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I don’t know how you can quantify how many people, but some surveys put the number in the general population to between 60% to 75%, so I don’t thing 25% to 40% is a tiny minority. Within the frum community it seems a higher percentage (can’t really tell who is wearing contact lenses), but maybe it’s genetic among eastern European Jews or maybe from studying so much
This surely challenges a person’s bitachon; Hashem is in control of all situations. As for your daughter, seminaries generally are overly cautious in such situations (I speak from experience with my daughters all having been there) and even if the situation isn’t so scary, they likely will confine them to the seminary walls or just going in groups. So I would just tell you to continue to daven for her safety and that of everyone else in Israel.
Square, if you don’t want to wade through that extraordinarily long response found in that link, I think Modern Orthodoxy is more than the fact someone works or goes to college. Best to illustrate by some example, among the modern orthodox there is a more liberal view of the role of women in halachah, in terms of their involvement. You might find among them women’s minyan or women in leadership positions. In addition, some modern orthodox women may be more relaxed regarding tznius in terms of dress and hair covering. As far as men go, modern orthodox may be more relaxed in terms of dress when it comes to dress for davening (shorts, no hats). In general, MO tend to be more maikil in halachic issues
What exactly is the shaila?
Just wanted to add, isn’t tashlich also supposed to cast your sins away? How does it differ from Kapporos with a chicken?
I don’t have to be an expert, but it doesn’t supplant davening. And your snide comment so soon after Yom Kippur means maybe you need another chicken
At the most it’s symbolic. If it truly transfers your sin to the chicken, then why bother davening on Yom Kippur? Without going inside a chicken’s head, how can anyone know whether the chicken has tzaar or not from the process of kapporos?
The library really is a good place. You can sit there as long as you want using the internet and no one will bother you. They also have computers, but you must sign up and wait your time, which is limited.
I went to Israel for the first time more than 20 years ago. I suggest you go on organized tours by Hoffman or others. They charge a fortune for an English tour but it was well worth it and they have many tours that take you to most of the places you would want to see. You can go to kever rochel on your own if you want, with a local bus, but I wouldn’t go to Chevron unless on a tour with an armored bus. I think you could live without Tel Aviv, but do get to Sefas and Tiveria. If you do go to the Tel Aviv,, go to the Diaspora Museum, and don’t forget the Holocaust Museum in Y. By all means, just stroll around Geulah and Meah Shearim for a wonderful feel for the city. My favorite activity was going to the kosel, including the cave tours. Yes, there is kedusah all over Israel, but for me nothing compared with Yerushalayim. Have a wonderful experience.
If there is a mechitzah, why is it a tznius problem?
I admire people who go on aliyah and make it work. From the several times I have been to Israel, I know I wouldn’t be happy. Hatzlacha in whatever you decide. You need to have a passion to be there, and I think problems aside, that will keep you going.
Oh, and I forgot…views on money and spending. I have read that one of the biggest conflicts in marriage have to do with money. Are they both savers? spenders? BH, my wife and I are in perfect agreement on this, but I have heard stories where this can be a big problem if they are not. Also, I think 5 weeks is really not that long to make a lifetime decision.
I agree that one should consider if it’s a comfortable silence or an awkward one. If each of them is comfortable with the silence, then I guess it will be OK. If they do get married, they will have something to talk about, but it sounds like neither of them have much of repertoire of topics outside of the basic marriage-oriented one. If they are talked out, is it possible their dates were all talkies, and no activities? In your list, it seems the discussions didn’t really include any personality issues–likes, dislikes, habits, hobbies, outside interests, fund things they like to do. If they haven’t discussed these things, I suggest they do
I wonder why this thread has been resurrected after SIX years! It boggles the mind why people here dust off these old posts from years back. When I saw the subject, I thought it was a different type of discussion, like wondering why people abandon frumkeit, and I was prepared to comment on that. And I will. I often wondered why it wasn’t enough to just to follow Yiddishkeit according to the letter of the law without compounding it with new takanos based on a halachah. It seems to me that maybe fewer people would go off the derech if following halachah without the extra chumras were not enough, or without demonizing everything as not being frum enough. Somewhere along the line it became accepted practice, the more chumras the better, even if those chumras do little more than making being frum more difficult. Personally, I don’t feel that adding more chumras brings a person closer to Hashem.
I agree that he did it for his own political agenda–to keep his Jewish constituents happy. His opposition is essentially meaningless since he hasn’t continued to speak out against it or even try to persuade any of his colleagues about how bad the deal is.
Cooking can be both a man and a woman’s job. Many top chefs are men, and there are lot men who are cooks in restaurants and cooks, and since this thread is about tasting cooking, why not limit responses to that area?
I imaginee is an exception. I know of other husbands that do the cooking as well; just more of them should do it.
Before committing to any position, a member of Congress should speak to his constitutents. He represents them and should vote according to the majority of those people. Instead, what we have hear is loyalty to Obama. How can anyone read what Iran is saying now about how it will support global terrorism even more now after the deal thanks to the billions it will receive as part of the deal and still support the deal? Nadler must go in the next election, as should all those who vote contrary to the will of the people they represent, which at last survey was 2 to 1 against the deal.
If she doesn’t want to go, why are you bothering?
I think if the girl is expected to support her husband in kollel by working, then HE should do the cooking, and the girl should first sample his food before agreeing to date.
Quite a bit about the deal has come out, and the only thing the U.S. hopes to get out of it is to delay Iran getting bomb. Under the terms of the deal that have been released, Iran has 24 days to prepare for an inspection, plenty of time to sanitize the plant. Under the deal, the U.S. and Canada are excluded as countries that can inspect facilities. Under the deal, the sanctions will be lifted over time and Iran will get between $100 billion to $150 Billion and even the administration admits the money can be used to fund terrorism. Plus under the deal, Iran gets protection from possible attack on its nuclear plants. As for the poster, you need to read more and not limit your news to sources you feel may be biased.
Why was the guy waiting on the other side of the street for the space to open up? I probably would pull out because why fight over a space, but really, if he wanted to make sure he got it, he should just have parked right behind the space.
that seems reasonable. no one should be forced.
It’s not just a matter of maturity, it’s a matter of having time to grow on one’s own before bearing the responsibilities that come with being married. Of course, if the boy wants to, it’s one thing, but I don’t agree they should be encouraged to marry that young.