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Yes, the street vendors are cheaper but for the same reason I won’t buy flowers from street vendors. They charge less because they don’t have rent to pay or any other attending expenses, so I like to patronize legitimate businesses.
I’ve bought the half log as a birthday cake within my family, and not for status reasons. We just happen to like it.
I happen to like it a lot, as does most of my family. It’s a matter of personal taste. I don’t believe it’s any more a status symbol than the ridiculous nature of kiddushim and vorts, or the huge sums spent on flowers, or having hot dishes or cholent at a sholom zachor. Hosts want to please their guests. I don’t think it is anything more than that.
You can drive yourself crazy trying to find a perfect esrog. People look for one without any brown spots, has a nice shape and a good color. I find it interesting to see what people think is a nice esrog based on what they bring to shul.
It is referred to as a caramel log, about a foot long covered with a mocha and chocolate frosting. I am surprised you haven’t seen anything fitting that description. But she also makes strawberry shortcake and other less distinctive looking cakes
He scares me too
Maybe they will someday but really because of what’s involved–and the competition from pop-up stores and street vendors–probably not worth it. SUpermarkerts in Israel don’t sell them either, from what I remember.
Arba minim are much cheaper in Israel. Generally spend between $75 and $100, but I find it objectionable that the vendors seem to set the price arbitrarily.
From my experience the Zeigelman caramel log is often gifted by friends or family of the baal simcha. Generally costs $65 and from what I have noticed is one of the first things to go at a kiddush. Cake gemach is a nice idea but I have seen what I imagine are some of these. Not everthing freezes and defrosts well, or it’s not done properly.
Mashaiach; Why are YOU here?
It’s popular and people go for it so why not provide what you know people like? I don’t think it’s a minhag, even as a joke, no different from having those awful expensive petit fours.
They are both bad, and if the polls are correct and Hillary is so far ahead, it won’t make a difference to vote for trump
You can by inexpensive white shirts in some of the dry goods stores in Boro Park. The question is what do you mean “good”? Are you talking about fit or how wearable> And what do you consider a reasonable price?
Commentators have observed that Trump has the making of a dictator. Plus his forming of a Super-PAC to destroyu Cruz and Kacich in the future is nothing short of evil. We should daven that somehow neither Trump nor Clinton ever get a chance to run this country.
Spark: Maybe for some but for others, even MO is too restrictive. And it doesn’t necessarily come because of outside influences. In at least two cases, I could tell that these kids at a very young age (5 or so) were rebellious and could not be reined in. The parents did make a strong effort, but where the will is elsewhere, it seems there is no way to keep them frum. One acquaintance of mine who was chassidic said as a youth he played the part but never believed any of it. Nu, how do you deal with that?
Rabbi of BErlin: You can’t seriously think that Hillary is that much better than Trump. Both are garbage and this country is in trouble with whoever wins. But she is a calculating liar and has been that way all her career and to award with the presidency is shameful.
As for Cruz, he may realize that he is no Mr. Popular, and not likely to get ore popular in 2020, and just stood by his principles. If you don’t admire that, then maybe that is why you have no trouble voting for Hillary, and same goes for those who will vote for Trump
I unfortunately have become acquainted recently with several people who have children who have gone off the derech, and it seems the most common reason the OTD adult kids give is that for a long time before going oTD they felt frumkeit was not the lifestyle for them as it was too restrictive and too limiting, and to a couple more restrictive than it needs to be as society places chumras upon chumras. I don’t think one needs a survey to conclude why people go off the derech. And it’s not as if Yiddishkeit would or should change to keep them. But somehow some of them find their way back, and just as nonfrum have a turning point when they decide to become observant, it works the other way as well.
I do wonder how these frum guys with the tzitzis even know these shows exist? I don’t take any particular pride in their appearance as frum but people do what they do, and if there is no REAL halachic issues involved, as opposed to those who want to make everything assur, let them have their fun. But I hardly think it rises to the level of a kiddush Hashem.
I have known people who send their children to different schools but a single school may not give them a break for all the kids, but a different school may give a break for an individual child.
Regarding tuition. Given schools do get federal funds and that schools seem to higher a certain proportion of young, inexperienced teachers who may not command a big salary–or would accept a lesser salary to get the experience–I wish I can understand why tuition is as high as it is. Furthermore, the benefits teachers receive from what I hear are not so great, so where does the money go?
Charliehall: What is the basis for your comment? Others have already cited reasons why you are wrong, but really, are you at all familiar as to why Brits wanted to leave the EU? The U.K. pays a ton of money to be a member and then on top of that has to use its taxpayers’ money to bail out the weaker ones. They have no control over immigration and the U.K. among others has been overrun by Islamic refugees. So what do you see as the benefit? BTW, why are you so sure that Scotland and Northern Ireland can thrive on their own?
