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Why they like it so much. I have tasted it several time and stll don’t get the big deal
Some people have fish allergies. Also chicken is cheaper than fish.
I am not a fussy eater, but I still don’t understand the fuss people make about sushi.
Joseph: So the Chofetz Chaim was advocating divisiveness among Jews?
skirpka: I hope you were being sarcastic. Regardless of what each of us holds, we are all yidden and required to look out for one another and not push anyone away. Who are we to judge? It is all up to Hashem.
SInce we have no idea what “stupid jobs” you;re doing, I would suggest you look into one of the many schools that train you for a job in the healthcare profession. There are a number of positions that do not requires years of training and some of them pay very well. Maybe you don’t feel it’s your thing, but maybe it beats what you’re currently doing. Healthcare is the place to be profession wise
Why not ask the girl herself? Some people have in mind the type of guy and yeshiva they want. It makes no sense to me, but it is what is. Some girls want only Lakewood guys. Maybe CC boys are more community minded and may end up in some farflung community. But surely you could have asked her at that moment.
You think something that was originated 60 years ago is still relevant to either men or women? Maybe some points are, but society,, including the frum, has changed to the point where most women are not homemakers exclusively. What prompted the posting of this anyway?
Is anyone really surprised by this?
Joseph: Interesting you should suggest that gedolim should ban tobacco. I am always surprised to see how many rebbeim as well as their talmidim smoke.
Let’s see: First eggs were no good, now they are good. They said to drink skim milk instead of whole milk, and now they say whole milk is good for you. Cigarettes aren’t food, but I would take any warning about the dangers food with a grain of salt since a differnt finding is likely to come. I have heard that the sample used to determine these findings are often flawed or so small that they should not be relied on as they are. Besides, would you trust anything that comes out the UN?
Wait long enough and they’ll come out and say it doesn’t. It’s happened before and likely will happen again.
Joseph” I don’t know why you think two sensitive people would be a good match. There is being sensitive too people, and walking on eggshells, and there is just being sensitive, being bothered by every little slight. How does that work in a marriage? Healthier to just become lest sensitive.
I agree. I don’t believe a person needs to be brilliant to influence the world. Over the years I’ve come to understand that the presumption that Jews in general are brilliant is just not so. Jews may represent a disproportionately high percentage of Nobel prize winners but there are a lot of average folks like me
If he can’t take rejection, maybe he isn’t mature enough to get married. Life is full of ups and downs, disappointments, etc. If his reaction to any negatives. If he can’t handle rejection now, when will he learn it?
I understand, but why not just start a new thread with your own details?
That may be true, but parents seem to know the truth of their child’s placement. I have a close friend who has been a principal of different yeshivas, and they all face the same issue with parents who don’t want their kids in anything other than what is regarded as the top class.
Why is the parent so concerned about rejection?
The separate yeshiva idea wouldn’t work. It’s bad enough in yeshivas where kids feel stigmatized if they are placed in a “B” or lower class. I don’t know if I agree with the premise that yeshivas are aiming at IQs of 110. I don’t think their staff of rebbeim and teachers are all so bright and intelligent to be able to do that. But let’s face it, learning is not easy even for a person of above average intelligence.
not at all, that is irrelevant. My point has to do with the boy’s parent trying to protect him from rejection. That’s part of life.
I don’t know why you went to the trouble to revive a two-year-old thread but based on what did you tell them they weren’t frum? Did they get engaged online without having any in-person meetings? And if they met in person, and seemed to be OK, why demonize the method in which they met?
Oh to deal with rejection, perish the thought. If your son is a normal adult male, he should be able to take rejection without destroying his self esteem. If he has self esteem issues, then spare the girl having to meet such a guy until he has his act together. The simple answer though is to say yes, and if it’s bashert it will proceed to the next step.
Popa: Hadar sounds like your kind of place
I learned a long time ago, used electronics aren’t worth it. It;’s like buying a used car; you really don’t know the history. Fixing the computer can be expensive; you probably can get a new one for about as much as fixing this one.
The word is masculinist.
