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Little Froggie: I maintain that regardless of what you saw, unless you know the person, his situation or how he would react, I question whether your desire to rebuke him is appropriate. Now, you said what he was watching was obviously assur or something to that effect. Well, how would you know that unless you too were looking at it?
DY wrote: Throwing in “all” movies is a red herring. We’re talking about movies containing inappropriate material, which is the vast, vast majority of secular entertainment, but not literally “all” movies.
How would you personally know what the “vast, vast majority” of secular entertainment is unless you experienced yourself. I took issue with Joseph’s comment about it being an aveirah to watch movies. He didn’t qualify it as you have, but your generalization is suspect unless you have been involved in all sorts of secular entertainment to make such a judgment about its appropriateness.
From your comment, you haven’t personally studied the Shulchan Aruch on this matter, correct?
DY: I don’t agree. The same people who assur movies are probably among those who assur Internet and anything else in sight. To me it’s hypocritical to call watching movies an aveira but then make a presence on the Internet. If you don’t see it, then it’s just a rationalization that they’re not the same, but for those who declare things assur, it should be same. I would like to know the names of the rabbonim who assured all movies, and the source for it.
Some have said going on the Internet is an aveira as well, so what are all these people who say watching movies is an aveira, what are you doing here?
Joseph: Are you paskening for the world about movies being an aveira? So all these frum people who watch movies are sinners? What exactly is the aveirah?
Zahavas Dad: I was going to post something similar to what you wrote.
Joseph: Maybe tochacha is the rule but who said what he was doing required it? Maybe in your personal space you find watching movies an aveira, but others don’t feel that way. I would not doubt this bochur knows the various opinions about movies and he has decided that he is OK, so what would be the point of your tochaha? Impose your own standards (and of similarly minded people) on someone who has chosen differently?
As for Little Froggie, about his going to eretz Yisroel. The sad reality I discovered on my very first trip is that how many locals living in the holy city of Yerushalayim are totally unaffected by its holiness. Some of the things I observed were truly astonishing, so one has to be open to the ruchnius and want it to seep into one’s neshama. Again, knowing nothing about this bochur, your attitude is quite presumptuous. It’s like reading a title of book and without opening it, making conclusions about it.
My point is you really are taking a chance if you don’t know anything about the person you wish to address. Granted, if you know the person and his/her situation and you know he/she is accepting of suggestion or criticism, maybe, but I don’t agree in this situation when a total stranger is involved. I would resent it.
It really is not your place to say anything. It’s like telling an obese person you need to go on a diet. This bochur probably knows he shouldn’t watch, or maybe he doesn’t care. Maybe reprimanding him would drive him away from Yiddishkeit. If it doesn’t personally affect you, live and let live. I suspect people know a lot more about the things you bring to their attention than you realize.
OK, I’m dense. How did yo answer it. Referring to me sources is not an answer
Doesn’t explain why the rabbonim would make a mitzvah out of something that could turn in to something unintended. Or did the rabbonim want people to get plastered on Purim?
OK, let me put this another way: Is there a basis d’oraisa for getting drunk on Purim? Why would the rabbonim make it mitzvah to get drunk, and if that was no the intention, why not make a geder to prevent it as they have to prevent other behavior that may be halachically assur? I am having a hard time understanding why rabbonim would davka make getting drunk a mitzvah, given that it easily can be overdone and get out of hand.
DaasYachid: I don’t understand your analogy. Is it a mitzvah to get drunk, is that the definition of ad lo yadah. Seems like people go beyond the intent of the mitzvah, or have you found a source that the mitzvah means to get into a drunken obnoxious state?
I don’t know how serious the original post is, but really this young man sounds immature if he feels that this is a question for a rav. Out of love and respect for his wife, he should abide by her request, and making this an issue for a rav is childish.
I observed enough example of frum drunkenness that it makes me wonder why, if this is unacceptable behavior, why did the rabbonim years ago not make a geder to prevent it? I cannot imagine that any rav would think that non-Jews observing drunken bochurim would explain that they are performing a mitzvah. I could not escape observing it and quite honestly, I did not feel they performing a mtizvah as much as a chillul Hashem.
