Frumee

As a young married frum woman in a “frum” community in NY, I am thinking that no one really understands what is going on here. Let me first start with the pressure for a frum woman when it comes to what we wear. All the women are looking at each other and what they are wearing – is it Prada? Gucci? Burberry? Chanel? Sonia Rykiel? Tory Burch? Did you buy that at Saks or Bergdorf? What you are all writing about is the little picture to a MUCH bigger problem.

Lets start with the women. They all have to be decked out in designer duds or else they can’t be friends with certain people, or someone will talk about them, or it will look like they don’t have a lot of money G-D forbid!!! It is all about the name brand. Now these name brands are not usually cut out for tznius dressers – either it is low cut, too short, very form fitting, etc. But the frum women think if all they do is throw on a 3/4 sleeve Linda Leal under a Chanel dress, it becomes tznius!! You can’t stop people from patronizing non-Jewish stores, but the Jewish stores are no better because some carry these items as well.

Moving on to the men, Some husbands encourage their wives to wear designer clothes, and why shouldn’t they when the husband is wearing a $2000 suit. They want their wives to dress to show off their body or their designer outfit because, like I said before, it shows money and makes them look good.

Do people really think that what went on in that shul over Shabbos is the only place where things like this happen? I was invited to someone’s house for a meal on a Yom Tov with a few other couples and will not even bother repeating the topics that were spoken about or the way the men and women who were not married to each other were acting.

Unfortunately, we have serious issues these days and most of them don’t have to do with drinking on Shabbos. People who are married should be concerned only with their spouse and try to keep their eyes and hands to themselves.