I am not a big fan of seminary. Basically most seem to be geared to those who want to go into chinuch. Otherwise, I think you can accomplish your kedusha now just as you hope to do after a year of seminary. Save your parents the money, which is a fortune for those living in the U.S. It seems girls want to go to Seminary to experience living in Israel; if are there already, you don’t need that component. I have seen many many girls, including my daughters, who have gone to all sorts of seminaries, and most of them do not come back much different from the way they left, except maybe being brainwashed into marrying the type of guy the seminary prefers.
My impression is that Machon Raya is a real learning seminary. I am not sure Machon Raya meets her wish list. I am surprised about these questions here. Don’t your schools have a seminary night or adviser?
Hadar is a very chareidi seminary. Been around a long time and generally attracts a yeshivish crowd. Doesn’t sound like the place for you from what it sounds. There are always new seminaries and I guess you will have to dig, but from what i remember when my daughters went through this, the frummer ones won’t allow regular access to the Internet. Why do you really want to go to seminary?
Are you currently in school? Why then are you online? In any case, my advice is to discuss this with your mechaneches. She may have some valuable insights into which seminary is best for you. Hatzlacha.
My father charged me rent when I started working and I resented it, but I don’t charge my single children who are working and living at home. Maybe my father needed the money; I don’t. Still the charging me rent was an impetus for me to move out on my own. I was old enough and it was the best move for me at the time. I agree, children should feel on their own to contribute in some way, but really, if they are just starting out, i would prefer they save their money for a time when they marry and need money to set up a household.
Daas Yachid: My point was not that they had a Yitzchok and Yaakov but that bloodline does not necessarily translate into greatness.
What I find ironic not only in Chassidus but also in the Torah world, that it appears all Jews are not created equal and some are more important than others. And where does the precedence of bloodline come from? Moshe Rabbenu’s sons didn’t inherit his leadership position and Avraham had a Yishmael and Yitzchak an Eisav?
nfgo: not sure the point of your last post. The issue was whether it is accurate to say Israel is “far safer” than the U.S. Of course, for the individuals who are victims of attacks is “a crime rate too high,” but that is not the point. As for your parenthetical, who knows what gentiles think about charedi Jews if the reason for attacking them is hatred and not a search for money.
Popa: this is a forum for discussion and this is a valid topic. You are cordially invited to do something else if you are not interested.
I don’t accept one incident as a proof to anything. No one should. In this particular instance, between these terror attacks and suicide bombing attacks of the past and the constant fear that something can happen, well i don’t know where you live, but I don’t share those fears in the U.S. In Israel it’s a constant concern. Of course there are isolated instances, but that’s what they are–isolated.
Curious why this matters? Does anyone even have that answer? You probably can check back at the number of posts, or are you talking about the date from which it started and how long it continuously (not counting those folks who feel inspired to revive CR threads that ended years ago.
Of course it doesn’t have to be so loud. I think the orchestras don’t really consider the size of the hall when they play. I was at an wedding recently in a relatively small hall and the orchestra had speakers that appeared to be at least six feet tall. I don’t care what young people say, they themselves don’t need it so loud or so booming since they are dancing anyway, and not merely listening. And don’t get me started on the stuff some of these orchestras play that has no place at a frum wedding.
Nfgo3, what an odd comment. But you dont’ have to go with your gut on this one as others have made equally legitimate comments. To say Israel is “far safer” than America just may not ring true for the people who were shot at and stabbed on a bus, or hit by a car as they wait for a bus stop, etc.
OK, they didn’t lie but did paint a picture of eretz yisroel that caused bnai Yisroel to despair. So I stand corrected but Joseph did not give an inaccurate report of what is going on there
Avi, what the meraglim did were to lie about eretz Yisroel. It is quite evident by the events going on in Israel that “safe” is not a word one could use lightly. I have been to Eretz Yisroel many times and even when there is no intifada going on, I still didn’t feel safe, mainly because of the constant possibility of attacks by Arabs. Speaking of which, even 35 years ago, on my first trip, relatives warned me not to go through Shaar Shechem, yet people still do. Not sure why they themselves think it is safe enough, but as it is all Arab, it would seem wise to avoid such places.
Charlie, somehow I don’t agree it’s “far safer” in Israel than in the U.S. Based on what do you say that when there are random acts of terror just about anywhere in Israel?