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If it were me, I probably would think twice before marrying such a woman. Sounds controlling, and regardless of what offended her (maybe she is just ultrasensitive?), she is demonstrating a middah that I would find distasteful. I can’t imagine my wife even entering into this discussion; she says if I am comfortable with my rav to ask the deepest of shailos, I should stay with him.
Dovid, interested in working out with someone?
Even funnier is making a psak without knowing the reality of a situation
Thanks for the psak
I guess you haven’t been to a gym to actually know how people are dressed. I guess it depends on what you consider pritzus. I assure you, there is much worse on the subway and in the street than I have seen at a gym
Once upon a time there was the Kosher Gym and it went out of business, I guess because it didn’t get enough business. I know the poster was asking for kosher but since he didn’t specify exactly what he means, I shared information that may or may not be useful. It’s up to him to decide in any case.
I hear people from Flatbush go to Yeled V’Yalda’s gym in Boro Park
Maybe some will have that taiva, but the movie theater isn’t open in the morning.
Not really. few could mean one, and there are two floors so if you’re makpid you can avoid women altogether. Truth is you see worse walking on Ave J or on the subway than in this place
There is no kosher gym per se but several frum people go to that place on Nostrand and Kings Highway. There is also a small gym called Spartan on Coney Island Ave and near Ave H. Early in the morning there are either none or very few women.
I agree that cultural differences can be an issue. As long as you have both eyes open and know what is important to you and how comfortable you are with making major changes in your life that come with getting married, which in itself is a major change. Personally, I prefer to stick with people whose backgrounds are similar to mine; it makes adjustment to married life that much easier.
My question to the person who started this thread: What is it about this young man that makes you think he is right for you? Are you partly intrigued by his background? Some people davka look for someone different. And remember whatever you hear about or read on paper doesn’t always translate to reality. Hatzlacha.
Regret, which you appear to have, is part of the teshuva process, as is the effort to avoid the aveira the next time one is confronted with it. But if you try your best and still fall on occasion, don’t beat yourself up. Remember every year we have a Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, and the teshuva is not just for newly created aveiros. Hatzlachah!
What you really need is new eating system and exercise. WeightWatchers is for people who need the support system. But if you have the determination you can do it yourself by planning more frequent, smaller meals that eliminate all the bad fattening foods. You also need at least a half hour of exercise a day, even if it is just brisk walking.
I have been living in Flatbush for more than 30 years, and i would hardly call this a problem to condemn an entire neighborhood. Sure, there are individuals who may not respond to my greeting, but most people do, and those who don’t probably wouldn’t no matter where they live.
Why does anyone think that a neighborhood should be characterized as such escapes me. There is a lot of chesed that goes on in this neighborhood, and I am proud of it.
I hope the people who spend these large sums of money do so only to support the shul. I can’t imagine there is any practical zchus attached to any of these kibudim, and if there are, it certainly is hidden.
It all begins with the ridiculou custom of using shnapps/ I have seen people at a simple weekday yahrzeit kiddush down several shots of liquor. What halachah is he fulfilling? Why serve liquor at all?
In New York, at least, the yeshivas are serviced by teh same bus as the public schools, so there would be no bus service for msot elementary schools–and then the parents would complain about having to shlep them to school. What is truly sad is that kids are not taught at an early age how to occupy themsevles, either with reading or a hobby. But of course they are kept so busy during the school year, they have no time for extracurricular activities. My kids were never bored, BH.
My daughter recently graduated from high school. The speakers were chosen by the girls, and there were no awards given publicly or otherwise. It was more relaxing, but I must say it is a sign of immaturity to be bothered by these matters. My daughter is an excellent student but not a natural brain,yet she delights in her friends successes and honors. I am proud of her for her middos more than any scholastic achievement she can earn.