If the guy is really a serious learner in Lakewood, I cannot imagine he would agree to be set up, let alone his parents approving of it. If he is willing to go out, I would question how serious is. Bottom line: he would have to accept the way she is now–there is no guarantee that even if she agreed to be “frummer,” that she will or that it will last. And from the girl’s part, I find it hard to believe that despite the commonalities, that she would agree to go out with a boy who plans to be a long-time learner unless she already is leaning in that direction.