The EU was a short-sighted idea because apparently the founders did not consider the flood of refugees but more important that the solvent countries would have to use their citizens money to prop up the failing ones. What’s more, it aimed to eliminate individualism among countries, and that only destroys their native price. I would vote to leave.
Masiach Agent wrote: “there is already a jewish craigslist that is free but its on Facebook which is the worst website that has caused millions of divorces & intermarriages R”L”
It’s like saying guns kill people, not the people using the guns.
Anything can be used to accomplish the result, whether it’s divorce or intermarriage. And millions? Source please.
Why are you declining the invitation? If you never intend to accept it, it’s one thing, but if just not convenient, just say “Maybe another time.” If you decline enough times, they likely will stop inviting you.
My pet peeves: I have heard more often than I care to mention the shailiach tzibbur saying “ga-al Yisroel” rather than “go-ail Yisroel” om chazaras hashatz. Also, this is not on wording but I have also noticed quite often the shaliach tzibbur remaning bowed saying Hashem after “Borchu” rather than standing erect. I have seen this most often among yeshiva bochurim. (Yes, I purposely watch out for this) I wonder if they are ever taught how to daven properly.
Why not try some of the people advertise for simcha performance. I imagine someone who has recorded a record could guide you.
What are you talking about? Buying something chometz? What a waste of time
Why is this a matter of minhag at all? Whoever wants to attend sould, and whoever wants to stay home should do that. As for the original poster from two years ago, it sounded more like you were trying to get your son to do what you would do by guilt tripping him. He’s a big boy, he knows what he wants.
Unless you are a woman, you probably would be welcome around the table
I personally have not had this issue but I know people who have and their inlaws have been respectful of the son in law who does not eat gebrokts and I think if such an effort is made, that son in law should be gracious and eat what was specially made. But think about it, how many foods really require gebroks outside of the cake, the best of which are not so great. Actually those with potato starch tend to be moister.
Why should this be an issue? If he is standing let him hold the sefer, or let him sit.
yekke: I don’t know if schools still do this, but we used to have reading lists for a particular grade. Are you suggesting some of those books are assur? Still not clear what books are you referring about. In any case, the original poster was referring to a library card so you oppose having one and assuring everything because by some chance, a child will go through the the library catalogue and pick out a book that you deem assur. Quite honestly, today’s kids get so much homework, how much time do you thing the general population of kids have to read anything for pleasure, and once they go away for the summer, they don’t even have access to a library in most cases?
yekke: could you explain what in children’s books that you are awar of are assur midoraisa? Could you provide some titles?
DY: The rabbonim are not misinformed. The internet is dangerous (some therefore are totally machmir, but many do allow some access), and most secular entertainment is assur.
Who cares how they and I know it? You know it’s the truth and you’re not fooling anyone if you say it’s mostly fine.
I didn’t say it was mostly fine, but what is your standard for what is inappropriate? And yes, it makes a difference to me what an issur is based on. From what I heard at the asifa, the harshness sounds like it grew out of what people who told rabbonim onky the evils of the Internet. Many frum people have parnassa today whether self-employed or otherwise because of the Internet, and the Internet itself is not evil, it’s what user do with it. As for entertainment, it sure sounded like posters were demonizing all forms of secular entertainment, and I would like to know what that is based on. As I have heard over the years, it’s easy to assur everything, but takes a real talmud chochom to identify a heter. I am not saying any rav will bless watching movies, but a blanket issur really is also questionable. For a person who has a taiva for movies, wouldn’t it be better to allow something harmless than have that person turn to other activities that migth be worse?
If you need to ask what to talk about on a second date, what will you do once you’re married? The point of dating is to get to know the person. Avoid politics but really there is so much two people who don’t know each other other can learn about.
Not everything of a halachic nature prompts someone to give tochaha. Some areas are fuzzy, or there are various opinions on appropriateness, say in acceptable kashrus. In Flatbush, some people don’t hold by the Vaad, but someone who does not accept the Vaad sees a someone patronizing such a place may feel the need to give tochahah to such a person. Same for giving tochahcha dress, or spent their free time.
catch yourself: I think there is a difference in correcting something to do of an intrinsic, halachic nature like tefilin than giving tochahah for one’s behavior. I’m glad you had good experience this time, but I still would be hesitant to challenge a person’s behavior unless you were familiar enough with the person and that he would accept that rebuke.
DY: As far as your comment that vast majority of secular entertainment is inappropriate and the issue by a majority of rabbonim I’m afraid is a similar scenario as the Internet issue. That big asifa about the Internet several years ago involved speaker who may probably did not experience the Internet themselves but made their judgment based on what people told them. I don’t know who told them what but after that I heard at least one rav said it’s better for women who made their parnasa online to do without parnasa than have the Internet. And in general the Internet was demonized regardless of the fact that people do make a living through it. I would imagine someone told rabbonim that all movies are filth, and both the informer and the rabbonim really have no direct knowledge of it.