For the critics of saying I am not fond of matzah. Matzah is still a food and as a human being I am entitled to have my preferences of things I like to eat. The fact that it is a mitzvah and I do it because Hashem commanded us to do it, well, when you enjoy the matzah so much, are you detracting from the mitzvah?
What do other poskim say?
Too much is made of shalach manos. I appreciate your motive, but there is already enough simcha on Purim that it may be an unnecessary effort on your part.
That’s right, I am not fond of matzah as a food but I do it for the mitzvah. Where does it say it is forbidden to say I don’t like mitzvah?
Why should anyone ridicule the minhag of other people? Since I am not fond of mitzvah in the first place, the longer I abstain from it the better chance I have to eat it at the seder b’taiavon.
I haven’t heard that the minhag affects anything but matzah itself. Have you heard otherwise?
RebYid: are you talking about negatives of the current Republican Party or Republicanism in general? If so, what do you see as negatives of Republicanism?
Trump is simply tapping in with Americans frustration with the political system as it is. People who support him don’t care what he says he does as long as he is different from the status quo, and that is appealing enough that they ignore his flip-flops, lies, etc. He has so far not demonstrated any great familiarity with the Constitution so if he is out to destroy it, it is out of ignorance. The truth is more Republicans do not support him than do, but his fellow aspiring nominees are fracturing that opposition. I heard Kasich this morning and he still thinks he can win even though his polling is low. It would be sad if Trump won for that reason, and worse if Clinton won because of Trumo.
Joseph: Are you sure? How can you force someone to get married and expect them to live happily? Would you want to be married to someone who doesn’t want to be married to you? Please check your source.
Speak to a therapist. I had a friend who never got married for the same reason. No one was attractive enough, but neither was he physically. On the other hand, when you meet the right one she will be attractive, no matter what she looks like. You’ll just know that it’s right.
I broke off after more than 10 dates. Sometimes you keep dating hoping for some clarification. Things seem to be going OK but they just don’t feel right and you keep going until this issue is resolved, sometimes by a single event, sometimes with one or both parties just impatient with the strung-out relationship. In my case, I spoke to my Rav that pointed to certain things I had said and it made my realize it was time to part.
Generally very rarely asked. My morning minyan is fast and I am not, and I don’t have the voice or nigunim for Shabbos. I will daven mincha and maariv when asked or whenever no one else goes over to the amud. I wish more people who cannot daven, either because of their Ivre, voice or nusach would decline.
Romney didn’t say anything that hasn’t been said before, and mostly all of it is spot-on. And after listening to the debate last night, in which Trump got caught in lies and reversed positions several times, I don’t know how any thinking person could vote for Trump. Let’s just daven he doesn’t get the nomination.
dovrosenbaum: why have you swallowed the Trump Kool-aid hook, line and sinker? Trump is a sociopathic liar. Just for a recent example, he claimed a faulty earpiece made him not hear the question about David Dukes, yet he repeated David Dukes in his answer. He also in the past has commented about him. Trump will be no better than Obama. Then he wants to change the libel laws to make it easier to sue newspapers. He has no power to do that. He is prust and insulting and neutral on the Israel. Want Trump? Good luck with that.
I didn’t think there was anything special about New Square products. Until this thread, I hadn’t even thought about New Square in years. Since chalav yisroel products are so expensive, I look for what is cheapest on sale (a rarity). Devash seems to have the lowest price on milk and fresh and healthy cheaper on cottage cheese.
Mythoughts: I don’t think you need to be concerned about that. The law is pretty clear on this and only troublemakers are filing lawsuits about this.
Trump is a liar and shifts his positions when it suits him. He doesn’t care America; he cares about Trump. His first response to any criticism is to bash the critic in the most juvenile way. Rubio is not going to win any states, and he has taken to Trump-like insults. He is dishonest about what he believes. Cruz is the only one I would vote for. If Hillary or Trump wins, well, America gets what it deserves for supporting either of them, neither the epitome of what made America great.
I would still prefer the heimish brands. If I make kiddush on grape juice, I would feel some “choleldik” about Welch’s
Depends on the dog. I have been to houses with big, intimidating dogs and I would hesitate to go. I am not crazy about them, but small ones would not keep me away
yes, just drop it. Sounds like a petty issue. Be glad you have the job.