara without a constructive purpose.

If the Moderators saw it fit to remove a post regarding a question about why we jews are racist against blacks, why would they let alone a thread that deals with an evil report, from the mouth of a WORD REMOVED ? And a jew comes to post what they said on yidden in a yeshivish website? You support this?

I think you should remove the word Yeshivish from your website.

Secondly I think you might prefer living in a communist country, where censorship is your kind of thing. Very frequent and used heavily.

Lastly, I am sick of your website by the nature of the selective editing and deleting of topics and comments that do not deserve to be swept under the carpet.

I have no intention of returning.

We will help you leave.

BYE!

P.s- Even if you only read this and delete it, at least ….

“The fact is that this is a public website on-line. This conversation/thread is not exclusively private for only the frum community or Jewish people to contend with. Non Jews can read these threads, and derive conclusions from our own speaking derogatorily on our own selves.”

Exactly. So how did you submit all the words above which were removed by the moderators. Did you think they would make a kiddush hashem?

Clean the house immaculately. Make sure the kitchen is well stocked. Cook the most gourmet healthy hardy winter soups. Start knitting, and reading books to the kids, and share old photos with the family, remembering the memories.

who around here sleeps enough? I personally go to be around 1 a.m. Rarely earlier, and sometimes later. (maximum 2 am)

Then babies wake me any where from 4:30 a.m to 5:30 and its hard to fall back. I want to be in bed 10:30 but I don’t know how.

crdle, no…no..no..what those ladies in Seagate were wearing is only for inside the house, and its called a turban. Its not for going on the street with.

A shpitzel is not the scarf part of the wrapping on a chassidish lady..its the front part that looks like hair color.

First you put a shpitzel, which is usually the color of what your hair color was, brownish, or dirty blondish or dark dark brown. Usually made very talented and specially by a shpitzelmacher out of real silk threads. From far it looks like a front tucked in neatly. Or if you’re even more frum and machmir you don’t wear from thread like material, but its just rather a brown cloth that from far gives the look of a front.

Then on top of the shpitzel goes the pretty silk scarf delicately and neatly folded and pinned up. There are different ways of tying it.

They cost about $140 and the silk scarf can cost around $260

After a few years you have to replace the shpitzel as it gets old and used looking.

oh eclipse I am sorry. May you only see truly good results of her nisyonas in the end. She will overcome them if you talk quietly heart to heart, say late at night, and through the love in your heart for her she will get the message.

ok whoever believes that facebook puts you in spiritual danger …I DISAGREE! It all depends on how you use it! Facebookk is not inheritantly evil. Neither is a butcher’s knife.

On the other hand no matter how you smoke cigarettes, they pose a serious health threat.

TheGoq I noticed this when i first became frum and joined the religoius, as you state about the trait of being interested in other’s affairs. (thats putting it nicely).

In one conversation my husband had with someone, the person said something funny and true. IF/When you are ever new to a community and go to shul just hang a sign around your neck :

This is my parnassa $ , how much I earn.

THis is my yichus….

And my name is….

Thats’ all you gotta do to fill their wondering minds.

My husband knows of an older man who when he was “on the market” after his divorce, the shadchan told him bluntly over the phone:

“If I can verify you have money, today, I have a queque of girls lined up”. In fact, in one case, the shadcan had a girl under 20 who could not have children, but whose parents would have overlooked the divorced mans age (almost a difference of 20 years) if they knew she would be comfortable!

I think with older men $$$ is the bottom line. You can buy a wife.

Ha ha ha sister bear. Reminds me of a funny email I got once : Top funny things to do in an elevator.

1. Drop a penny down the shute where the doors open, and get down and look and cry “MY PENNY!”

2. Draw a chalk circle around yourself on the floor of the elevator.

3. Hand out name tages for everyone, introducing each other.

4. Face the wrong way, towards the people.

FUnny huh?

Eclipse I hear what you’re saying…but its going too far, to look into it as insults, cause otherwise we practically would be so limited in what we could say to anyone anywhere!

I got insulted once when someone said “wow you don’t even look pregnant” and i was standing there 8 or 9 months pregnant and she had just seen me in the pool in a bathing suit????!!!!

SHe meant you’re so gezint and chubby to start with we don’t see the baby! AChhhh.

oh MY,,,you really asked the right person…

TLC ! TO LEARN CONTROL. Its a real program started by a Rav & his Rebbetzin. Now being followed by thousands across the world, it was designed for the frum woman.

I am a compulsive eater. I can put things in my mouth when I am not even aware of it, or when I am not even hungry.

However, TLC is a program which is fast gaining a lot of popularity and if you want more info I can give you the hotline number to listen in on (718) area code. You can see if its for you. There are no costs, or fees.

Ladies all around me are dropping the weight. I know personally 2 ladies who both dropped 60 lbs!

I know of a family of sisters who lost tons. And they are keeping it off.

The only drawback is that its really strict. And there is no cheating.

He advises you however, that if you have gas water heaters or any other gas burning appliances that the vents are always clear and checked at least every 4 years since blocked vents would basically prevent escape of CO into the atmosphere. And this could accumulate within living areas, can lead to a silent death.

sounds kind of negative and pessimistic. What does being single have to do with a dollar bill? A fifty could be single in your wallet just as well!

mewho remember little black Sambo? They wouldn’t dare print that today either. But probablly they’d print some kids books about the dynamics of a family headed by same sex parents???

We need Moshiach! ( i am not chabad) btw.

Sacri- what a woman needs for a mate is a man with a good sense of intellect and wisdom, as he is ultimately going to be the Captain of the ship (of the home) – so if you are finding yourself uncomfortable with the amount of compromising and concessions you must make, then I’d say its a sign he is not for you, because if he were what you needed then his suggestions or say the concessions you make for it to “work” would be like so gratifying that its’ like a cool refreshing glass of water when one is thirsty. You’d be left with a feeling of “i am so glad that I am being taken down this road”. I gave up a lot of things when I got engaged, at my chassan’s gentle, hinting request. And I was so relieved in so many ways that he had such seichel.

Ben Levi there is no mentioned Bruno Bettelheims name in the CR ever. Period.

Eclipse, one of the things I miss is singing since having become frum. One problem is the songs. I don’t know much yiddish and was not raised with any zemiros so I really don’t know what to sing! The only songs I know and enjoy to sing are “goyish” and I try to refrain them. Its quite painful because as I remember singing made me happy. But I gave it up. Not because of neighbors and not because others can hear me.

1. Good heart (Gives generously to all)

2. Knows when to remain silent and how to listen with heart.

3. Has a strong work ethic. (Is not going to be some bum sitting around in mikveh until 12 noon-expecting my taty to pay the bills)

4. Self control, does not lose temper.

5. Learns when can or has regular chavrusim.